SAMBARRY:
KanwuliaJara your attention is highly and urgently needed here please come and chook mouth for the matter

divaa:
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I would suggest you gather evidence of his cheating and use it to embarass him at his workplace.

mutter:

Please for God`s sake do not fight over a woman, not even with him, you are above that. You can`t change it but at leas you can counter it with dignity.
My ex even brought home girls ad I went through all phases but one day I just decided to say nothing. It was almost as if he was rubbing it in my face.
Once two girl came to the house, went straight to his room and lay down on the bed, put on AC and TV. They went to the kitchen and took my food! when my husband came back after we greeted and he sat down i told him he had visitors. He dashed to the room and came out with them. You should have seen their faces " Sorry Ma". I just told them they should feel free.
You see my husband had brought them into the house while I was away visiting m dad and had told them that his friend and the wife lived there too.

KanwuliaJara:


Nigerian marriages nor be wetin you wan carry for head on any SUNDAY o.
You nor say "husband" na real trophy for Nigerian jobless women ke!

uglyogre:
[/quote

author=mutter post=30762422]The first thing you need to know is that
you did not make this man in one year. He just got a job.

The second thing you need to realize is that his family may not be
pleased with you as you are from different tribes.

Try this advice and come back and give the testimony.
Stop controlling him, that does not bring anything.
Welcome him home, show that you are happy to see him, don`t ask him
where he went.
If you feel that you are special believe that no woman can match up to
you.
When he is at work call him or send him an SMS, tell him you can`t wait
for him to come home and.....(tell him something that will make him run
home to grab you in his hands).

This man is going out there to have some fun, so make the fun at home
more than the one outside and he will come back.

Show him love, kindness and respect and if he is a good man you will see
a visible change.

Please for God`s sake do not fight over a woman, not even with him, you
are above that. You can`t change it but at leas you can counter it with
dignity.

My ex even brought home girls ad I went through all phases but one day I
just decided to say nothing. It was almost as if he was rubbing it in
my face.
Once two girl came to the house, went straight to his room and lay down
on the bed, put on AC and TV. They went to the kitchen and took my food!
when my husband came back after we greeted and he sat down i told him
he had visitors. He dashed to the room and came out with them. You
should have seen their faces " Sorry Ma". I just told them they
should feel free.
You see my husband had brought them into the house while I was away
visiting m dad and had told them that his friend and the wife lived
there too. [/quote author]

madam, if you dont mind my asking, are you talking about about
ex-boyfriend, ex-husband or the current husband you are leaving with?
Please if this is your present husband, you both need to seek
professional counselling because this is a very unhealthy marriage and
if you both continue this way, the end might be what you and him will
live to regret. marriage should be enjoyed and not endured!

Tallesty1:
Killing him won't give you peace of mind. Your conscience will not allow you to rest and the karma delivery guy will knock your door one day.

Why don't you sit him down and Have a talk with him? You may be making premature conclusions.

Remember, marriage is always hard in the beginning.

uglyogre:
thank goodness
he's now an EX, do you mean 20 years of being separated?

bukatyne:


Says who?

Tallesty1:
Ask married people, Honest married people or maybe your mom and she would tell you. It takes time to learn and respect/cope with the differences.

bukatyne:


The time for learning starts during courtship

bukatyne:




Yes we change as we grow older, however the basics remain the same

bukatyne:


I will start by asking myself

And the answer is no

The time for learning is during courtship

fuzzywuzzy:
Op you don't have to kill him. You can make his life miserable without him knowing you are the one behind his misfortunes.
I don't know why men are so stupîd and useless when it comes to sex. The STDs flying around should be enough to keep people from being promiscuous but they don't have any sense so they keep seeking vagina like rabid dogs with no self control.
Am sure you saw signs of his promiscuity before the marriage but went ahead to marry him because you thought you just had to be married. Marriage is not a do or die affair, only fools think it is.

soulglo:



She might not he have seen that in him. She says he did not have a good job then but does now. Going from the posts I see here it seems that Nigerian men generally cannot handle earning a respectable living. It might be a symptom of many growing up impoverished. It seems when they get a little bit of money they must womanize until they die from a disease.

soulglo:

She might not he have seen that in him. She says he did not have a good job then but does now. Going from the posts I see here it seems that Nigerian men generally cannot handle earning a respectable living. It might be a symptom of many growing up impoverished. It seems when they get a little bit of money they must womanize until they die from a disease.

bellong:


Going by few posts, you made the above conclusion... sister Soulglo, diaris God oooo

soulglo:

She might not he have seen that in him. She says he did not have a good job then but does now. Going from the posts I see here it seems that Nigerian men generally cannot handle earning a respectable living. It might be a symptom of many growing up impoverished. It seems when they get a little bit of money they must womanize until they die from a disease.

fuzzywuzzy:

Men are just empty headed zombies when it comes to sex, no need for any long explanation.
Rich or poor they are the same.
Fools with no self control.

Feraz:
What an awesome generalization!!!

soulglo:

You're welcome

Misblah:
Renowned feminist writer Flora Nwapa said something onetime. She said " a woman shouldn't ruin her life because of a bad marriage. She has a choice, a choice to marry and have children, a choice to marry and divorce their husbands. Marriage is not THE only way." My point is, if u feel frustrated, wouldn't u rather be a divorcee than a convict? Walk out if u feel the situation is beyond remedy and prove u are better off without him!...let's turn the table around, he for don deport u go ur Pman house tay tay. Don't let societal expectations be ur excuse, society would still castigate u if u stay back and prolly lose ur temper one day. Marriage is not the only way!




#gotcha back girl!

soulglo:



She might not he have seen that in him. She says he did not have a good job then but does now. Going from the posts I see here it seems that Nigerian men generally cannot handle earning a respectable living. It might be a symptom of many growing up impoverished. It seems when they get a little bit of money they must womanize until they die from a disease.

Ama80:
My dear I knw how u feel cos I ve bn there and bet me most women hav.u wudnt want his blood on ur hands,u cant live wt dat rather learn to play d game.get a man friend(can b ur cousin)explain to him u want him to act lik ur lover.let him send u sweet msgs and at odd time and act suspicious too.kip late night as much as possible may b in church without telling him and start dresin sexily but not trashy.put a new life in you and I bet he will become jealous n wud wish to complain to his relatives or yours.time to talk. in any case dnt cheat on him but act lik u re doing.na men jealous pass.