ichidodo:
Ofcourse you should be...our mouth can be very sweet and persuasive if we put it stop chewing nicotine gum for one minute...But in anycase,you should let it percolate in your mind...meditate on it...Look it Babymama for example we can swear that in the middle of her first affair she was sold out on her politician boyfriend and yet by some sorccery and witchcraft she's already had kids for another love up to the point she doesn't miss a chance to eulogise him and we can boldly say she could die for him....If she can be smitten twice then so can you,this time bring it closer home and leave with the blessings of your proud father....just my opinion.

Kimoni:


Because he can guarantee that the particular Igbo man she will bring will be a saint Since the conclusion is that all men from the West are criminals and wife beaters.

delightful1:

Our parents just want the best for us but they are not always right in doing so. However, we can't really blame them, they have their reasons.

My elder sister got married to an Edo man against our parents' Wish. It was a tough war, today they are divorced with 2 wonderful girls.

My mum used to say non of her children Will marry outside our tribe and even within the tribe, there are restrictions to where you must marry from. But, all that has changed sha, even after what happened to my sister. One of my brothers is married to a Calabar woman and mum had no objection, she loves her.

Dad's own is that, I must not marry an hausa man (I'm the only one not married yet). I once dated an Idoma guy sef, mum knew, she had her reservations but didn't object only asked me to pray well about it. The guy wanted marriage but at a point I had to let him go, he's even late now sha and somehow I wish I never let him go, he was the best I've ever had. He was too good to he true, every woman's dream and every parents' pride.

ichidodo:
[b] We know you're in love..you got butterflies around your eyes where it concerns lakes....but you must understand that we all must be very practical to matters such as these instead of being carried away.We must have a third party to look out for us inspite of ourselves. And that includes tribal,religious,domestic and financial matters. Example you was to put your daughter on a flight somewhere..say i don't know....Brazil? and it was common knowledge a particular airliner had experienced a spate of aircrashes recently...would you feel safe taking that risks with your daughter,even though your daughter likes the interior decor or attendants of the commercial airliner?....i don't think so....So you must look into yourself and the possibility that things may not work as planned,play it in your mind so you don't get crushed if dad says no...he loves you..wants the best for you...And we believe he will be crushed if his fears are confirmed.You can have so many loves from all tribes if you set your mind at it....but you can't repair the crushed spirit of a broken father.[/b]

ichidodo:
That is his daughter not yours and those are his paternal instincts, observing very well that no yoruba man has gotten that level of police investigative experience in igboland to take a wild guess if we are saints or not.We will leave that to our cultural value system....

Kimoni:


Interesting!

You are actually comparing Western marriages to a particular airliner with a history of air crashes Which a mother will never allow her daughter to get into no matter the "external facade" it displays?

You've got a lot of things twisted, right?

urchbarbie:
My dear! Am in ur kind of soes right now. My parents are so anti-non igbo. My mum carry d tin for head pass. Even within d igbo folks, she wld say, don't go to mbaise, ebonyi. Kai! D tin tire me o. Am cureently serving and am celebrating my silver jubilee bufday soon, yet no serious "ibo" relationship. I met a guy here in jalingo from dis part, mumsi just change am for me "biko, even if its mbaise, come n marry" The whole tin is really scaring me. Met a yrouba too, she said no way. Dad doesn't show much refusal tho he loves me omre dan anytin in d world (my guess). I asked mum 1 day if she would mould an ibo man for me and she culdnt reply. Dis tin is making guys see me as being smhw. One even asked me if am just using mum won't let me to refuse him cos I feel he is not my level. The whole tin is tiring me dear. I have only ever loved one ibo guy way back in my teen years. Now am so single, it hurts

Kimoni:


No Yoruba man has gotten that level of police investigative experience in Igboland? I can't make head or tail of this post.

cococandy:
Pls did anybody here go to school and work and have babies at the same time?

How did you do it?

I don't want to start what I can't finish

Cc efemenaxy
Moca
Babyosisi
Mutter

And all the mommas in the house

ichidodo:
Sure you can...just think out of the box.

ichidodo:
You can bring your own analogy to dispute it instead of rhetorics....

Herzumpther:
Na wa o. What's with it must he Igbo sef? I don't even know how to speak the language but you will mistake my parent for Igbo's and maybe its because they spent a better part of their lives there, they speak the language like kilode. My mum even speaks dialect, if somebody speaks in the market she would say that's ogwu, that's mbano, that's oraifete, that's arochukwu, that's ohiafia, that's mbaise, that's abo-mbaise, that's obowo, that's orlu, that's nnewi and so on ( I didn't know if I got their spellings gan) and me I will just be nodding because I don't know anyone. My dear the thing don tire me jor.

Kimoni:



Think out of the box you say - that's what my life entails, that's what my job requires but I could never think out of the box on a senseless post. The post has to first be meaningful

Odillz:


My own mum has placed a big X on any Delta or Yoruba guy that would come to talk of marriage with me,but when that time come,I go fake madnes.s

Lilimax:
Such an interesting thread!.
Well done Babyosisi and all the contributors?
I'm coming back to share my own experience of over 10 years

MarvellousGod:
... abeg, don't fake madness ooo.. just talk it through with them...

Kimoni:


No doubt you are a tribal bigot yourself. Your advice would hurt the poor girl more than the encouragement and enlightenment she needs. But it's her life and her choices finally.

ichidodo:
It only takes a tribal bigot to read meaning into every little innocent gestures....If a man-how much more a seasoned police investigator- is a tribal bigot for looking out for his own daughter then let him be,afterall tis his daughter and his experience that matter..Not ours...And we don't see how our encouragement can help change his mind either.…It is not as if you would practice what you preach if you was in his shoes.

ichidodo:
Who cares what your job looks like..with your nosy background we can guess it involves sniffing behind goats buttocks...Excuse us.

urchbarbie:
Lol @mums comprehension of dialects. Its well. Marry? We must, and to d right ppl too.

Kimoni:


You are the tribal bigot here, not him.


He means well for his daughter and he just needs some bit of conviction to change his mind.

MarvellousGod:
... abeg, don't fake madness ooo.. just talk it through with them...

ichidodo:
You're now being hypocritical because you want (hook or crook) your country man to marry the girl,you stylishly avoided calling her father a tribal bigot but you accuse us of the same thing the father is keen on to avoid the predicament of his friend's daughter.......See your life.

Kimoni:


Whatever it is, at least it involves me thinking sensibly out of the box and not having to sniff out tribalistic comments.

Herzumpther:
Did she say she will fake madness? How come I didn't see that?

Come Odillz if you fake madness they will take you for madness treatment and then you will start taking mad people's drugs and if your head too correct you go begin another system of madness o .... Funny woman faking anything is not an option jor.

Odillz:

It worked sha
I said it to make you laugh

Herzumpther:
Oopsss. Thank you jare.



We will just do movies on sat. Thanks again.

Odillz:

If only we would be able to gist wella o

Herzumpther:
Thanks dear and marry we must. Lol.

MarvellousGod:
Are you having problems with conception? TTC= Trying to concieve.. Don't think you need the thread...