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Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Sweetlemon(f): 2:50pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
Oh lord! Something is just not right about this thread. What married woman starts a thread on a valentine's day evening to advise intending couples and stay devoted till far into the night? Op sorry o. But the bitter part of my lemon just gotta let that question out. 2 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 2:50pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
Hmmm. Thanks babyosisi.... I wish I can comment further but I don't want my generation exposed to the world. Thanks BABE3. 3 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by amareto: 2:51pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
Herzumpther: I don't get this though. Did someone force you to post your story here? 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 2:56pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
Sweetlemon: And what eediot doesn't realize that people on nairaland live on different time zones and that feb 14 is just a regular day The thread is on page 30 and you are on it so obviously it has something intelligent to convey This is why We asked Royalroy to take this off FP Ndi ara will flood this place 23 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by FOREXMARTS: 3:01pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
ichidodo: Hello, I don't know if ur a guy or lady but honestly you need to chill. Please, this thread is for serious issues and if someone steps on ur toes please brush it aside for the sake of those needing help. No distractions. We are entitled to our opinions but mustn't force it on anyone.Thank you. 10 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by armyofone(m): 3:01pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
Page 30 Osisi you should be on Seun payroll 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Sweetlemon(f): 3:01pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
babyosisi: You live in US right? You started this thread like 7:30pm Nigerian time. That's like early afternoon US time. You stayed on till late US time. So madam you very much spent vals day on NL (chatting with strangers). From the defensive way you replied me, I can see all is not just well somewhere. It's fine though that you are channeling your energy to advising others. Perhaps so they don't make the same mistakes you did? It is well my dear. 10 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 3:02pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
MojAyo:. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 3:02pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
armyofone: Abi o |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Mhizizzy(f): 3:04pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
crackhaus: Nd y dnt u comment on a post meant for u or are u an intending wife? 9 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by blessedqueen(f): 3:06pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
cococandy: Am doing it now ......it is only with d Grrace of God 2 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 3:07pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
MrsOJ: The kids lives are more important than her life. It is this kind of marriages that breed psychopaths and sociopaths. If she is a good mum, there is no reason why she cannot rear them alone. Her children will grow up fine to become responsible citizens. It takes a man with a small mind to beat his wife and a woman with a smaller mind to endure it. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 3:08pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
Sweetlemon: Nne why don't you try the sexuality section and see if anyone will buy what you are selling This is way above your league Obviously People have found and married husbands here on nairaland God may just butter your bread 17 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by blessedqueen(f): 3:14pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
babyosisi: Aunty Osisi they say Silence is Golden..... So pls just leave her 6 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Sweetlemon(f): 3:14pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
babyosisi: *sings* Coolu coolu coolu temper. Coolu temper *whistles till fades* |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 3:16pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
Sweetlemon: Read the thread below,same feb 14 The picture was taken with the card on the bed btw Since you want to know me better,glad to get you acquainted I usually don't respond to characters and names I don't recognize,this is your lucky day Enjoy https://www.nairaland.com/2147715/valentine-card-melted-heart-usual 4 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by verygudbadguy(m): 3:17pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
I like you baje on family matters.. Really wish u would stay clear off Politics section. This is really your area of expertise. Marriage is good but with its own ups and down. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 3:19pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
blessedqueen: That was my last response and I promise.its easy to spot very bitter people .it hurts then when others are admiring something |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by FOREXMARTS: 3:20pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
Something ain't right here today, why the negative energy? Ever since some mod who couldn't decipher the difference between a sensitive thread and a regular thread sent us to front page without anyone asking so much negative energies have started corrupting the initial motive of this thread. Aunty Babyosisi abeg steer this ship well and avoid distractions oh. Ride on. 7 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 3:22pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
FOREXMARTS: Threads on FP never fail to attract mad people We got to page twenty sumtin without it We will remain focused 2 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 3:25pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
Reading and learning thanks OP 2 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by zara360: 3:26pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
Pls babyosisi give me your email Address |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by ichidodo: 3:28pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
FOREXMARTS:We percieve a tinge of hostility in this piece.... |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Sweetlemon(f): 3:29pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
babyosisi: Na wa o. You still dey vex? That card doesn't explain anything. It could be anybody's card for all we know. Besides I thought in your earlier defense you said "feb 14 is just a regular day" so why now show the world your val card if you don't care about the occasion? See, just drop the argument ok. Trust me, you won't win. This is a nice thread and I honestly do not want to spoil your noble intentions. I'm so sure you would help hundreds of people here. I brought up my question because of the circumstances and my lemons can be painfully bitter at times. You should have sha answered my question without being so defensive and we would have ended up as best friends. Lol! Cheers and well done! 4 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Beamborla(f): 3:30pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
What advice do you have for people who feel so indifferent about marriage? And those who no matter how they try to love that great guy, they just don't go beyond liking the person? 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 3:31pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
babyosisi: lol |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by FOREXMARTS: 3:32pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
God damn ittttttt, we still in front page, is somebody sick? KIIIIIIILOOOO-EFFIN-DE? 2 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 3:40pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
mutter: 100000000 likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Mikwus(f): 3:47pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
babyosisi: Aunty Osisi I left a 6yr relationship after my ex's dad told him that he was not in support of our intended marriage. Reason is my genotype "SS", though he is "AA". In less than a month my ex told me he was getting married.........I was heart broken and almost died from heartache. It's been 3yrs now and somehow by God's Grace i lived through it. 2yrs after my breakup and healing I met a man and i like him so much. He is a gentleman. From a good Christian home. I know he loves me because despite all my excesses (arrogance and ill-temper, NO Sexual Excess) he's still with me. He believes so much in us, but i don't believe it anymore. It's been 2yrs+ since he asked we pray to know God's will about us and I'm so tired of waiting because he doesn't have a stable job and he is really waiting on God for a miracle. I'm 30yrs old and i want to settle down because i believe it will help keep me more focused especially in my prayer life....(i believe i can pray with and for him as a friend but not for God to bless him 'cos i want to marry him, i just think it's too selfish a prayer) I believe we can settle and i can pray with and for him as my husband. Now I have suitors lined up. A queue i know that i can choose anyone from and I will be able to live with that person. I am afraid of waiting and perhaps in the end it would be the same story as the last. Problem is, he doesn't want to commit totally, in his words "I CANNOT ASK YOU TO STAY, BUT IF YOU FEEL YOU CANNOT WAIT, I WILL WISH YOU WELL BUT I WOULD RATHER WAIT FOR GOD TO LEAD ME THAN MAKE A MISTAKE" I am confused........right now, I've resulted to telling others i'm not dating and just looking up to God to direct the right person 'cos i'm confused as they are quite a good number of them. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Don't know what to do............I'm not sleeping with anyone, i'm just trying to establish a good relationship first before i strike out some , but AM I GOING ABOUT IT THE RIGHT WAY?? 2 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Eluwilussit(m): 3:52pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
T3Amo: Distance is bad. You need to be together a lot to blend. 5 years is a long time of dating. Make up your mind on what's more important to you. His looks and sexual prowess or his persoanlity. Nobody has it all. We are all lacking in one area or the other. Marriage is all about commitment. Commitment is a choice you make with genuine conviction. Remember, the heart wants what it wants. And that ain't always good and right. Prayer is key. The real problem here, is the distance. You can't tell from a distance what you want. Every solution to the problem of distance, will unfortunately amount to a gamble. There's no easy way. Someone gotta sacrifice something here. Someone gotta take a chance on the other. Real dicey. No guarantees in marriage. None. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Enoquin(f): 3:53pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
Herzumpther: @Herz Can you please loosen up on the daddy's strings a bit? You should never aim to take decisions that would please only one person without even thinking of yourself especially as this is a decision that would affect you for life. He coming to meet your father could go either way, it could go well or bad. By now you should know that not all things work according to plan. My sister's friend's dad chased the fiance away, told him to take his wine with him. Was hostile to the fiance's family when they later came. Never listened to pleas from the guy's family or his late wife's family. She was in her final year and all this was because she had taken it. She was always crying in the hostel. Her father 'disowned' her. I nearly came to NL with the story to hear people's viewpoint. People contributed to the wedding, the fiance was working though. The father never contributed one kobo. There were times he chased the daughter whenever she came. The fiance when he came. Stopped her sisters from visiting her when one of her aunties from her mother's side took her in. The wedding came and they did it. Gave a goat for the 'insult', in akwa ibom you give a 'goat of insult' if you impregnate a girl before hand especially if she was the firstborn. During the wedding, he sat a little apart from everyone. The girl's hubby's family are very nice to her and when she gave birth, her mother-in-law came to take care of her at the hospital. Her father came but didn't carry the baby. Now, the baby is 1yr plus. The father is thawing a bit. The sisters can now visit. His grandchild now visits him too once in a while. With all the turmoil she went through, she never carried her woes on her face. Her coursemates, lecturers and others didn't know except my sister. She had always been the smiling type. Even some hypocritical course mates taunted her but she always held her head high. Today, they are doing okay. She will be going for service come May. Do they have marital squabbles? They would as any married couple. Will she regret sometimes? Perhaps, I cannot speak for her. Why the long epistle? You cannot keep hoping daddy will smile and pat you for every decision. You are serving and will soon be another man's wife (awka or yoruba), start taking some decisions. Awka may later turn out to be the best for you; Yoruba may also turn out to be the best. The thing is to be able to live with the step you will finally take. Babyosisi, cococandy, efe, bukatyne, mutter and the rest. What a calming thread. I have enjoyed it. The only people missing are debrief, aisha2, chaircover and Jennykadry 9 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Bootybuttchic(f): 3:58pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
Thank u |
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