stonecoldcafe:


Do u hv ur friend's permission 2post his/her baby's picture here?

erimmy:
@chiboy if you are not man enough to marry,keep shut. is there any marriage without issues? stop castigating people who has braced all odds to marry. no wonder you are called boy.

mbulela:

Lovely kid.
May his own parents not be put asunder.
May they remain together and raise him up to be a responsible man who will see the benefits of a strong family bond.

meiloya:


Is there a strategy to know these secrets in order to decide whether you can live with them?

SuperSuave:
Hmm..nawa o
*modified*
I knew this was gonna hit fp. The woman no fine sef, she no kon get manner join. . Well God knows what the husband did to her too

Tashaamania:

and you are hanging an entire community because of one bad woman?
You see the way you are biased all in one breath?

Truckpusher:
c'mon ! Sweetheart , don't tell me you didn't see the sarcasm?

But truth be told - as soon as you start making some money women always trying to make her boys hate on their old man for not being there when they needed him most.
And every woman is almost guilty of this and some iidiots do buy that story .Women has a way of treating your fucck ups as you guys grow older.

Tashaamania:

I saw the sarcasm, I just wanted you to see mine too

you must have had a whole lot of experience with women I dont see reasons why a woman would make her kids hate on their father..what could be such woman's objective?

Truckpusher:
I don't know, I should be the one asking you that question.

meiloya:


This submission will make sense only if it turns out that the husband was aware that he would be represented but still came out and formed 'I didn't know'. Otherwise, there is no justifiable reason why someone will go and pick my passport from the immigration office without my consent, whether or not the immigration officer spelled my name correctly on the passport.

M4gunners:
It is easy to blame the woman without hearing from her. Some Men could be so useless that they have kids everywhere and refuse to train them. He is claiming to be taking care of her, why didn't he know that her daughter has advance to the 3rd round if is really taking care of her. I'm saying this because of the experience i got here with some of my nigeria friends who would rather stop working in other not to pay for their Child here in Europe. For getting the Child could be somebody in future.

Emperoradrian:
See tall fine huge handsome big man married to one tiny ugly mannerless scorpion called WIFE....i dnt knw y ugly biatches d lik misbehave........u knw say u ugly and u no even look lik human being,yet u go d form 4 d guy wey pity u,cum marry u.........lik say she neva knw say HUSBAND DEY SCARCE nw.....fine gals neva see even handicapped man marry,u wey see big bobo lik dis d seek divorce....my dear its either d devil is playin dice wit ur destiny,or 1 witch 4 ur villa d use ur pix as hand fan...."handsome nigerian men marryin ugly short gals since time imemorial"

palma:


Was the said dad not aware of the grand finale? Would running to the press solve the issue. He only made an already bad situation worse. Does the lady have no family to report her to? Has he so far been active as a father? Did he share in other major challenges in the baby's life or just this one particularly? Why did he not go to the press before now when the lady sidelined him? This situation can not be compared to picking up passports because a woman has the ultimate right to keep her kids from an irresponsible father, now before am attacked i didn't say this man was irresponsible cuz i don't know him, i am just saying lets keep quiet and listen to the other-side if she wishes to talk.

meiloya:


Exclude Yinka from your list of some men. He is not useless and does not have kids littered everywhere even though he is obviously successful..But he is not perfect, just as no one is perfect

100Cents:


An average Nigerian girl lacks manners..

Poor upbringing and runz mentality..

meiloya:


So, how can one dig deep and know the ones with manners? Mhen, I'm in my thirties ooh and I don dey take style find wife, lthough God has not yet led me..It really scares me how some ladies try to justify some sub-optimal behavior.

But, this lady is question may not be bad, she could have done what she did out of ignorance, not because she bad.

AreaFada2:
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My brother, if I knew the strategy, I'd be very unpopular with the ladies BUT I'd have a VERY FAT bank account indeed!
Sadly, there's isn't really. Most of the strategies if followed, it's what Nairaland ladies like to describe as follows:

deeply insecure, has trust issues, snoops around an innocent girl/wife, he does not even trust himself, he knows he doesn't deserve the woman, not man enough, he's sexist, misogynist, etc.

One feminist wannabe or the other will find a way to use one of the above even if completely irrelevant.

Basically, it will involve carefully monitoring and observing her right from courtship. Try to know the reason she's with you. Is it because you're successful or at least presented yourself as such? Or is it love?

Is she VERY materialistic and is only concerned about beautiful things now or talks about achieving solid goals for the future together?
How does she react to a situation when money is not flowing or when you pretend money is not flowing?

How do you rate her principles, morality and integrity. Be aware that ladies are experts at pretending.
Understand her environment and upbringing.

I say upbringing rather than religion because religion has been so bastardised now, that the married pastor might even be the one who disvirgined her. So all that stuff is losing credibility fast. Only God knows his people now.

Fact is from your observations, you might be able to tell to some extent.

But remember, ladies keep their game very close to their chest. For them, fear of exposure and public disgrace is very big, so they take extra precautions. Playing the part and presenting the perfect picture of a virtuous woman is all important.

If killing you the husband is what it will take to protect that fake image, she'll have no qualms doing it.

100Cents:


Take style ?

Be very serious about it. Its good to start seeking wife from age 28..

All those girls who demand one thing after another are not after marrige,. They are called runz girls..

Yomieluv:
PZ,maltina dance all,people are fielding fake people sincewhen Noah walked with God.

IDEApro:


Its obvious the man doesnt want to do anything with his ex wife nor initiate any reconciliatory move but really want to be in the life of his daughter. Why will the ex wife deny him the honour of being with his daughter during the event?

Why must she spite him by going with another man in his own daughter best moment?

meiloya:


I've missed that 28 mark..Haha. I'm not sure if I was that sophisticated enough for our sisters when I was in my 20's..haha..I tried my best but none show, maybe I didn't try enough. But now, may be I'm a little more sophi..haha..But to be frank, I spent my 20's heavily developing myself..The benefits dey pay off now sha

My elder sister wanted to hook me up with her friend's younger sis, but I couldn't really put in the required effort and interest that I normally should have put in, because the chick in question knows some really nice things about me and I didn't want that. There was one I toasted and she gave me her number, but her interest waned when I told her to visit me on a Monday and she wondered I wasn't employed, probably meaning bad market..But in reality, I was on some sort of break.

But I guess mid 30's is not a bad time to settle, is it? I'm already working really hard to make myself the mr right, I hope to meet someone genuine too - my mrs right

mbulela:
Ten years down the line, there will be pics of the girl when she won this coveted award and the mother will have to explain to her how a strange man was acting as her sorugate dad.

palma:


Was the said dad not aware of the grand finale? Would running to the press solve the issue. He only made an already bad situation worse. Does the lady have no family to report her to? Has he so far been active as a father? Did he share in other major challenges in the baby's life or just this one particularly? Why did he not go to the press before now when the lady sidelined him? This situation can not be compared to picking up passports because a woman has the ultimate right to keep her kids from an irresponsible father, now before am attacked i didn't say this man was irresponsible cuz i don't know him, i am just saying lets keep quiet and listen to the other-side if she wishes to talk.

chiboy11:
Ure smply sick n ned cure for ur madnes,I don't ve to reply u here goat

AreaFada2:
But who knows if the PZ presentation ceremony man is the actual biological dad?

From DNA tests, 50% of first born kids belong to another man outside.

30% of all kids belong to another man outside.
It can be a neighbour, former boyfriend/sugar daddy, work colleague, client, best friend's husband, husband's best friend, driver, gateman, etc.

This might be the real dad coming out at last.

Lots of women have many dirty secrets.