donodion:


Sister,permit me to address you.For starters dont assume you were better than your hubbys ex that made him to marry you.We all marry for various reasons; benefits,parental demand for inter-tribal marriage, pregnancy out of wedlock,beauty,etc.
If your hubby overlooked the dometic penchant of his ex to stick with you,count your stars lucky.However let me drop this on your table, dont be angry if you found out your oga is stil in touch with her,financially supporting her (even if shes married) while you the "madam" could be completely unaware of all this. Unless she no iota of meaningful contribution to his being. Same applies with somewomen,no matter how naughty,you still remember that "good boy" you turned down for the current mister and if given a chance,wont mind re-living the past moments discreetly.

madeinnigeria:
. So the only way to bond is by cooking and doing laundry? Why would a guy (boyfriend) tell a chic dat she's not a wife material cos she doesn't cook clean his house blah blah? Since when did a relationship turn into garri market where you hav to taste everything before you buy? If she feels very comfortable with him she will do whatever she wants at her own freewill. My advice for him is to find his kind and she should find her own kind of person too...kudos to the lady for being true to her guts because why pretend cos you want a guy to marry you...marriage is supposed to be sweet nd intresting and its something you do with the right person. No one should force u or try to play the wife material mind game with you. Try have fun with yourlife build yourself nd while doing that d right guy will always show up.

FredHandsome:

Calm down, Bros eeee!

Dyt:
See babes forming good girls
LMAO

sweetcocoa:
You seem to have it all mixed up, cooking and laundry isn't the only way to bond but it's one of the best ways.

He told her she's not a wife material because she obviously isn't, who would want to marry a woman that can't lay a bed she woke up from? Or a woman that can't offer a helping hand?

I didn't read that he forced her to do chores, he just told her he can't wife her, given what he's noticed. What everything is being tasted? Cooking and laundry is what you ordinarily do for yourself so why can't you help your other half do it?

The main thing is to know your worth and act it, if you have self respect and a man respects you, you won't feel belittled for having to help with chores, you do it with your pride and dignity intact.

classicB:
Thank you all. Am not a lazy girl I just dnt want him to see everything he listed as my duty

Tashaamania:




Honestly, I hate the sight of a guy bending to wash clothes, cook or even do any work.I grew up in a house where there is only one dude - my bro and the rest are girls. Mum made sure we, the girls pampered him shege even though he was the eldest and it was annoying back then, so I kinda grew up with "men need be pampered" attitude


I believe that the only time a guy is meant to bend is when he's working on his girlfriend

Truckpusher:
Every normal guy should be able to do their chores and if he has a partner they should be able to help out each other .But what I don't subscribe to is when a women tries to enforce it by whining and complaining all day if you miss something - I'll simply show her the door ,I don't have time for lazy girls trying to use me to cover up for her laziness.

vjsmiles:
NO OFFE?NSE BUT HE IS RIGHT....

IF ALL THOSE THINGS HE MENTIONED ARE TRUE THEN BAE YOU AINT EVEN A HOUSEGIRL MATERIAL...
ONCE AGAIN NO OFFE?NSE

Neplusultra:

House gal?!! Make u dey fear God o

IT AINT FAIR ON THE GUYS PART NA

PunkyBrewster:


Kikikiki @ guy bending. I hate looking at that too. Besides doing washing, have you watched a guy putting lotion on his body? Particularly the legs. Gayest & most unattractive thing I have ever seen. I now avoid watching a man doing that because it makes me feel some type of way

Yomieluv:
You putting this up there shows you aren't a wife material,cos you are shameless..

zizibabe1:



NNE,SERIOUSLY,THERE ARE NO HARD AND FAST RULES TO THIS GAME.WHEN I STARTED DATING MY HUSBAND,HE HAD THIS HIS IN PORT HARCOURT BABE WHO WOULD COME WITHIN THE WEEK,DO HIS LAUNDRY,CLEAN HIS HOUSE,NEARLY SCRUB THE POP CEILING (LOL!) SERIOUSLY,PRACTICALLY CLEAN UP THE PLACE SO MUCH THAT WHEN I COME OVER AT CLOSE OF WORK ON FRIDAY ,EVERY WHERE WAS SPECK AND SPAN.ME,ON THE OTHER HAND HAD MADE UP MY MIND THAT I WON'T WORK HARD AGAIN FOR ANY RELATIONSHIP BC WHAT WILL BE WILL BE.AT LAST,WE ARE MARRIED NOW AND I DONT THINK HE HAS A PROBLEM WITH MY HOUSE KEEPING ABILITIES! THIS IS TRUE

igbsam:


you are shameless, dirty and lazy.

you should be covering your face in shame. I guess your mother didn't bring u up properly to do simple things like laying your bed and keeping the environment clean.

If you like don't change, but let me not catch u at my church when you have clocked 40 attending singles seminar/miracle crusade. I will so swear for you instead of pray for u

vjsmiles:
NO OFFE?NSE BUT HE IS RIGHT....

IF ALL THOSE THINGS HE MENTIONED ARE TRUE THEN BAE YOU AINT EVEN A HOUSEGIRL MATERIAL...
ONCE AGAIN NO OFFE?NSE

daddynasa:
young girl take correction jare. u lazy joor. a fool that knows he is a fool is a wise man

Tashaamania:




I believe that the only time a guy is meant to bend is when he's working on his girlfriend

Idowuogbo:
who wan marry liability? Dirty gal! you slept and probs b@nged him on that bed,yet you are forming i'm not your wife i can't cook Nd clean? You go tey for ya mama house till popsi's friend go use you do second wife. FISH BRAIN!

nkemdi89:

The former church I used to attend before I changed parish our pastor wife during one of her sermon said as a young girl when you visit your man you don't need to do any domestic chores according as quoted by her " the kitchen is not your kitchen until he is married to you, the room is not your room until he is married to you, the bed is not your bed until he is married to you, me when I was still dating my husband whenever I go to visit him I will just cross my leg and watch him do everything" imagine the number of young ladies she has brainwashed with such sermon.

THEN THE FOOD FROM THE KITCHEN AINT YOURS UNTIL YOU GET MARRIED

nkemdi89:

The former church I used to attend before I changed parish our pastor wife during one of her sermon said as a young girl when you visit your man you don't need to do any domestic chores according as quoted by her " the kitchen is not your kitchen until he is married to you, the room is not your room until he is married to you, the bed is not your bed until he is married to you, me when I was still dating my husband whenever I go to visit him I will just cross my leg and watch him do everything" imagine the number of young ladies she has brainwashed with such sermon.

texybaby:
Kk ooo...but at least laying a bed u slept on shdnt b a wife duty..u slept on that bed plsss...even if u dont do any other thing

texybaby:
Kk ooo...but at least laying a bed u slept on shdnt b a wife duty..u slept on that bed plsss...even if u dont do any other thing

ajetunde:


You are probably still drunk bro, hold your pocket well.

Tashaamania:




Honestly, I hate the sight of a guy bending to wash clothes, cook or even do any work.I grew up in a house where there is only one dude - my bro and the rest are girls. Mum made sure we, the girls pampered him shege even though he was the eldest and it was annoying back then, so I kinda grew up with "men need be pampered" attitude


I believe that the only time a guy is meant to bend is when he's working on his girlfriend

tintingz:
Are you saying guys creaming their body is unattractive to you?

mirexxx:
ok

missjenna:
Op what I don't understand is why you posted this here.
Do you derive some sort of weird pleasure in showing people your flaws and short comings?
Or don't you know that what you did was wrong?

Of course no guy would tolerate a lazy lady. So you go to his house and you still expect him to cook for you?
The fact that he said you don't wash his clothes means that you have never even tried to wash his clothes for once.

Despite the fact that I am an advocate for women rights and gender equality, I believe that there are things that women are obliged to do.
You don't even lay the bed you slept on? Definitely, any man would be annoyed by this. Its spells laziness and immaturity on your part. It also shows that you are not an organized person

Op this guy loves you an he wants to marry you, that is why he is saying all this. The best you can do for yourself is change.
Prove to him that you have changed so that he doesn't leave you for another woman
Thanks

olumzz:

U ds gall...Where's fatima's numba?

justi4jesu:
@OP dont be his housemaid, please opt out and search for a richer boyfriend with maids