Pls advice me house. I and my boyfriend of 2yrs have fixed a date for our introduction nxt month. And I jst gained admission for my masters programme in another state. I travelled on sunday so that I can start the registration process only for me to come back today n see two used condoms in a nylon inside d kitchen. So many things running in my mind now. I am thinking of quietly quitting the relationship or should I confront him?

Condom might be used for so many reasons. So you don't just conclude.

Moreover, he's a man. Though I don't support cheating but sincerely I think a man is polygamous in nature, but what matter is that the man in question respects you as a woman.



For your own good, stop sniffing around. If you leave him, how sure are you that your next man wouldn't be worst.

You can confront him in a matured way but have it at the back of your mind that many men cheat even though their wife might be more beautiful than their cheating partner.

Though it takes courage for a man to remain faithful.

two rounds.. hmmm

1st round could pass as accidental discharge

2nd confirms he knows how to use his rifle well






_{nt all men cheat. . do what seems best. move on. or accept u wanna marry a sniper}

Talk things out with him, u know him better dan I do. If u think walking out is d best, what guarantees u that d next is gonna b an angel??.. We are mortals & we are bound to do mistakes but, it depends on how we manage our mistakes, if u don't know; God finds fault in his angels also to talk more of we mortals. Talk To Him.. A heart-to-heart talk works like magic

Tnx for your responses bt I was nt snopping on him. I came back n he complained of hunger I went inside the kitchen to cook n I saw the condoms. I knw some men cheat bt at least they respect their partners throwing away the condoms would have been a better idea

U cant be so sure. What if a friend used it in his place and didn't dispose it properly. U shud be api ur bf is even using condoms. What if he was doing raw?

Did he know you'll be coming back today?

Going silent or quitting outrightly doesn't seem right to me. Is there a way you can playfully ask him and he wouldn't flare up?

I advice u confront him nd ask him abt it, bt in a calm nd matured way, cos if u dont ask him abt it u will b restless nd it wont b ryt to jst brk up wit him witout givin him a reason.

Meringe:
Condom might be used for so many reasons. So you don't just conclude.

Moreover, he's a man. Though I don't support cheating but sincerely I think a man is polygamous in nature, but what matter is that the man in question respects you as a woman.



For your own good, stop sniffing around. If you leave him, how sure are you that your next man wouldn't be worst.

You can confront him in a matured way but have it at the back of your mind that many men cheat even though their wife might be more beautiful than their cheating partner.

Though it takes courage for a man to remain faithful.

this is the most stupid post I've come across in decades! My dear run as fast as your leg can carry you.

Try talk things out with him, it's better than being in the dark as to what happened, there must be some sort of explanation for it, cos I don't see him knowing you are around or coming around and leave evidence for you to find out,

my friends wife came home from work one day guess what she saw in the visitor's room ? used condom, turned out it was the husband brother that came visiting, think what would have happened if madam didn't enquire from the husband first, she would probably file for divorce just like you are thinking of taking a walk

hmmmmmmm reading through comments uploaded before mine I can't help but wonder: everyone now feel cheating is cool. Men are polygamous in nature, condoms might be used for other reasons( like fetching water), quit snooping around,we are mortals, it must have been used by his friend, don't get him angry when confronting him etc. Why can't men and women strive to be faithful to their partners and quit justifying their evil acts? Being faithful is not impossible. it may be difficult but its attainable. And should you slip and cheat, please don't be smart about it. being defensive and cooking up reasons for cheating ain't cool. when you cheat on your partner, you destroy him or her. if you are caught and instead of being sorry, u feel on top of the world, you reduce your partner to nothing. cheating isn't cool in anyway. be with a partner who makes ur heart beat fast each time u set eyes on him or her. don't settle for less, or money, sex, good looks etc

ULSHERLAN:
U cant be so sure. What if a friend used it in his place and didn't dispose it properly. U shud be api ur bf is even using condoms. What if he was doing raw?

DafaQ?

Hey, this is someone she wants to Marry.

You expects her to be happy and relieved because he presumingly goes around fúcking every hole with condom?

You must really be loose in the head to say this.

seseannie:
Pls advice me house. I and my boyfriend of 2yrs have fixed a date for our introduction nxt month. And I jst gained admission for my masters programme in another state. I travelled on sunday so that I can start the registration process only for me to come back today n see two used condoms in a nylon inside d kitChen. So many things running in my mind now. I am thinking of quietly quitting the relationship or should I confront him?

By all means ask him
You should be able to aproach your partner without fear

Its one of 2 things; either its his or not
Does he live alone?
Has he ever cheated/given you reason not to trust him before this?

The reality is that even if it was his, its not likely that he will come out and own up straight away, so you need to bear that in mind and be wise.

I dont want to say much becasue we dont know for certain that it is his, since you havent asked him and I dont know his living arrangements.
Ask him first and take things from there.

In the meantime I am shocked at some of the things I am reading here. No wonder so many marriages are in tatters and STD's sre so rampan

ULSHERLAN:
U cant be so sure. What if a friend used it in his place and didn't dispose it properly. U shud be api ur bf is even using condoms. What if he was doing raw?

le kwanu iberibe

Messed up in the head?.

Meringe:
Condom might be used for so many reasons. So you don't just conclude.

Moreover, he's a man. Though I don't support cheating but sincerely I think a man is polygamous in nature, but what matter is that the man in question respects you as a woman.



For your own good, stop sniffing around. If you leave him, how sure are you that your next man wouldn't be worst.

You can confront him in a matured way but have it at the back of your mind that many men cheat even though their wife might be more beautiful than their cheating partner.

Though it takes courage for a man to remain faithful.

pwerrymansion:
this is the most stupid post I've come across in decades! My dear run as fast as your leg can carry you.

That you don't buy into my comment doesn't warrant you to address my comment as silly.


It's my opinion. No apologies.

Honestly, I don't know what you're waiting for.

Is there any negotiation for this?
A used condom only signifies someone is fucking.

So go ahead and confront your boyfriend. There is a chance he's all innocent but don't assume things yet.

Save yourself now and have a goodnight sleep tomorrow.

pwerrymansion:
this is the most stupid post I've come across in decades! My dear run as fast as your leg can carry you.

He's trying to change the minds of all girls one at a time. She should stay and take shit from him for the rest of her life because women are made to be docile and obedient

cococandy:

Messed up in the head?.

Talking as a man. Forget all these pretentious comments.

Meringe:

Talking as a man. Forget all these pretentious comments.

What does being a man mean?
Inability to control oneself?
Sleeping around like a dog?

When a man insults himself, He shouldn't be offended when others insult him by repeating his own words back to him.

You're talking as yourself. Not talking as a man Since all men don't share the same perspective as you.

Aprime:


DafaQ?

Hey, this is someone she wants to Marry.

You expects her to be happy and relieved because he presumingly goes around fúcking every hole with condom?

You must really be loose in the head to say this.

+1

Jackeeh:
hmmmmmmm reading through comments uploaded before mine I can't help but wonder: everyone now feel cheating is cool. Men are polygamous in nature, condoms might be used for other reasons( like fetching water), quit snooping around,we are mortals, it must have been used by his friend, don't get him angry when confronting him etc. Why can't men and women strive to be faithful to their partners and quit justifying their evil acts? Being faithful is not impossible. it may be difficult but its attainable. And should you slip and cheat, please don't be smart about it. being defensive and cooking up reasons for cheating ain't cool. when you cheat on your partner, you destroy him or her. if you are caught and instead of being sorry, u feel on top of the world, you reduce your partner to nothing. cheating isn't cool in anyway. be with a partner who makes ur heart beat fast each time u set eyes on him or her. don't settle for less, or money, sex, good looks etc

Thank you!

Good to see this post coming from a MAN. You and Aprime are the only MEN in this thread so far.

Rawdeal:


He's trying to change the minds of all girls one at a time. She should stay and take shit from him for the rest of her life because women are made to be docile and obedient

you the mind the okoro. What even got me appalled was him trying to define the other uses of condom . I bet he used the 'condom' as his bathing sponge... ... I pity his gf/wife

Hey, what is dis condom doin in dis house eh? Answer me right now! So u have been sleeping with other women right? Eh what? U want to lie abi? Just as I hav caught u red handed! Desmond after all d years I hav been wit u , so dis is how u want to treat me... . Dnt u eva, eva call me again. Goodbye.

By all means ask him, because if you don't, you will never be able to trust him again and nothing destroys marriage faster than distrust.

When you ask him and it is confirmed he cheated on you, leave him and quit the relationship because not only did he not love you enough, he disrespect you.

Moreso you can't change him and he may not change either when you're married.

On the flip side, when you ask him and he deny ownership of the used condoms and you're fully convinced and persuaded he is telling you the whole truth (don't indulge in self deceit here) then you can go ahead with the marital plan as there is nothing to fear.

Marriage is too crucial to start it on a shaky foundation.

Save yourself future regrets/tears, do it right now.

seseannie:
Pls advice me house. I and my boyfriend of 2yrs have fixed a date for our introduction nxt month. And I jst gained admission for my masters programme in another state. I travelled on sunday so that I can start the registration process only for me to come back today n see two used condoms in a nylon inside d kitChen. So many things running in my mind now. I am thinking of quietly quitting the relationship or should I confront him?

I can percieve you know the truth from what your inner man tells you. He most likely wont come straight if he is guilty as i think. Take a screen shot, then see if there are more evidences by snooping on his phone or something before confronting else he might cook up something so that you have no choice but to accept even when you know he is lying, search for proofs. You should henceforth be highly vigilant as any trace of cheating after marriage would be a mistake from you, it seems you were too trusting. Lest i forget dont remember the ''he goats'' on here trying to make you become cheap like them, worthy men are still in much supply.

Tnx for all ur responses. @ Chaicover he lives alone. He has gone to watch arsenal match I will ask when he returns

cococandy:

Messed up in the head?.

I'm telling you. Some people's low iq dazes me to my bones.





KanwuliaJara Abeg you are wanted here. I'm lost for words

He respected you enough not to do it in your presence...
Allow the guy jare...

When you get married and he does it then bring his case here...

For now go back for your prog joor

Aprime:


DafaQ?

Hey, this is someone she wants to Marry.

You expects her to be happy and relieved because he presumingly goes around fúcking every hole with condom?

You must really be loose in the head to say this.

Must u resort to your last statement. Well i comment my reserve

cococandy:
le kwanu iberibe

onye iberibe

C u knw him beta u cn ask him 'dear who used those cds in d ktchen'?
U those gals sayin run as fast as u cn dnt even av a bf,dey wnt u 2 b lyk em

There's no harm in asking him, he's your hubby to be and it is good to find out so you can know what you are going to be dealing with in marriage. Beside he might have an excuse that a friend brought a babe to use in the house. But the guy is careless sha! If you ask me oh, your man chop dodo at your absence, am not sure he has not been doing it all along in the relationship just that you have not catch him and am not also sure he will not be cheating on you in the marriage. Now you can decide what you wants to do.