op , he can lie dat d condoms r his friends buh if u smart enough u can tell he's lyin . if he even lies 2 ya face u need 2 let him go . dere r many failed marriages out dere becus folks c signs before d marriage telling dem things aren't right buh get married anyway . put ur marriage prep on hold if u must , before u marry dude be sure of ya choice . Berra 2 b alone than in a miserable marriage , ur choice

Melahou:
He respected you enough not to do it in your presence...
Allow the guy jare...

When you get married and he does it then bring his case here...

For now go back for your prog joor

dude dis is nt d ryt response,u and i knw dis. . .

Fight for your man, cos the devil you know is better than million angels you don't know, tAlk him about it.

pwerrymansion:
this is the most stupid post I've come across in decades! My dear run as fast as your leg can carry you.

My dear its not a silly post. That's is the stark reality if u care to know. Moreover he didn't say ALL men cheat, he said MANY. And what's d guarantee that op after dumping him would meet angel Gabriel along the way.
King David as favored as he was was found cheating...did God kill him?

but frankly leaving used condoms in ur trash can ain't cool at all. What happened to the WC.

If he really had something to hide, would he have left the condoms in the kitchen? Only if he's not smart. If you ask, he says "No", what would you do? Nothing. So, just look at what had happened in the past, has he cheated recently? Before now, was there any reason for suspicion? Does he have friends who use his place sometimes? I've a cousin who uses my place occasionally for 'jobs' like that, so when my fiancée comes, sights a used/unused condom, she already knows. Ask yourself the above questions. The answers should dictate your next move. Gracias.

Dyt:
Oya na
My sisters in the marriage house
Come and advice oo
Pray?
Leave?
Stay?
And of course my man is no cheat
Muchechecheche

I trust to read comments like that
I dey watch

my fwend wah re u waiting 4? Go and marry

seseannie:
Pls advice me house. I and my boyfriend of 2yrs have fixed a date for our introduction nxt month. And I jst gained admission for my masters programme in another state. I travelled on sunday so that I can start the registration process only for me to come back today n see two used condoms in a nylon inside d kitchen. So many things running in my mind now. I am thinking of quietly quitting the relationship or should I confront him?

it would be wise if you confront him, at least hear him out before deciding what to do

Jonathan:
Guys!
Please stop being silly and selfish. ^^^ Some of you are just very stûpid. What you can't tolerate you will do to another person. The only condition that can make me cheat on my girl is if I found out that she cheated on me and I still love her and just want to revenge or I have plans to let her go...
If op was your sister, how would you have advised her?
What if op is a guy and he found two used condoms and semen stains on her bed, how would you have advised him?
Op, please confront him and if you find out he cheated on you, please run away. This is marriage we are talking about.

So e ∂ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ easy 2 run abi? Most of men A̶̲̥̅̊я̲̣̥ε̲̣̣̣̥ cheater. though ∂ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ A̶̲̥̅̊я̲̣̥ε̲̣̣̣̥ still G☺☺d one. They can still sort tins out ⌣̊┈̥-̶̯͡»̶̥Ơ̴̴̴͡K⌣̊┈̥-̶̯͡»̶̥. Removing head ȋ̝̊̅§ nt ɑ̤̥̈̊ cure of headache.

My dear God made that happen so you could know the kind of man you were about to get married to; so move on with your life because God is not the author of confussion, He will provide you with a better man. But let him know.

seseannie:
Tnx for your responses bt I was nt snopping on him. I came back n he complained of hunger I went inside the kitchen to cook n I saw the condoms. I knw some men cheat bt at least they respect their partners throwing away the condoms would have been a better idea

Now that's the point, what man disposes used condoms in the kitchen. You should ask him o, it could be a set up or a deliberate act my him. Please confront him with it.

Dyt:


I dey do follow follow for here ooo
E go swt die


I get popcorn ooo

add alómó to balance d equatn.

Hmmmm....abt 2 do introduction, dnt u realise ds man luvs u 4 acceptin u as his wife, nt al men cn do dat simply because most of us ar nt ready 4 ds marriage itsef...But it culd b a test, mayb he purposely kept it visible in d kitchen 2 knw wat ur action is gonna luk lik, y kitchen wen toilet is dre. Y shuld u even tot of quitin d relationship?, it seemz u dnt luv him, u shuld ask him so u guyz cn talk abt it n 4giv him if he's found guilty cos nobody is perfect, n it culd b his turn 2 4giv u nxt tym cos u wil surely offend him 2 someday, u ar meant 2 offend one anoda n 4giv @ al tymz #Peace!

masterp24:
Now dose condoms might b planted there just to really know how mature u r in temprament cos men do so many different tins to try dia partner's faith and maturity. So dnt b quick to action,confront him wit respect and LOVE! If u shuld pass d test dat means u hav won his hrt compeletly if at al s a test!!

He has bed room right? Den have asked urself dis simple Q? " y most it b in d kichen he knows he ll slip wit a woman or dispose d use condom"

y testing peepz wen ure not d devil's deputy?...d devil is d only authorised person to give tests,temptations etc......if a lady trys to test ma ability of faithfulness by setting up her fwend or any female wit me which i happen to kw of,honestly im so gonna sniper her SSA

Just ask him, but ask right and properly.

Hmm! Dis Ur own advise get 'K'leg ooo,I mean I fear U.reread the post/reply over/visualise the scenario.'She came back home and her heart complained/said dat he's hungry.Wife went to the kitchen and saw used condom in the bin'' just reason/figure dat out

Chizzy20:
I advice u confront him nd ask him abt it, bt in a calm nd matured way, cos if u dont ask him abt it u will b restless nd it wont b ryt to jst brk up wit him witout givin him a reason.

seseannie:
Pls advice me house. I and my boyfriend of 2yrs have fixed a date for our introduction nxt month. And I jst gained admission for my masters programme in another state. I travelled on sunday so that I can start the registration process only for me to come back today n see two used condoms in a nylon inside d kitchen. So many things running in my mind now. I am thinking of quietly quitting the relationship or should I confront him?

Has it occurred to you that he possibly placed it in the kitchen on purpose? Was the condom filled with milk? Or were they empty? Some guys don't know how to tell you they are tired of a relationship and want to move on, instead they start fights.

why are you women so jealous, always blaming men 4 cheating you guys? afterwards that same woman you are thinking slept with your man is another man girl who will also let heaven lose when she see anotherwoman with her man, or will you swear that throughout yourjourney to where you went, no man approach you or you have not slept with another man? thank God that your man use condom it shows he still respect you. and bythe way what are you searching for inside d basketbin did you keep yourhead there? please allow that guy to have his peace by quietly moving out if you have had enough of him, maybe you have seen another man, just want to use condom as an excuse.

Just quietly ask him

rolled:
Some comments on NL keeps me depressed for days
See why I don't like coming close anymore
Do these pple actually exist in real life

my broda dey re ghost ooh,@ tyms u read comments dt mks u ponder if d brain is stil dre

Well sist, walking Outing quietly is not d best option here. Stage a conversation with him, u just never can tell maybe his friend, cousin or brother used it. Cos every sensible man that's wants to go for intro within a months time should apply caution to his cheating lifestyle if at all he must cheat...
However U can walk away if U have been tired staying with dis dude, but mind U yr next relationship just may be worse!

fleezytran:


Now that's the point, what man disposes used condoms in the kitchen. You should ask him o, it could be a set up or a deliberate act my him. Please confront him with it.

which kind setup b dat?....so hin no kw d lady hin dey stay wit 4 hauz? Last time i checked, such set up are d devils handwork so y is he takeova?

Please confront him and get to the bottom of it.
Its so annoying when i hear Retarded comment like Men are polygamous & we all cheat.. That is a big fat lie. A lie cheat repeat all the time to make themself look cool.
There are decent men out there who are properly raised & will have an honest monogamous relationship with u.
Please dont ever settle for less.
Find out what happened, it could be anybody else' condom. If it turns out to be his own, if u can feel u can cope with a cheat, u can stay. If not, walk away & go and do thanks giving cuz most people were not priviledged to know before gettin married to snakes.
Dont let anyone hold u to ransome by sayin "u dont know if the person u will meet next will be worse" there are good people out there & u deserve the best.

Please its time to get ur A game up.. Snoop around very well.. Infact try to find out the truth as much as possible before the confrontation.
Phone, sms, email, facebook & social media account. If he is truely a cheat, there will be something to find. If not, immediatly u confront him, he wil clean up his trail. Cheats are very good at hidin things.
I wish u goodluck.

cheats spotted

Meringe:
Condom might be used for so many reasons. So you don't just conclude.



Though it takes courage for a man to remain faithful.

that is not a good advice,you are not wise,and I know you have sense,if it were to be the girl that cheated you will raise curse on the woman!cheating is not allowed in any relationship,she just traveled for days oga,as for u madam confront ur man and see if he shows remorse,if this happens now,it will definitely happen when u guys get married be wise

Meringe:
Condom might be used for so many reasons. So you don't just conclude.

Moreover, he's a man. Though I don't support cheating but sincerely I think a man is polygamous in nature, but what matter is that the man in question respects you as a woman.



For your own good, stop sniffing around. If you leave him, how sure are you that your next man wouldn't be worst.

You can confront him in a matured way but have it at the back of your mind that many men cheat even though their wife might be more beautiful than their cheating partner.

Though it takes courage for a man to remain faithful.

useless comment. Wonder where d 'likes' are coming from & why. So in dis era, in dis day & age of so much exposure, not to talk of so many deadly veneral diseases u want women to open their arms to promiscuous men, u are actually encouraging men to keep being dogs, dat there's nothing wrong wit it. Wat a useless post! How will u feel if its ur woman sleeping around? Nonsense

ULSHERLAN:
U cant be so sure. What if a friend used it in his place and didn't dispose it properly. U shud be api ur bf is even using condoms. What if he was doing raw?

hw could he allow his house to be used as a challet? Be patiet babe fr this is the world we find ourselves.

BlackPeni5:


OP...the people telling you to run are single and sad. They want your situation to be like theirs. I can confidently tell you that about 90% of men have affairs outside their main relationship. This does not necessarily mean those affairs must lead to sex. Some men just flirt to test their skills, others take it a step further.

Its better you confront the guy and let him do the explaining...If he is not sorry for what he did, you can leave him. If he apologises and promises not to do it again, you can remain in the relationship. Nevertheless, this will not stop him from cheating on you in the future, but at least it shows he respects you enough to want to hide it.

Great. One of the most rational and realistic posts so far. We can theorize all we want but reality will not necessarily bow to our theories. That's why even in science, ideal and actual are identified and differentiated.
The 1st poster who mentioned he believes men are by nature polygamous was only stating a school of thought, but some on here will rather insult him rather than put up a weighted argument against that.
Remember, attack the message; not the messenger.
OP, it's your call. But note this: a demon is an inverse angel And vice versa.

BlackPeni5:


OP...the people telling you to run are single and sad. They want your situation to be like theirs. I can confidently tell you that about 90% of men have affairs outside their main relationship. This does not necessarily mean those affairs must lead to sex. Some men just flirt to test their skills, others take it a step further.

Its better you confront the guy and let him do the explaining...If he is not sorry for what he did, you can leave him. If he apologises and promises not to do it again, you can remain in the relationship. Nevertheless, this will not stop him from cheating on you in the future, but at least it shows he respects you enough to want to hide it.

my broda 4 ow lng wld it continue,she nids 2 confrnt him 2 free her mind. .

wcurtis76:
I feel ur pain now listing let me educate u a lil bit about a man.... a man can love a woman with all his life he can even kill for her sake ...but admires morethan 60 women out there so ma dear call him to other and ask him about it and sure he will apologize pls forgiv him and move on pray for him OK thanks

best comment so far.

Young Woman,Ur marriage is next month,dnt play into the prank(yell,fight/confrontation ooo)pretend as if nothing dey happen,focus on with ur Marriage preparation/MSC.May Ur enemies neva LAUGH U to SCORN.Neva give Up

sonssyo:

dat guy no try at all, but u no his character. go ahead and and ask him. politely and maturely, u wil be able to find out somefin frm his looks.dou he wil lie sha

na so ur bf dey lie 2 u?

famousguy01:
what if he did it on purpose, trying to put his woman to test. He might actually want to see the level of ur perseverance, talking from experience cos my gf did somtin like this to me also even worst things. Don't lose what u av freely without a good reasoning, there aren't no angels out their we are all humans at the end. just my little advice

Your girlfriend did worst to you and you are still in?
Na you gangan be Maga.
Continue being a fly following her corpse to the grave.