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Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by Nobody: 11:40pm On Mar 02, 2015
LewisO:
2. You have children and have them tested early in the pregnancy for the" S" gene, and abort the foetus.

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God is against abortion and its illegal in Nigeria
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by LewisO: 11:44pm On Mar 02, 2015
SAVEDBABA:
God is against abortion and its illegal in Nigeria

Haba bro! That is about aborting a child, don't get me wrong.

As a medical doctor, i can never encourage about never.
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by Nobody: 11:46pm On Mar 02, 2015
LewisO:


Haba bro! That is about aborting a child, don't get me wrong.

As a medical doctor, i can never encourage about never.
r u saying foetus is nt a child yet?
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by Nobody: 11:48pm On Mar 02, 2015
Allureoftheseas:



There is power from the divine to do whatever we wish, turning a sickle cell to AA is a piece of cake.
Jesus needs u bro
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by Nobody: 11:50pm On Mar 02, 2015
Afolabs101:
I am AA and I'm engaged to a lady who is SS. She is the one person who truly gets me and who I believe will support me and love me no matter what happens. I am truly in love with her too and am ready to support her and take care of her. It is difficult to find someone like that, so even when she told me she was SS, I continued with the relationship.

My advice is to go ahead and leave her health to God. As long as she is taking the necessary steps to keep the condition under control and has a good ad close relationship with God, she will live long.

As for me, I don't think about how my wife to be might die early as I believe that God will keep her and she will outlive me.
hav u heard of bone marrow transfer,u cn try it
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by LewisO: 11:50pm On Mar 02, 2015
SAVEDBABA:
r u saying foetus is nt a child yet?

I'm not laying it to the (op) direct, i was try to put it with logistics of what some in that state deduced.
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by Nobody: 11:53pm On Mar 02, 2015
Allureoftheseas:



There is power from the divine to do whatever we wish, turning a sickle cell to AA is a piece of cake.
Jesus loves u bro,accept him today tomoro may b too late
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by Nobody: 11:55pm On Mar 02, 2015
LewisO:


I'm not laying it to the (op) direct, i was try to put it with logistics of what some in that state deduced.
hmm
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by Nobody: 11:59pm On Mar 02, 2015
NLSince:
I come around often. Why do you ask?

Just wanted to know sha.....
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by SalC: 12:02am On Mar 03, 2015
richol:
pray to GOD....cos ive seen cases that the aa marrying ss nd all the children are ss
This is not possible. AA marrying SS can never give birth to SS
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by Nobody: 12:15am On Mar 03, 2015
blink182:
You are ignorant and crazy.
because he said wot ws bodering his mind common on,give me a break
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by Nobody: 12:24am On Mar 03, 2015
IYANGBALI:
Op don't go there,run now that you can. I just check my crystal ball,the marriage will not work,because of this and some other reasons. Request for her recent photograph,pray over it for 7 days and every evening for the 7 days put the photograph under your pillow,you will see why I said you should run,alafia. Eli!
u must be joking
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by whizqueen(f): 12:28am On Mar 03, 2015
NLSince:
1) A year and a half ago
2) About 2 - 3weeks the last time
3) by His Grace, Yes
4) I'm too caring for my own good so Yes
5) With my whole heart

So what are you now waiting for?
Beg show me your Invitation card jare lets come n eat wedding rice grin
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by Nobody: 12:35am On Mar 03, 2015
ask4bk:


You know they have this occasional crisis they handle always. Money has been spent for ages to sustain them (twins). They are graduates and have served. Doing the last crisis, he couldn't struggle out of it again. But his brother is still ok and strong right now. Also ss
may his soul rest in peace
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by Nobody: 12:37am On Mar 03, 2015
searching4love:




undecided I'm entitled to my opinion. That is freedom of expression undecided
hmmm,u r abusing dat freedom.
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by Nobody: 1:14am On Mar 03, 2015
Onyema1:
Hey guys what's the implication of an AA marrying an AS? My friend has this issue now, but he has not made a decision.
left to me dere is no risk.
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by IYANGBALI: 4:03am On Mar 03, 2015
SAVEDBABA:
u must be joking
I don't joke on mondays
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by Nobody: 4:59am On Mar 03, 2015
Numerouuuno:

Hi,
1. why do you say this? any reason?
2. Absolutely wrong.
3. Not required.
give ur reasons why u think it's wrong.U want a ss kids n generations,right?Or u wanna put the mother in series of maternal problems aside the original crisis she'd face?
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by NLSince: 5:07am On Mar 03, 2015
I am not who you speak off.

Polithiefcian:



I think we av folahan adesegun here


grin
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by Consigliere(m): 6:40am On Mar 03, 2015
It clearly shows that people are still ignorant ...
Lover boy marry her if you love her,I have friends and family members that are SS and they are living fine.My grandpa is SS and he died @ 80 yrs old.
My friend will be 30yrs old this year ...and its being like 10yrs ago since his last crisis..
My brother is SS too and you wont believe it if u see him... Plus he rarely fall sick.
So if she is the love of ur life take that leap of faith!
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by Nobody: 6:54am On Mar 03, 2015
SAVEDBABA:
because he said wot ws bodering his mind common on,give me a break
Yes and he should leave that girl for someone who has no prejudice towards her health.

And for your bloody information op, SS do not die before before a certain age. You think we appreciate this form of dirty love and care like we are going to die anytime soon or even infected with hiv.

Go and marry some other healthy girl and leave that lady alone.
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by Busuyib(f): 8:58am On Mar 03, 2015
[quote author=Starie post=31228358]

Den der have been a cheating sum where! They were supposed to have only AS children. No AA no SS...





exactly
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by Mikwus(f): 9:01am On Mar 03, 2015
photographer:
@op I want to believe you went to school, secondly I want to believe you are grownup too? the truth is Nl is the last place you bring such issues for advice. but since you are here already let me put mouth.

ask her how her health issues is,how serious? then make up your mind from what she tells you truth is that[b] SS carriers are warrior's that fight health battles that you cant.[/b] Am 25 and have had crisis only 4 times my whole life. am a survivor dont be deprived of the best thing that can happen to you go for her and you know what? since she lives each day at a time she will love you more than any other woman would. you are AA doesnt mean you cant be hit by a car and die people will always die from one course or the other it might be an ailment or unforseen means anyway round we shall all die someday.


peace.


So true, We are fighters......Warriors and we always overcome

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Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by IcyIcy(f): 9:40am On Mar 03, 2015
NLSince:
Hey Guys,

I'm in a fix right now. I created this account to seek advice about my current situation. I have seen some very good and some not-so-good advice being dished out here. I really hope I get more of the former.

So there's this lady who I'm interested in dating. infact, I was about to ask her out yesterday when one thing led to another and she told me she was SS.

Here's a little background to this:
1. I consider myself a good guy. I'm not a player and I can't date you if I don't see us heading to the aisle. I have been in relationships before which have ended but I don't date with the intention of ending it.
2. Because of Number 1, I don't just ask out anyone. I start by being friends and then if I see a future, I'll then take it forward else we mutually friendzone ourselves. I'm different, Bite me.
3. This Lady ticks most of the boxes I think is important. And I actually believe(d) that this would be my Last Bus stop. However, I don't want to get a wife who'll leave me soon.
4. I'm AA

I'll be grateful if you guys help me with answers to this:
a) Should I go on with this? or should I free her? or go against everything I believe in and break off the relationship once her next crises comes. (OMG, that's brutal. I'm cringing just writing that)
b) I know if we have kids, they'll be AS. What chances of survival does she have? at least to get up until 70. She's 25 right now.

Searching for a wife is hard. I really don't want to lose a good one (If I don't have to) and start searching again.

cc: MizmyColi, Kachisbarbie, Xiadnat, PickaBeau1, MatthewBriggs


I have done some reading up and seems like genotype AA can marry all genotype without any concerns. Offspring would be either AA or AS the most. You may find reading this helps.. https://www.nairaland.com/2173935/concerning-genotype-pls-read-before

Also if you are financially sound.. genotype SS can be altered to AA if genotype AA willing to donor blood cells from bone marrow. Am not sure what's the actual cost but estimate to be 6 to 8 millions naira in Uniben teaching hospital. http://ynaija.com/splendid-news-sickle-cell-anaemia-patients-can-change-their-genotype-hematologist/

Good luck.
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by nervorum: 10:30am On Mar 03, 2015
richol:
pray to GOD....cos ive seen cases that the aa marrying ss nd all the children are ss

That is not correct sir. AA marrying SS can never give birth to SS offsprings, except someone is deceiving the other. Humans may cheat, science does not.
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by richol(m): 10:45am On Mar 03, 2015
nervorum:


That is not correct sir. AA marrying SS can never give birth to SS offsprings, except someone is deceiving the other. Humans may cheat, science does not.
im not saying scientifically its correct........i'll keep saying this .....if u can explain how two parents gave birth to a blonde after all dna tests shows they r the real parents den u can call me wrong.........this is something ive seen,not heard
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by nervorum: 11:09am On Mar 03, 2015
NLSince:
Hey Guys,

I'm in a fix right now. I created this account to seek advice about my current situation. I have seen some very good and some not-so-good advice being dished out here. I really hope I get more of the former.

So there's this lady who I'm interested in dating. infact, I was about to ask her out yesterday when one thing led to another and she told me she was SS.

Here's a little background to this:
1. I consider myself a good guy. I'm not a player and I can't date you if I don't see us heading to the aisle. I have been in relationships before which have ended but I don't date with the intention of ending it.
2. Because of Number 1, I don't just ask out anyone. I start by being friends and then if I see a future, I'll then take it forward else we mutually friendzone ourselves. I'm different, Bite me.
3. This Lady ticks most of the boxes I think is important. And I actually believe(d) that this would be my Last Bus stop. However, I don't want to get a wife who'll leave me soon.
4. I'm AA

I'll be grateful if you guys help me with answers to this:
a) Should I go on with this? or should I free her? or go against everything I believe in and break off the relationship once her next crises comes. (OMG, that's brutal. I'm cringing just writing that)
b) I know if we have kids, they'll be AS. What chances of survival does she have? at least to get up until 70. She's 25 right now.

Searching for a wife is hard. I really don't want to lose a good one (If I don't have to) and start searching again.

cc: MizmyColi, Kachisbarbie, Xiadnat, PickaBeau1, MatthewBriggs

Dear Friend,

I appreciate how you feel about this. Sometimes taking decisions about stuffs like this can be challenging.

I think you may go ahead to date her if you want, but marriage is another thing altogether. Take this one step at a time.

I would not say not to go ahead with deciding to marry her (its really up to you at the end of the day), i would rather you deeply consider this, beyond your feelings, before making a decision.
Talk with parents who have ss children, that would give you a sneek-peek of what you may experience when you marry an SS lady (thats assuming you do). It can be very challenging, but doable.

If you think your love is strong enough to accomodate frequent hospitalizations, complications of childbirth, and other common complications (CVA, Renal failure etc), associated with them, then you may go ahead.

Be advised that the demands of marriage (emotional and physical), may tip an otherwise stable SS patient to be more prone to crisis.
Don't be misled in thinking that if a person living with SCD is above 25 or so, they are less prone to crisis, or that crossing the threshold of 25 means they would live longer.

My advise?
1. Forget about marrying her for now, just show her love and carefully think about this.
2. Pray about it
3. Think about it
4. Think about it again
5. Decide

I hope my opinion is not offensive.

Its well with you.
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by nervorum: 11:17am On Mar 03, 2015
LewisO:
At worst, each of your children will inherit the Sickle cell gene, and be carriers- there is a 50% chance of this happening with each child.

They cannot develop the full disease, as this would require inheriting another "S"gene from you, which is impossible.

So your options are -
1. You have children, and accept the 50% risk that they will be carriers, and not sick, similar to your girlfriend.

2. You have children and have them tested early in the pregnancy for the" S" gene, and abort the foetus.

This is a drastic step considering that they will lead a relatively normal life, no matter what the outcome.

3. You could adopt.
4. Get a new girlfriend.

Sir, the problem with SS/AA marriages is not the offsprings, but the health challenge that the SS partner brings to the relationship. For average every day people, it can cause significant strain on the relationship. Rather than marry an ss lady, and get a girl friend (broke her heart in the process, and push her to an early grave), why not choose not to marry her in the first instance, and save urself the stress of having to take 'drastic measures'
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by nervorum: 11:25am On Mar 03, 2015
richol:
im not saying scientifically its correct........i'll keep saying this .....if u can explain how two parents gave birth to a blonde after all dna tests shows they r the real parents den u can call me wrong.........this is something ive seen,not heard

Okay. This is what happened (assuming your account is correct). One of the two parents was not sincere to the other.

I would contest any DNA result that shows that two people (with AA and SS genotypes) sired a child(ren) with SS genotype(s). Except this was a miracle of some sort.

Again..HUMANS CAN CHEAT, SCIENCE DOES NOT.
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by richol(m): 11:27am On Mar 03, 2015
nervorum:


Okay. This is what happened (assuming your account is correct). One of the two parents was not sincere to the other.

I would contest any DNA result that shows that two people (with AA and SS genotypes) sired a child(ren) with SS genotype(s). Except this was a miracle of some sort.

Again..HUMANS CAN CHEAT, SCIENCE DOES NOT.
PROVE HOW NEGROS GAVE BIRTH TO BLONDE.......NOT TOO MUCH TO ASK OF IS IT
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by nervorum: 11:29am On Mar 03, 2015
IcyIcy:



I have done some reading up and seems like genotype AA can marry all genotype without any concerns. Offspring would be either AA or AS the most. You may find reading this helps.. https://www.nairaland.com/2173935/concerning-genotype-pls-read-before

Also if you are financially sound.. genotype SS can be altered to AA if genotype AA willing to donor blood cells from bone marrow. Am not sure what's the actual cost but estimate to be 6 to 8 millions naira in Uniben teaching hospital. http://ynaija.com/splendid-news-sickle-cell-anaemia-patients-can-change-their-genotype-hematologist/

Good luck.

At the present, stem cell transplant for adult SS patient is not possible. Limit is 11-12 years, it may be possible for slightly older pple , say 15 thereabout, but only in the absence of complications/sequelae.
Re: Relationship Between AA And SS by nervorum: 11:41am On Mar 03, 2015
richol:
PROVE HOW NEGROS GAVE BIRTH TO BLONDE.......NOT TOO MUCH TO ASK OF IS IT

NEGROES GIVING BIRTH TO BLONDES is a fxn of melanin, not blood genotype. That maybe possible.

The way the gene for skin colour is transmitted during development is different from that of blood genotype, which strictly follows the Mendelian pattern. This platform may not be the place to involve in any scholarly debate, besides, it does appear to me you may not have a Genetics background (no insult meant) Sir.

We do not use physical trait to determine who the parents of a child are not, but we can use blood genotype clinically to contest who the father or mother is not. Put another way, we can use blood genotype to show who the parents of a child are not, but we cannot use physical traits, for same reasons as in paragraph 2


SCIENCE DOES NOT CHEAT..HUMANS DO.

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