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Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by UGLYS: 8:28pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
MizmiColi, what can else can I say? You are ambitious and that's very rare in most ladies. A lot of advices have been offered here already for you, so I will settle for the salient point between the opposing views and that is "Accepting the sponsorship". 1) The reason given here as to why you should accept it is justified by the fact that you have given them 2.5 years, so why shouldn't you accept it and still leave? They owe you that ofcourse. 2) On the otherhand,I shouldn't accept this sponsorship since I will be leaving soon is a reason culled from our emotional minds. One with high EQ will think towards that direction and you just did that. Oh, And my mum can take care of it too while I still leave and not hurt anyone. The difference between 1 and 2 is that 1 thought with its head while 2 thought with the heart. So you have a case of Ambition (1) vs Emotions (2). **One thing I know in life is that if you are never challenged in whatsoever you do, you can never get better. So, In both cases above, you havta leave, either as an Ambitious Lady or an Emotional Person, the choice is yours to make, but the advice with asterisk will help you in your decision. May God help you. 1 Like |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by UGLYS: 8:31pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
FriedPlantain: Her heart may not give her the best, bro |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by Acidosis(m): 8:39pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
‘Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking’ - Marcus Aurelius Antoninus 1 Like |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by Sweetguy25: 8:57pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
This is the 21st century, the world is moving too fast and majority of people are getting left behind. If you see yourself in an environment that will inhibit your personal development objectives and missions, you obviously have no business being there. In order thoughts, I personally see your challenges in two different perspectives. This is a struggle between you and your environment (the organisation or company you find yourself in). You want more from your environment and your environment wants more from you, there's a disconnection - a lacuna that needs to be filled by either one of you. It's either you modify the organisation to suit your preferences and aspirations or you stay and wait for them to change you or give you the vibe you expect. Is the place not as lively and positively tasking as you expect? Is there anything you can do change it to suit your "style"? If you want a new challenge, you can start from your present organization and strive to effect the necessary changes that will uplift the company (which you'll be rewarded for) or you take the other route and find a new challenge in a different organization. 1 Like |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by bakingsoda: 9:21pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
Since there is no more zeal to work there resign now before your lack of zeal starts to show and you get sacked. Allow your parents sponsor your exam and keep developing yourself, you will get a more befitting role before long. Take sentiment out of it, if your employer gets a better candidate for your role tomorrow you could be done away it. Best of luck to you. Your link: www.consultingcase101.com/list-of-consulting-firms-in-lagos-nigeria/ |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by EzeeYFB(m): 9:42pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
Redoil:thats true,my dear if u already have financial backing to further its better u dont take d offer from your firm b4 u fall into an emotional attachment with the company or worse that you get into serious trouble cos u will be looked at as a fraud. |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by MizMyColi(f): 9:51pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
crackhaus: Yaaayyyhhh He came around! I honestly wasn't expecting you to come around now. Thank you more. Pele, shegbo You actually brought another angle to this. It is becoming quite apparent that with the present condition of things there, I cannot thrive. I feel quite ashamed to say that because of the envronment, I have become quite unprofessional. Somedays, it's just me alone there, with internet and my phone. These days, I force myself to reach out to prospects. Today that I managed to put a call or two through....no answer. It is so unlike me. I usually don't struggle to do what needs to be done. Having looked at this from different angles. Now that I've asked myself...."What if you get new businesses today, what if your pay rises....would you stay put?" Well I might. But then again, that nagging feeling of dis-satisfaction would still rear is head. I just wanna go. It's time. On to other challenges. @Last paragraph. This place doesn't quite afford me the necessary structure to network and then move on up. This feels like a tough call. After all is said and done, I'm sure his will'll prevail. 2 Likes |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by VickyRotex(f): 9:53pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
MizMyColi, Its coming late tho, but I hope you find it useful. Read some comments and I believe good advices have been given. Okay I'd say this '' If you cant beat them, you set a standard above them'' I believe there is (are) reason(s) why you are placed in that firm. You could transform the company to suit the needed taste. Most times an employer may not be able to handle all that it takes to make a company grow, but there will always be someone/a gropup of people that stands out and gives it his/her/their best to improve the company. That individual can be you. *Remember when a company performs well, the praise goes to all staffs, likewise when a company fails reprimand goes to all staffs aswel, before its been narrowed down* But at the same time I wouldnt know if you have tried your best in moulding the company into what you envisioned it to be. If you have, then I would say you can opt out if you really want to. But at same time, bear in mind that you dont know what the challenges you would encounter in the new company you find. Just like you probably never expected getting tired of this current one. Its a veil that gets unveiled once your in. Remember that whether you leave now or not, you cant work for someone for life, there will always be time where you need to pursue greater heights and purpose... This may be the time and this may not be. Just give it a deep thought over again. For now avoid any payments for your course, good thing your parents are willing to assist you, so take that option. I wish you the best in making a solid and tangible decision... I do wish to read your good news afterwards, on whichever decision you make. Remember to go for what you need and not what you want Cheers!!! |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by MizMyColi(f): 9:53pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
Dramadiddy: Thanks much I appreciate. 1 Like |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by MizMyColi(f): 9:54pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
Euckybaby: Thanks. |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by MizMyColi(f): 9:57pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
gonon: This is noted. Thank you |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by MizMyColi(f): 10:00pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
Kachisbarbie: You have said it finish Nne. Are you a mind reader? That word "redundant" hit me somewhere. Ka Chi'neke me eziokwu. |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by esere826: 10:00pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
mizmycoli you've not been offered employment in another job yet naaaa when u get to the bridge u will cross believe me, if you get a very good offer from a very good company your boss will be very happy for you . we all like to be connected to people that are making it big in life Now, lets talk about were your passion lies ...have you actually tested it to see if you like it? I thought i would be an engineer because i loved outdoor adventures o girl,...when sun burn me on site, babes bone me, and my trouser start to dey tear my passion switched almost immediately following your heart is great but just like affairs the hurts that come with it can break someone scars makes one wiser..i've learnt to strike a balance but do follow your heart , hurt and learn quickly especially when u are still young. This is what i always advice people 1 Like |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by MizMyColi(f): 10:18pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
lordmario: *sighs* This one is strong. I'm at loss for what to reply here. Thank you. |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by MizMyColi(f): 10:23pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
UGLYS: Thank You uglys. These comments are helping me get a clearer perspective. Truth is I should have gone before now, say last year. But I let fear of not knowing where to go or what to do hold me back. It gets easier. |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by MizMyColi(f): 10:29pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
Sweetguy25: Perfect analysis, I must admit. To your first question - Yes, it isn't. To the second - Nothing! None that I know of - at least not without coming off as a hater who wants to take the spotlight off of them. I am not allowed to talk. I'm just a smallie, whose duty's mainly being an "O'yes" member. |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by MizMyColi(f): 10:30pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
bakingsoda: Thank you. Will check it. |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by MizMyColi(f): 10:34pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by MizMyColi(f): 10:44pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
@Vickyrotex dear. I really wish I could explain further. But I know where I am and the calibre of people I'm surrounded with. You know when you're permitted to ask questions or try to change stuff or when you should just be. It's like you wanna soar, but your wings are clipped. All the same. I'm spurred. I'mma keep giving my best shot. I will do my best, and while at it - I will keep searching. Thank you. 1 Like |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by valdetino(m): 10:45pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
pickabeau1: Hello bro. I love the way u adviced her on this topic. pls r u on what's App? There is some thing I will like u to advice me on. Here is my contact 08069355320 |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by ojaydedon(m): 10:56pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
so lu obi gi.. Mana tupu e hapu olu nke iji na aka, ka obulu na i chota na odi olu nke di gi na obi.. Mana tinye ya na ekpere ka monso me pe anya mmuo gi.. Mana gini ka ndi be gi na ekwu maka ya |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by lordmario(m): 11:02pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
MizMyColi: Talk to God my dear, he will surely guide you and lead you on the right path. Shalom 2 Likes |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by VickyRotex(f): 11:29pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
MizMyColi: Yea, I understand to an extent. But I guess you understand more. Dont allow them clip your wings then. You got to soar high, you got lots of goodies ahead of you. But all the same, do give it your best shot... Wish you God's best. You are welcome |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by UGLYS: 11:54pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
MizMyColi: You are welcome Ma'am 1 Like |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by harsay(m): 1:16am On Mar 06, 2015 |
Yeah. Deary I can categorically tell you that I know exactly how you feeling, because I was once in your shoe. when I started my first job as well the beginning was kinda up to my expectations and quite brain challenging as per how I want it to be. but overtime I learn more strategies to get work done easily and faster with this I get bored in no time. with this my work become boring and unemotional challenging no more. so I ventured into more research on how to strengthen and give more to the work. Dear my boss was so happy and grateful with my ideas. so he made me the head of all my ideas I have more responsibility now and the work is more challenging now bur mind u i love it. so I suggest u do the same too and if am not wrong ur work deserve that from you with all the love they shown you. so get out there and get more ideas and make more friend with you guys competitive partners, that way u will know their flaws and have more to bring to the table for your company. trust me the idea wouldn't stop coming. *Go extreme and best of lucks. |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by opokonwa(m): 5:04am On Mar 06, 2015 |
So much love on this thread already. Nigerians giving candid advice all to MizMyColi. No bad comment yet in 3 pages? Nne i di kwa lucky My 2 cents. You are either a risk-taker or you're not. You either have had your frustrations or sedentary work-life up to your throat or you have not. Once you get to that limit, you will either start developing negative responses to your work environment or you quit. Quitting and the prospects out there is not easy you know. So you are either a risk-taker or you're not. No company will offer you everything you need. At least not in Nigeria. In your case, it's obvious you need 'more challenges'. I put this in parenthesis because challenges can either be pleasant or unpleasant. But challenges create 'experiences' which you will never get in that 'cottage office'. Excuse my French. It's obvious your soul needs experiences, challenges and a change. Take it! Apply to job opportunities anywhere and everywhere that catches your fancy. Search out numerous job/career sites, build your Linkedin profile, connect with people but most of all throw a bit of caution to the wind. (You cannot do the same things each day and expect different results....Albert Einstein called it 'Insanity') You are young, unsettled and unburdened with responsibilities, you even have your parents to fall back on. You are somewhat restless, have an adventurous personality and somewhat free-spirited. You cannot compliment that personality with that office, work environment and colleagues whom you vividly described earlier. So, oil and water do not mix no matter how hard you try to logically justify your continued stay. So this is the time to take some risks (if you have the heart). This is the time you should try and get out there and pursue some of your dreams before age, responsibilities and attachment to job security catches up with you. (if your dreams do not scare you, then they are not big enough....quoting Sir Richard Branson) But you have to accept that not all your experiences will be nice. They are not all meant to be. In fact you have to make some mistakes to learn, some painful ones too. I was in your situation in 2007, just 3 years after my 1st job. I was stuck in a rot. I was throwing about 10 CVs a week to any company that will give me the requisite experience. I even attended interviews for jobs that I later rejected just to weigh my options. Finally made a breakthrough in 2010 and since then have worked for 4 companies (2 of them top international brands) in positions most of my mates can only dream of. Oh yes, I have also had bad experiences like getting dumped from 2 of the companies, going from no-pressure to super-high pressure, getting on the wrong end of corporate politics, staying back at home sometimes when your ex-colleagues are going to work (for lack of work), experiencing the highs and lows of climbing the corporate career ladder. But my, it is all worth it. Do I have a paid job at the moment? No. But I just turned down an opportunity to be a Director in a private company 2 days ago. Why? I was not convinced that taking that job was in my best interest. Am I in the job market now? Yes. But would I just take any job offer thrown at me? No. Sincerely and humbly, I have passed that stage. Am I idle? No. Currently engaged in a few strategic hustles here and there. Also have a lot of time now to ponder on the various possibilities before me. I also do have a lot of time for soul searching, inner growth and communication with God (the last 2 jobs took some of those times away). I will stop here at the risk of beginning to sound like a thriller-novelist Summary: Follow Your Heart Without Fear. Take The Risks Now. Make The Moves And Mistakes Now and Start Learning. You are Young. And Finally, Please Do Not Follow The Crowd. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by tolutweety(m): 5:39am On Mar 06, 2015 |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by opokonwa(m): 5:45am On Mar 06, 2015 |
Really?! @tolutweety It must have totally eluded me. Please accept my unreserved apology. I had recently done a mass deletion of my mailbox due to untold number of spams. I detest spams If it's not too late, u can send it and I will read it. As my mail box is as clear as crystal now |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by tolutweety(m): 5:49am On Mar 06, 2015 |
opokonwa: It was a follow-up mail on the conversation we had. I ll kindly resend this morning. Gracias |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by opokonwa(m): 5:54am On Mar 06, 2015 |
@tolutweety I remember! I thought I declined the request in the 2nd mail. Naaaaah..... you were trying to unmask me. I prefer Nairaland's mask |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by tolutweety(m): 6:13am On Mar 06, 2015 |
opokonwa: I gave in on that. But there was a second request you ignored. would forward the mail again this morning. Abeg biko, I'm your boy oo |
Re: A Nairalander Needs You To Proffer Solutions Regarding Her Career Issues by opokonwa(m): 6:16am On Mar 06, 2015 |
tolutweety: Very well Sir. Please do so. |
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