Many people do not understand the nature of cheating
within a relationship. Although there may be two sides
to the story, unfaithfulness is not acceptable and is
emotionally harmful to the other spouse.
Consider the sincerity of the person who betrayed you
when they ask for reconciliation . You cannot go to
them; they have to come to you.
Once they do, you have to be sure it will not happen
again. Unless you know your partner very well and can
account for their actions, you will probably not be able
to reassure yourself that it was a one-time event.
If you can get past all that, move the spotlight onto
yourself. Assure yourself you can live with the
knowledge of your partner’s betrayal in your relationship
before you go any further.
No one expects you to forget, but you have to be willing
to forgive. Otherwise, your relationship may turn into a
vicious cycle of mistrust, revenge and unspoken hate.
If you say you will forgive, you have to mean it.
Nevertheless, before you do, be sure that your
partnerunderstands the kind of irreversible damage they
have committed. Begin mending the relationship . It’s
like going back to square one. You have to be sure the
conditions that may have caused or allowed for the
betrayal are eradicated from your relationship.
For example, the person who your partner cheated with
has to be out of the picture. No friendship, no once in a
while gatherings–no contact whatsoever.
Dig deeper: Apart from staring at Internet porn or
getting the seven-year itch for greener grass in
the neighbour’s yard, the root cause of the problem has
to be discovered, discussed and dealt with.
Things between you and your partner will never be the
same again, but with a little work, it can still be good.
You have to find common ground, strengthen the love
that remains and support one another in every way
possible.

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