Cutehector:
Listen to ur dad. He is d one dat wil gv d blessin and not ur mum

falconey:
we need both parent blessings.

Cutehector:
well its not certain u will end up marryn ur present babe anyways

sunnydayasaba:
Listen to both of them and try working wit it. Dnt date a girl frm d tribe ur mum don't like to avoid constant family quarrel

falconey:
I don't date base on tribes, I have dated yoruba,igbo,hausa, calabar.

Who knows who I might end up with?

falconey:
what if I don't love girl from the tribe she want?

sunnydayasaba:



U dnt need to duel on that at all, cus am sure she has her reason, since ur yet to propose marriage to any girl frm d tribes she warned against, then u have nothing to worry abt. All tribes have gud girls, so work wit the tribes she will accept and find urself a gud girl

ivyT:
Well,dads words shld take ova_he cld persuade mom later on..
Op u sure say na SHE u go wife after d wahala both of u go dey gv una selves..

See her eyes

falconey:
I don't date base on tribes, I have dated yoruba,igbo,hausa, calabar.

Who knows who I might end up with?

naijaboiy:
i really don't like it when parents do this. I mean why should tribe matter?
She was already expecting you to speak in your local dialect with the chick

Please have a conversation with them. Your dad should be able to convince her though.

He is the man of the house.

Blebleswag:
Is lik we havin same issue here.
My mum hav always warned me never 2 marry any other tribes except ours.
Buh am gonna follow my hrt. Whichever tribe my hrt falls on is who I wil marry.

So, op follow ur hrt.

Tallesty1:
It is better to marry the person your family likes because they are the ones you will turn when your partner mistreats you.

Going into a home where your ma-inlaw dislikes you is a huge job too, because you will have to work hard to make her like you or be her enemy till she dies.

AirborneLacer:


Oh well, if Romeo and Juliet's deaths could ultimately reconcile their feuding families in the 80s, how much more us who have graced this space in 2015?

Go for what you want in a woman, and don't allow tribe affiliations to discourage you.

If your people no like the girl and her tribe, give them a reason to.

Believe in your own judgement and people would find a way to standd on a common ground with you.

Tallesty1:
lols......

It sounds tribalistic but I do consider someone's tribe before dating because these things have a way of dragging you down in the end, trust me.

It is not like there is a particular tribe that has the best women, nope.... My fear is the way of life.

There are cultures I can't put up with, that's my point.

AirborneLacer:


Well that makes us two different people.

I believe in my assessment so much that I can pick up a lady who hails from hell-fire and make her my wife.

I don't care about where you're coming from, I only care about what you can offer.

I once met a babe who hails from a tribe that were purpoted to be cannibals. My pals only knew about this, and they feared that i would one day serve for lunch but dang I cared less.

I got closer to this chick, made out with her on several occassions and we started dating.

Our union amazingly shot me into new experiences. Her tribe were never cannibals. Those were only myths that have been passed to the younger generations which have unwittingly dented the image of the tribe.

I also came to the realization that beyond this babe's drop dead beauty lies amazing features that would have a man scampering off to pay her brideprice.

She was a definition of a real woman, one I could have missed out on if I had subscribed to some cheap generalization.

Another is inductive reasoning. Like asserting that every Benin indigene is into witch-craft because Mrs Ojo who's from Benin is a witch.

Brother I've learnt to be different and to think deductively, you should try it out one of these days.

@Tallesty1 inugo
As for me.
My name is Adannaya
Life and Love remains my Religion.


We will never get better, until we truly begin to see our oneness as individuals, until we let go of our mental segregation of people.
Until we stop seeing ourselves as better than the other.


Honestly.....
I don't care what tribe he is from, I am not concerned about how much money he has or not, looks and height? Balderdash.
The only times these variables come into play, even for me as a person, is when I don't love the person enough to wanna make a life with them.

No wonder someone said, "God, let your will be done"......is the hardest prayer of all.

MizMyColi:


@Tallesty1 inugo
As for me.
My name is Adannaya
Life and Love remains my Religion.


We will never get better, until we truly begin to see our oneness as individuals, until we let go of our mental segregation of people.
Until we stop seeing ourselves as better than the other.


Honestly.....
I don't care what tribe he is from, I am not concerned about how much money he has or not, looks and height? Balderdash.
The only times these variables come into play, even for me as a person, is when I don't love the person enough to wanna make a life with them.

No wonder someone said, "God, let your will be done"......is the hardest prayer of all.

Tallesty1:
This isn't about seeing oneself as better than the other.

This is not about loving people for who they are.

This is about being able to handle what comes with them.

Someone is getting something wrong.

I will use another example to buttress my point.

There is a village in Nsukka, most of people there are pagans and Idol worshipers, thou majority of them do go to church but it is just to fulfil all righteousness.

These people do not care if your wedding took place in Paris or Tokyo, there are certain (pagan) things you must do before you will be confirmed married otherwise your children belongs to the wife's father.

Things that I can't see myself doing no matter what.

Let's say my gf is from that village and is a core believer in those things just like her parents, do you expect me to put head in what I know that I can't do just because of love?

No ma, she wouldn't come from that village if she truly loves me

AirborneLacer:


Albeit I wouldn't advice you to go against your religion, I still remain of the opinion that love defies all odds.

You could proffer a way out of the ritual and one of them is by running away with your bride

How about you becoming the change you 'think' they need? Taking the gospel of Jesus to them. That would be tactically dodging the whips of their rituals too.

Go the extra mile for what you really need.

Don't stop hunting for golds 'cause they're usually buried in dirts.

Akwa ifuru Mizmycoli? I know her to be a wife material. If I'm in the position to walk her down the aisle, I wouldn't allow her tribe's weird rituals like chopping off potential suitors' testicles discourage me.

I would go the extra mile to have her, not by presenting my testicle on the cutting board, but by bending the rules or better still running away with her

Tallesty1:
This isn't about seeing oneself as better than the other.

This is not about loving people for who they are.

This is about being able to handle what comes with them.

Someone is getting something wrong.

I will use another example to buttress my point.

There is a village in Nsukka, most of people there are pagans and Idol worshipers, thou majority of them do go to church but it is just to fulfil all righteousness.

These people do not care if your wedding took place in Paris or Tokyo, there are certain (pagan) things you must do before you will be confirmed married otherwise your children belongs to the wife's father.

Things that I can't see myself doing no matter what.

Let's say my gf is from that village and is a core believer in those things just like her parents, do you expect me to put head in what I know that I can't do just because of love?

No ma, she wouldn't come from that village if she truly loves me

Tallesty1:
lwkmd here.

You are really funny sir.

I am just laughing alone here like a fool, thank God nobody is watching.

Running away with the bride is only possible if she isn't like her people.

You keep repeating this "Chopping off of testicles" as if it is really true.

I ave heard the story about "in-law" eating villages but I didn't believe any of them. But I will wear 9 boxers and 5 Jeans before going there just in case.

My point is, before you marry a lady against your parent's wish, make sure she is worth the risk else you will bear the consequence alone.

AirborneLacer:


Well that makes us two different people.

I believe in my assessment so much that I can pick up a lady who hails from hell-fire and make her my wife.

I don't care about where you're coming from, I only care about what you can offer.

I once met a babe who hails from a tribe that were purpoted to be cannibals. My pals only knew about this, and they feared that i would one day serve for lunch but dang I cared less.

I got closer to this chick, made out with her on several occassions and we started dating.

Our union amazingly shot me into new experiences. Her tribe were never cannibals. Those were only myths that have been passed to the younger generations which have unwittingly dented the image of the tribe.

I also came to the realization that beyond this babe's drop dead beauty lies amazing features that would have a man scampering off to pay her brideprice.

She was a definition of a real woman, one I could have missed out on if I had subscribed to some cheap generalization.

Another is inductive reasoning. Like asserting that every Benin indigene is into witch-craft because Mrs Ojo who's from Benin is a witch.

Brother I've learnt to be different and to think deductively, you should try it out one of these days.