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Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by ogawisdom(m): 9:40am On Mar 11, 2015 |
yahx: Second hand ladies r usually a bad market U stand a better chance if u r below 28, educated n working class with no child frm d first marriage. Anything short of d above na Jesus go marry u Keep praying n hoping sha |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by ThoniaSlim(f): 9:47am On Mar 11, 2015 |
yahx: Why do you feel you need a man to call your own to be happy? Don't get me wrong, yes having a man is great but this shouldn't be the source of your happiness. Something I've learnt in life, when you are 100% happy being single, that's when you're ready for a relationship. Learn to fall in love with you first! I have a cousin who got married after getting a divorce and she even had a son. So it isn't you being divorced that is the problem, men smell desperation from afar and desperation isn't attractive. 2 Likes |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by victorD3: 9:53am On Mar 11, 2015 |
Why not settle for a matured person both mentally and physically |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by ELGREF(m): 9:55am On Mar 11, 2015 |
So many mens are passing through the same pain, once I told any lady that I am a single parent, they avoid me systematically, no amount of pressure will make me subjected to my conscience, keep telling them the true, don't hide anything, don't be to anxious, what will be your will definitely be your....but mind you, this life is mistry. |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by ELGREF(m): 9:55am On Mar 11, 2015 |
victorD3:on point |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by yahx(m): 9:55am On Mar 11, 2015 |
ogawisdom:nobi me am a dude just shared the story |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by ogawisdom(m): 10:01am On Mar 11, 2015 |
yahx: U r her messager so deliver d message to her 1 Like |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by Nobody: 10:11am On Mar 11, 2015 |
Op don't worry keep saying the truth it's good you have a clear conscience but meanwhile who is feat na? He is in every song |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by Dedewizzy(m): 10:18am On Mar 11, 2015 |
marc99: And does your bible also approve of divorce? or has the condition when a lady can re-marry after a divorce been changed? You might want to rephrase the context you are writing from and stop mis-quoting the bible. |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by Akynzodeighbour(m): 10:43am On Mar 11, 2015 |
LadyX:read the post again, na lady nau |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by Akynzodeighbour(m): 10:46am On Mar 11, 2015 |
ELGREF:guy, even your english is enough to make them run, but why!!! |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by hush15: 10:59am On Mar 11, 2015 |
LadyX: Why I sympathize with this lady, I strongly believe the solution lies with herself. She said she didn't do anything wrong, is she being honest with herself cos am sure there is more to it. However, if she is damn sure that she is not the problem, then there is solution What's the solution? It is complete honesty and openess from day one. Even before they get fond of each other. She shouldn't hid her past. She should be ready to be patient till someone who is willing to stay will stay and more importantly, since she said she isn't the problem, her good character should be intact. That's all that's needed. Oh! One more thing, she needs to be prayerful too For those that think your past won't haunt you, here is an instance now. So be careful what you do today cos your moro would be affected. Buhari, learn from this.... It's your past that is affecting you today ooooo |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by opcon(f): 11:01am On Mar 11, 2015 |
TELL THEM PLS. D true 1 will stay |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by Nobody: 11:03am On Mar 11, 2015 |
harkindele: Probability |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by EOOJ(m): 11:13am On Mar 11, 2015 |
yahx: I don't wanna sound too religious but I wud still contribute ma own little quota sha. What u have to know is dat "truth" is the only way forward n I don't tink its best to "lie" to someone u claim to love in as much as we humans aint perfect. Ur case is sensitive, yes I know but my candid advice is dat u let dem know d truth about u. Tell dem! Tell dem!! Tell dem!!! It is painful, I know but trust in Gods word. U may feel d pain now but when ur time to shine comes, u wud look back to ur years of pain n say thank u Lord. Honestly its not easy to persevere n b patient at times but well I believe in ma heart dat one way or another , u wud surely meet he dat wud love n respect u for who u are regardless of ur status or ur past. Don't let ur past weigh u down( e no easy o) but keep d faith alive n aat d end u would sing a new song. A song of joy, happiness n victory. Bottom line, trust God wholeheartedly....but I wud tel u d truth its not gona be easy cos there wud b times wen tins wud go really bad but trust God. Trust God. Trust God. Dis might b a test phase for u n ur faith. Summary....trust God n also tell any man dat wants to date u about ur divorced status. Do not b ashamed, everyone has a past. Like d saying goes, every saint u see today was once a sinner yestday (e.g saul) if truly he is God sent, even if u were divorced 5 times, he wudnt mind. D future is what matters as long as u ride on with Christ. My candid advice...sorry for d long epistle 1 Share
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Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by antiboko(m): 11:24am On Mar 11, 2015 |
Whoever takes a woman who left(divource) her husband commit adultry, thatz from Bible. Which man wants to be under guilt for the rest of his life? It is even better to marry a widow than to marry a divorce woman. "PLEASE ladies if you noticed any thing in a man that you cannot endure long better quit. Broken relationship is far better than broken marriagem. And for the OP please find a way of going back to your husband and enjoy all the things you are running away from. Remember u promised " for better for worse" with plenty "I DO" |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by marc99(m): 11:28am On Mar 11, 2015 |
Dedewizzy: Young man, the bible is discreet. If a lady is under duress in her marriage, if her life is under a threat in her marriage, or the man insists on parting ways with her, that's the part the bible is discreet about. Maybe you should get a comprehensive version of the bible and read what it says about divorce. ...If a man puts away his wife for 'no just cause', then it's a sin. But if there's a 'just cause', say like a life threat, then such divorce is right. |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by gaebliss: 11:38am On Mar 11, 2015 |
I can accept her, what happen to her can happen to anyone. It is her past! Quote author=Bluetooth2 post=31508536] [size=20pt] Can you accept her ? [/size][/quote] |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by EOOJ(m): 11:41am On Mar 11, 2015 |
EggovinMma: Habaaaa Now dis is bad advice naaa....if dey love vanishes den dey neva really loved her too well. Haba Decieve dem? No now its not proper...relationship based on lies? Haba naaaa? After 20yrs Chaiiiiii "What if" he finds out before den? Yet anoda divorce on her head if he can't stand d lie. What if he dosent till 20yrs time Hmmm den her conscience is dead b dat ooooo. She should tell dem ooooo before dey marry jare |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by LadyX(f): 12:15pm On Mar 11, 2015 |
hush15: Good point. Your last 2 sentences left me laughing |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by gbenga4my(m): 12:42pm On Mar 11, 2015 |
Timing is really important in dis kinda situation, such sudnt be disclosed too early in a relationship nor too late, d man needs to love u for ur personality Ist b4 he can handle loving u for ur past |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by GENTLETEE(m): 12:56pm On Mar 11, 2015 |
Then she should not be hasty about revealing her past. |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by SplendidE(f): 3:00pm On Mar 11, 2015 |
Try n locate a man who's divorced too n who's ready to mingle.. |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by edged2mi(m): 3:17pm On Mar 11, 2015 |
Do u still pray? If yes,...Note that your time is never God's. Also, what i have discovered is that wen humans design paths, we expect God to brighten it. We should learn to "wait, having done all". My Dear Sister, Please..a yoruba adage says, an ember fire cant burn one twice! but I think it could if we are impatient. According to the Book.."War and Peace"...The deadlist weapons in life are "time and patience", always pray and be patient. I cant fathom what U are going thru but please keep telling the truth about yourself, pray about any relationship u ar going into and wait for God's guidance. |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by ping72: 4:09pm On Mar 11, 2015 |
Don't worry dear. Your honesty helps you sift the chaff from the grain, the weeds from the wheat. Only one who sees and truly appreciates your inner beauty will do. |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by MyMentor: 6:40pm On Mar 11, 2015 |
1Cor. 7v10-11 has d answer; Reconcile 2 ur hubby or remain unmarid (if u r a xtian). |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by OOLUSOGA(m): 6:57pm On Mar 11, 2015 |
hi i like to thank God for ur life. see no 1without a past.since u are sincere very soon God will link u up to the bone of ur bone and flesh of ur flesh. ur period of waiting shall b ova soon. just keep trusting God he did not forget u i believe. goodluck |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by IamDejman(m): 7:34pm On Mar 11, 2015 |
No guy wants to date a Lady whereby her ex would show a lot of face |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by miraKUNLEus(m): 7:38pm On Mar 11, 2015 |
@ op,dont tell them u GOT DIVORCED,tell them u DIVORCED. |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by chiogoezubem(f): 11:34pm On Mar 11, 2015 |
Mhmm...nostalgic. |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by efficiencie(m): 3:01am On Mar 12, 2015 |
yahx: sister me no go lie you o! On your comment 1 God is nt deaf and dumb. If your hands are clean, there'r no generational transfers and you fast the Isaiah58 kind of fast, your husband would be in your arms right now! On your comment 2 you are playing the Adam card and that's dangerful. Did God choose that man for you? or did you simply follow the money, TDH, job, position, family advice or friend's advice? Well if God choose him and you made VOWS before God, a covenant, then with that VOW you could've crushed every force, seen or unseen, making your marriage hellish! On your comment 3 put yourself in the shoes of any right thinking man would you marry a divorced lady? Apart from the fact that scripture forbids it (Mark10:10-11) that man would ask a very vital question: how sure am i that the very same factors that resulted in your divorce would not play out again when i marry you? his answer to this question would send him away instantly or make him accept you! sister go to God again, respect those vows (they are potent), kick the strange woman out in prayer, take over what belongs to you! easier said than done...but that's the way! |
Re: Telling Them About Her Past Relationship Keep Driving Them Away- Advise Her. by ufojude: 8:57am On Mar 12, 2015 |
@ Op you are hiding something. I can't just imagine all the guys that comes around you running away,whenever you tell them you were once married. I think you should come out plain tell us more and we can profer a good advice. Pertinent questions- do you have a child/children; reason(s) for annulment of the marriage; has the bride price been collected by your Ex... so many questions just come out straight and don't try and act the 'saint' here okay |
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