My wife has cheated on me during a tough time for us. We got back together 2 months ago, but I found out she is still in touch with him. Should I leave her, or have an affair of my own? We have a 5 year old son - this is why I'm not able to consider leaving her easily.
Thanks to all of you who have not jumped on the 'having my own affair' part. I only added this as an option because, her having an affair completely shattered my confidence as a man and is affecting my personal and professional life. I have considered an affair as a way to prove to myself that I can still have a partner if we separate. But now I realize how silly that is. I'm going to try talking it out with her again and resolve this like a man, and hope that will restore confidence in myself.

two wrongs don't make a right..

whats d point cross-breeding syphilis and his brothers?


tell her ur fears, assumptions , doubts and expectations

ask her if she is ready to be with u whole-heartedly..
and tell her u can't share..

ask for her honesty. she would tell u if she is ready to stick with u or not..

I feel for you, but pls forgive her since you have the heart to, you have put your child as your major consideration and I believe you're doing the right thing, have a heart to heart talk with her on why you're still staying back in the marriage, she will change for good. A united home is always better for children.

You both should have a talk about this.Find out what made her have that affair and what role by omission or commission you may have played in it.Find forgiveness in your heart and both of you should start afresh.
Don't start an affair as it does no good to your marriage.

Your wife must be willing to cut off from the man she had an affair with and work on your marriage too.
It takes two however and if your wife will not change,you know what next to do.

Reason with her and if she refuse to change,go ur seperate ways. The worse tin dat can happen to a man is livin wth a cheatin wife

Leave, while u still can.

SagePerv:
She cheated on you and she's still into it but yet, you do still want something to do with her?


--- I admire your heart.

me seff dey wonder say shey dis kain good hearted man still dey...

She cheated on you when things were a bit tough simply means she's not loyal, she will do it again...

After forgiving her because u dnt want a broken home for ur son, which is quite understandable, she still seeing a man behind you and you re considering aving an affair to feel good about urself or what?

You dnt av to stoop low to her level by aving an affair. Tell her that u know what she's doing and u cannot take it, if she truly wants to be with you she Had better change for good or she should LEAVE!

Muchecheche

Are u a naijerian?
Cos the naija men me I know don't ever forgive cheating
Never

U have a crystal heart oo

Don't lie u sef don dey eye one chic

Leave her instead.
Don't score points by cheating on her, doing so is immature.
If she catches you first, she'll turn the table around and believe me it'll be in her favour. We ladies could be so deceitful.
I believe in forgiveness but in this case I don't think forgiveness can work, she forgot her vows. "For better for worse, in sickness and in health, till death do us part" are not mere words. A cheating wife is capable of killing her husband.

Think on how u met her

OP this STD you and your wife want to be sharing. Their is god oooooo.....

He can forgive her.

Retaliating won't make her Uncheat.

He will just hurt himself more.

Matthew 18:21-22

Then Peter came and said to Him, "Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times?"
Jesus said to him, "I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.

Once a cheat... Always a cheat..!!!
I believe people change but as for the case of a chronic cheater.. Hmmmmm its a different tale!

Who will u leave he 4

Having an affair is not d best option. try nd talk to her

Forgive her and let her know how bad u feel about it, let her promise never to cheat on you again!

Wow!

You don't have to prove anything to anybody. Start to gather evidences for prosecuting a strong case in the forthcoming dissolution. And...

1. Don't attach your self-confidence to anybody/anything apart from your self ever again.
2. The moment you try to 'prove' that you are a man/man enough is the moment you prove that you are not a man/man enough.
3. Never cheat because your partner cheated.

Maybe you should consider a groupie. You,
your wife and your flings.

we have made up our mind to kill, die for Gej
only if he wins there will be peace in Nigeria
gej till 2019
#mend

Wonderment

I think you found the answer at the concluding part of your message. God give you the grace to do so. Divorce is never an option. Pray to God for her and both of you should accept Christ as Lord and Saviour. Things will surely fall in place as soon as Christ takes control of your home.

Bless you Friend.

For the sake of your 5yr old son, leave her

Make it work or leave!

A cheater, always a cheater.... ur son can always cope... na boy.. imagine ur wife infecting u with STD... will u still forgive her

Ahba........dis is a thing of d mind. U should be responsible for ur action not people deciding for you..........follow ur heart

82sarahluv:
My wife has cheated on me during a tough time for us. We got back together 2 months ago, but I found out she is still in touch with him. Should I leave her, or have an affair of my own? We have a 5 year old son - this is why I'm not able to consider leaving her easily.
Thanks to all of you who have not jumped on the 'having my own affair' part. I only added this as an option because, her having an affair completely shattered my confidence as a man and is affecting my personal and professional life. I have considered an affair as a way to prove to myself that I can still have a partner if we separate. But now I realize how silly that is. I'm going to try talking it out with her again and resolve this like a man, and hope that will restore confidence in myself.

Don't f:uck her for a while. Go and check the paternity of your child.

He should leave and NOT bother to re-marry. There are other viable options.

LEAVE

Good decision!!! Call her down, talk to her and let her understand that se has to stop it, tell her to save her 5yrs old daughter's future as you two need to be together because of her.


And be prayerful