@midehi, you started it by giving a hypochritical advice to a man in serious pains of his wicked wife's infidelity. Don't take naira land too seriously.

Midehi:

tank u..God bless you for insulting my mother

cococandy:
Is it not nairaland again? If the case were reversed, anyone who makes the comment they made would be the evil one trying to ruin people's marriages.

Sickening hypocrisy.

Yes mam.
It is hard find a man in your type of world where men accomodate cheating wives.

plaetton:

Yes mam.
It is hard find a man in your type of world where men accomodate cheating wives.

I don't know which world your think I live in, but in that world cheating hurts.
Both the wives and their husbands.

Not only the husbands.

Erm
Are you one of those hypocrites who scream divorce when the wife cheats but when the hubby cheats and someone gives same advice, they will turn around and call them home breakers?

Hopefully not.

cococandy:


I don't know which world your think I live in, but in that world cheating hurts.
Both the wives and their husbands.

Not only the husbands.

Erm
Are you one of those hypocrites who scream divorce when the wife cheats but when the hubby cheats and someone gives same advice, they will turn around and call them home breakers?

Hopefully not.

No, I am not.

cococandy:
Is it not nairaland again? If the case were reversed, anyone who makes the comment they made would be the evil one trying to ruin people's marriages.

Sickening hypocrisy.

Go get a job and stop shouting hypocrisy all over nairaland. The fact that your husband cheats on you and you can't leave does not mean we educated and enlightened women cannot leave. You can't leave because you are just a liability and that's why he will continue to cheat on you.

If you spent half the time you spend here job hunting, may be you will finally be able to leave your cheating ass husband.

[b][/b] the op is a foolish man, i have never come across a stupid man like the op, you are a dead man already, i gues u originate from a family of fools

dinachi:

Would you show more love to a cheating husband? Stop being a hypochrite!

If people were to leave their spouse each time they cheat, then there will be no marriage. My advice to single men and women is that if u think marriage is a perfect union, then don't go into it. Some times as a husband or a wife, you don't have to let ousiders know about certain things in ur marriage.Because most of them who will tell u to leave ur wife won't leave teir wives if they r found in the same situation.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
If people were to leave their spouse each time they cheat, then there will be no marriage. My advice to single men and women is that if u think marriage is a perfect union, then don't go into it. Some times as a husband or a wife, you don't have to let ousiders know about certain things in ur marriage.Because most of them who will tell u to leave ur wife won't leave teir wives if they r found in the same situation.

Marriage being perfect and a spouse cheating on another are two totally different things, get it correctly.

....I really agree with those who have described most Nigerians as the biggest hypocrites for real..

...so cheating is now a good ground for divorce?...jokers!..

...see them spitting 'leave her' all over the place because the Victim' is a man...nonsense!

...confused folks with warped sense of right and wrong.

Act as soon as possible. Be a man and take strong decision. Don't be a afraid Ok?

1.your weakness. Yes ! Your weakness bro..That's what she is abusing. Because she knows that you are the gentle type.
Forget about her. In fact she is gone
2. Send her packing . she has shown you the type of person she is
3.stand up and act like a man. Is she d one feeding you.. Chai... Chinekee....
4..the Child is yours you can take and keep the child
5.she loves the man more than she does to you. So why are you forcing yourself on her..
Na Wa ooo

82sarahluv:
My wife has cheated on me during a tough time for us. We got back together 2 months ago, but I found out she is still in touch with him. Should I leave her, or have an affair of my own? We have a 5 year old son - this is why I'm not able to consider leaving her easily.
Thanks to all of you who have not jumped on the 'having my own affair' part. I only added this as an option because, her having an affair completely shattered my confidence as a man and is affecting my personal and professional life. I have considered an affair as a way to prove to myself that I can still have a partner if we separate. But now I realize how silly that is. I'm going to try talking it out with her again and resolve this like a man, and hope that will restore confidence in myself.

This is tough
Okafor's Law has set in
It looks like your wife is already dickmatized by the other man

plaetton:

No, I am not.

Great

.

dinachi:

Marriage being perfect and a spouse cheating on another are two totally different things, get it correctly.

u r entitle to ur opinion but for me, I think he should show her more love something I know I can't force him to do.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
u r entitle to ur opinion but for me, I think he should show her more love something I know I can't force him to do.

This is a woman who left and cheated on him during a difficult time, after he forgave her and brought her back she is still cheating. Pls carry your advice go siddon one place jor.
@OP your best decision is instant divorce. That woman is not worthy of you. You derserve a lot better.

Ngokafor:



....I really agree with those who have described most Nigerians as the biggest hypocrites for real..

...so cheating is now a good ground for divorce?...jokers!..

...see them spitting 'leave her' all over the place because the Victim' is a man...nonsense!

...confused folks with warped sense of right and wrong.

Dnt mind them jare. I have dropped my pray and fast, ' wearing of s.exy boxers' advice to make a difference.

The man should forgive his wife jare. No be ordinary 5 minutes s.ex? Doesnt mean anything. other women out there could be worse. He should forgive. His children will suffer if he divorces her.

IYANGBALI:
table matter before family?say wetin happen?abeg no need of long story,the fokn bitchh should be kicked out,period

this your blood hot ooo! But the guy dey try stay with the woman because of their son. He should word with the woman to know her state of mind.

Ngokafor:



....I really agree with those who have described most Nigerians as the biggest hypocrites for real..

...so cheating is now a good ground for divorce?...jokers!..

...see them spitting 'leave her' all over the place because the Victim' is a man...nonsense!

...confused folks with warped sense of right and wrong.

Lols

Suddenly it is a man and divorce is no longer evil neither is the concept of single parenthood.

Even learnt that a cheating wife can kill

Hahaha

@OP: since you forgave the first time and she didn't repent, it is game over

9jatatafo:


this your blood hot ooo! But the guy dey try stay with the woman because of their son. He should word with the woman to know her state of mind.

wo na dem sabi jo. You get salt make you give me make I put inside this my stew

dinachi:

This is a woman who left and cheated on him during a difficult time, after he forgave her and brought her back she is still cheating. Pls carry your advice go siddon one place jor.
@OP your best decision is instant divorce. That woman is not worthy of you. You derserve a lot better.

Yes, the op must not take whatever people say here online. Let him suit himself.

kovak:


I don't quite agree with you! There are two main reasons people cheat.
1. The natural/insatiable urge to cheat. Men are more prone to this tendency.
2. The need for emotional release. I suspect this could be the reason for Mrs op's cheating.

Unless we dig to the root cause, we may not really give a proper and lasting advice.

grow up and facereality

Ngokafor:



....I really agree with those who have described most Nigerians as the biggest hypocrites for real..

...so cheating is now a good ground for divorce?...jokers!..

...see them spitting 'leave her' all over the place because the Victim' is a man...nonsense!

...confused folks with warped sense of right and wrong.

keep quiet there!!!

Nobody is forcing a woman to remain married to a cheating husband but the truth is that women are scared of divorce. They will not leave even when every one is advicing them to leave. I think they are scared they may remain single forever because there are millions of beautiful and young single girls out there, so it will be tough for a divorced woman to beat them in the market. Btw, men are not interested in tokunbo/divorced women. But a divorced man will remarry immediately if he wants to. So, you need to quit all the rants because you women are your own problem. Even YOU will not divorce your hubby if he cheats on you severally because, if you cheat, you'll pack out. If he cheats and you can't live with it, you'll pack out and another woman will take over immediately. Any how you look at it,it seems you'll lose. Inferiority complex is also part of women's problem and that's exactly what this Op is suffering from.

tonak:
my advice to you, cut her loose and let her go cos she will cheat on you again.I had the same issue 3 years ago, I forgave her and took her in again because of my son, I truly forgave her. About a month ago I found out she was still communicating with the same person and both of them expressing love for one another again.I confronted her yesterday and she is not even sorry, so tonite she will leave my home for good.

bros how far? How did it go?

Cheating is like HIV aids.

Hard to cure..

TDstarr:
grow up and facereality

"grow up and face reality"... I'm sure that's the repressive statement your authority figure used in rebuking you when you were growing up

Really, you need to grow up!