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I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by Nobody: 5:22am On Mar 22, 2015 |
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Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by Nobody: 5:32am On Mar 22, 2015 |
You need to know? Ma'am you already know. You don't need us to confirm. Why do u think he's always broke? Divorce is never the answer! But before God, infidelity is a valid ground for divorce that allows you to remarry. For a start I think you should separate and if things don't change get a divorce. Yeah, your baby. But its better a single parent child than an orphan. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by Mynd44: 5:32am On Mar 22, 2015 |
Have him go for an HIV test abeg. He will throw a tantrum about how you dont trust him bla bla bla but insist. Wait he has sex with you once in 6 months? curious |
Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by Nobody: 5:43am On Mar 22, 2015 |
Madam, he's having an affair with a more sophisticated lady(in his silly mind) and it has made feel you are no longer in his class. What you need now is a temporary separation like you travelling for a while or sth. Give him space to see the futility in his attitude and if you want him back, go for test before accepting him back. If you don't do this, believe me, he's not gonna get to his senses soon. He needs to miss his wife alittle and see the difference between a wife and a girlfriend. 1 Like |
Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by Subom1(f): 5:49am On Mar 22, 2015 |
Wifey do you have a job? Are you educated? If you are please try and get a job first so that you can start taking care of yourself and your kids. I personally would not stand for such arrant nonsense. I mean he was not even ashamed or embarrassed when you caught him cheating but instead told you to leave. I don't think the man loves you. You cannot change a man, a man will change only when he wants to change. He is not even providing for you and the kids as well but spending any money he gets on women. Is that the type of life you want to live for the rest of your life? I think confide in a close family member you trust such as (sister or brother) who could offer you some kind of support and advice. Even though I don't believe in divorce this is a valid reason for such. Also these things will affect your kids at a later stage. Even though they are young they know when their mom is unhappy and sad. you can either wallow in your sadness and feel sorry for yourself or you can do something about your situation. Everyone deserves to be happy. Don't be miserable for someone who does not give a damn about you. 3 Likes |
Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by Subom1(f): 5:53am On Mar 22, 2015 |
IdiAmin1:Separation will even be better for him because he will use it as an opportunity to bring women home. This man does not care at all. If your wife/ gf caught you cheating. Would you not be ashamed or embarrassed? Would you not beg for forgiveness but rather this man told her to go home? What kind of man does that? He does not love her nor gives a damn. When his wife was pregnant he did not care enough to buy some baby stuff. He rather spent that money on women. Imo a temporary separation will not work but just give him even more freedom. 1 Like |
Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by Nobody: 6:01am On Mar 22, 2015 |
Subom1:It's really sad my dear. I'm a man but honestly some men are just beasts mistakenly(God forgive me) given the body of a human |
Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by jamex93(m): 6:07am On Mar 22, 2015 |
its getting out of hand, I think his parent or any elderly person in his family should b aware, same as yours........good luck |
Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by Subom1(f): 6:12am On Mar 22, 2015 |
IdiAmin1:yeah. Such men make me sick. Ì honestly have a low tolerance for such bs. This is why i strongly believe that women should start to focus on their education and getting a job and not sorely depending on men for everything. If she had her own money she would have been able to take care of herself and kids and I don't think the man would be treating her as badly. Some men do what they do unashamed because they know that the woman will go nowhere because he is the one providing her with her daily bread. 1 Like |
Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by Nobody: 6:52am On Mar 22, 2015 |
Did you date this pig yourself? Just pack your bags and leave him. Go anywhere you want. Divorce him today. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by ednut1(m): 7:00am On Mar 22, 2015 |
its appaling wat women subject dem selfs to. jst to bcom mrs. smh for u in 3D. 1 Like |
Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by Nobody: 8:43am On Mar 22, 2015 |
vfactor: Hiya, truth is...I DONT KNOW! He's in PH on an official trip. What if this time he's not cheating? I need to know please?! What if i'm wrong? |
Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by Nobody: 8:46am On Mar 22, 2015 |
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Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by Nobody: 8:53am On Mar 22, 2015 |
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Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by Nobody: 8:57am On Mar 22, 2015 |
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Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by Nobody: 9:17am On Mar 22, 2015 |
Wifey01:Umm... Op, you need no help. The Lord is your strength. Don't bother us, biko Cc: Madam Babyosisi . Ha abiakwa ozo 1 Like |
Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by Dygeasy(m): 9:36am On Mar 22, 2015 |
vfactor:What contradiction!! Wifey01, become independent first then other things shall be added unto you. 1 Like |
Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by sats: 9:44am On Mar 22, 2015 |
the truthfulnes of your story is in doubt ... *opens fridge, keeps comment* |
Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by Nobody: 10:31am On Mar 22, 2015 |
Forget the truthfulness of my story. Okay, assuming my story is completely fictitious, what would you advice?I just need honest gut - level opinions. sats: |
Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by sinizia: 11:20am On Mar 22, 2015 |
Subom1: Wish I can give you a kiss right now!! This is the crux of this ill-treatment that some women suffer in such marriages. A quick investigation will show that most of these women in abusive relationship can't fend on their own (like the OP). They have no reasonable income to stand on their own hence they stay back in such parasitic relationships. The abusive men know this and use it to their gain. That's why such abusive low self-esteem men don't fancy independent women that won't think twice to dump their àsses!! Some women stay back because they don't want to be sterotyped by the judgmental Nigerian society. I pity these women sometimes. You've said it all. I'll always advice any woman to make sure she's working or sure of working before marrying. It's better to be late than sorry!! 4 Likes |
Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by sinizia: 11:23am On Mar 22, 2015 |
vfactor: You are contradicting yourself with the embolden sentences in your posts. And no, sometimes, divorce is the answer. In fact in many cases sef. |
Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by Dynamo1(m): 12:31pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
ednut1: @ednut1, you are very correct. Its easy to judge without hearing the other side(I mean the guy's). As much as I feel what he's doing is absolutely wrong, people just don't change for no reason. @OP, ask your friend what are the( evil) things she has done to make herself married to this man. It might be karma playing it's turn on her. A good girl( or guy) just don't turn bad. Some ladies would do just anything(I mean anything that you may not even be able to think of) just to get married to a guy even when it is blatantly clear that the guy doesn't love her. My people, this guy doesn't love his wife at all. You can't feel comfortable hurting the one you love, and still be proud of it. Well, you might be lucky if prayer can change him( which I doubt), or you should get out of the miserable life. That's why it's always good for a woman not to be totally dependent on a man. I bet you most women would choose marriage over a good job of both opportunities presents themselves at the same time no matter how sketchy that marriage is. They want that marriage soo badly more than anything in this world especially if the guy is loaded. Now they start crying when the consequences come. There's hardly any man that cheats without the woman knowing while they were saying if at all they did, the woman will only turn a blind eye hopping that afterall "na me e go marry". #SHALOM! 1 Like |
Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by pretydiva(f): 1:15pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
vfactor:seconded |
Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by kingwhiz(m): 1:19pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
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Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by Nobody: 1:46pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
Wifey01: Tomorrow is Monday Go to a doctor and get yourself tested in two different labs for HIV,hepatitis,Syphilis and gonorrhea to mention a few If you check out negative then come back let's talk further That is the most important advise for now Any other advise is like leaving leprosy to treat the ringworm at the corner 2 Likes |
Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by Nobody: 1:51pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
mods take this to the family section for proper advise |
Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by Nobody: 2:06pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
babyosisi: |
Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by Mhizizzy(f): 2:10pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
Go test ursef |
Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by Aitee1: 2:17pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
Sometimes I wonder if we have one faithful man left on this planet 3 Likes |
Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by baralatie(m): 2:35pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
Wifey01:ma'am you already know the answer but what you need is absolution for you and your kids! 1.work on yourself mentally and most especially financial wise.it is important. seeing how it is now,at least have a job or run a business to cater for housekeeping,children schooling,,and YOUR own private savings. 2.if you are a Christian become active in church activities to keep your mind busy and away from negative thoughts. 3.learn to forgive yourself first and let go of malice and bitterness.if this malice should grow you won't last 6years without a crisis 4.as for your husband,don't put him in negative I.e I hat is don't kill yourself over his actions at all,o lay protect yourself from harm 5.pray!pray!pray!pray very well! |
Re: I Need Help, Is My Hubby Having An Affair?! by baralatie(m): 2:37pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
Aitee1:there are good husbands in surplus only that it will take a wise woman to pick him out. women are easily deceived by flash,flash! 1 Like |
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