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Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by henribj(m): 2:07pm On Mar 23, 2015
kitnah:

Who is talkin abt sleepin around now??
Pls read our conversation from the beginning b4 u conclude undecided

am concluding from what you guys have already posted
a girl who is a flirt is different from a girl who sleeps around unless the flirt of a girl also sleeps around. and note that not all flirts sleep around
so what exactly are you guys saying here? cos a girl who is only a flirt does not lose any wife material
a girl who sleeps around loses wife material
so you guys make up your mind
shey na flex, aby na flirt, aby na sleeping around??
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by Bwon(m): 2:09pm On Mar 23, 2015
LadyX:


What if the girl who wants op, goes ahead to tell her fiance that they are *having an affair* though it's not true?
What if she *fixes* him...She tells the fiance "To prove that we are going out, wait here then you will see us together"
Sadly i feel she kinda desperate. But Makes it all worse
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by alberto2k(m): 2:09pm On Mar 23, 2015
kitnah:

So guys are allowed to flex but ladies cant huh??
What makes you think such guys wont lose their integrity/dignity??
You think those girls he flirts with will respect him huh??
So,a lady isnt supposed to flirt because her wife material will drop huh,but a guy cant flirts because he has no husby material to lose bah?? undecided
I'm sorry to say but this is dumb
#no offence intended smiley
i just dey look u undecided
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by Nobody: 2:11pm On Mar 23, 2015
LadyX:


What if the girl who wants op, goes ahead to tell her fiance that they are *having an affair* though it's not true?
What if she *fixes* him...She tells the fiance "To prove that we are going out, wait here then you will see us together"
That would only happen if her keeps seeing that _bitch and if he keeps acting friendly to her.

She is fire right now. . . If he keeps going to her, he'll get burned pretty bad.
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by LadyX(f): 2:13pm On Mar 23, 2015
Bwon:
Sadly i feel she kinda desperate. But Makes it all worse

Who is desperate? The friend?
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by Bwon(m): 2:14pm On Mar 23, 2015
LadyX:


Who is desperate? The friend?
yh the calls the messages the pictures ..... and all proves that.. and it scares the shii outer me
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by henribj(m): 2:15pm On Mar 23, 2015
Blackett:
That would only happen if her keeps seeing that _bitch and if he keeps acting friendly to her.

She is fire right now. . . If he keeps going to her, he'll get burned pretty bad.


the kain fire wey be say e no go fit see needle to even save
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by Nobody: 2:16pm On Mar 23, 2015
Mr blackett,i'm still on my stand

let's see what will happen

She will definitely be angry,in some cases,she might swear to break up with him

She comes back to her senses,and realise that her finance is faithful

She overheard the spiced verson and doesnt care

They got married shikena.
**THE END**

Now itz left for the op to choose which rocks his boat
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by Nobody: 2:19pm On Mar 23, 2015
kitnah:
Mr blackett,i'm still on my stand

let's see what will happen

She will definitely be angry,in some cases,she might swear to break up with him

She comes back to her senses,and realise that her finance is faithful

She overheard the spiced verson and doesnt care

They got married shikena.
**THE END**

Now itz left for the op to choose which rocks his boat


Dear Kitnah.

It is better for the girl to get angry and come back to her sense after they have married, than before they get married. . . Remember the wedding is 4 months away, no?

If she gets pissed, she'll call off the wedding. We don't want that to happen now, eh?

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Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by Bwon(m): 2:21pm On Mar 23, 2015
Blackett:

Dear Kitnah.

It is better for the girl to get angry and come back to her sense after they have married, than before they get married. . . Remember the wedding is 4 months away, no?

If she gets pissed, she'll call off the wedding. We don't want that to happen now, eh?

Exactly..... she is everything i mean everythingg
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by Nobody: 2:21pm On Mar 23, 2015
henribj:


the kain fire wey be say e no go fit see needle to even save
He's at the risk of throwing 4 years away.
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by Nobody: 2:21pm On Mar 23, 2015
henribj:


am concluding from what you guys have already posted
a girl who is a flirt is different from a girl who sleeps around unless the flirt of a girl also sleeps around. and note that not all flirts sleep around
so what exactly are you guys saying here? cos a girl who is only a flirt does not lose any wife material
a girl who sleeps around loses wife material
so you guys make up your mind
shey na flex, aby na flirt, aby na sleeping around??
Bros ..,alberto made use of the word "flex","flirt" and i wanted to correct him ,so i ve to use his "words".
I get ur point tnx
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by LadyX(f): 2:22pm On Mar 23, 2015
Bwon:
yh the calls the messages the pictures ..... and all proves that.. and it scares the shii outer me

Bwon, you need to know this:

The friend knows everything about you: She knows how you treat your fiancee. She could also be knowing about your s*x life, etc. Therefore, she wants to have you to herself. She can do anything, including seducing you and getting pregnant for you just to be your wife. She knows you want to settle down and she wishes to be you wife.

If she is desperate is it your business? No! Don't allow her needness or desperation to separate you from your fiance. You are not the last man standing on earth, so she will get another man. Forget about the *love* antics she's playing on you.

Have you heard or read here about guys having done an introduction or about to it, then they discover another lady pregnant for them? That's how it happens. Then they are forced to abandon their fiancee and marry the baby mama.
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by Nobody: 2:23pm On Mar 23, 2015
Bwon:
Exactly..... she is everything i mean everythingg
What we should deliberate on, is on how to avoid that fvcking demon.

Can't you bar her calls and block her on whatsapp and bbm? Also making sure you do not save her nude pixs?
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by Bwon(m): 2:24pm On Mar 23, 2015
LadyX:


Bwon, you need to know this:

The friend knows everything about you: She knows how you treat your fiancee. She could be also knowing about your s*x life, etc. Therefore, she wants to have you to herself. She can do anything, including seducing you and getting pregnant for you just to be your wife. She knows you want to settle down and she wishes to be you wife.

If she is desperate is it your business? No! Don't allow her needness or desperation to separate you from your fiance. You are not the last man standing on earth, so she will get another man. Forget about the *love* antics she's playing on you.

Have you heard or read here about guys having done an introduction or about to it, then they discover another lady pregnant for them? That's how it happens. Then they are forced to abandon their fiancee and marry the baby mama.

oh! sigh
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by henribj(m): 2:26pm On Mar 23, 2015
Blackett:
He's at the risk of throwing 4 years away.


dont forget to add finances into that 4 years o
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by LadyX(f): 2:27pm On Mar 23, 2015
Bwon:
oh! sigh

I suggest that from now, don't allow any communication with the girl. She might be planning something. In the same way she planned the dinner, she can come up with something else. She could even lie that she's sick only for you to get to her house and find her n*aked waiting for you. or she could put something like viagra or similar drugs in your food. You will be the one begging her. You get the drift?
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by Nobody: 2:27pm On Mar 23, 2015
henribj:


dont forget to add finances into that 4 years o
Right now, he doesn't care how much he has spent. He loves this woman.
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by Bwon(m): 2:29pm On Mar 23, 2015
LadyX:


I suggest that from now, don't allow any communication with the girl. She might be planning something. In the same way she planned the dinner, she can come up with something else. She could even lie that she's sick only for you to get to her house and find her n*aked waiting for you. or she could put something like viagra or similar drugs in your food. You will be the one begging her. You get the drift?
yh thnx i hope she just leaves us alone. But i don't know how to explain it to my fiancee that she should change her best lady cos i can't imagine looking at her that day... Knowing what has happened in the past. *sigh*
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by Nobody: 2:30pm On Mar 23, 2015
Blackett:

Dear Kitnah.

It is better for the girl to get angry and come back to her sense after they have married, than before they get married. . . Remember the wedding is 4 months away, no?

If she gets pissed, she'll call off the wedding. We don't want that to happen now, eh?

Mr blackett

So you will rather build a marriage on lies huh??

I think the op should man up and face the consequences of his action.

If she breaks up with him,trust me it was never meant to be

btw,i'm enjoyin this,quite educative
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by Bwon(m): 2:32pm On Mar 23, 2015
kitnah:

Mr blackett

So you will rather build a marriage on lies huh??

I think the op should man up and face the consequences of his action.

If she breaks up with him,trust me it was never meant to be

btw,i'm enjoyin this,quite educative
Break up is a no option my sister. It ain't easy now it sure gonna be worse then.
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by LadyX(f): 2:32pm On Mar 23, 2015
Bwon:
yh thnx i hope she just leaves us alone. But i don't know how to explain it to my fiancee that she should change her best lady cos i can't imagine looking at her that day... Knowing what has happened in the past. *sigh*

So you decided not to tell your fiance?

If so, I don't know how you will tell her to change the lady because you've got to give a reason.
Maybe Blackett can help you there.

cc. Blackett
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by henribj(m): 2:33pm On Mar 23, 2015
see op
i yaf give you better advise o
an advise that gets the demon out of ur life and that of your gf
or, how would u feel if this best friend goes ahead to be the chief brides maid at your wedding? with u knowing full well what a backstabber she is? that will mean u have been unfair to your gf by seeing what will hurt her and still allowed her to get hurt
cos na half bread if the demon only leaves ur life, but still stays with ur gf
the demon can poison ur gf and get at u through ur gf
afterall if she is this desperate she can as well decide if she cant have you then your gf cant either
better video the whole thing and show ur gf
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by Nobody: 2:34pm On Mar 23, 2015
alberto2k:

i just dey look u undecided
tongue tongue
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by Nobody: 2:34pm On Mar 23, 2015
kitnah:

Mr blackett

So you will rather build a marriage on lies huh??

I think the op should man up and face the consequences of his action.

If she breaks up with him,trust me it was never meant to be

btw,i'm enjoyin this,quite educative
Miss Kitnah.

What lies?

Is it still lies when he tells her after marriage?

He hasn't done any action as far as I'm concerned. All he needs to do is avoid that _bitch.

You're asking a woman to throw away her 4 year relationship, after her own friend tried to seduce her man? You know how you ladies are complicated. What if she never believes his version of the story?

It's better to lock up till after marriage. But he must make sure he ends that _shit with her friend, NOW!
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by Bwon(m): 2:36pm On Mar 23, 2015
LadyX:


So you decided not to tell your fiance?

If so, I don't know how you will tell her to change the lady because you've got to give a reason.
Maybe Blackett can help you there.

cc. Blackett

have not decided anything yet... It scary to think about losing some1 u want to spend the rest of your life with... You built d relationship to a point she is virtually everything and a family. You don't want to be in that shoes trust me . it more difficult becos she is fragile she would break... she not that strong.
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by henribj(m): 2:36pm On Mar 23, 2015
kitnah:

Bros ..,alberto made use of the word "flex","flirt" and i wanted to correct him ,so i ve to use his "words".
I get ur point tnx

ok
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by Nobody: 2:37pm On Mar 23, 2015
Bwon:
Break up is a no option my sister. It ain't easy now it sure gonna be worse then.
Trust me,you will get through it

But you can keep something as huge like this from her

It has destroyed many marriages in the past.

I dont want yours to be like that
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by Nobody: 2:37pm On Mar 23, 2015
LadyX:


So you decided not to tell your fiance?

If so, I don't know how you will tell her to change the lady because you've got to give a reason.
Maybe Blackett can help you there.

cc. Blackett

Lol.

Easy as eating cake.

Turn the heat on her friend after blocking her and telling her off. She'll be the one to "resign" from the chief bridesmaid post cos she'll be ashamed to look at you.

Resist the devil and she will flee from you.
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by Nobody: 2:39pm On Mar 23, 2015
Kitnah. Honestly answer this.

How long has your longest relationship lasted?
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by LadyX(f): 2:39pm On Mar 23, 2015
Bwon:
have not decided anything yet... It scary to think about losing some1 u want to spend the rest of your life with... You built d relationship to a point she is virtually everything and a family. You don't want to be in that shoes trust me . it more difficult becos she is fragile she would break... she not that strong.

You know her better than us. Go for what will work.
Sometimes how you present something and how it is perceived can have positive or negative results.
Re: Confused!! Should i tell her? by henribj(m): 2:41pm On Mar 23, 2015
Blackett:
Right now, he doesn't care how much he has spent. He loves this woman.

i hope he really does o
and not just a case of trying to marry into a wealthy family #justsaying

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