freshcvvs:


Go back and read the OP for proper understanding.

We planned the court wedding to coincide with my birthday while the introduction and traditional ceremonies was to take place in December.

Even though we had agreed not to entertain guests but when I informed my mother about this arrangement, she protested our decision so I paid for entertainment.

And when I informed him about the development, he wasn’t pleased that I went against our decision. To avoid trouble, I apologized and promptly informed the lady I had paid money to provide us with refreshments not to go ahead. He however gave his consent afterwards promising to refund my money.

So, have brought the quote here and don't you see that there is a linkage BTW the entertainment of guest and the wedding ceremony here

kevinberry:

Ok I still love them thou

No probs man




Its your choice and not mine

buh u've said it all, nigga iz broke and u want him to get married how do u want him to cope as a family man. dont u fink its going to affect ur unborn child..

Kpele dear! I can feel your pain here. Its painful sha but just pick up the pieces and move on. The guy is not matured at heart by listening to side talks and he is not sure of him self if he really wants to settle down now. Just continue to be a good lady u will find a better man. U were not meant to be together

Missonas:


You are biased!You are a chauvinist!

Haba please take it easy...I was only pulling your legs...

Learn to think before typing no offence

kevinberry:


I tell you bro...

They wanna be the talk of the whole village
The most annoying part is they are both working and she is still asking for money from him...I guess she does not know how to save for the future...

Because of their selfish and her stewipd decisions she will now have to start all_over....

She forgot the saying

Women are Flowers
Men are wine's

You know the rest...

*Berry*

your posts on this thread are quite irritating.. the mother never suggested a 'wow' party she only suggested ENTERTAINMENTS.. but you are quick to jump into conclusion!.. who goes to a wedding without some refreshments?!
how does entertaining your guests equals to being the talk of the village?? gosh! entertaining guests equals to 'not investing in the future' are you stingy and broke? better stay single
and this your

The most annoying part is they are both working and she is still asking for money from him..

I don't know how to describe it!! but I guess dirt entered your eyes while reading this part of her post

At times when things aren’t going too
well for him, he would ask me for
support which I usually oblige him

a man who works can ask his financee for help but a woman who works can't and shouldn't.. that's some bull sh.it from you! if you wanna castigate her for asking for help..don't forget to drag the man along!

don't be biased!

her decision wasn't stupid tho hurtful but its better to be far from that insecure stingy dude! better to start again but not with your type!

@kevinberry, I understand u are a guy and u will want to support ur folks but if u read the post very well u will understand the fact that the guy also change their court wedding arrangement without her consent and he never mentioned it until she asked ..... I will say the lady in question has seen so many warning signal before the breakup, she just chose to ignore them due to d sacrifices she has made.

dharmie092:
@kevinberry, I understand u are a guy and u will want to support ur folks but if u read the post very well u will understand the fact that the guy also change their court wedding arrangement without her consent and he never mentioned it until she asked ..... I will say the lady in question has seen so many warning signal before the breakup, she just chose to ignore them due to d sacrifices she has made.

people like Kevinberry don't see an issue when a man do things involving both parties without the other partner's consent.. to them, the man is the ONE in the relationship, the woman is just there..

U just have to move on with ur life, thank God for everything cos he's definitely nt ur man, while ur moving on wt ur life u hv to check ur ways and correct part of u that u know, a man can't tolerate. Its well wt u, u hv to love urself and understand that God has a better plan for u. With d rate husbands and wives kill each other these days, one has to b very careful in chosing a life partner, so thank God while hopeful for a man after Gods hrt to come ur way. Jux remember dt love isn't enough, so when u see some warnig signs- dnt think LOVE ll wipe it away. Goodluck and b happy.

dre11:





http://dailyindependentnig.com/2015/01/ended-relationship-days-wedding/

its sad buh thank God u didnt hv to marry a good for nothing man, cos believe me ull end up takn responsibility for ur upkeep, his and ur children wen u marry him and he wld still not appreciate u.

kevinberry:


Haba please take it easy...I was only pulling your legs...

Learn to think before typing no offence

None taken.DIdn't see d humour in that sorry.I think before i do anything brov

naijaboiy:

Really?

That's all you could come up with?

Did you read the story at all?

I think not!

she said her part, the guy might have his own reasons too, I'm not saying he's not wrong tho but there's always two sides to a story.

quivah:


your posts on this thread are quite irritating.. the mother never suggested a 'wow' party she only suggested ENTERTAINMENTS.. but you are quick to jump into conclusion!.. who goes to a wedding without some refreshments?!
how does entertaining your guests equals to being the talk of the village?? gosh! entertaining guests equals to 'not investing in the future' are you stingy and broke? better stay single
and this your

I don't know how to describe it!! but I guess dirt entered your eyes while reading this part of her post

a man who works can ask his financee for help but a woman who works can't and shouldn't.. that's some bull sh.it from you! if you wanna castigate her for asking for help..don't forget to drag the man along!

don't be biased!

her decision wasn't stupid tho hurtful but its better to be far from that insecure stingy dude! better to start again but not with your type!

First of all my advice for you is that...don't ever call someone stingy...the guy might have strong reasons for leaving the girl....

We haven't read his part of the story..

Am just expressing my own view based on what she wrote down

*Berry*

ijustdey:



actually love wasn't blind...... it was we that decided to become blind and not love.

that is why they said its blind.

dharmie092:
@kevinberry, I understand u are a guy and u will want to support ur folks but if u read the post very well u will understand the fact that the guy also change their court wedding arrangement without her consent and he never mentioned it until she asked ..... I will say the lady in question has seen so many warning signal before the breakup, she just chose to ignore them due to d sacrifices she has made.

He must have a strong reason for such actions...I have nothing to say about that..

Am only expressing my view based on what she wrote down here..

We did not read the guy part of the story..am preety sure there is more to this story that it is presently..

If I was the girl..I will always like to play the victim part which is exactly how she present herself through her write up...
If only,if only we can read the guy part of the story it would have been better....

quivah:

people like Kevinberry don't see an issue when a man do things involving both parties without the other partner's consent.. to them, the man is the ONE in the relationship, the woman is just there..

You said it yourself...they girl has no right to arrange for anything after they both have already agreed on a NO before...and in terms of the court stuff...it not has if they. Won't still go to the court..they will...but nevertheless they guy should not have tamper with their plans....so far so good...the girl list out many things(bad) so people will take her side...

Typical of a naija girl..always playing the victim..

They will never agree that they are soley responsible for anything that befalls them...

*Berry*

Missonas:


None taken.DIdn't see d humour in that sorry.I think before i do anything brov

Alright am sorry...

Kingsasian:
that is why they said its blind.

I still maintain my stand that it isn't blind......
because something beautiful, pleasant and soothingly can't be blind.....


its he/she who get embedded in it that decide to act blind when you are so obvious about the truth and its reality

Just thank God for your life,some of us today in marriage only endure it instead of enjoying it,it might be hard to reason with me but the best is yet to come. My advice, stay tune to God and be faithful and in no time you will laugh. Move on

kevinberry:


You said it yourself...they girl has no right to arrange for anything after they both have already agreed on a NO before...and in terms of the court stuff...it not has if they. Won't still go to the court..they will...but nevertheless they guy should not have tamper with their plans....so far so good...the girl list out many things(bad) so people will take her side...

Typical of a naija girl..always playing the victim..

They will never agree that they are soley responsible for anything that befalls them...

*Berry*

And typical of some naija guy too like u. Unlike u I don't generalise. I know if it was the guy that wrote his own story, u will nt want to hear from the gal side before castigating and raini abuse on the gal. Did u even read the post very well at all?

Heartless man.
May he experience such too
Karma is a b itch

dre11:





http://dailyindependentnig.com/2015/01/ended-relationship-days-wedding/

. And some one would say I should drop all my eggs in one basket ......God 4 bid

Humans are wicked. I wonder how he will expect that Karma will not pay him seven folds what he did to this lady. My dear, it is extremely painful but you won't kill yourself. Dust yourself up, repackage yourself very well and live a holy life. God will surprise you. Please ignore that son of darkness no matter how hard it will be. Wish you luck.

prettyJoy22:
. And some one would say I should drop all my eggs in one basket ......God 4 bid

WoW


You spread it on the field and the one that germinate is the marriageable one

fairygeh:
Heartless man.
May he experience such too
Karma is a b itch

see ya life. typical naija babe. u are quick to pass judgement when u haven't heard from d other party. how sad.smh

RICHIEBOI1:

see ya life. typical naija babe. u are quick to pass judgement when u haven't heard from d other party. how sad.smh

So says an heart breaker, spare me ur story pls

sorry o, please forgive him and dont curse him. God wil give u a man that fears Him.

A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage,so my sister tk heart my dear,God will bring ur husband for u

fairygeh:
So says an heart breaker, spare me ur story pls

like wise.

Odunharry:
there are men who are heartless yes but no guy in his senses will dump a good woman when it comes to marriage ......
Something must be wrong.
inasmuch as I don't support the action of the man, I refuse to take this whole story serious reason been that many women naturally don't take blame for anything at all..a man doesn't just wake and change his attitude
when a relationship doesn't work, they will blame the man. .until we hear the other side of the story I am not taking it serious

Many a man have and will continue to dump good women, for reasons best known to them.
It may not be because of an inherent fault in her, but simply because he's not ready to take that next step of commitment with her, while she is more than ready (Biological clock things )

@ OP, sorry about your heartbreak. That's one of the things that make up life experiences. You have the option of wallowing in self pity forever or re-branding yourself, coming out better and hotter for your true soul-mate to locate you. Do stuff that will build you up as a person (pursue that Masters degree, or learn that skill you've always wanted to). Life's too short.

Holywizard:
am nt sure dat u're a marriage material

damn it......u ar crazy mean, for God's sake dat lady is hurt