babyosisi:


I hope the parents of this wife are alive and well,she didn't fall from a tree
This man may be the one going with his mother and a bottle of schnapps to reconcile things
The wife hasn't told her side
From the son and mother's side it is already bad enough
For this man not to condemn his wife,it is pretty clear the wife has suffered in the hands of his mother and has taken a lot of abuse from her
That much is clear in his posts for anyone that can read between the lines

christabeli:
But of course she is not here to defend herself. Your description of her shows bitterness. And that says a lot.

Sophyrocks:


You dnt like my answer? then park well.

Sophyrocks:


The bolded is very true. Only God knows what the wife has gone through in the hands of this woman. For the wife to be jovial towards her shows she wanted peace. But alas, that was not what her MIL wanted. She even came with a gang. LOL. Well planned i must say.

I was told by the two onlookers (mother's sister and a friend) that my wife prevented my mother from taking some photos of the child dedication we did a few weeks back from the photo album

Nweike1:
Send ur wife packing! Immediately. Don't ever quarrel with or mum becos of ur wife. She is not worth it. Ur wife can come back after she has begged ur mum and other family members

NmaGOD44:
I'm sure she must have come with the sole motive of throwing that woman outa her home....
she has already planned it with her gang.....good for her

donedy:
No matter what the reason might. It shows lack of respect and poor upbringing on your wife's end.

If I may ask, has your wife ever raised her hand against her own mother in any circumstances? If so, it's your fault for bringing such a lady to your family.

A respsonsible lady with good manners would have left the scene and come to you after your mom slapped her.

To make such a scene with an old lady show your wife lacks modesty, virtues and good home-bringing.

My advice is for her to apologize to your mother, your family member. If possible, she should bring her family members to help apologize to your mother. It's doing that period will your mother accept her apology, and if possible feel remorse about slapping your wife.

donedy:
No matter what the reason might. It shows lack of respect and poor upbringing on your wife's end.

If I may ask, has your wife ever raised her hand against her own mother in any circumstances? If so, it's your fault for bringing such a lady to your family.

A respsonsible lady with good manners would have left the scene and come to you after your mom slapped her.

To make such a scene with an old lady show your wife lacks modesty, virtues and good home-bringing.

My advice is for her to apologize to your mother, your family member. If possible, she should bring her family members to help apologize to your mother. It's doing that period will your mother accept her apology, and if possible feel remorse about slapping your wife.

babyosisi:



I quoted this because people are fond of twisting things and accounts written to suit their non points
The woman didn't ask for pictures so there was no place for any kind responses to a kind request and certainly no reason for any slaps.
She was prevented from taking pictures off an album and then slapped the owner of the pictures
Not a picture o
Some Pictures
Plural
That is what the son said

Sophyrocks:


Thank you!! I said it earlier. You dnt get along with someone but you go ahead making demands from the person. You then give this same person a slap!! And you are expecting a hug for that? His mother was f00lish. There was peace before that happened but war came in the moment she slapped her DIL. she is the troublemaker!!

donedy:
No matter what the reason might. It shows lack of respect and poor upbringing on your wife's end.

If I may ask, has your wife ever raised her hand against her own mother in any circumstances? If so, it's your fault for bringing such a lady to your family.

A respsonsible lady with good manners would have left the scene and come to you after your mom slapped her.

To make such a scene with an old lady show your wife lacks modesty, virtues and good upbringing.

My advice is for her to apologize to your mother, your family member. If possible, she should bring her family members to help apologize to your mother. It's during that period will your mother accept her apology, and if possible feel remorse about slapping your wife.

Nevertheless, your wife has no right to engage your mother in such manner, let alone exchanging fist with her. Just imagine how you'll feel if you heard your sister is exchanging fist with your mother.

Notyourb1tch:
Has her own mother slapped her daughter because she refused her demands. So why will she treat her mom badly if her mom treats her well.
How can she consider his mom as her mom when she treats her like poo. We are human beings. If someone treats you badly will you go and kiss them? Off course not. Make realistic comparisons please

onoja12:
Na you know

Nweike1:
Send ur wife packing! Immediately. Don't ever quarrel with or mum becos of ur wife. She is not worth it. Ur wife can come back after she has begged ur mum and other family members

babyosisi:


Don't you hate it when they keep saying will you do so and so if it was your mother
Well my mother will not come and and attempt to take pictures off an album
She will make a request and I will offer to get her some prints
She certainly will not attack me for saying no
Why do they expect anyone to treat someone like their mom when the person is not acting like their mother

BABE3:
OP, this is a case of two grown adults deciding to fight. It's not a case of victim vs aggressor.

Your wife's response to the slap isn't self defense. It was her decision to pick a fight. MIL wasn't pointing a gun at her, neither was she holding a knife to her neck. She could have walked away.

They'll both be charged for assault and battery if they had gotten arrested.

Keep your mum away from your wife. I don't think they'll ever fully recover from this, so just keep them apart since your wife has already apologized.

Time will heal.

babyosisi:


Don't you hate it when they keep saying will you do so and so if it was your mother
Well my mother will not come and and attempt to take pictures off an album
She will make a request and I will offer to get her some prints
She certainly will not attack me for saying no
Why do they expect anyone to treat someone like their mom when the person is not acting like their mother

Sophyrocks:


The bolded is very true. Only God knows what the wife has gone through in the hands of this woman. For the wife to be jovial towards her shows she wanted peace. But alas, that was not what her MIL wanted. She even came with a gang. LOL. Well planned i must say.

Sophyrocks:


You dnt want to accept my answer so there is really nothing i can do.

iiichidodo:
Gbam! Op, no co-incidence that the men here want you to act your gender but the side talk women here would prefer you surrender your manhood to your wife because they are wives or wives to be who demselves detest their mother in laws therefore they all can really relate,if not glad, with your wife drawing deep gashes and blood from your mother..are these whom you seek advice as to how to run your home as a woman Man?? .What every man here is sayin is control your family, control your wife. Your inability sparked this debacle first off and so your ability should end this.Send your wife away albeit temporarily then reproach your mother, show them what each stand to lose in this face-off and watch how everyone come back to their senses.

aflyingbird:
the MIL should be respected no matter what ? RESPECT BEGETS RESPECT. if you're someone worthy of respect, pple will respect u, u won't have to demand it . resorting to violence means your being respected is questionable 'cus no gentle MIL will do what the MIL did here . and it's rubbish to say after the MIL slapped her , the wife should've gone to her room to stay . if the wife had done that she will become a doormat and punching bag with the MIL running her marriage for her , which she has no business doing. i bet u , the MIL won't try what she did again or try to bully the wife again . mirob , maybe you are a didinrin but i am not and plenty of women out there are not. who in the world does the MIL think she is to hit her and then for you to blame the wife n say she should've gone to her room and do what? hide. allow someone to be intimidated and violated in ur own home n go cry in ur room like a child ? my dear this is 2015. and your post is just rubbish.

Kachisbarbie:


Nne the thing tire me o.

I haven't seen someone that loves his mum more than my hubby_ but I just showed him this thread and he succinctly said that the MIL carry the problem for body come.

There are some things my MIL would suggest, as a not too traditional person - I won't even allow her land.
She would calmly explain to me in an educated way...lol. If I still object, she would just be calm, while waiting for her SON.

Never for once did she try to raise her voice, let alone hit me.
Why? She respects her son, by virtue of marriage, I tap into that respect.

Sophyrocks:


Abi. do they expect all mothers to reason alike? do they expect all families to handle issues like barbarians? Forget their useless comparisons. Its not everyone that has a mother that engages in street fights. Its too degrading.