Dear Yemisi,

I am 27 years old. I am a graduate in serious search of a job. I finished my National Youth Service two years ago.

In the course of my service year, I met a guy who has shown interest in marrying me. I am equally interested in him. He is working in an oil company and he is well paid.

As I have searched long enough for a job and it seems none is forthcoming, I am thinking of applying for my further studies, but the guy is not well disposed to my decision for a higher degree.

My parents called to inquire of my plans and I told them that I love going back to school on part-time basis and they never objected to this. Along the line, my mother asked me when I would love to settle down. My reply was that when I am through with my masters degree. She promised to get back to me soon as she hears from God on my choice.

I have been offered an admission now, but the guy would not want to hear of it as he bluntly told me to choose either the masters programme or him and that the time he has picked to settle down is June this year. To compound my problem, my mum told me that the guy I introduced to them as my fiancé is not the will of God for my life.

I confided in the only friend who I trust. She counseled me to go and pray about the issue, but on the premise that I should not dismiss my mum’s claim.

I am soo confused about life and my situation. How many issues will I pray about? I need the counsel of your readers and yours before I take any decision.

How do I get out of this confusing state of mine?

I have been offered an admission now, but the guy would not want to hear of it as he bluntly
told me to choose either the masters programme
or him and that the time he has picked to settle
down is June this year. To compound my
problem, my mum told me that the guy I
introduced to them as my fiancé is not the will of
God for my life.

Missmossy:
What sort of man will tell her such?

She should better wise up!

SagePerv:
Married still remains the ultimate achievement to every woman. Forget the masters programme.

Stop chasing vanity. Go & get married.

To compound my problem, my mum told me that the guy I introduced to them as my fiancé is not the will of God for my life.

Islie:


How did her mum know that the guy is never the will of God....

Why can't her leave her daughter to make that decision, pray about it and work it out.

We all workout our relationship by ourselves and allow interference because it could make or marr the relationship

SagePerv:
Married still remains the ultimate achievement to every woman. Forget the masters programme.

Stop chasing vanity. Go & get married.

debolly:
The guy is seriously suffering from low self esteem.
Prayer is the only solution....pray fervently about it.

bisous:
Hmmmm, this is like being between the devil and the Red sea and only prayer can sort her out.
She may choose the man and he turns out to be a beast,and she may choode the masters and have to wait till she's 40 to come close to marriage again.........

The processes for finding,getting and doing a Master's programme is not as tedious as the processes for finding and marrying a good(only her can tell if he is a good man or not) man and she can always get her Masters done after marriage that is if he is a good man
She can only pray

ronald4lif:
What a condition.

She should dumb his ass and pursue her career/masters.

Relationship and men/women can wait but career-pursuit waits for no one. Earlier the better.

Should she succeed tomorrow drones of guys will be wrestling to win her love.

Who love don help

goofyuncut:

dumb abi? Okay, continu...

Dygeasy:
I wonder if the mum cannot step into town and find for her daughter the man who's the will of God for her.

Like, "Hello young man, you're the will of God for my daughter." lol!

Thunder fire any man of God wey go follow me yarn dust when I don finally ready to marry. As in after world class proposal? Na to give am uppercut!

Mprex:
throw the guy out through the window

Islie:


WoW......

And the girl is almost clocking 30years
That prime age some of them will start becoming desperate

dre11:



I couldn't agree less with the emboldened part of your post
This is just like reaching the valley of kadespanian where you don't know what to do

Islie:


Why


Or you ready to step inbtw

englishmart:
I'm 100% certain that the lady knows what to do

Mprex:

because he is beggining to show signs of a domineering male animal.

what kind of man tells a lady to choose btw him and her masters

Dygeasy:
It's called confusion and too much dependence on people. Imagine she came here with these issues first off. Doesn't strike me as someone who knows what's best for herself at this point of her life.

debolly:
The guy is seriously suffering from low self esteem.
Prayer is the only solution....pray fervently about it.

ronald4lif:


Joking or you serious?