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Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by Sharksblow(m): 8:25am On Apr 03, 2015 |
Montaque:I've also seen men who because of the fear of losing their wives, stopped them from achieving their goals in life. must he marry her? leave her to realize her dreams. there're a lot of girls that are ready to marry him. |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by iykedare(m): 8:30am On Apr 03, 2015 |
cococandy: What she should seek for is work experience and not masters degree. There is no guarantee that she will get a job with the masters. Work experience gets you even greater opportunities than masters degree. She has bachelors degree and that is enough for her at this stage of her life. She shouldn't abandon other aspect of her life unless she is not convinced that he is 'the one'. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by Edusouls(m): 8:46am On Apr 03, 2015 |
dre11:u re 27years and have finished ur university, and u luckily got a guy that is working a good job and is ready to marry you, and why are you so obsessed with masters degree, when you are getting old, you women of nowadays are visionless and have been deillussioned by education and western life, in the fact that you people have lost the values of knowing ur roles as women in this society, dont go and get married stay and do masters degree, after masters degree then u will go and create ur own man to marry, then as for ur mum she has made her own home so listen to her fake and unreal prophecies that he is not ur man, she should then go and create ur man for you, you women are ur own worst enemies, go and futher ur masters degree..after then you marry ur masters degree certificate... 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by Edusouls(m): 8:47am On Apr 03, 2015 |
ronald4lif:shut up a kid like you, what do you know about love... 1 Like |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by TopHand: 8:48am On Apr 03, 2015 |
[quote author=cococandy post=32291739][/quote] There are three kinds of men, the one who achieve success, the one working towards success, and the one sitting down, you see nos1 and nos 2 no dey sit wait for any woman to come tell am make he begin walka fast, he know say once he don make am babies of different colour and sizes go de find, I agree say education/knowledge/business abilities dey very good for every human being, but woman get timer, man fit spend 10 - 15 years for school dey look for phd or whatever once he don make he go find correct wife fast fast whether he 40 years old or not, woman na only sugar mummy she go do, apart from that majority of men priority be say make wife fine make she sabi cook, certificate na jara 4 top, since this woman don already go university get degree waiting de stop from getting married? shey she still no fit make am with the degree? |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by LydayBobo(m): 8:50am On Apr 03, 2015 |
ijustdey:Wrong. This is what the guy is thinking... am 35yrs old and have found a pretty chic of say 28yrs. Am OK financially so if we both add say 21yrs to our age our kids would have graduated I will be approaching my retirement age. So in order not to use my pension funds to train a child it'd better I settle down now. Mind you that kind of guy will have choices. So... 1 Like |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by crisycent: 8:53am On Apr 03, 2015 |
Please find out what his job is in the oil company. Are u sure he's not a security guard there? the only thing that is sure in a relationship is what you have NOT what he told you. The guy can come and tell u tomorrow that he's no longer interested and what will u do? Btw, you don't even need advice on this. Na ekiti you go school? Don't ever sacrifice your education for anyone not even anyone not even your husband. |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by chibic(m): 9:03am On Apr 03, 2015 |
Most of the women here got married before furthering their education,but here they are advicing another woman not to get married and choose her masters. Same women will taunt and laugh at this babe if she eventually remains unmarried at 30. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by amacastel: 9:07am On Apr 03, 2015 |
SagePerv:A man who doesn't want ur progress is not worth ur husband even if he works with d presidency and live in aso villa with president nothing stops u from getting married while in sch for ur masters as per dt he is not ur husband pls don't ignore it he has start showing the sign of a bad husband already pls run for ur der life u should be his companion not his slave. Go for ur masters if he is ur husband he will wait if not let him go the best is yet to come cos the beautiful 1s are not yet born. St obi's wife is 35+ wen she married him bt b4 den she is a chief techincal director with mtn she build her carrer 1st today she is mother of 3beautiful boys ,rich, eduacted,and yet married to a celebrity even lola okoye psquare wife @ her age she got a very young rich, hansome and above all talented young man. Pls go back to school let dt guy go to his village and pik a wife he can manipulate and manovoure. U r not his type QED 1 Like |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by smartleo(m): 9:11am On Apr 03, 2015 |
ronald4lif:I must commend ur ignorance and shallowness of thinking cause it has no reality in the real sense.Every woman life span is time based,as per marriage,if DAT time passes ,a babe may b in a regrettable condition for a lifetime or probably u r of d tout DAT u r a career oriented person,I can tell u plainly that the end will justify the means. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by TopHand: 9:22am On Apr 03, 2015 |
crisycent:so sacrifice marraige for education?, is master degree gurantee of becoming rich and successful in life and does having a master degree fireproof you from your husband leaving you? the bottom line bi say that money wey the guy get na he dey support the woman, she don know say to do the master degree she no get problem the man go support am, na he go pay the school fees, na he go pay accomodation na he go pay chop money, this man self he no get family? this no be question of insecurity at all, if the woman finish now come fly like helicopter go another man waiting the guy go do? afterall she don already talk say na master degree she want no be marriage carry am come, i beg make she carry her wahala commot, de man no get problem na she get am. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by boma95(f): 9:26am On Apr 03, 2015 |
dre11: Calm down and ask urself why is he so in a haste? He asked you to choose between him and school....tell him you love him but there's a need to further your studies.... your mom maybe right If he's sure the one why can't he encourage you to build your dreams... but ur personal decision matters too |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by craix(m): 9:32am On Apr 03, 2015 |
What's type of guy is him |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by hurricaneindia(f): 9:34am On Apr 03, 2015 |
boykas:What is 'high' about this proposal? |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by dre11(m): 9:43am On Apr 03, 2015 |
adozie: WORD form an experience soul |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by boykas(m): 9:55am On Apr 03, 2015 |
hurricaneindia: read where the man works..if he's caring and trustworthy. She should go ahead and take the offer. am talking of experience...first my boss is 46 and she's beautiful. Right now she's not married. I always pity nd pray for her any more questions |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by hurricaneindia(f): 9:57am On Apr 03, 2015 |
boykas:So because he works in an oil company, it is a 'high' proposal? Smh. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by singlefade25(f): 10:00am On Apr 03, 2015 |
adozie:God bless you and your family sir. I have learnt something from your comment. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by crisycent: 10:08am On Apr 03, 2015 |
TopHand: Why should the man pay for her masters? She decided to get a masters degree and I'm sure she's saved towards it. With a masters degree, her work future is brighter than an ordinary Bsc holder. Anything she can do to better herself is worth any sacrifice and any man that is preventing his girlfriend from achieving her goal is a wizard! 1 Like |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by Islie: 10:09am On Apr 03, 2015 |
neoapocalypse: That your 3rd point looks arcade for me |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by jeweldoyex22(f): 10:14am On Apr 03, 2015 |
My dear sister, the truth is you need to seek the face of God first. I believe God is there and waiting to direct you on this very important issue of your life. In fact, he is already speaking but all you need to do is to pay attention to Him! Meanwhile, you and your guy need to sit down and iron things out. Present your case well before him. Make him see reasons why you want to further your studies. Its all about understanding. Your carrier and your marriage have to work hand in hand together. That is if God says he is the man for you. More importantly, i don't want you to sideline your mum's advice concerning your marital choice. As a matter of fact, she is in the best position to advice you on that after your pastor. I was once in your position before, my mum told me he wasn't the rite choice for me, though my friends advised me to marry him then. I prayed about it in references to a particular Bible passage . I let go of the relationship, enrolled for my master program and now doing my PhD. Now planning to get marry to a better choice. Note, any marriage that will not support your goal or dreams as a woman is not the best for us. It might be good but probably not d best. That is where the place of compatibility comes in, you must share the same goals, values, interest, same vision etc. You both need to work together to support each other dreams if you both love each other deeply. You alone can make the decision yourself. No one knows you the way you know yourself. You know what you want. Pray about it, get confirmation from God and go for it! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by mechanics(m): 10:19am On Apr 03, 2015 |
D guy erred by telling u, u shud choose btw him n ur master's program, my dear u need to follow ur mum's decision, mayb she has seen dat in d drm, so my advice is to go 4 ur master's n d will of God wil kum later, dont b cajoled by d fact dat he's wrking in an oil company. |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by nepp(f): 10:25am On Apr 03, 2015 |
Edusouls: What is this?? ![]() Some Nigerian men... God forbid! |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by nepp(f): 10:30am On Apr 03, 2015 |
boykas:Your boss is 46 and not married and you're pitying her? Why?? Has it ever occurred to u that maybe she's not interested in marriage?? Is Marriage by force? Is it something every woman or man must accomplish?. Have u ever bothered to ask her if she's happy the way she is?. Your myopic way of reasoning baffles me ![]() |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by josephebuka112: 10:39am On Apr 03, 2015 |
dre11:dd the guy in question said dat after marriage u can't under go ur masters even acquiring ur PhD?...Note! U er scared of losing him because of his occupation ad the clause..."Well paid...". U ad only u knw d knd of person he is..yu guys should sort urslves out unless if d condition being on June is over emphasized by the guy..it means dat dia is strng attachment to d date ordinarily u may nt be aware. My fear is whether u'll enjoy dat marriage if eventually u yield to dat condition. If u believe in ur mum..,I think u hv to giv it a second thought against d fear of rushing out frm such marriage. |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by Dubemkelly(m): 10:42am On Apr 03, 2015 |
Dear, u can't eat your cake and still have it, if u are keen on pursuing a career, then go for it and if he cannot wait for u, discharge, there's no rush in marriage so dont be pressured to get into it. |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by tunapole: 10:46am On Apr 03, 2015 |
ijustdey: Decisions to marry from d guy's end might not come cheap ooo, bachelorhood at times could be frustrating, If u fink all other things are set. Getting a higher degree can always come later. Oko won lode oooo |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by Montaque(m): 10:55am On Apr 03, 2015 |
Sharksblow:every of these situation can be negotiated. the man hasnt said she should not achieve her dreams. |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by Engrpj(m): 10:57am On Apr 03, 2015 |
Before you finish Dat Masters u will b as Old as ur Mama 27 yrs smh... + 3 yrs = 30 yrs.... I reject the spirit of marrying a 30 yrs old Lady in my Life IJN |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by successky: 10:59am On Apr 03, 2015 |
You have been adviced already. Pray about it. Thank God you have a good friend and mother. Pray to God to reveal His plan for your life to you. And concerning the marriage, it is not something you can rush into like that because it is a life long commitment. Once you make a mistake about it, it cannot be amended. TAKE YOUR TIME. I will also advice you to inform your pastor about it. Just make sure that you know what God wants for your life. God bless you. |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by Nobody: 11:03am On Apr 03, 2015 |
Does this need an answer? What the elders see while sitting. a child cannot see even if he climbs an iroko tree. Your mother has spoken. She has her reasons. Find out and start from there. |
Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by ogirma: 11:10am On Apr 03, 2015 |
Well as far as am concern this is really not an issue, any relationship that both parties can't find equilibrium or put away personal agenda (sacrifice) then the relationship is not worth it. Is it a crime for u to marry and still pursue ur Masters? The guy and u need to understand ur differences that's all. May God help u |
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