Op u r jst selfish leave d poor dude so he can get a worthy wife. Dnt marry him out of pity ooo can u imagine, after 4yrs n wedding plans underway n nw this poo

There is only one reason for this ur misbehaviour ie another serious lookin dude has appeared n u r making comparison.

iPrevail:
Nonsense talk!. Your problem is obvious.. You're a frigging gold-digger.. It's been the money keeping you all along.

You dated someone for four good years, you felt no connection.. You didn't breakup. He then engaged you... You still didn't breakup. Now he's about to get married to you but you still wouldn't let go..

Are you related to Lucifer?

Have some good in you... Save that poor guy's soul.. Tell him you feel no connection whatsoever.. It best you do so before the marriage.. Tell him he's free to divorce you after the marriage..

This is one very horrible story

This has got nothing to do with money please...saying the guy is earning a good salary is just to add to his qualities....money isn't a factor of what's on ground please...my family back ground is very okay...and my family is handling almost everything for the ceremonious wedding.....Thank you for your contribution.

Y is she getting married??

it evident many people don't love who they are dating

sprinkles14:

As I write you this letter, I'm not happy and not fulfilled. I'm getting married in less than one month to my boyfriend of 4years, but I must confess that nothing and I mean absolutely nothing interest and excites me about this guy. I don't feel complete with this guy at all..
I've been turning deaf ears to this inner voice but I kept pretending and forcing it on myself hoping I will get along sooner or later.
I must confess, this guy is a complete gentle man with a good paying job, full of ideas, loving and caring and everything about me is his priority. He's loved by all my family members and everybody around me. Calling of the wedding ceremony will be an outrageous thing to do because of the embarrassment to our families, friends and the guy in particular.
Have made a conclusion within me...after getting married, I will convince my the guy to allow me travel out of the country, maybe if I'm away, I can start a new life out of Nigeria chore and if this doesn't work, I will either file for a divorce after one year or cheat on my husband to make me happy.
Please a very constructive critics and advice will be highly appreciated.
Thank you.

unfulfilled bride to be.

GOD DON CATCH YOU, I'M HERE SEEING EVERYTHING IN HD++

KONTUNU AND SEE THAT SANGO NO BE DRAGON

Y is she getting married?? I think u shud go bk to f beginning nd bring bk dat stuff dat made u date him in d first place..

[size=30pt]U Mean absolutely nothing
Even his banana [/size]

The whole idea of marriage doesn't even make sense, It is just a society thing.

pretydiva:
85% of girls don't no wat dey want. Break up wif him n c if u can find a guy as caring as d 1 u ve now..wish u all d best

Make it 99% my dear..99 % of them don't know what they want..

Things fall apart, season 2.

Does he pleasure your box with his moistest parts

U sound like you just need some good head.

Like i said before , am shocked, dumbfounded and speechless that you have this sort of intention.Whatever you sow in this life, you will reap it in 100 folds ! Its not a curse, its a fact.
If marriage ain't your intention at the moment, why did you say yes in the first place when he popped up the question ? and why were u trying to love him for four years For crying out loud, you knew it was working inside of you and you sat your ass down thinking and hoping for a miracle ? You pretended and acted for 4 Years !!!
I would advice you to breath in and out, calm your nerves and tell him nothing but the truth before it gets too late.
The guy is innocent and he has been every thing to you,don't break a man's heart when you know deep down that he is not the kinda man you want for yourself.


NEVER MARRY OUT OF PITY!!!! CALL IT QUITS TODAY !!!

Tosyne2much...i need you on this case

MzNelly:
Try to spice up your relationship

And figure out what attracted you to him in the first place

If you still don't feel nothing, call of the wedding.

Happiness is of extreme importance, my dear.

Nawa oo.

Didn't you read where he said the guy is caring with a good paying job.


No be Nigerian girls again

pocohantas:
It is very normal.
Don't allow anyone tell you otherwise.


That's part of the disadvantages of long dating/courting. The flavour of (in) the relationship gets lost with time, that's if both parties don't try new ways of spicing it up.

You just have to reconnect with that thing that once made him your everything.

A good percentage(%) of married and engaged peeps would tell you they went through this phase.

The emboldened is false...

SagePerv:
What heap of rubbish is this?
If you are not interested, then simply walk away.

Bro, please correct the grammatical blunder you wrote on your signature.

It should be Sent by God to eradicate stupid people

Thank me later.

MzNelly:
Try to spice up your relationship

And figure out what attracted you to him in the first place

If you still don't feel nothing, call of the wedding.

Happiness is of extreme importance, my dear.

Bravo!!! U jst spoke my mind.

Those 4 years of dating was just too long, you have taken the shine out already.

misshoree:
Lol,u aint interested in a guy and u wanna get married,who does that?

d OP does that

This is most women.

And this is why I tell most men not to do it.

These women are not concerned for anyone else but themselves which is bad enough when it's just the two of you but when you factor in children it is a recipe for absolute chaos.

I hope her fiance sees this.

Please spare this just man and his future kids this punishment you are pushing him into, your acts and thoughts are borderline SELFISH.

The man is oblivious and innocent, the future of a human is what is being deliberated here, I mean show some maturity, don't lead him any further, approach him and end this relationship, believing love would grow is a hypothetical permutation that is not guaranteed, it has no place in mutual relationships.

"The worst thing that can ever happen to a man, is getting married to woman who is not ready for marriage"

sprinkles14:

As I write you this letter, I'm not happy and not fulfilled. I'm getting married in less than one month to my boyfriend of 4years, but I must confess that nothing and I mean absolutely nothing interest and excites me about this guy. I don't feel complete with this guy at all..
I've been turning deaf ears to this inner voice but I kept pretending and forcing it on myself hoping I will get along sooner or later.
I must confess, this guy is a complete gentle man with a good paying job, full of ideas, loving and caring and everything about me is his priority. He's loved by all my family members and everybody around me. Calling of the wedding ceremony will be an outrageous thing to do because of the embarrassment to our families, friends and the guy in particular.
Have made a conclusion within me...after getting married, I will convince my the guy to allow me travel out of the country, maybe if I'm away, I can start a new life out of Nigeria chore and if this doesn't work, I will either file for a divorce after one year or cheat on my husband to make me happy.
Please a very constructive critics and advice will be highly appreciated.
Thank you.

unfulfilled bride to be.

see wetin women dey cause 4 naija.abi..afta dem go say na men cause am..e neva marry e dey think of divorce..if u dont want pls tell him..lord pls gimme a good wife

Eeaya. Na still GODWIN.
After 4 years, this isn't fair!
I don't know what to say, but one thing I know for sure is this, NEVER LEAVE A GOOD MAN!

The OP is a 12 year old Id.iot. Why? Only a 12 year old girl would say yes to marriage when she does not know what she actually wants.

I'm a victim of the overrated marriage in our society.

You are not the victim here dear. The victim is your hubby to be who is planning and excited to enter into this union in all sincerity and you already have your plans ready to kill his dreams.

I'm a victim of the overrated marriage in our society.

I do like the fact that you know and are resolute about what you want though, but for heaven sake, safe this guy the misery and move on with your life. There are other guys out there that meet your requirements / demands and are marriagable. In case you are not the marriage type, there isn't anything wrong with that, if you ask me. If you are of the opinion that marriage is overrated, this action / approach of yours only help to keep this MYTH alive!

Since you have resorted to taking the victim position, should you then make more victims?

dis is serious....................dont even know what to comment. am sure d story is not true

Its not normal at all, i will advice u to see any trusted man of God. I will tell you the truth 'you need deliverance'

My question is why have you stayed this long then backing out in a critical time like dx?

sprinkles14:

As I write you this letter, I'm not happy and not fulfilled. I'm getting married in less than one month to my boyfriend of 4years, but I must confess that nothing and I mean absolutely nothing interest and excites me about this guy. I don't feel complete with this guy at all..
I've been turning deaf ears to this inner voice but I kept pretending and forcing it on myself hoping I will get along sooner or later.
I must confess, this guy is a complete gentle man with a good paying job, full of ideas, loving and caring and everything about me is his priority. He's loved by all my family members and everybody around me. Calling of the wedding ceremony will be an outrageous thing to do because of the embarrassment to our families, friends and the guy in particular.
Have made a conclusion within me...after getting married, I will convince my the guy to allow me travel out of the country, maybe if I'm away, I can start a new life out of Nigeria chore and if this doesn't work, I will either file for a divorce after one year or cheat on my husband to make me happy.
Please a very constructive critics and advice will be highly appreciated.
Thank you.

unfulfilled bride to be.

And God will punish u for dat..... Lemme say u don't know wot u doing u nid prayers

U said u hv bn in d relationship 4 years reaching nw u r saying u don't no w@ is holding u down wt him y didn't u tell him before now d@ u don't love him so d@ he will nt spent his money preparing for d weding n traditional rights[quote][/quote]