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Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Nobody: 3:08pm On Apr 03, 2015
TheFilmmaker:


Bro, please correct the grammatical blunder you wrote on your signature.

It should be Sent by God to eradicate stupid people

Thank me later.


Thanks Bro.
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by castruccio(m): 3:10pm On Apr 03, 2015
one of the major reasons i dont fall in love... i just fear and Love God Chase my money and dreams no time for emotional shit

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Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by iPrevail(m): 3:10pm On Apr 03, 2015
sprinkles14:

This has got nothing to do with money please...saying the guy is earning a good salary is just to add to his qualities....money isn't a factor of what's on ground please...my family back ground is very okay...and my family is handling almost everything for the ceremonious wedding.....Thank you for your contribution.

I don't fvckinq care!... What you've done and what you're about to do to that guy is just pure wickedness.

However.. I have thought about it, perhaps there's a reason for it all. Petty things often carelessly ignored can rip life out of any relationship.
But the issue is that you shouldn't have let it get to this stage.. This is something I'm convinced you felt long before now.
Woman... You should have told him the love was gone before he proposed!

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Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by cleric(m): 3:11pm On Apr 03, 2015
My dear. I will strongly advice you not to go ahead till you are sure he rocks your boat again. Many married people wish they can go back in time to undo their marriages. Whatever you are experiencing now will only worsen when married. So I won't appear to be a prophet of doom, follow ur heart and listen to God's direction.

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Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Vikky014(f): 3:13pm On Apr 03, 2015
kalakuta11:
Bisi so this is ur plan. You plan to leave me after all ive done for you. Thank God for nairaland for helping me figure out this . You would have told me directly and not plan to destroy my life after marriage.
hahahahahaha. bisi ke

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Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by ayarandy10: 3:14pm On Apr 03, 2015
dis is one problem our generation will b grappling with...
charles316:
This is the reason ladies are adviced to close their legs in their youth. Cos after sometime, nothing about their potential husbands interest them.

Don't let him waste his money on the wedding then. Go look for the guy that interest you.

Your mates will kill to be in your shoes.
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by bukatyne(f): 3:15pm On Apr 03, 2015
kboycrew:
Listen and listen well. If the guy loves you, then you are making the best decision. I ve ignored reading other comments because they may change my mind on what to tell you.
I ve said it and I will say it again. Women are ment to respond 2 love and not to fall in love before marriage.
God created women to identify and respond to the man who loves them. In marriage you will gradually start falling in love with the man who treats you with respect, who is proud of you among friends, takes care of your children, parents. Who plans your future home with you, sets up a family business, workes hard to put your children in the best schools, stand by you against his family. ... when that time comes you will know and naturally fall in love with the man over and over again and forget this your childish excitement.
Look at it this other way. You are so excited today , love him die but he feels just excited about your body looks 2day. With time when these things fade away, he starts 2 cheat on you, irritated by your presence and disrespects you in public. That is when you will realise it is better to marry a man who loves you than the one you love.
Many married women 2day wish they were in your shoes to go back and marry that guy that loved them rather than the one they married who is presently dealing with them at home.
Unfortunately most of them don't ve the time to come this forum and offer that advice because they are too chocked taking care of the children all alone including the big baby thier husbands.

Only a lady who wants such a man would appreciate him.

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Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Nobody: 3:15pm On Apr 03, 2015
The OP voiced her concern and her feelings, and she is being judged. I congratulate her boldness. So many women and men are going through this exact thing and do not have the boldness to air it, thanks for anonymity that nairaland offers.

OP, do what you have to do. It is not every ejaculation that ends in pregnancy. It is too late to call it off, but not too late for a divorce. In the end, happiness is what matters. I can not say that the guy is not sensing that you do not love him anymore, I bet he knows, but I guess you are just too beautiful for him to lose, but will certainly lose. Life is not fair and we shouldnt expect marriages to work 100%, humans were not naturally intended to be married. We invented marriage.

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Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by uzoexcel(m): 3:17pm On Apr 03, 2015
i hope for the poor guy's sake that he's reading this and he ll v the courage to break up with u and find a better lady who would value him...as for u, @#$##$%%#%$%$^%$#$$$^$#^%$#$$%$^^#$ angry

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Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by macaveli001(m): 3:18pm On Apr 03, 2015
If u were not intrested wat were u diong with him for a whole four yrs. OYO

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Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by treny(f): 3:18pm On Apr 03, 2015
goodmorning40:
Not many Are this lucky. Why did u keep punishing the guy for 4 yrs and now u are planning to shatter his life, after spending his life saving to marry u, and u are already planning how to run away u are wicked. Since u have pushed on till this time why not slow down and relax for the guy and with the guy, there is no greener pasture elsewhere. Stop playing games with a human heart

I'd preferred you left without a comment, you just have to waste space..... The lady needs advice not criticism after all, you might be in worse shoes and we don't Just don't know it
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by redsun(m): 3:19pm On Apr 03, 2015
Should we call this arranged or forced marriage? Marriage of convenience and traditional staffed necked alliances that usually leave the victims unfulfilled and lounging for something more exciting.

Never play the zombie, life is too short and it is just one shot.

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Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by bid4rich(m): 3:19pm On Apr 03, 2015
My dear, this is a very serious situation you found yourself. Going about it may be tough but you have to do something.

The pain on the guy side may make him not to trust any woman again forever.

You on the other part may find someone attactive but never caring as he is and you may end up with pretenders and life destroyers that may end up with ''had I know''

There are some things also that you will do to someone that if he did not talk, nemesis will surely catch up.

If there is a way you can re-ignite the love you once had when you first started, it will do a lot of good BUT if there is still no love for him I advise you call him today and resolve/dissolve it but you may have to face the consequence later on in life.
NOTE: God is the first factor in marriage and happiness is the second and you cannot find happiness without God. Therefore go to God if he is man for you or not, for a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.

Lastly, dont go into that marriage with divorce at heart. Remember God says ''I hate divorce'' May God be with you.

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Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by macaveli001(m): 3:19pm On Apr 03, 2015
If u were not intrested wat were u doing with him for a whole four yrs. OYO

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Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Nobody: 3:19pm On Apr 03, 2015
How can U feel something, when u PHUCKK him everyday for 4YEARS..

It can't be better again..

U people are already MARRIED.
U married 4years ago.

That's Y HONEYMOON and WEDDING NIGHT are useless these days.

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Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Dahjhi: 3:19pm On Apr 03, 2015
elantraceey:
I only have pity for the guy who is probably thinking you love him as much as much as he loves you.


Please hurt him now than to hurt him later when children are now involved undecided

Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by treny(f): 3:21pm On Apr 03, 2015
ellabooz:
Women are evil and source of pain.

Be careful who you adopt into your live as wife.

Imagine the unthinkable by this evil minded lady capable of crippling her hubby's wheels of progress.

Please see your pastor for real deliverance.

Do not judge that you might not be judged!!!

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Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by jevic(m): 3:21pm On Apr 03, 2015
The TRUTH will always prevail. In other words, since you feel nothing for him, tell him the truth and then take a walk. T's gonna kill him.

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Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by bukatyne(f): 3:22pm On Apr 03, 2015
sprinkles14:

As I write you this letter, I'm not happy and not fulfilled. I'm getting married in less than one month to my boyfriend of 4years, but I must confess that nothing and I mean absolutely nothing interest and excites me about this guy. I don't feel complete with this guy at all..
I've been turning deaf ears to this inner voice but I kept pretending and forcing it on myself hoping I will get along sooner or later.
I must confess, this guy is a complete gentle man with a good paying job, full of ideas, loving and caring and everything about me is his priority. He's loved by all my family members and everybody around me. Calling of the wedding ceremony will be an outrageous thing to do because of the embarrassment to our families, friends and the guy in particular.
Have made a conclusion within me...after getting married, I will convince my the guy to allow me travel out of the country, maybe if I'm away, I can start a new life out of Nigeria chore and if this doesn't work, I will either file for a divorce after one year or cheat on my husband to make me happy.
Please a very constructive critics and advice will be highly appreciated.
Thank you.

unfulfilled bride to be.

The problem I have is your selfishness

You are thinking on moving with the motions and hurting him later.

That said, What kept you for 4yrs?

Would like an answer

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Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by uzoexcel(m): 3:23pm On Apr 03, 2015
babes i really fear una
maryhaam:
It might sound false,but is true have also pass through this,we have been dating since my uni days,he likes me,like ke love,he can do anything for me,if I offend him, he will be the one to beg,he loves me,he can buy me anything,he over pamper me,wht else can I qualify him with,but I don't love him,i thought with his attitude that I will love him,i try all my best,i never cheated on him,i pray to love him Buh is a matter of the heart,after 3yrs I hurt him eventually with the truth,the truth I should have told him long ago,but he won't accept I can't c him hurt,hes a rare gem,wish him all the best,matters of heart r dicey,op if u can't love him fr 4yrs,u can't

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Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by HARDDON: 3:25pm On Apr 03, 2015
castruccio:
one of the major reasons i dont fall in love... i just fear and Love God Chase my money and dreams no time for emotional shit

At the end of it all, u got all ur money stacked in Ghana must go, yet no one to share life with....


Ain't no other lonely men worse than this

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Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by donhils: 3:25pm On Apr 03, 2015
sprinkles14:

As I write you this letter, I'm not happy and not fulfilled. I'm getting married in less than one month to my boyfriend of 4years, but I must confess that nothing and I mean absolutely nothing interest and excites me about this guy. I don't feel complete with this guy at all..
I've been turning deaf ears to this inner voice but I kept pretending and forcing it on myself hoping I will get along sooner or later.
I must confess, this guy is a complete gentle man with a good paying job, full of ideas, loving and caring and everything about me is his priority. He's loved by all my family members and everybody around me. Calling of the wedding ceremony will be an outrageous thing to do because of the embarrassment to our families, friends and the guy in particular.
Have made a conclusion within me...after getting married, I will convince my the guy to allow me travel out of the country, maybe if I'm away, I can start a new life out of Nigeria chore and if this doesn't work, I will either file for a divorce after one year or cheat on my husband to make me happy.
Please a very constructive critics and advice will be highly appreciated.
Thank you.

unfulfilled bride to be.
This is a joke cos nobody talks like this and expect to hear reasonable responses.

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Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Nobody: 3:26pm On Apr 03, 2015
[b][/bVery wicked indeed
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by otr1(m): 3:28pm On Apr 03, 2015
What class of brainless animal are you?
You see why most ladies will never live a happy life?
If you were my sister, I'd just put an end to your useless life. Eranko!


Love a lady at your own peril.
They only love and respect you only if you're a rough figure over them.
Only average men place too much value on ladiescheesy

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Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by mindworx: 3:29pm On Apr 03, 2015
EggovinMma:
Eeaya. Na still GODWIN.
After 4 years, this isn't fair!
I don't know what to say, but one thing I know for sure is this, NEVER LEAVE A GOOD MAN!

and you want to leave me.. sad
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Nobody: 3:31pm On Apr 03, 2015
sprinkles14:

As I write you this letter, I'm not happy and not fulfilled. I'm getting married in less than one month to my boyfriend of 4years, but I must confess that nothing and I mean absolutely nothing interest and excites me about this guy. I don't feel complete with this guy at all..
I've been turning deaf ears to this inner voice but I kept pretending and forcing it on myself hoping I will get along sooner or later.
I must confess, this guy is a complete gentle man with a good paying job, full of ideas, loving and caring and everything about me is his priority. He's loved by all my family members and everybody around me. Calling of the wedding ceremony will be an outrageous thing to do because of the embarrassment to our families, friends and the guy in particular.
Have made a conclusion within me...after getting married, I will convince my the guy to allow me travel out of the country, maybe if I'm away, I can start a new life out of Nigeria chore and if this doesn't work, I will either file for a divorce after one year or cheat on my husband to make me happy.
Please a very constructive critics and advice will be highly appreciated.
Thank you.

unfulfilled bride to be.
why start what you can't finishtravelling with d guys pay without an iota of likeness only makes you a THIEF!bet you are from the....
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by olubenjazzy(m): 3:31pm On Apr 03, 2015
Walk away is d best. Option dan break his hrt later. He won't forgive you o. Forget d shame n wareva n just liv. na my #1naira advice for u be dt o

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Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Donmichaelz(m): 3:31pm On Apr 03, 2015
wale adenuga presents
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This
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. superstory
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Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by phetty(m): 3:31pm On Apr 03, 2015
Billyonaire:
...Life is not fair and we shouldnt expect marriages to work 100%, humans were not naturally intended to be married. We invented marriage.

So Adam and Eve invented marriage
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Housing(m): 3:32pm On Apr 03, 2015
If it is sexual satisfaction that you don't get, it is better to quit instead of cheating on him. Howeve, I believe it is imimmaturity, you mentioned that the guy is all what you need in terms of quality yet you don't feel anything for him again, if may be sincere with you are already cheating on me. Young ladies usually prefer some fantasies that will soon fade out in matters of a year or two only to be regretting later. My dear you better start fasting be more prayerful so that you that the envy of every ladies don't become an epitome of a failure.
Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Missmossy(f): 3:32pm On Apr 03, 2015
shocked Oh Lord! This is heart breaking, your thoughts are inhuman. Be kind enough to call it off now and don't even go on with the Wedding plans biko.

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Re: Getting Married Next Month And Nothing Interest Me About My Hubby To Be! by Doortun(m): 3:38pm On Apr 03, 2015
kboycrew:
Listen and listen well. If the guy loves you, then you are making the best decision. I ve ignored reading other comments because they may change my mind on what to tell you.
I ve said it and I will say it again. Women are ment to respond 2 love and not to fall in love before marriage.
God created women to identify and respond to the man who loves them. In marriage you will gradually start falling in love with the man who treats you with respect, who is proud of you among friends, takes care of your children, parents. Who plans your future home with you, sets up a family business, workes hard to put your children in the best schools, stand by you against his family. ... when that time comes you will know and naturally fall in love with the man over and over again and forget this your childish excitement.
Look at it this other way. You are so excited today , love him die but he feels just excited about your body looks 2day. With time when these things fade away, he starts 2 cheat on you, irritated by your presence and disrespects you in public. That is when you will realise it is better to marry a man who loves you than the one you love.
Many married women 2day wish they were in your shoes to go back and marry that guy that loved them rather than the one they married who is presently dealing with them at home.
Unfortunately most of them don't ve the time to come this forum and offer that advice because they are too chocked taking care of the children all alone including the big baby thier husbands.


You made sense Bro. People shouldn't blame the lady, we are all here acting like judge Judy when we don't know the real fact. Maybe there's more to it.

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