I'm talking about fate here - when feelings are so powerful it's as if some force beyond your control is guiding you to someone who can make you happy beyond your wildest dreams."
Love is not about finding the right person, but creating a right relationship.

It's not about how much love you have in the beginning but how much love you build till the end If you like someone, tell him/her, because you might found out that they like you too You fail to see the one who loves you standing right in front as does she fail to see you love her in turn.

Don't wait to tell her, because it might be too late then. It is better to go for someone who loves you, rather than someone who you love ....
The first time my heart was broken I feel Hopeless, despondent, desperate. It was the worst emotional pain I have been through in my life, by far. The two most traumatizing experiences of my life were when I had my heart broken, and when I
got my wisdom teeth out and experienced dry sockets. (anyone who's had them knows what I mean)
I would not wish the pain I felt after having my heart broken on my worst enemy. Truly. Not a person in the world deserves that pain. It feels like
you will never be okay again. It feels like they were the only person in the world that truly knew you, and no one will ever replace them or make you happy again (which isn't true)

It feels like everything is meaningless without them. Your friends and family are there for you and try to make you laugh and be okay again, but the only person that can make you feel better is the
only person that won't be there for you. I was young and naive which I think made my pain a lot worse. At this stage in my life currently, I have coping mechanisms. I am more in touch with reality.

I never saw the break-up coming, and was so naive I NEVER even entertained the thought that this relationship would ever end. It just wasn't an option.
This all happened in 2012. Since that time till date, I have never seen some one that deserves me, but all I believe is that TIME HEALS ALL THINGS! I have walked a lot of people through their break ups and you think things will NEVER BE OKAY AGAIN, but I promise you from the bottom of my heart, that they will be okay again.

My heartbreak seems like it happened in another person's life. It doesn't seem like it happened to me, but it was a long recovery. Life goes on, I promise you.

Here Are My Tips Of Finding A Real Partner

1. Don’t focus on finding a partner.
Focus on building a great relationship
with yourself.
If you want anything in life to work out,
you must have a trusting and loving
relationship with yourself first. This is the
primary focus in my life coaching work,
because a positive self-image truly paves
to road for any happiness, opportunity,
and lasting joy in life.
Check in with yourself: how do you treat
yourself? How do you speak to yourself?
How do you hold yourself back and why?

2. Replace anxiety with faith.
People who have found real love, didn’t
get permanently caught up in anxiety,
believing they will never find love. Rather, they remember to trust in divine timing.
Negative, fearful thoughts only increase
anxiety and an anxious mind never
speaks nicely to the self.
Your thoughts create your reality, so by
thinking negatively you're essentially
manifesting what you don’t want. Train
yourself to think positively, expecting the
good.

3. Believe (and really believe) that you deserve to be loved.
This is a frequent underlying (often
unconscious) limiting belief that many of
my clients carry with them: fear of not
being good enough and not being love-
worthy. It's the number one way in which
many people sabotage themselves and
their quest for love.
If you don’t believe you're love-worthy,
why would anyone else think that you
are? You have to shed this limiting belief
and stop sabotaging yourself with your
thoughts about yourself if you want to
find true love.

4. Learn to receive the love that is
offered to you.
It's a bit counter-intuitive, but receiving is
a much more vulnerable act of showing
yourself to another person than giving.
You are basically telling another person,
“You make me happy,” which is both a
very empowering statement to make and
one that makes you feel vulnerable.
The question is: can you show gratitude
and pleasure to other people openly and
without feeling ashamed or guilty?

5. Let go of your checklist of must-
haves for your ideal partner.
While it’s good to know what you like and
don’t like, you also don’t want to narrow
your worldview and create stubborn
tunnel vision. Must-have lists are
formulated from a head space, but the
head isn’t what falls in love or has
compassion during inevitable tough
times.
Often, the qualities you will most
appreciate and honor in your partner are
the ones you didn’t even know you
needed. Loosen up and trust that life will
send you the love of your life!

6. Give people the benefit of the
doubt.
Are you interpreting every ever-so-slightly confusing signal you get from a potential mate as an offense to you and a red flag or a sign that they aren't trustworthy after all? Or are you able to stop yourself from over-analyzing everything and believe that the person you have met has their heart in the right place?
Believing in the good of another person,
even if you have been disappointed, will
make your life much more free and
joyful. Don’t let past experiences
determine your future.

7. Become an effective and honest
communicator.
You cannot selectively be a good communicator with some people and a terrible communicator with others. You are either someone who has the integrity and the courage to be heard and speak their mind honestly, or you are hanging on to a tendency to suppress, avoid, or silence communication.

The good news is that communication
patterns can be worked on and improved
pretty much every second of your waking
life. Ask yourself, "Am I honest and
sincere with myself? Am I expressing
myself in full integrity to what I truly
think and feel?"

8. Look for good role models.
Role models matter greatly, because we
learn from observing others starting the
moment we were born. Even if your
parents weren’t in the greatest marriage,
you can look to other relationships that
you admire and pick out the attributes
you like the most.
When observing couples you respect try
and identify exactly how the couples
supports each other. How do they speak
to one another? How do they show each
other love? By asking these questions,
you are essentially increasing your
awareness for the kind of relationships
that do work, rather than having a
running list of things you don’t want in
your own love life.

In the comments I’d love to hear from
you: what can you do and improve upon
now that will help make your future
relationship bloom freely? I've seen
hundreds of people work on themselves,
change their expectations, and learn to
embrace who they are.
I know you can do
this too!
Take the first step today!
Thank you...

Firstly let me thank you for bringing this simple yet often over looked knowledge into my reality.

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.


I've attracted this knowledge today because I have spent the last year working on myself.
I have heard the cliche, "if you don't love yourself nobody will" and although I understood the meaning of this state and even thought that I was loving myself obviously, turns out that was far from the truth.

I felt like troubles and bad people followed me around and it just wasn't my fault. At one point I even decided the world was mad and I'm the only sane person. This wasn't until a secret found it's way into my life. A simple sentence took me on a journey that took a year and I'm still not done with this journey but that sentence:

*YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT MOST*


This changed everything in my life as I closely followed my thought it shocked me how much negative thoughts and energy I was lagging about. I started at Number 1 simple Gratitude (this was harder than it sounds) this act cleared my head of negative thoughts after an intense practice lasting 30days.

I am know at the stage of acceptance and self compassion. Next stop believing I am worthy of all things good. Be it health, love, happiness and of course wealth.

Coming across this thread, after meeting someone new and fearing that all my old habits would creep, has helped me to jump another spot and receive love.

No it's not too good to be true. It is true.


Ask, believe and receive.


Thank you op and apologies for any errors or typos. If this thread helps just one person, it's done it's purpose. Thank you x

.

when one learns to truly love himself, he or she becomes a dynamo of love - radiating & attracting love.

keep it up, DarkAngel!
very soon, ............... "LightAngel"

ratatis:
when one learns to truly love himself, he or she becomes a dynamo of love - radiating & attracting love.

keep it up, DarkAngel!
very soon, ............... "LightAngel"

Thank you for this

Following

ronald4lif:
What's true love.

What is love?

Observing

ronald4lif:


A strong feeling of affection and/or concern for another person accompanied by sexual attraction. etc

What's the "true" (about) love.

Ain't no such as 'true love'. It's either love or it's not. No such thing as fake or true love

ronald4lif:


Exactly the reason why I asked the question. It's either it is love or could be anything else.

It is my believe that the phrase "true love" is an illusion to keep people busy searching for their personal utopia and feel lesser pain of reality. Love is love and just like you said I also don't subscribe with the true love expression.

I guess we hitting on same point. Dunno why people do use both words together. I laugh when I see people talk bout 'true love'.

DarkAngel86:


Thank you for this

You're welcome!

BTW, the ability to express your gratitude is another virtue. It helps you to maintain yourself "upstream", in the positive state.