MayorNaija:



Why don't you believe my story?because he did not break bottle or use hammer to break the guy's head?different people with different level of emotional control.my brother it happened,pls contribute meaningfully.

softapple:
lol na xo na, d eyes na 2 c

MayorNaija:

Fellow Nairalanders,a problem shared they say is a problem half solved,on that faithful morning,my friend left for work in a hurry cuz he was already late,after about thirty minutes he discovered that he was not with his tablet"phone",he had no choice but to go back home to get his phone,on getting home the first thing he discovered was that the door was locked which is unusual at that time of the day as his wife was supposed to be busy preparing the children for school before going to her shop,he rang the door bell but it took sometime for his wife to get the door,even when she did she wasn't her usual self and that raised his suspicion because of what neighbors have been telling him about his wife but he chosed not to believe.
He told his wife that he came back because he forgot his phone,his wife offered to fetch the handset but he followed her inside,the children who ought to hv taken their bath were still sleeping,since it was a room and parlor the guy entered the bedroom and behold the intruder was hiding beside their wardrobe.
without making any trouble he asked the guy to leave his house which he did.
My friend left for work but have not returned to his house till date,my friend always complained of his wife starving him of sex,he also told me that for the five yrs of his marriage his wife has never for once initiated sex,anytime he makes the move she always have one excuse or the other.their marriage is blessed with two kids,a boy and a girl,he has been sending money for the children's upkeep but now his mum and family members are sueing for peace,he said he left his house for the woman because of his children whom he said ll be better taken care of by their mother since they are still very young,he has also vowed never to marry again but now his mother is mounting pressure on him to forgive his wife and go back home,what should he do?go back to his wife or go ahead and get another apartment for himself?the woman in question said it was the devil that pushed her into it but have not shown deep remorse for her action,each time she calls my friend its always about the money for the children's wellfair.
Nairalanders the ball is now in your court,pls matured advice if needed.

fellis:
Lies.

lies and more lies, op is a jobless attention seeker. so the woman decided to cheat in front of her children knowing fully well they can tell their father about it? she didn't even leave the house sef she did it in the compound where the neighbours can report her if the kids fail to do so.

I hear.

even though the story is fake its very nice to see men on this thread shouting all over the place and calling the woman names because she cheated. if a man did the cheating the first thing they would have said is that the wife is not fulfilling her obligations as a wife, she is not submissive, she is not satisfying him sexually and other selfish misorgynistic justifications.

bonna4u:
Naaaansense! Since the wife is not remorseful, he should go and throw her out of the house. Your friend shouldn't forget to rid her of his children because she has nothing good to offer them. He should thank me later.

MayorNaija:



Why don't you believe my story?because he did not break bottle or use hammer to break the guy's head?different people with different level of emotional control.my brother it happened,pls contribute meaningfully.

ebonflex:


That's a very silly outlook.
So in your mind, a man is only a man if he is yelling and shouting and punching and making a scene?
Besides the guy's wife (who is a walking sack of warm vomit as far as I'm concerned), females like you are part of an even deeper problem in these dark final days.
Praising/rewarding emotionally weak and selfish behavior (especially from guys), yet penalizing/demonizing feats of true-strength, care, honor, calm and internal control.

Do you know how much internal control is needed to handle and maintain things the way he did?
If God himself was to "man up" according to you, there would be piles of smoldering ashes where human beings used to stand every second....including you.

I don't support him remaining with her, but as far as how he handled the situation, he has my 10 points.
Do the next generation of females a favor and work on your reasoning!

naijaboiy:

What kind of questions are you just asking oga?

Has she not made it clear to you enough already?

EggovinMma:
Ontop matrimonial bed?
Truth be told, if I be man, that's the end!

mizkeleke:

They should take things out....No need for a divorce.
Shit they say happens....

toyeoye:
What about the kids?? Are they his?? DNA sharply

ebonflex:


Rokiatu

stupifying, lobotomizing and making mindless/unopinionated slaves out of thirsty boys who visit her profile since 77 AD

Awoofawo:


He is indirect toasting Ro....k, just trying to know whether she the kind that is hooked on for better, for worst....

No Mind am

sweatlana:
Forget pride. If she is remorseful please go back for the sale of your kids. It's not only a woman who should stay in marriage for the sake of her kids!
Go back and learn how to satisfy your woman.
When something is broken you fix it not throw if away.

Loneliness is a wicked companion
If you opt to remarry your chances of unhappiness and divorce are even higher in you 2nd marriage than in the 1st.

Make the hard but right choice.

seeker121:
ehnnnnnn na to send the woman packing cos she has ridicule her husband,matrimonial bed and ur own apartment omo wetin i dey talk sef dat guy must leave that house with injury for him prick.

rokiatu:
One of the reasons she cheated on him in the first place is because he's too nice and she take that for granted. I still can't believe his reaction.
HE really need to man up and grow some balls.
You give some women too much freedom and they will sit on your neck.

mizkeleke:
Hmmmmmm a cheat and a nice dude.....way too opposite

Joy1706:
First, let your friend check himself. He might have 'pushed' his wife out. Maybe he stopped satisfying her in bed. Maybe he stopped paying attention to her. How about his appearance? I'm guessing the young bobo she cheated with is trim and fit. Maybe her husband added a lot of weight and stopped grooming himself. Secondly, he's the head of his home. He should get on his knees and pray for his wife and show her more love. Sit her down and have a heart to heart with her. It's for better, for worse o. Besides what is the guarantee that the next woman he marries will be different? He needs to forgive her and make it work.

Joy1706:
First, let your friend check himself. He might have 'pushed' his wife out. Maybe he stopped satisfying her in bed. Maybe he stopped paying attention to her. How about his appearance? I'm guessing the young bobo she cheated with is trim and fit. Maybe her husband added a lot of weight and stopped grooming himself. Secondly, he's the head of his home. He should get on his knees and pray for his wife and show her more love. Sit her down and have a heart to heart with her. It's for better, for worse o. Besides what is the guarantee that the next woman he marries will be different? He needs to forgive her and make it work.

MayorNaija:



Why don't you believe my story?because he did not break bottle or use hammer to break the guy's head?different people with different level of emotional control.my brother it happened,pls contribute meaningfully.

angelTI:
This is super story...

Always a friend or cousin...

Yeye story

francescainnoce:
Nuf said... I'm commenting based on the fact that she is not showing any remorse whatsoever which means she isn't truly sorry which means she would do it again if given the Chance which means that the man has got himself much than he bargained for which means that a better approach will be just about the only way out..for peace..
Well I'm not judging the woman because this is only a side to the story however i understand what the man is likey going through atm...
Marrying an infidelity woman is like sitting on an upright sharpened sword...
May God take away every spirit of infidelity that might rise against me when I get Married... My mum told me that an infidelity woman brings badluck to her household and PLS tell me who doesn't want a prosperous and happy home....

jcmaiah:
Why is it that every story in nairaland is "my friend" "my friend". No body wan talk say Na them.