ITbomb:
I fear the girl has a lot hidden, typical of retired runs babe who return to church and live holy and humble to secure a husband.

For me, sexual compatibility is very important in marriage. If after marriage, you discover a very deep and wide hole, pls endure it

did you say endure? hahahahahajjajajajajajahahahaha bro you no be better person ooo see the kind advice you de give your fellow man ( abi woman cos the guy jonse wella by doing the trad without tapping that puna) meeeeeehn I've experienced that shiiiiii with a potential side chick, she looked innocent, fresh, beautiful and stuff but damn I was in a wrong lane, was angry with her when I discovered the shii and had to discharge her that evening after a planned adventurous night. seriously there is nothing to endure at all and you get to start wondering, calculating how, what happened to make this shii to be loose on you. you just can't continue but her mad for the wasted time and get the bittch to relieve you with some head, how can one live with a borehole like that Girl

Chinum:


Thanks Sis, I would think twice abt entering such a union.

Smh.
So traditional wedding is not wedding?



Traditional wedding is the real deal!

Before y'all put on the holy-than-thou attitude, check your bible!!!

Joavid:


Smh.
So traditional wedding is not wedding?



Traditional wedding is the real deal!

Before y'all put on the holy-than-thou attitude, check your bible!!!

Nobody is putting on any holy-than-thou attitude, just do what works for U and let me do mine okay?

Chinum:


Nobody is putting on any holy-than-thou attitude, just do what works for U okay and let me do mine okay?

Yes you are.

Keziehenry:
This issue is about causing problem in a family now. Whats your view pls.

so the dude actually reported his wife to a third party??

Vinshu:


What is so urgent in sex that the so called husband cannot wait for a few days (maximum of 2 weeks) to complete a marriage at the church?

U mean marriage in church is the only one you recognize? No problem.

I concur with her and if all ladies were like this they wouldn't have cried everyday

when will u people understand that the real marriage is the traditional marriage where the bride price is been paid. going to church is for blessing of the marriage and to acquire certificate. if a pastor attends your traditional marriage and bless you during the celebration, the marriage is as authentic as anyone done everywhere in the world. if you go to church without paying a bride-price sorry u are not fully wedded. some churches will ask you before the commencement of the white wedding if the groom as paid the bride-price?

if she is refusing sex after the traditional marriage, it is either she is hiding sometin or she is been brain-washed by people who convinced her that it is wrong until they do white wedding.

but if she is hiding sometin and you discovered after the white wedding, then you can annul the wedding cos it is done under false pretense that means there was never a wedding cos it was on lie.

Joavid:


Yes you are.

If choosing to live my life in a way dats diff from yours means putting on a holy-than-thou attitude then so be it.

duduade:
so the dude actually reported his wife to a third party??

it may not be to 3rd party but btw d husband and the wife.

duduade:
so the dude actually reported his wife to a third party??

With these red flags, I'm beginning to feel for d lady.

She NEVER JAM man...
I just pray she will come my way.
Please, Go and ASK the LADIES ,I have dealt with.

I have walked out of a MOTHER in LAW, who insisted I must go for the wedding HALL , she chose..That amounted to about #600K in portHARCOURT...

I told her I would concede to that, if she would provide the cash, I was FED UP and left things unattended to.
NOW, they are pleading for my Return after MONTHS.

Thank God , All men are not the same..
At least EVERYMAN HAS AN ATOM of BEAST in him , it just depends on the LIMIT he can take.

Orubebe01:

Not to the 3rd party but btw d husband and the wife.

Indirectly telling us that the guy is you?

kunletoks:
That's rubbish. So what's the essence of the traditional wedding.
Woman and their wahala.
Now after church wedding she will bring another super story.

Nah so e dey take start..

olasosweet:
Shey he has already endured and reached trad wedding... one or 2 more weeks will not kill him na.


Mayb it's her own way of ensuring that he does the white wedding too

Okay, you have already saved up the money meant for his white wedding..

You haven't seen people who do trad and wait another 6 months before white wedding ? Abi you produce wedding calendar ?

Vinshu:


What is so urgent in sex that the so called husband cannot wait for a few days (maximum of 2 weeks) to complete a marriage at the church?

I am sure you don't know what it takes to earn and save money.

For your mind, wedding calendar states that white wedding takes place 2 weeks after traditional.. Some ladies self.

Enegod:
she is trying to control the man. He should man up and tell her, no more white wedding or threaten her with divorce . Trust me, she will give it up

Exactly, tell her you are no more interested, not only her will beg, even her famy will join her..

Can you give you the name of the church?

Ruttashobolwa:
I concur with her and if all ladies were like this they wouldn't have cried everyday

U mean a man cannot still leave you or make you cry even after the church wedding?

Keziehenry:

With the high rate of women begging men for mariage dis days ?

Maybe in Nigeria.

Keziehenry:
This issue is about causing problem in a family now. Whats your view pls.

just endure the wait and punish her with too much afterwards

Naughtysite:


I am sure you don't know what it takes to earn and save money.

For your mind, wedding calendar states that white wedding takes place 2 weeks after traditional.. Some ladies self.

Well, if the man is not "Man-Enough" to sponsor a Wedding completely, that means he cannot sponsor a family! Why is he getting married? Most marriages dissolve very quickly these days because of the Men! Most of them marry for the sake of pleasure(Sex) without having the Financial resources! Listen to yourself, so the wife would wait until he earns money before wearing white? That is bull-shit. I said it before on a previous thread that Nigerian ladies have Poor quality standards.. That is why they are never respected. Most of them are actually bought/purchased in the name of wedding.

Is he truly in love with her or he is after her just because of the sex?

Over-Christianity is messing with her head. She believes the traditional wedding isn't ordained by God. My wife did the same but I didn't really care because I know why she opted for it. Guy, just relax. Africans are too sentimental and ignorant. Most of them don't even know there is nothing like church wedding in the bible. Oyibo wey bring church give them go don even straff for years before their court marriage nobi even church wedding...Ndi ala!

Vinshu:


Well, if the man is not "Man-Enough" to sponsor a Wedding completely, that means he cannot sponsor a family! Why is he getting married? Most marriages dissolve very quickly these days because of the Men! Most of them marry for the sake of pleasure(Sex) without having the Financial resources! Listen to yourself, so the wife would wait until he earns money before wearing white? That is bull-shit. I said it before on a previous thread that Nigerian ladies have Poor quality standards.. That is why they are never respected. Most of them are actually bought/purchased in the name of wedding.

Where did you get the idea that most men marry for sex? Speak for those you know...In the US people cohabit and have bunch of kids without even getting married. What's wrong with African women and their reasoning?

OdenigboAroli:


Where did you get the idea that most men marry for sex? Speak for those you know...In the US people cohabit and have bunch of kids without even getting married. What's wrong with African women and their reasoning?

Most African Men do! Its a fact. Judging by the comments on this thread, it is obvious. The worst thing a man could do is to deceive himself. Read the comments over and see what "Men" are saying. They point it out like Sex was the purpose of the wedding.

I am not African actually, i am European and i am married so i understand a few things.

Vinshu:
The wedding in the church is the only wedding recognized by God! All traditional marriages are for your own self and to your idols and gods .. to the sight of God you are still comitting fornication if you have sex before the church wedding.

forgive me but you are very stupid for this post,bible said 'you shall leave you parents house and be joined as one' meaning ur parent will have to agree and not ur pastor,correct me if i'm wrong.

Yeye men and their daft views on sex!

Vinshu:


Well, if the man is not "Man-Enough" to sponsor a Wedding completely, that means he cannot sponsor a family! Why is he getting married? Most marriages dissolve very quickly these days because of the Men! Most of them marry for the sake of pleasure(Sex) without having the Financial resources! Listen to yourself, so the wife would wait until he earns money before wearing white? That is bull-shit. I said it before on a previous thread that Nigerian ladies have Poor quality standards.. That is why they are never respected. Most of them are actually bought/purchased in the name of wedding.

I have seen men who have built their own houses, run their own businesses yet they dont have money for white wedding. Don't get carried away by norms imposed on you by the white man. In your analogy if he doesn't have N1m for his white wedding, he cannot take care of a woman. That's why you need to get a job and save money to assist your husband when he will marry you.


Go to the bible and also african traditional religion. Marriage involves paying a woman's bride price and her father giving consent to transfer the care of her daughter to another man.

Not wearing white gown when you have slept with him and many other men. Smh..

The lady in question is suspecting foul play Dats why.

Kingsasian:
Is he truly in love with her or he is after her just because of the sex?

marriage, sex and love are integral part of each other, the are interwoven in the sense that u can't define one without d other... Stop creating artificial distinction here to mislead others

Vinshu:


Most African Men do! Its a fact. Judging by the comments on this thread, it is obvious. The worst thing a man could do is to deceive himself. Read the comments over and see what "Men" are saying. They point it out like Sex was the purpose of the wedding.

I am not African actually, i am European and i am married so i understand a few things.

you dont seem to get the point..
The lady in question is denying her husband sex only on d ground that she wants white wedding..
And most of us are of d view that that is idiotic and silly.. There are some reasonable excuses why wives could say no to sex to thier hubby but to premise that to white wedding alone create a whole lot of suspicion on the lady as if traditional marriage where the two families consent and bride price paid is not legally binding..
Before the advent of christianity, marriage existed in Africa and does nt need any extraneous factor to authenticate it..
As far as I'm concerned, the lady in question lacked common sense and those urging her on would hv acted differently...