SaMajeste:
Didn't you notice her attitude when you were dating? I don't want to believe she just started exhibiting such all of a sudden.
As you said, maybe she's taking advantage of your regard for women knowing you would tolerate such rubbish. As much as I love your respect for women, I feel you should be a bit tougher because sadly, not all women should be treated with kid gloves. Some don't understand gentility, they see it as a sign of weakness.
Pray for her too.
It is well with you!

jauntty:
Keeping Malice is a "Lagoon Spirit".

Savvyij:
i dont think is best 4 u 2 say ur marriage is crashing. Anyway all u ave to do is sit her down n talk to u, tell her about d way u feel, expecially d words she uses on u. I wish u d best.

ewizard1:

But next time, try read a post properly before commenting. .. it would save you a lot of stress and bash Quotes.

Moana:
Sit down and talk to her one day and figure out whats really going on. There is no smoke without fire. Look for a day when you can do things just the 2 of you, talk through everything.

Sometimes it could even be frustrations from work or school that get the best of her and then she ends up misplacing her anger. And if this is truly the case help her deal with her issues.

It doesnt help to just say im tired of this marriage and not do anything about it. Figure out where the root of the problem is and fix it.

Another thing, are you still doing the fun things you used to do when you were dating? is there still spark in the relationship? Do you guys still behave like you are a young couple? Do you still go out for dinner or long walks like before?

omonnakoda:
I believe they are Nigerian. Long walk to where? Is he Mandela??

multicast:
I am a fervent reader on Nairaland and i dont miss this forum in 1 day, i have seen people share their concerns here and a lot of people have contributed through their comments, though some are hillarious while others are on point. i will appreciate matured responses.

I did not marry a stranger to start with and its why i am very pained cuz i come here on nairaland and see how people get frustrated about their marriage based on cogent reasons but mine is different.

first of all, I got married in february and am already very tired of my wife, not because she isnt very sexy or good in bed as other may experienced but because my wife starts arguments from little things as little as why did u miss my call, even if its a BBM call thats dependent of network, after hours of begging i have to end up with uncountable "am sorry".

secondly, my wife find it very easy to engage in malice for days without bothering to reconcile, and i have to talk to her over again and make her see reason why such act is not good in marriage, for which she will later apologize and the next day or same day she is back again in another episode.

thirdly, every man love to be respected, when my wife starts her drama about missed call or other flimsy excuses, she starts talking to me like am her junior brother, calling me names and after noticing how mad i am with her, she will apologize but always repeat such act.

i feel the amount of love and attention she gets from me is too much and i am beginning to think i should make her understand what it feels like to have a frustrated marriage. though am yet to do that.

i honestly am not perfect but i have never used any harsh word while addressing her even when she is obviously wrong, i dont do so because i know the feeling when she use them for me. i wish i could anyway.

i grew up in a place where women are highly regarded and well treated and maybe its affecting me because i also help her do chores and i dont push all the house work to her as most men do.

i noticed i am always very unhappy and depressed the moment she comes up with this episodes and it may be because i love her so much and this is beginning to affect how i study and i might be forced to push her away first by not giving her attention as i used to.

My fellow Nairalanders, i respect ur opinion, hillarious ones and reasonable ones, marriage is not a bed of roses, i love my wife and i am not cheating on her, i am 100% married to her alone but her attitude is frustrating and i might have to leave her in the end. i hope i get lucky and this make FP so i can learn from experienced members before i take a decision, as we speak she has began the malice episode with me and if i dont apologize to her in 3 days, she is ready to go that far too.

Moana:
Sit down and talk to her one day and figure out whats really going on. There is no smoke without fire. Look for a day when you can do things just the 2 of you, talk through everything.

Sometimes it could even be frustrations from work or school that get the best of her and then she ends up misplacing her anger. And if this is truly the case help her deal with her issues.

It doesnt help to just say im tired of this marriage and not do anything about it. Figure out where the root of the problem is and fix it.

Another thing, are you still doing the fun things you used to do when you were dating? is there still spark in the relationship? Do you guys still behave like you are a young couple? Do you still go out for dinner or long walks like before?

Moana:
you can always close your eyes and pretend like you didnt see my post instead of trying to make me a punchbag for your frustrations. Thats what mature people do

Fourwinds:
naturally some women think childishly. Dey nag and u don't see any importance in it. If a married woman cannt handle herself how will she handle d children. I keep saying d result of bad parenting is what is affecting d larger society of today. Sometimes i hear some stu..pid advice parenting gives d children. So appalling.

bimolowo:
Get her pregnant. Am writing from experience.

Sike:
Kindly elaborate the bolded please!

momodub:
was she like this when you guys were dating

Moana:
shoprite, the beach.... he doesnt have to be a typical frustrated Nigerian who finds pleasure in complaining rather than fixing the problem.

SaMajeste:
Didn't you notice her attitude when you were dating? I don't want to believe she just started exhibiting such all of a sudden.
As you said, maybe she's taking advantage of your regard for women knowing you would tolerate such rubbish. As much as I love your respect for women, I feel you should be a bit tougher because sadly, not all women should be treated with kid gloves. Some don't understand gentility, they see it as a sign of weakness.
Pray for her too.
It is well with you!

Moana:
i just to understand if something ever came that makes her behave this way. To every story there are 3sides his, hers and the truth. I cannot give advice on simply hearing one side

Moana:
one more question, how does this help the OP in anyway?

multicast:
I am a fervent reader on Nairaland and i dont miss this forum in 1 day, i have seen people share their concerns here and a lot of people have contributed through their comments, though some are hillarious while others are on point. i will appreciate matured responses.

I did not marry a stranger to start with and its why i am very pained cuz i come here on nairaland and see how people get frustrated about their marriage based on cogent reasons but mine is different.

first of all, I got married in february and am already very tired of my wife, not because she isnt very sexy or good in bed as other may experienced but because my wife starts arguments from little things as little as why did u miss my call, even if its a BBM call thats dependent of network, after hours of begging i have to end up with uncountable "am sorry".

secondly, my wife find it very easy to engage in malice for days without bothering to reconcile, and i have to talk to her over again and make her see reason why such act is not good in marriage, for which she will later apologize and the next day or same day she is back again in another episode.

thirdly, every man love to be respected, when my wife starts her drama about missed call or other flimsy excuses, she starts talking to me like am her junior brother, calling me names and after noticing how mad i am with her, she will apologize but always repeat such act.

i feel the amount of love and attention she gets from me is too much and i am beginning to think i should make her understand what it feels like to have a frustrated marriage. though am yet to do that.

i honestly am not perfect but i have never used any harsh word while addressing her even when she is obviously wrong, i dont do so because i know the feeling when she use them for me. i wish i could anyway.

i grew up in a place where women are highly regarded and well treated and maybe its affecting me because i also help her do chores and i dont push all the house work to her as most men do.

i noticed i am always very unhappy and depressed the moment she comes up with this episodes and it may be because i love her so much and this is beginning to affect how i study and i might be forced to push her away first by not giving her attention as i used to.

My fellow Nairalanders, i respect ur opinion, hillarious ones and reasonable ones, marriage is not a bed of roses, i love my wife and i am not cheating on her, i am 100% married to her alone but her attitude is frustrating and i might have to leave her in the end. i hope i get lucky and this make FP so i can learn from experienced members before i take a decision, as we speak she has began the malice episode with me and if i dont apologize to her in 3 days, she is ready to go that far too.




Yes she's doing it cos u apologising na attention she de seek na obviously I was like dat early in my marriage nd my hubby was always begging den one day he started ignoring me even if I want toa stay 4 days witout tlking he talks like greets me in de morning nd @ nite den he calls 4rm wrk but no begging den my brain reset u need to firm up nd stop begging her u will see she will stop it als ignore her wenever sshe in de mood just go abt ur business she will start crying u don't give her attention again bla bla jst ignore her. Chees