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Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by cococandy(f): 3:59pm On Apr 13, 2015
grin

these guys are just confused.

Stillfire:


Lol, this is why I like you. The fraud on this thread is annoying. In one breath they say women are not cut out for so called tough jobs and are sad, but they still want her to pursue her education, get straight A's and become a housewife. What then is the essence of all that education? Men deciding women's fate since 300 BC. Chai! grin
So what do you think of the premise of this discussion? If women are not cut out for the workforce, cannot build civilization, are basically tantamount to nonentities who are stealing the air that men are supposed to only breathe, shouldn't women focus more on their 'innate' home economics skills, why educate a girl to university taking the space of genuine men like yourself who need to get admission into the university? Are you going to use derivatives to cook nkwobi and egusi soup? grin grin grin
Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by bukatyne(f): 4:01pm On Apr 13, 2015
craziebone:


hmm, i see you are getting desperate now. I think you should quit with the head-start argument.

In ancient Athens, equal priority was given to both men and women education. Infact, the modern education equality that has been codified in western education of today is simply a copy-cat from the Athenian education. But in Greece or Athens, the men still went on ahead to dominate intellectualism. When you think Greece, the like of Aristotle, Plato, Socrates, Pythagoras etc are the ones that come to mind. This is despite the fact that the girl child education was given equal attention by their society.

At the begining of formal education in Europe (when i say Europe, i mean we should excluded the romans and the greeks), access to education was more classist rather than sexist. Rich women got access to education more than the ordinary man got! And that means they were more educated than the average man.

No, i do not believe that there are courses women should not take up. I have always being in favour of "let everyone do what they want to do". What i am against is the forcing of women into courses they just do not find fulfiling, on the average and you take slots from men and giving them to women simply because they are women. Although that doesn't happen here in Nigeria, but it does happen around the world. I am also against the shaming of other women who just do not want the so-called empowerment the feminist folk want to shove down their throat. And by empowerment, i mean taking up 'positions of power' when the woman actually wants something else.

First, I agree that women should not be handed down courses in the spirit of equality. Like you rightly observed, this doesnot happen in Nigeria; it is more of parents forcing their kids to read a course

@empowerment: how many people are in 'positions of power' or how many positions are gotten to by force or cohesion? Can an unwilling woman be pushed to become the Branch Manager of a bank? I am even trying to start small here.

I believe everyone is designed to do different things and we are to follow through with that. A cleaner in the Church is as important as a teacher... everyone has different gifts.


I think feminism should be about giving women a choice and that means, if she wants to be a SAHM (stay at home mom), so be it! But feminists go about shaming such women and telling them that it was better they did not waste tax payer money in the first place by getting an education in the first place. They say this as if education is first of all about getting a job rather than a better relationship with nature. Thr likes of you, Bukatyne and stillfire are the ones who get angry at women who go to school and refuse to take up a career. Again, that's a shallow way to look at education; that it is for getting a job.

And somehow this choice does not extend to a woman becoming a career woman if she wants to? Or does this choice only go one way? I said I would be angry if you know a woman does not fit a role and still train her for that role. E.g. if I believe a woman should not be a banker or I have influence over what my daughter would be in future, would it not be strange I train her through university in Banking and Finance? One way to look at it is that people who want to study competitive courses should ensure they are willing to utilize it. Another way to look at it is that not everyone would have the opportunity to utilize it even if they want to. Using Nigeria as a case study... A lot of people do not get to practice what they learnt

Lastly, men have always had the choice to pick a woman who suits them for a wife. But the problem is...when most men refuse to pick a woman with a strong drive for work and career, they are termed weak, insecure and intimidated by a strong, independent and successful woman. People who shame men this way deny that a man can have an option. And as a result, we see men, who ordinarily wouldn't go for a 'successful' woman due to the simple and innocent fact that they are just not compatible, go for such women and the end result is a pathetic marriage.

The bottom line is, stop shaming men who do not want a 'successful' woman. It may not be that he is intimidated, but that he just wants a particular kind of home.

If a man goes for a woman who is not his choice, then he is not ready for marriage ditto a woman too. I also do not believe this is applicable to the Nigerian setting. Men have married whom they wanted from time immemorial.

The only issue I would have is if a man marries a certain woman and tries to mold her into his taste after marriage
Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Nobody: 4:03pm On Apr 13, 2015
coogar:


and then smell like onions & tomato in the bedroom. such a turn off! grin
You guys will later say that women are confuse.

You want a wife with great culinary skill but still complain if she smells like an onions.

Crackhaus, are you seeing this? grin angry grin

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Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by coogar: 4:08pm On Apr 13, 2015
Vickybee:

You guys will later say that women are confuse.

You want a wife with great culinary skill but still complain if she smells like an onions.

Crackhaus, are you seeing this? grin angry grin

i want a wife with great culinary skill but it doesn't mean she should die in the kitchen. if she's stressed, she can order food - as long as the belly is filled, how the food came by is not important.

and if she insists in going to the kitchen, she must have a proper jacuzzi bath before coming to bed. it's simple really.

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Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by bukatyne(f): 4:10pm On Apr 13, 2015
lezz:
Academic intelligence doesn't necessary equate into wisdom.

The male dominant homone, testosterone drives men into pioneers, explorers, inventors, founders, upholders, nourishers and protectors . This homone is very little in women.

In actual danger, a woman looks up to male for guidance and instructions, even if that male happens to be an adolescent

You are the tread starter and have deviated left, right and center

Your OP says 'modern' women are sad because ? they push their careers more?

What has wisdom got to do with wisdom or is wisdom a male domain?

You believe women are not wise, should not work, should not bla bla; good for you and get someone who shares your views with you

Wanted to see where the discussion will lead but obviously nowhere...

I am thinking of the women around me and the ones that are 'unhappy' because they are moving up in the careers; can't think of one.. sorry Not unhappy because their husbands abuse them, not unhappy because they don't have kids, not unhappy because their kids are not performing upto expectation, not unhappy because of domestic or financial issues...

Unhappy because they are progressing in their careers?

Perhaps we roll with different groups of people

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Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by lezz(m): 4:48pm On Apr 13, 2015
craziebone:


will you also tell the feminists in here to stop using marie curie's achievements too?

When women put all men together as a group, why won't we take the achievement of Einstein and Newton as ours? Afterall, they also don't only claim the achievement of real women, they also claim the power of the mythical Lilith and women of the Amazons.

We men also have to fight against how feminism sees us which is becoming engrained in men's mentality.

Feminism told men it is ok to sit down and let his wife feed him. Some men took that in and guess the result? These men became what even the feminists won't even want to date. These men became what the society and feminists will point to as evidence of failure of the male gender. We are also seen as the enemy, the rapist, the one whomust be contained at all cost.
FrancisTony is not only effeminate , he is also always on the wrong side of logic. An ISO certified captain-save-the-who'res.
Someone who can't get his manhood up properly.

Why you talk about the pioneering nature and innovative drive of men and you bring Albert Eistien(?), you are also talking about the average male which include every functional male. We mustn't all invent the bulb or electricity.

Every man has the potential to give a sense of security, identify and foundation to his offspring. No woman has that!! A woman gives love and support and care.
A growing child needs both to be psychological and mentally balanced .


Every man is called to a higher sense of responsibilty and purpose than women. And this is not by cultural or societal conditioning but by the very essence of the male's disposition by God in evolution.

As men are the providers of identity by which children and women are to be identified, evolution saw to it by equipping the male with the ability to produce offspring of an entire village, community and nations. Thus a man produced semen until he dies, while a woman can only release one egg per month which eventually ceases at age 45 or even before.

A recent survey in America shows that the average woman is far happier when her husband is successful financially and does the major part of the financial work than if she's more financially successful and does the work more than the husband.

A poll conducted in Europe and America on top female CEOs and top Executives found out that they don't wish to work till retirement. They prefer an arrangement where they would be able to work part time and from home.

The Scandinavian countries have tried feminism and failed spectacularly . It is known the world over as the[b] Swedish failure[/b]

Evolution gave men heavier bones, strength, wisdom, night and logic than the average female.

Which is balanced female's stronger resistance to sickness; females also outlive males in all human societies, females are also more biologically productive than the average male.

Feminists are wicked ignorant psychopaths who are psychological maladjusted and self-loathed lots whose ultimate aim is to distrupt the family structure and upturn society.

This description is for the western feminists, the African feminists are just a bunch of confused, brainless, gold-digging lots who don't even have a clue of what feminism entails.

People whose perception has not progressed beyond the acquisition of fake hairs, nails and eye brows. Whose understanding of feminism is to be spoon-fed by society without reciprocity.

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Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by bukatyne(f): 4:51pm On Apr 13, 2015
lezz:
No human emotional state is static. There are periodic swift changes. The time lag is of importance here between the state of one emotional condition to anpther. Even menstrual circles alter the emotional state most women.lol


That being said happiness is a state of being as the most predominant state of a persons entire given emotion. It's akin to the state of contentment, of the fulfilment of an inner fulfilment of an oblique task as old as life itself. My happiness is akin to fulfilment

That's why I said happiness for men and women are very different. A man is wired inherently to be aggressive , to produce , to get power, to control resources. So he founded towns and cities and countries and civilizations and technologies. And the feminist say it's because of social conditioning and cultural vote. But they can't back it up with science. Men can therefore come into a LONGER. phase of happiness in his entire life time if he achieved these to a varying degree. He will come to a sense of fulfilment of having achieved his unexplainable life-goal.



Women on the other hand will achieve these,if they can, in career and income and within a the shortest time realize they aren't happy, they will not get an answer to the nagging question of her natural, biological purpose; she will be unfulfilled, empty and without a sense of purpose, a little man.

She will soon find out that all she ever needed have been deposited in her by nature and she was just too intelligent to use it.

Her "illiterate" counterparts who have followed their inner feelings will look younger, fresher and get more love from their husband and children.


What's your notion of a long term state of fulfilment for the modern woman?

Have you surveyed a lot of women to know that kids and family is the only thing that will make them happy?

Or family does not bring happiness in men? Or child birth? Or men do not flaunt their families or you think men do not like happy and healthy families?

Please stop the generalizations and blank divisions. The men I know are proud of their fatherhood and love having flourishing families in addition to whatever career advancement they make. Ditto the women I know. Don't you see NL guys opening threads daily on their successful marriages? Don't you see them put up pictures of their families?

Even look at celebrities; don't the men put up pictures of their families online? Don't they flaunt their families?

Now you are hilarious with the statement below:

Her "illiterate" counterparts who have followed their inner feelings will look younger, fresher and get more love from their husband and children.


A woman must be a stay at home mom to enjoy her home and children?

I though I have heard it all.

What makes me happy is different from what makes woman B happy.

Neither I nor anyone else can define a universal happiness index for women or men.

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Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Nobody: 5:15pm On Apr 13, 2015
cococandy:
easy bae. She means no harm.
Why are there more women in the porn industry? Easy cash and idea of feminism? I am against the ideas of feminism but stand for gender equality.

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Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by crackhaus: 5:42pm On Apr 13, 2015
Vickybee:

You guys will later say that women are confuse.

You want a wife with great culinary skill but still complain if she smells like an onions.

Crackhaus, are you seeing this? grin angry grin
Lol...

What I'm seeing clearly is you assuming that every time a woman enters the kitchen to cook, she comes out smelling of onions grin




********
Okay just to satisfy your curiosity;
I won't have to complain because I don't expect her to be comfortable coming to bed smelling of onions (that's just bad hygiene) …same way she won't expect me getting into bed all sticky and smelling of sweat after a brief workout.

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Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Nobody: 6:16pm On Apr 13, 2015
lezz:
FrancisTony is not only effeminate , he is also always on the wrong side of logic. An ISO certified captain-save-the-who'res.
Someone who can't get his manhood up properly.
Yes! Francistony is an effiminate dude because he doesn't share your "women and gay hating" ideology.
You can even call me a tranny because I don't care. Here's an online forum and life is too hard to try pleasing inconsequential people because I want to be viewed as a strong mangina - it's not all about chest beating. Let your achievements speak for you.
"Captain save the whorès", you say? Funny how you tagged your fellow humans whorés because they are females.
My manhood can't rise? O' yes! Proudly team flat manhood. grin grin grin

I dealt with your silly ass the last time our path crossed and you couldn't stand the heat but resort to "ad hominem". This thread was/is really the definition of you as of that day. Yes, you are sad not women! cry

Why you talk about the pioneering nature and innovative drive of men and you bring Albert Eistien(?), you are also talking about the average male which include every functional male. We mustn't all invent the bulb or electricity.
You musn't invent bulb or electricity? Atleast, brag with what you invented not what other men invented. Stop stroking your ego with other people achievements.

Every man has the potential to give a sense of security, identify and foundation to his offspring. No woman has that A woman gives love and support and care.
A growing child needs both to be psychological and mentally balanced .[/b]
Lol, @bolded, how chauvinistic and sexist could one get? No women has that?
Well, Single women have successfully trained their children and that debunks your silly claim.
I spent my early life with my grandmum, yes! My grandpa was old and never instilled the fatherly discipline in me except pampering me and most of my nice childhood upbringings was taught to me by my grandma though I left her when I was still a child(barely 11years).

Every man is called to a higher sense of responsibilty and purpose than women. And this is not by cultural or societal conditioning but by the very essence of the male's disposition by God in evolution.
Thou shall not use the name of God your Lord in vain! grin
Provide biblical proof for this balderdash. angry

As men are the providers of identity by which children and women are to be identified, evolution saw to it by equipping the male with the ability to produce offspring of an entire village, community and nations. Thus a man produced semen until he dies, while a woman can only release one egg per month which eventually ceases at age 45 or even before.
LOL! Without an egg, what will spèrm fertilise? Zilch!
I can see you are a Christian.
Okay! Why was Mary egg fertilised without spérm but no spèrm can produce an offspring without ovum?.
Going by your silly logic, women are the owner of kids because they owns the egg which forms the baby. Spèrm only helps in fertilising it.

[s]A recent survey in America shows that the average woman is far happier when her husband is successful financially and does the major part of the financial work than if she's more financially successful and does the work more than the husband.

A poll conducted in Europe and America on top female CEOs and top Executives found out that they don't wish to work till retirement. They prefer an arrangement where they would be able to work part time and from home.

The Scandinavian countries have tried feminism and failed spectacularly . It is known the world over as the[b] Swedish failure[/b] [/s]
Unnecessary junks borne out of hate!

Evolution gave men heavier bones, strength, wisdom, night and logic than the average female.
Oh well, seems you haven't seen a female geek.
Strength? I guess you haven't seen a woman beating a man? When I say a man, I mean strong man? grin So, don't lump all women together.
Wisdom & logic? Visit Education section & check "Mathematics Clinic thread". You'll see geeky females killing Mathematics: Integration Differentiation etc

Which is balanced female's stronger resistance to sickness; females also outlive males in all human societies, females are also more biologically productive than the average male.

[s]Feminists are wicked ignorant psychopaths who are psychological maladjusted and self-loathed lots whose ultimate aim is to distrupt the family structure and upturn society.

This description is for the western feminists, the African feminists are just a bunch of confused, brainless, gold-digging lots who don't even have a clue of what feminism entails.[/s]

People whose perception has not progressed beyond the acquisition of fake hairs, nails and eye brows. Whose understanding of feminism is to be spoon-fed by society without reciprocity.
Chai! So much of hate.
Has Chimamanda digged your gold before? grin grin

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Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by bukatyne(f): 7:02pm On Apr 13, 2015
Besides, not everyone builds a career in the office undecided

Kaffy has a career as a dancer; Omo T as built a name in the Movie industry; Banke Meshida is making waves making up; What about Mama Cass? Deola Sagoe nko?

Again, not all jobs leads to a career path.

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Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by damiso(f): 9:23pm On Apr 13, 2015
Funny enough I am watching a documentary right now that is based on research that says more young men suffer from depression and are 3 times more likely to commit suicide than females their age.The study reckons that because society tends to programme men not to talk about feelings or emotions they tend to internalise hurt and that is why they are more suicidal.

'Happiness' is a very vague and fleeting concept so I would say the there might be a tad bit of generalisations.That said though modern life with all its technological advancements in making life easier also has its attendant stresses esp in the west. You should have seen me panicking when I thought I would be unable to pick my son on time this evening.I am sure my blood pressure went up a notch embarassed If it was the old days we would be at the farm together grin or there would be a horde of relatives who would pick him up for me. And that is for someone who is married to a hands on man.

All in all except for the subset of women for whom career is EVERYTHING(and I am not saying that's a bad thing) work life balance is the key.And I think work life balance is essential for everyone not just women.

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Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Ngokafor(f): 9:36pm On Apr 13, 2015
FrancisTony:
Women are unhappy? It seems some people love instigating wars on this section.

Gender equality or inequality is unexistence except maybe in Arab countries. Feminism should concentrate in fighting how misogynists view them socially and politically, and change the views of women towards success and other things.

What matters is individualism.
Some men are above women.
Some women are above men.
No gender is inferior to other, rather, it's an individualism inferiority on both genders.

Using Einstein, Newton achievements to argue is a fallacy because it solely belongs to him not all men. Argue with yours.




grin grin cheesy

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Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Nobody: 9:51pm On Apr 13, 2015
Ngokafor:


grin grin cheesy
You are a female? This your username belongs to a Nigerian-American male model: Ngo Okafor.
Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by bukatyne(f): 10:10pm On Apr 13, 2015
damiso:
Funny enough I am watching a documentary right now that is based on research that says more young men suffer from depression and are 3 times more likely to commit suicide than females their age.The study reckons that because society tends to programme men not to talk about feelings or emotions they tend to internalise hurt and that is why they are more suicidal.

'Happiness' is a very vague and fleeting concept so I would say the there might be a tad bit of generalisations.That said though modern life with all its technological advancements in making life easier also has its attendant stresses esp in the west. You should have seen me panicking when I thought I would be unable to pick my son on time this evening.I am sure my blood pressure went up a notch embarassed If it was the old days we would be at the farm together grin or there would be a horde of relatives who would pick him up for me. And that is for someone who is married to a hands on man.

All in all except for the subset of women for whom career is EVERYTHING(and I am not saying that's a bad thing) work life balance is the key.And I think work life balance is essential for everyone not just women.

So your documentary says more men are depressed?

Elelehe!

Perhaps the OP can tell us why grin

I read Some stuffs here and I can't relate to real life.

Going by This thread, I would have thought only women feel fulfilled with Happy families.

Whatever.
Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by lezz(m): 10:40pm On Apr 13, 2015
FrancisTony:

Yes! Francistony is an effiminate dude because he doesn't share your "women and gay hating" ideology.
You can even call me a tranny because I don't care. Here's an online forum and life is too hard to try pleasing inconsequential people because I want to be viewed as a strong mangina - it's not all about chest beating. Let your achievements speak for you.
"Captain save the whorès", you say? Funny how you tagged your fellow humans whorés because they are females.
My manhood can't rise? O' yes! Proudly team flat manhood. grin grin grin

I dealt with your silly ass the last time our path crossed and you couldn't stand the heat but resort to "ad hominem". This thread was/is really the definition of you as of that day. Yes, you are sad not women! cry


You musn't invent bulb or electricity? Atleast, brag with what you invented not what other men invented. Stop stroking your ego with other people achievements.


Lol, @bolded, how chauvinistic and sexist could one get? No women has that?
Well, Single women have successfully trained their children and that debunks your silly claim.
I spent my early life with my grandmum, yes! My grandpa was old and never instilled the fatherly discipline in me except pampering me and most of my nice childhood upbringings was taught to me by my grandma though I left her when I was still a child(barely 11years).


Thou shall not use the name of God your Lord in vain! grin
Provide biblical proof for this balderdash. angry


LOL! Without an egg, what will spèrm fertilise? Zilch!
I can see you are a Christian.
Okay! Why was Mary egg fertilised without spérm but no spèrm can produce an offspring without ovum?.
Going by your silly logic, women are the owner of kids because they owns the egg which forms the baby. Spèrm only helps in fertilising it.


Unnecessary junks borne out of hate!


Oh well, seems you haven't seen a female geek.
Strength? I guess you haven't seen a woman beating a man? When I say a man, I mean strong man? grin So, don't lump all women together.
Wisdom & logic? Visit Education section & check "Mathematics Clinic thread". You'll see geeky females killing Mathematics: Integration Differentiation etc


Chai! So much of hate.
Has Chimamanda digged your gold before? grin grin
You have solved the puzzle of your effeminate nature : raised by your grandma. Research shows that a good number of homosexuals are either raised by a domineering mother or a single mother.
thanks for the insight.

You also refute my assertion than no woman can give a child a sense of identity and security. Let me ask you whose name do you bear, your granny's or your father's? Only a man who bears his mother's name displays a Total lack of ignorance of this magnitude.

Being raised by your granny, I was asking too much of you. There are things you're predisposed not to understand by the very circumstances of your upbringing.
I find your logic as emotional and weak as that of a little girl. Since when has a woman even beating up a hulk Hogan mean woman are physically stronger? You should cover your head in sand.

You talk about Mary, the mother of Jesus . As a christian how could you compare a completely supernatural process to the bilogy of procreation? You really are a woman.

I should direct you to a best seller in America entitled DAD IS DESTINY. And you shall be cured from your subnormal gender malady.

I know must homosexuals are bible haters but you seem to defy this trend surprisingly.. Let me give you this questionaires then and you can answer them to impress your little minded feminists

1---- Why did God create the male first?

2---- God created man from dust, when he needed to great the female he could have as well just created the woman from dust. Why did God go to the trouble of causing the man to sleep, then created the woman from the side bone of the man?

3---•When Eve ate the fruit nothing happened until Adam ate it. Why was that?

4----• Despite God creating the male first, the snake had been with him ever since but NEVER made any attempt to deceive him. But he deceived the woman , why was this?


5----• Have you noticed that all new churches are formed by easy talking women into it? Just like the snake talked Eve into eating the fruit?

6•••••••God gave Adam all the direct instruction concerning the work on earth before Eve was even created, why is this.

Answer those for your feminist to brighten their face writhing in self-loathing.

Oh, and talking about Chimamanda or whatever her name is, i have read some of her piece, very brilliant and knowledgeable. But truth is she's as lacking in wisdom as most of these shallow minded feminists here.

Look for her writeup on her experience of TRUE feminist experience in Scandinavia and you will know why you are still an overgrown grandma's boy with no masculine drive or purpose.

Waiting for the answers, please.

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Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by lezz(m): 11:07pm On Apr 13, 2015
grin
bukatyne:


Have you surveyed a lot of women to know that kids and family is the only thing that will make them happy?

Or family does not bring happiness in men? Or child birth? Or men do not flaunt their families or you think men do not like happy and healthy families?

Please stop the generalizations and blank divisions. The men I know are proud of their fatherhood and love having flourishing families in addition to whatever career advancement they make. Ditto the women I know. Don't you see NL guys opening threads daily on their successful marriages? Don't you see them put up pictures of their families?

Even look at celebrities; don't the men put up pictures of their families online? Don't they flaunt their families?

Now you are hilarious with the statement below:

Her "illiterate" counterparts who have followed their inner feelings will look younger, fresher and get more love from their husband and children.


A woman must be a stay at home mom to enjoy her home and children?

I though I have heard it all.

What makes me happy is different from what makes woman B happy.

Neither I nor anyone else can define a universal happiness index for women or men.

Of course,men are happy with a family and wife. In fact, the average wants a happy, stable family. Nowhere in my post did I say men do not want a family or aren't happy with one.


Men just aren't fulfilled with kids and family; that is, family and kids is more like the icing in the cake. Unlike the female he is an adventurer, a hunter driven by testosterone to dominate, conquer and to explore in the quest for glory, power and status. Therein lies his ultimate happiness and fulfilment.


In the same way, money, fame and status still give women the thrill but ultimately, she's very unlikely to be happily fulfilled without her kids and a nice home

Women do not spend all their time pursuing glory like so many men, they want to be home with their kids, look beautiful and soft. That's why even though men make much more money than women, women have more pairs of shoes and jewellery than men. Women also spend more shopping time than men.

When I say women, I mean the vast majority of NORMAL women. No one can claim to speak for every single members of the sexes
. After all, some are lesbians, feminists, She-men and subnormal having gender identity crisis grin grin grin

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Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Nobody: 11:15pm On Apr 13, 2015
lezz:
You have solved the puzzle of your effeminate nature : raised by your grandma. Research shows that a good number of homosexuals are either raised by a domineering mother or a single mother.
thanks for the insight.
1) I'm not effiminate. You can believe whatever you want.

2) Why are homophobes so dumb? On a thread they tell you gays lacked motherly care on another, they would say they have domineering mothers.

Jeez! Stop thinking with your ass, i'm not gay but you can wish to label me anything. I don't care.

3) My grandma wasn't domineering. Not like I grew up with her. Just stayed with her during my primary school days.

4) Oh gawd! Another dumb and rétarded research. grin

I find your logic as emotional and weak as that of a little girl. Since when has a woman even beating up a hulk Hogan mean woman are physically stronger? You should cover your head in sand.
What does it mean, then?

You talk about Mary, the mother of Jesus . As a christian how could you compare a completely supernatural process to the bilogy of procreation? You really are a woman.
I was citing an example with your silly logic.

I should direct you to a best seller in America entitled DAD IS DESTINY. And you shall be cured from your subnormal gender malady.
Do I need one? grin grin

I know must homosexuals are bible haters but you seem to defy this trend surprisingly.. Let me give you this questionaires then and you can answer them to impress your little minded feminists
Oh Lord! Who gave this dolt notion that i'm gay? undecided

1---- Why did God create the male first?
None of my business.

- Why did Woman has to be a source of our salvation?
- I'm a Catholic and Mary is "theotokos" meaning Mother of God. What position does that place her?

2---- God created man from dust, when he needed to great the female he could have as well just created the woman from dust. Why did God go to the trouble of causing the man to sleep, then created the woman from the side bone of the man?
Only Eve was created from the rib of Adam. Other people both men and women of today, were formed from male sperm and female egg.
Meanwhile, Adam and Eve fell and shouldn't be used as an example here - Jesus is the new Adam and Mary is the new Eve.

3---•When Eve ate the fruit nothing happened until Adam ate it. Why was that?
God needed to know whether Adam would succumb.
Adam showed that he's not strong enough and woman deceived him.

4----• Despite God creating the male first, the snake had been with him ever since but NEVER made any attempt to deceive him. But he deceived the woman , why was this?
Snake deceived Eve and Eve deceived Adam.
They were both dumb.

Meanwhile, bible has many irregularities, don't think I concur with all passage(s).
I'm more of a theist who believe in some portions of the bible and Jesus.


5----• Have you noticed that all new churches are formed by easy talking women into it? Just like the snake talked Eve into eating the fruit?
None of my business

6•••••••God gave Adam all the direct instruction concerning the work on earth before Eve was even created, why is this.
Yahweh was a misogyny in the old testament.

By the way, You need to research about books that was removed from the bible by Emporor Costantine--it reveres women higher than men.

-Book of Mary Magdalene etc

Answer those for your feminist to brighten their face writhing in self-loathing.

Oh, and talking about Chimamanda or whatever her name is, i have read some of her piece, very brilliant and knowledgeable. But truth is she's as lacking in wisdom as most of these shallow minded feminists here.

Look for her writeup on her experience of TRUE feminist experience in Scandinavia and you will know why you are still an overgrown grandma's boy with no masculine drive or purpose.

Waiting for the answers, please.

Crass!!! grin

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Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Nobody: 11:18pm On Apr 13, 2015
lezz:
You have solved the puzzle of your effeminate nature : raised by your grandma. Research shows that a good number of homosexuals are either raised by a domineering mother or a single mother.
thanks for the insight.

I find your logic as emotional and weak as that of a little girl. Since when has a woman even beating up a hulk Hogan mean woman are physically stronger? You should cover your head in sand.

You talk about Mary, the mother of Jesus . As a christian how could you compare a completely supernatural process to the bilogy of procreation? You really are a woman.

I should direct you to a best seller in America entitled DAD IS DESTINY. And you shall be cured from your subnormal gender malady.

I know must homosexuals are bible haters but you seem to defy this trend surprisingly.. Let me give you this questionaires then and you can answer them to impress your little minded feminists

1---- Why did God create the male first?

2---- God created man from dust, when he needed to great the female he could have as well just created the woman from dust. Why did God go to the trouble of causing the man to sleep, then created the woman from the side bone of the man?

3---•When Eve ate the fruit nothing happened until Adam ate it. Why was that?

4----• Despite God creating the male first, the snake had been with him ever since but NEVER made any attempt to deceive him. But he deceived the woman , why was this?


5----• Have you noticed that all new churches are formed by easy talking women into it? Just like the snake talked Eve into eating the fruit?

6•••••••God gave Adam all the direct instruction concerning the work on earth before Eve was even created, why is this.

Answer those for your feminist to brighten their face writhing in self-loathing.

Oh, and talking about Chimamanda or whatever her name is, i have read some of her piece, very brilliant and knowledgeable. But truth is she's as lacking in wisdom as most of these shallow minded feminists here.

Look for her writeup on her experience of TRUE feminist experience in Scandinavia and you will know why you are still an overgrown grandma's boy with no masculine drive or purpose.

Waiting for the answers, please.

Francistony, did you say you whooped this dudes a's's.... I wonder how...
Can I get a link... so I can decide?

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Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Nobody: 11:22pm On Apr 13, 2015
FrancisTony:

1) I'm not effiminate. You can believe whatever you want.

2) Why are homophobes so dumb? On a thread they tell you gays lacked motherly care on another, they would say they have domineering mothers.

Jeez! Stop thinking with your ass, i'm not gay but you can wish to label me anything. I don't care.

3) My grandma wasn't domineering. Not like I grew up with her. Just stayed with her during my primary school days.

4) Oh gawd! Another dumb and rétarded research. grin


What does it mean, then?


I was citing an example with your silly logic.


Do I need one? grin grin


Oh Lord! Who gave this dolt notion that i'm gay? undecided


None of my business.

- Why did Woman has to be a source of our salvation?
- I'm a Catholic and Mary is "theotokos" meaning Mother of God. What position does that place her?


Only Eve was created from the rib of Adam. Other people both men and women of today, were formed from male sperm and female egg.
Meanwhile, Adam and Eve fell and shouldn't be used as an example here - Jesus is the new Adam and Mary is the new Eve.


God needed to know whether Adam would succumb.
Adam showed that he's not strong enough and woman deceived him.


Snake deceived Eve and Eve deceived Adam.
They were both dumb.

Meanwhile, bible has many irregularities, don't think I concur with all passage(s).
I'm more of a theist who believe in some portions of the bible and Jesus.



None of my business


Yahweh was a misogyny in the old testament.

By the way, You need to research about books that was removed from the bible by Emporor Costantine--it reveres women higher than men.

-Book of Mary Magdalene etc



Crass!!! grin

Now am as sure as hell, there's no way on earth, you floored dat dude in an argument...
Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Nobody: 11:28pm On Apr 13, 2015
njokusboy:


Francistony, did you say you whooped this dudes a's's.... I wonder how...
Can I get a link... so I can decide?
First thread that we came across https://www.nairaland.com/2232890/please-homosexualism-natural-chosen-lifestyle/3#32301984


2nd thread https://www.nairaland.com/2247718/jide-macaulay-nigerian-gay-pastor/6#32567268

His last post on that thread and it was filled with vitriol. https://www.nairaland.com/2247718/jide-macaulay-nigerian-gay-pastor/7#32573095
Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Nobody: 1:35am On Apr 14, 2015
Intriguing mixture of circle-jerking, and denial going on here.

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Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by 5minsmadness: 2:03am On Apr 14, 2015
FrancisTony:

1) I'm not effiminate. You can believe whatever you want.
Yes you are dude, though i don't necessarily think its a bad thing. i think its kinda cute. smiley



Oh Lord! Who gave this dolt notion that i'm gay? undecided
grin grin grin



Only Eve was created from the rib of Adam. Other people both men and women of today, were formed from male sperm and female egg.
Meanwhile, Adam and Eve fell and shouldn't be used as an example here - Jesus is the new Adam and Mary is the new Eve.
grin grin grin


.

Meanwhile, bible has many irregularities, don't think I concur with all passage(s).
I'm more of a theist who believe in some portions of the bible and Jesus.
Oh? Thought you were declaring your affiliation with deism not so long ago. See why i said you still need some growing up to do?



Yahweh was a misogyny in the old testament.
You are strongly advised not to use the name of the Lord your God in vain. At least not until you stop believing in him completely.
Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Ewuro4: 3:56am On Apr 14, 2015
So lemme get this straight as I can't possibly quote the entire OP, and pls correct my short layman summary if I'm wrong ; So modern day woman's unhappiness nature was because they mumbojumbled men's "God's given duty" with theirs which is to only pop children and cook?

Is that what the 182 back & forth all about?

As a man, I'm guessing you do understand the sense of completeness and accomplishment of your hardwork but what I don't understand is why you want to deny another gender to feel same.

Marriage is not a competition. It's a simple concept of Two heads working TOGETHER. It doesn't matter who rakes the most revenue into the family pot.

I come back from work everyday and yell into thin air 'I Love my life'! , that's how happy I am. My role model is an Alpha male YET would disown me in a flash if I decide to warm couch all day in guise of packing lunchboxes and balancing spreadsheets. I detest it with every molecule in my anatomy. Tuah!

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Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Chinum: 6:47am On Apr 14, 2015
FrancisTony:

Yes! Francistony is an effiminate dude because he doesn't share your "women and gay hating" ideology.
You can even call me a tranny because I don't care. Let your achievements speak for you.
"Captain save the whorès", you say? Funny how you tagged your fellow humans whorés because they are females.
My manhood can't rise? O' yes! Proudly team flat manhood. grin grin

Thou shall not use the name of God your Lord in vain! grin
Provide biblical proof for this balderdash. angry


LOL! Without an egg, what will spèrm fertilise? Zilch!
I can see you are a Christian.
Okay! Why was Mary egg fertilised without spérm but no spèrm can produce an offspring without ovum?.
Going by your silly logic, women are the owner of kids because they owns the egg which forms the baby. Spèrm only helps in fertilising it.


Unnecessary junks borne out of hate!


Oh well, seems you haven't seen a female geek.
Strength? I guess you haven't seen a woman beating a man? When I say a man, I mean strong man? grin So, don't lump all women together.
Wisdom & logic? Visit Education section & check "Mathematics Clinic thread". You'll see geeky females killing Mathematics: Integration Differentiation etc


Chai! So much of hate.
Has Chimamanda digged your gold before? grin grin

You couldn't have done it better. smiley

From the different reactions we see in this thread, I believe the topic ought to have been "Why the Modern Man is sad". cheesy

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Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Nobody: 6:53am On Apr 14, 2015
5minsmadness:

Yes you are dude, though i don't necessarily think its a bad thing. i think its kinda cute. smiley
Really? Effiminates behaves like women and talk like women.
Have you heard me talk or seen my look not to talk about my behaviour?

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Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Nobody: 7:28am On Apr 14, 2015
"Weaker Vessel"--An article from Mynd44's blog
This is a term used to describe women, it was used in the Bible, the Quran prefers to use the term “Deficient in mind” to describe them because well men are said[thought, known] to be better than women(not in everything but when we take averages, the men should be better) what do I think of this? Bullshît.
You see this thing is a result of mental conditioning which has been happening since when?Right from adam and eve. A lot of us don’t see it cos we overlook it but it is there.

In Genesis 2:17, God told adam about the only sin he should avoid in the garden of Eden. Did adam comply with that law? Let me take you on a little trip.

Genesis 3 starts by describing the devil (serpent) as a deceitful creature and the most subtle. Heck the devil is supposed to be better than adam and eve at manipulation right? So eve was in the Garden that day and the devil came to her and then he convinced her to eat the fruit and she gave adam and he ate of it and that was the original sin…

Let’s look at this story well, eve was deceived by the Devil who is supposed to be the master and she fell. But how did adam fall? He fell to a human. A human made from just one rib, adam lost the whole planet to a creature he is supposedly “greater” than. That says a lot about how resistant men are. Men are really resistant and strong when it comes to that(yeah right). At least eve argued with the Devil before she was convinced. The man? He swallowed took it without care.
One has to question adam again. When the devil came to eve to lie to her, where the heck was he? Perhaps he went to watch Man U play Chelsea or he went to watch his neighbour’s wife “lustfully” which made him leave his home unguarded. You can argue that he went to do what God asked which is to tend to the garden (note that naming of the animals was done before eve was created Genesis 2:20). But eve is supposed to be an “Helper” how come she was idle and the man was not beside her? Men: Recklessly abandoning their home since 7000bc.
adam was irresponsible (not different from his desendants). He did not watch his own home. He failed to introduce his wife to God thereby denying her the type of relationship with God that he had.

Another flaw you notice in adam, Genesis 3:12. When God asked adam how he knew he was naked what did my ancestor do? He blamed the woman. He refused to take responsibility for his action (like most men today…blame the woman) seriously, he did not even think of “being a man and standing up to defend his family”. He did the first thing most men will do, hide and leave the woman to take the fall. and oh, it gets better: he told God that the woman gave him of the fruit and he ate. But God had told him not to eat it. There was not clause in the commandment where God said “If your wife gives you, eat it” . Men have been shifting the blame since they were created grin and after the whole bla bla bla, guess who mankind blamed for the fall of man? Your guess is right The woman!

Note the step by step here, women are not weak in mind, Eve even argued with the devil (who is supposed to be able to become a handsome creature). She did not just crumble which signifies inner intelligence, a strength that helps women out in difficult situations.
Men have shown that they are reckless, selfish, never around when you need them, liars, not supportive, self-centered and yet men come of every story as the good guys.
This is due to decades and centuries of mental conditioning. Putting women down, demonising women who have decided to sit up and say no or they want more and as if that is not enough, man also recruited allies to help them put women down…..guess who they are…Women!! Women joined the fight against their own selves.

The point of this whole rant is not to make men sound evil or bad (even though a lot of men are) but to the women, you are not so weak. Eve was not weak, she stood against the devil before she gave in. You can be more than you are, don’t conform to the bullshît society sells to you about how you have to fall in line like a lamb to the slaughter, aspire to be more, do more, think more and maybe, just maybe with that, the world will be a little bit better.
**Walks out**
https://outlanderspecies./2015/02/22/the-weaker-vessels/#more-110

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Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by damiso(f): 9:40am On Apr 14, 2015
bukatyne:


So your documentary says more men are depressed?

Elelehe!

Perhaps the OP can tell us why grin

I read Some stuffs here and I can't relate to real life.

Going by This thread, I would have thought only women feel fulfilled with Happy families.

Whatever.

Yes the premise was that females tend to feel more at ease talking about their feelings,share (over share sef grin)their hurts,trials and issues with others (both on a personal and professional level) than men who feel they need to put up a 'tough macho ' front even though they are suffering inside. Women also generally tend to seek professional help with depression than men.


I know researches are not necessarily always the reflection of wider society or life or exhaustive .But think this one is kinda true.Personally I know more young men who have committed suicide than young women. I don't think a truly happy person will be suicidal so that's I said there was a tad bit of over generalisation in the OP.
Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by babygirlfl: 11:14am On Apr 14, 2015
FrancisTony:

Yes! Francistony is an effiminate dude because he doesn't share your "women and gay hating" ideology.
You can even call me a tranny because I don't care. Here's an online forum and life is too hard to try pleasing inconsequential people because I want to be viewed as a strong mangina - it's not all about chest beating. Let your achievements speak for you.
"Captain save the whorès", you say? Funny how you tagged your fellow humans whorés because they are females.
My manhood can't rise? O' yes! Proudly team flat manhood. grin grin grin

I dealt with your silly ass the last time our path crossed and you couldn't stand the heat but resort to "ad hominem". This thread was/is really the definition of you as of that day. Yes, you are sad not women! cry


You musn't invent bulb or electricity? Atleast, brag with what you invented not what other men invented. Stop stroking your ego with other people achievements.


Lol, @bolded, how chauvinistic and sexist could one get? No women has that?
Well, Single women have successfully trained their children and that debunks your silly claim.
I spent my early life with my grandmum, yes! My grandpa was old and never instilled the fatherly discipline in me except pampering me and most of my nice childhood upbringings was taught to me by my grandma though I left her when I was still a child(barely 11years).


Thou shall not use the name of God your Lord in vain! grin
Provide biblical proof for this balderdash. angry


LOL! Without an egg, what will spèrm fertilise? Zilch!
I can see you are a Christian.
Okay! Why was Mary egg fertilised without spérm but no spèrm can produce an offspring without ovum?.
Going by your silly logic, women are the owner of kids because they owns the egg which forms the baby. Spèrm only helps in fertilising it.


Unnecessary junks borne out of hate!


Oh well, seems you haven't seen a female geek.
Strength? I guess you haven't seen a woman beating a man? When I say a man, I mean strong man? grin So, don't lump all women together.
Wisdom & logic? Visit Education section & check "Mathematics Clinic thread". You'll see geeky females killing Mathematics: Integration Differentiation etc


Chai! So much of hate.
Has Chimamanda digged your gold before? grin grin

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Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by TV01(m): 11:27am On Apr 14, 2015
njokusboy:

Francistony, did you say you whooped this dudes a's's.... I wonder how...
Can I get a link... so I can decide?

FrancisTony:

First thread that we came across https://www.nairaland.com/2232890/please-homosexualism-natural-chosen-lifestyle/3#32301984
2nd thread https://www.nairaland.com/2247718/jide-macaulay-nigerian-gay-pastor/6#32567268
His last post on that thread and it was filled with vitriol. https://www.nairaland.com/2247718/jide-macaulay-nigerian-gay-pastor/7#32573095

I actually read the first of those threads; not only did you not "whoop" anybody' ass, you made a number of decietful & fallacious statements.

At emboldened, Yes!, Homosexuality is controlled by gene - research to show yourself approved
Lie, twin studies would prove this beyond all doubt - all the studies so far have shown that identical twin brothers (who are genetically identical) are no more likely to be gay than fraternal twin brothers; at around 11%.

Gays love theirselves unlike bestiality(who only satisfy themselves by having sex), same as paedephiles.
Another lie; "Animal lovers" and lovers of children, both claim a real love and that the "sexual contact" is both beneficial and welcomed by the object of their affections

It might interest you to know that homosexual men have peaceful marriage and co-existence more than heterosexual married man and woman.
Yet more lies; fact lesbian relationships are the most violent, closely followed by gay ones.

You also affirmed missclassy' blatant lie that homosexuals are born that way. Not true. Babies are not born sexualised, they are born functionally equipped to mate with members of the opposite sex. The prompts to activate this kick-in later. If that does not happen, it's due to malfunction. End of. And even if it was natural, it does not make it moral. Nature does not determine morality or force behaviour.

You are the one who needs to do some research wink! Although I rather suspect that in order to appear enlightenend, liberal and progressive you have wedded yourelf to certain ideological positions and don't actually care for the truth a smuch as you do your sense of ideological smugness.

Not only are you bemedalled save-a-hoer, you are also fast becoming NL' Main "Fagtivist". Carry go, but you do know you've lost this one - given the array of mature and critically thinking people ranged against you - not to mention Gods truth cheesy!


TV


...and one other thing, homosexuality is closely aligned with pederasty (paedophilia).

cc lezz craziebone

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Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by coogar: 11:53am On Apr 14, 2015
hehe!
Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by shrekandfiona: 11:54am On Apr 14, 2015
lezz:
grin Of course,men are happy with a family and wife. In fact, the average wants a happy, stable family. Nowhere in my post did I say men do not want a family or aren't happy with one.


Men just aren't fulfilled with kids and family; that is, family and kids is more like the icing in the cake. Unlike the female he is an adventurer, a hunter driven by testosterone to dominate, conquer and to explore in the quest for glory, power and status. Therein lies his ultimate happiness and fulfilment.


In the same way, money, fame and status still give women the thrill but ultimately, she's very unlikely to be happily fulfilled without her kids and a nice home

Women do not spend all their time pursuing glory like so many men, they want to be home with their kids, look beautiful and soft. That's why even though men make much more money than women, women have more pairs of shoes and jewellery than men. Women also spend more shopping time than men.

When I say women, I mean the vast majority of NORMAL women. No one can claim to speak for every single members of the sexes
. After all, some are lesbians, feminists, She-men and subnormal having gender identity crisis grin grin grin
In as much as I don't agree with the Op, i totally agree with this post. It's very balanced

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