MRBrownJ:
this story makes no damn sense.... if they were going to meet the mother then why did they ate before getting there? and if they really did then why the BF ate again at mum's place? its either they both dont eat or they both do.

if BF told his mother prior to they arrivals that they were coming then OF COURSE mum is gonna cook and therefore they had no business going to eat befopre getting there. he should have forced his gf to eat, however little it may be.

way forward: beg mama for forgiveness by telling her that HE made the mistake by taking her to some eatery before going to meet her, and with time mama will understand.

my broda abeg u be betta person.. No mind all dese unreasonable comments here..

May thunder fire the girl that will refuse my mothers food the first time they meet. Love gbakwa oku (love burn to ashes). Maybe God used that to show me a sign she is not the one.

If i was the guy, i wont even wait for my mother to tell me before i knw.

What nonsense? There r several ways she would have gone about it.

1, mummy my stomach is full, i will only lick soup with meat.

2, mummy my stomach is full, can i only have meet?

3, mummy my stomach is full, i cant eat one plate, let me share with my man from his own food.

4, mummy i can only take a hand full.

Na sophistication dey kill some girls, over packaging. Once my mom says she does not like her for that, by next weekend i will be coming to show her another girl.

thats why its not good to put all ur eggs in 1 basket.

Igbos will say ada aju nri na oku (You dont reject food offered that is covered in the pot without knowing what it is)

Cutehector:
lol its not like dat .. Hw would u feel if yur man turns dwn ur mum's food wen u take him to see ur parents? Knowing fully well u guys are goin for a dinner at there house.

For him to turn down my parent's food means that he honestly doesn't want to eat and my parents will perfectly understand, in fact they will give him a drink or kola to take home(oji ruo ulo).

What if the guy man was purging

softysparky:

For him to turn down my parent's food means that he honestly doesn't want to eat and my parents will perfectly understand, in fact they will give him a drink or kola to take home(oji ruo ulo).

What if the guy man was purging

my sister, mbanunu.. If he was purgin den he shouldn't hav sheduled dat day to meet ur parents..!! I duno abt u, buh as for me, if my mother inlaw gime food make I chop, I wil gladly eat it.. Wit pleasure . Weda I just ate previously or not..

mekaboy:
May thunder fire the girl that will refuse my mothers food the first time they meet. Love gbakwa oku (love burn to ashes). Maybe God used that to show me a sign she is not the one.

If i was the guy, i wont even wait for my mother to tell me before i knw.

What nonsense? There r several ways she would have gone about it.

1, mummy my stomach is full, i will only lick soup with meat.

2, mummy my stomach is full, can i only have meat?

3, mummy my stomach is full, i cant eat one plate, let me share with my man from his own food.

4, mummy i can only take a hand full.

Na sophistication dey kill some girls, over packaging. Once my mom says she does not like her for that, by next weekend i will be coming to show her another girl.

thats why its not good to put all ur eggs in 1 basket.

Hahahaha Don't try some mother's ooo, while you are gone, they will call you "long throat", and complain you shouldn't have eaten meat at all since you are not hungry.
You can't eat mama's food but can chop mama's meat.

mekaboy:
May thunder fire the girl that will refuse my mothers food the first time they meet. Love gbakwa oku (love burn to ashes). Maybe God used that to show me a sign she is not the one.

If i was the guy, i wont even wait for my mother to tell me before i knw.

What nonsense? There r several ways she would have gone about it.

1, mummy my stomach is full, i will only lick soup with meat.

2, mummy my stomach is full, can i only have meet?

3, mummy my stomach is full, i cant eat one plate, let me share with my man from his own food.

4, mummy i can only take a hand full.

Na sophistication dey kill some girls, over packaging. Once my mom says she does not like her for that, by next weekend i will be coming to show her another girl.

thats why its not good to put all ur eggs in 1 basket.

Igbos will say ada aju nri na oku (You dont reject food offered that is covered in the pot without knowing what it is)

u are the true son of ur father.. . No mind all dese unreasonable comments.. As in eh, me sef I go join query d babe.. Tell her say for her life mk she no try am at all.. If she vex, den I go show am d nearest wall.. Wat rubbish

softysparky:

Hahahaha Don't try some mother's ooo, while you are gone, they will call you "long throat", and complain you shouldn't have eaten meat at all since you are not hungry.
You can't eat mama's food but can chop mama's meat.

It is better she calls her longer throught daughter inlaw as a nickname than outright rejection.

EricRichie:
This is the most reasonable post I have read today...

The guy's mother is right..

1) the lady should have joined his mother in the kitchen and should have aided her in the preparing of the food..

2) the lady failed the so called "mother in-laws" test.. Refusing to eat the food from your potential mother inlaw is considered highly disrespectful and condemnable..

The girl is a wolf in sheep's clothing, and the mother has clearly seen that she isn't the right person for her son..




EricRichie..

you get sense jare,kudos

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If your parents have good reasons to disagree with your relationship, obey them. Parents must be obeyed but in this case, they do not have a good reason. They are only been silly ( sorry to say ).

Even GOD does not force his will on us. I have been in this situation, had to because I must be an African who must obey my parents ruin my own relationship. Fast forward 3 years later, my ex is married with a kid, the girl I dated after her died due to doctor's idiocy. Don't let any parent who think they are GOD ruin yourself for you.

Take a hard line stance. You will be proud you did.

Africa parents are something else. I am sure she would have come up with another excuse even if she had eaten.

Very annoying.

Youngpo413:
you get sense jare,kudos

I've been tut that, if someone offers u something, weda or not u want it, you just have to take it.

Any woman who rejects my moms food is not worthy of being called my wife.... Simple.

Drop your sophistication at the door... What the girl did is very disrespectful, no amount of damage control will remove the first impression.

D m0ther's thinkn faculty is faulty.....senseless matter

EricRichie:
This is the most reasonable post I have read today...

The guy's mother is right..

1) the lady should have joined his mother in the kitchen and should have aided her in the preparing of the food..

2) the lady failed the so called "mother in-laws" test.. Refusing to eat the food from your potential mother inlaw is considered highly disrespectful and condemnable..

The girl is a wolf in sheep's clothing, and the mother has clearly seen that she isn't the right person for her son..

EricRichie..

Don't be surprised if the same so called mother's daughter is worst. So if the girl was her daughter, she will have her thrown to the lion to eat? Yes, she made a mistake. She is to tell her son to watch it with the girl and not play GOD.

The Lady shouldn't have rejected the food:

1 . This is Africa - Being Serve food on that occasion is symbolic

2.This Visit is not just any Visit, its a special one - a Son is introducing you to his Mother.

3. You dont have to be Hungry to Eat Food of a Special day like a formal "introduction".

4. The Mother knew a Special Guest was Coming, i am Sure she took her time to Prepare a Special Dish not just for her Son but for the Special Visitor.- Rejecting the food is an "insult" in Africa

5. The Lady rejecting food did not speak well, it showed lack of bonding

6. The Mother is taking the matter too far.


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EricRichie:
This is the most reasonable post I have read today...

The guy's mother is right..

1) the lady should have joined his mother in the kitchen and should have aided her in the preparing of the food..

2) the lady failed the so called "mother in-laws" test.. Refusing to eat the food from your potential mother inlaw is considered highly disrespectful and condemnable..

The girl is a wolf in sheep's clothing, and the mother has clearly seen that she isn't the right person for her son..




EricRichie..

ma dear dat girl didn't do anything wrng

Oh God, pls bless me with a mother in law like my mother.

And if this is a test from the MIL, then its really lame! Shebi is food? She should not worry, she will meet the one that will eat her food, help her to cook, clean the house, wash her clothes.... And finally whn the DIL shows her true self after marriage, she will start singing a new song.
Some MILs are just evil!

johnydon22:
Wooow a very nice one. . . . In this part of igbo land or maybe in igbo land as a whole, taking something offered to you is a sign of acceptance.
tho am not sure many people still care.

the girl may not be hungry and thereby she didn't eat the food due to that and i see nothing in it, but she created the wrong impressing on the woman owing that she may think the girl left the food because she was rude and didn't want to touch her dish.

its just misunderstanding, the girl may have done it innocently and the woman misunderstood it. i dont blame any of them.
the girl is an African she should have known the implications of her actions from the unset, she just acted like a white woman. at least she should tasted the food.

anyway i think she should apologize to mama and tell her she didn't mean it the way she took it, she's a Nigerian so i trust she can conjure up a very nice lie..

If you must accept everything you are offered to feel accepted eeehn, you go turn to onye-akpiri ogologo in no time

yommys01:
If your parents have good reasons to disagree with your relationship, obey them. Parents must be obeyed but in this case, they do not have a good reason. They are only been silly ( sorry to say ).

Even GOD does not force his will on us. I have been in this situation, had to because I must be an African who must obey my parents ruin my own relationship. Fast forward 3 years later, my ex is married with a kid, the girl I dated after her died due to doctor's idiocy. Don't let any parent who think they are GOD ruin yourself for you.

Take a hard line stance. You will be proud you did.

Africa parents are something else. I am sure she would have come up with another excuse even if she had eaten.

Very annoying.

In other words ur parents are the cause of the other other girls death or what? Common sense is not common, nobody is forcing anything on anybody here. Its just like a young man of 25yrs is sitting down in a bus, while a 65yrs old woman is standing by your side because there is not sit.

Nobody is forcing you to get up for her to sit, but you should use common sense.

Inspiring

EricRichie:
This is the most reasonable post I have read today...

The guy's mother is right..

1) the lady should have joined his mother in the kitchen and should have aided her in the preparing of the food..

2) the lady failed the so called "mother in-laws" test.. Refusing to eat the food from your potential mother inlaw is considered highly disrespectful and condemnable..

The girl is a wolf in sheep's clothing, and the mother has clearly seen that she isn't the right person for her son..




EricRichie..

You didn't make sense one bit
Girl says she was already full,does someone eat on top a filled belly?
Na by force? Would you rather she said she will eat and then waste the food? The same woman will be the one complaining she wasted food and would as such squander his sons money and food too
Some mothers in law swf,smh,
Honestly the lady should be very careful cos if she ends up marrying that guy,she would have so much problems with his mother .

MRBrownJ:
this story makes no damn sense.... if they were going to meet the mother then why did they ate before getting there? and if they really did then why the BF ate again at mum's place? its either they both dont eat or they both do.

if BF told his mother prior to they arrivals that they were coming then OF COURSE mum is gonna cook and therefore they had no business going to eat befopre getting there. he should have forced his gf to eat, however little it may be.

way forward: beg mama for forgiveness by telling her that HE made the mistake by taking her to some eatery before going to meet her, and with time mama will understand.

is really. MrBrownJay ,the Disc jockey? Wow! Welcome back.

Mothers sha,
They sabi jump to conclusion.
.
On this matter, i'll go with my mother because na sign of love to accept anything den offer you. (even if na garri).
Even if she bellefull at least she fit collect d food and chop d meat.
.
If na because she dey form say she no dey eat outside (abi one food too dirty) m sorry she s not a perfect match.

The man's mother is a trouble maker. Far too proud, disrespectful and inconsiderate of her son's needs. He should not listen to this woman but teach her a lesson.

softysparky:
What kind of yeye test is this one naa, dats how people end up eating stuffs they are allergic to simply because they don't want to offend mama.

Thank God my mum is not petty, if you don't want food she will just offer you drink or give you something to take home.

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Even though she wasn't hungry she should have taken a bite,she made the mother in-law feel she is scared of her being poisoned

Btw,they ate before leaving,how come the husy to be is eating?

osile2012:
A young man has been dating this lady for about 2 years,They both have jobs, and get along well. The guy decides to take the relationship to the next level(Marriage). He calls his mother and tells her he will come to show her his wife to be. They traveled about 3 hrs to get there.

They got to the mans family house, she greeted the mans mother very well and everyone was happy. As the conversation went on, the mother inlaw went to the kitchen, came out and asked the girl where will she eat? in the parlour of dinning table? The young girl innocently said, "No ma, dont bother i am not hungry" . She said ok and brought pounded yam and soup for the man and he ate .

Conversation went on normally and they slept and traveled the next day.When he got back to base, called the mother and told her he had arrived. The mother said thank GOD, but what she wants to tell him is that, it is over her dead body that he will marry that girl that refused her food. He said all attempts to explain that they ate before getting there fell on deaf ears.

She said he has to choose between her and that girl.

I discussed this with some mothers, and they all said they would have done the same. No who is right and who is wrong ? Whose side are you on? the Lady or the mans mother.?

If you were the guy, what would you do? Marry her without your mothers blessing or find someone else ?

Its simple nah...let d man take d lady bak to d house and dey shud order the mother to prepare another meal....she easts and den leave.....

softysparky:
What kind of yeye test is this one naa, dats how people end up eating stuffs they are allergic to simply because they don't want to offend mama.

Thank God my mum is not petty, if you don't want food she will just offer you drink or give you something to take home.

Bein d first time of meeting d in law, courtesy demands dat she eat little frm d food nomata how full she was

Just because she turned town a meal Datz hogwash