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Re: Judge This Case by MRBrownJ: 8:33pm On May 06, 2015 |
ireneidiva: sorry English is not my 1st language. 1 Like |
Re: Judge This Case by ayokellany: 8:37pm On May 06, 2015 |
softysparky: Why can't some of you just learn. Must you live your life being a rebel to the norms or tradition of your society or that of those around you ? |
Re: Judge This Case by eminent007(m): 8:38pm On May 06, 2015 |
Guy(johnydon22), without mincing words, I lap up your signature like a thirsty tired dog would lap up a bowl of milk. |
Re: Judge This Case by olayinkaj2(m): 8:39pm On May 06, 2015 |
Hmmmm! Interesting. |
Re: Judge This Case by Julinze: 8:44pm On May 06, 2015 |
Was it only food? Didn't she take water there or was she fasting. The mother in law wil be a troublesome persos n a fault finder,u knw ladies of nowadays Neva get sense reach dat side and no one is perfect ppl learn everyday. 1 Like |
Re: Judge This Case by johnydon22(m): 8:45pm On May 06, 2015 |
eminent007: Lol... thanks bro. |
Re: Judge This Case by chigoizie7(m): 8:48pm On May 06, 2015 |
afilaka: @least ur bf ate smthing from ur mother, she does not eat amala but she eats pounded yam, This very gal refused taking anything. |
Re: Judge This Case by Strongfaze(m): 8:48pm On May 06, 2015 |
The girl has committed a faux pas. It is un-African for a visitor not to be offered food and worse too if you reject the refreshment offered. Let's look at it this way, imagine if they had arrived and the mum offered her nothing! She would have come to Nairaland and asked if that was a sign of a potential mother- inlaw. Ladies and forming cannot be divorced. A house with a dining table clearly shows the hygiene is also of high standards. Perhaps the lady should have jokingly said; mummy, make I help you carry the food wey me and your caring son go eat. # let the guy go back to his mum and plead for her consent, I believe she will definitely forgive the lady# |
Re: Judge This Case by andyanders: 8:49pm On May 06, 2015 |
EricRichie: Well said. At this point, it will be very difficult to get her change her mind.The lady did wrong by not accepting to eat innocently,not knowing the implication of her action. The guy too should have used style to to tell the girl to eat with him. Too bad for this act.No mother would accept the lady's action. |
Re: Judge This Case by Nobody: 8:52pm On May 06, 2015 |
ayokellany:Biko face front, I am entitled to my opinion. 1 Like |
Re: Judge This Case by Nobody: 8:53pm On May 06, 2015 |
Blackett: You have said it all, this is the most sensible and realistic post av read on this thread. Nice one |
Re: Judge This Case by shumuel(m): 9:00pm On May 06, 2015 |
Hmmm very sensitive one. I blame the 3 of them. The man first: knowing the kind of mother you have, i expected him to have explained her to his Gf and why should he eat alone when his wife to be is not, i sense love is missing in that relationship, i trust my ex, i wont enjoy that meal alone, na she go chop all the meat finish. The Lady second: This is the reason why divorce rate is high these days, why ? Why ? Why would you refuse your mother-in-law's cooking and to make matters worse, she prepared pounded yam for crying out loud, an old woman went out of her way to please you and you refused it, dam i would be the one to leave her not my mom needed telling me. Now i ask if it was her who prepared such a stressful meal and her mother-in-law refused it, would she be happy ? At least she should had eaten Meat or something. Now Mother-in-law: it is not right to judge your son's future wife based with your daughter-in-law accepting or refusing your cookings, i know she might had felt bad feeling she refused it based on the locality that would had ride along with the preparation of the Meal, na village na, and i also expected her to ask with indepth details why she refused the meal before jumping into conclusions. If it was me it wont even had happened, i would had forced her to eat or would had even asked her before my mom went on to dishing the food. 1 Like |
Re: Judge This Case by Nobody: 9:03pm On May 06, 2015 |
The girl better leave this guy. Don't marry someone whose mother doesn't want you. My 50 cent |
Re: Judge This Case by fairygeh(f): 9:07pm On May 06, 2015 |
EricRichie:And u are very sensible right?. I refuse to pick on an e-fight tonight, in a very good mood,thank your stars. |
Re: Judge This Case by pak: 9:08pm On May 06, 2015 |
freecocoa: Chai, freecocoa..... I totally disagree with you. Considering the responses of females on this thread, I now begin to understand why they always have problems with one another. If the story is true. That girl was stupid and inconsiderate or worse. Freecocoa, imagine you were transferred out of Nigeria, Ghana, Gambia or wherever and you had to trabel back to Nigeria for the first time in a year and just spend a day and travel back. And you get to your mumsy's place. You tell her you ate before coming, you don't join her in the kitchen when cooking and you refuse to take her food even till the next day and you leave without touching anything and you were not sick...haba. Now imagine when that's a first impression. Every thing happens within a context, everybody knows how important and sensitive a ladies relationship with her MIL is (unless she's not african, off which I give a pass) . A responsible, thinking lady (or man) knows that first visits to in-laws unless accidental is not just a social encounter but some sort of assessment |
Re: Judge This Case by Venom104: 9:08pm On May 06, 2015 |
chigoizie7: Let me guess.. She left you for one of them in the end ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Judge This Case by godunia(m): 9:16pm On May 06, 2015 |
3 hours trip is not 3 min or seconds, even if she ate plenty fufu,after 3 hours journey, there would be space for another food.that girl wasn't innocent as d op put it she deliberately refused to eat the woman's food maybe under d directives of some kind of spiritual men of God.a woman can fool a man but not a fellow woman. 1 Like |
Re: Judge This Case by pak: 9:17pm On May 06, 2015 |
Amhappy: I wish women like you (who are probably older and more matured) should keep advising younger ones cos we seem to have a generation of people who are being raised by DSTV and African magic 1 Like |
Re: Judge This Case by paulo220(m): 9:23pm On May 06, 2015 |
softysparky:how will d lady feel if d mother in-law exhibit such character if she visited them,d girl shld have pretend eat small. |
Re: Judge This Case by limamintruth: 9:26pm On May 06, 2015 |
#My opinion# Dat was really childish of your friend's mom @op. Cos i really wonder y she is making a big deal out of a trivial issue as this. ![]() Except if there are other logical or better reasons for your friend's mom resentment towards the girl, i'd advise your friend to ignore his mom's demand & try his possible best to reconcile them both (e.g by having a heart-to-heart discussion wit his mom; where he'l politely state his reasons for chosing to settle down with dat particular girl, as well as intimate his mom about the girl's positive attributes & rare qualities. I believe she'l later come around. ![]() |
Re: Judge This Case by freecocoa(f): 9:27pm On May 06, 2015 |
pak:You know, this talk about being Africans in Africa is responsible for many things being done wrongly. I don't understand how you expect a guest to start doing chores in a place she knows next to nothing about. I have nothing against eating in a prospective MIL's place but then, the lady was full, what if they were too hungry to wait till they got there? Just where is the crime in that? There are certain foods I don't eat, are you saying, if my prospective MIL serves me such, I should eat it? Because it's her? I tell you honestly, my mum will have no issues with me not eating nor touching anything, she would even ask me to rest more sef, not everything should be an issue, who did the chores before the girl got there? If she was to stay there permanently, it would be understandable, she was a guest for crying out loud. P.S, it's okay to disagree with me, we can always disagree to agree, we all can't have the same opinions on all topics. ![]() |
Re: Judge This Case by mekaboy(m): 9:32pm On May 06, 2015 |
freecocoa: Your one of those who will marry their mum. |
Re: Judge This Case by freecocoa(f): 9:35pm On May 06, 2015 |
mekaboy:Buzz off. |
Re: Judge This Case by chigoizie7(m): 9:43pm On May 06, 2015 |
Venom104: Lolz, the reverse was the case.(Silly me) We still get on fine. #iwasnotfaithful |
Re: Judge This Case by mekaboy(m): 9:43pm On May 06, 2015 |
freecocoa:truth is bitter, but u will see it happening soon. |
Re: Judge This Case by Nobody: 10:05pm On May 06, 2015 |
Venom104: |
Re: Judge This Case by paulo220(m): 10:10pm On May 06, 2015 |
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Re: Judge This Case by paulo220(m): 10:12pm On May 06, 2015 |
osile2012:no time of coming in and going out, should be indicate |
Re: Judge This Case by LogoDWhiz(m): 10:18pm On May 06, 2015 |
BCharlie:Thanks! |
Re: Judge This Case by pak: 10:19pm On May 06, 2015 |
@ freecocoa You know, this talk about being Africans in Africa is responsible for many things being done wrongly. We all think in a context - even the bible talks about behaving like Romans in Rome. Unless what you're being told to do is outright wrong. I do business in the north and at meal times, some have this attitude of calling all the adult males in the house (even drivers) to come out and eat together (not in the same plate o..... I don't really like it but then I ALWAYS ensure I eat with them, it's a privilege in the first instance for a client to invite you into his house. I tell you honestly, my mum will have no issues with me not eating nor touching anything, she would even ask me to rest more sef, not everything should be an issue, who did the chores before the girl got there? If she was to stay there permanently, it would be understandable, she was a guest for crying out loud. I can assure you that every woman (at least african) would have issues with you staying over and not eating. Scratch the helping in the kitchen part, if you are really tired and they have a help in the house, they can definitely give you a pass. Women are generally very sensitive, so it baffles me when they act insensitively to others. Let me give you another scenario - what if it was your husband, he's been on a trip for months, he comes back home and has to leave the next day. On the day he comes, he refuses to eat claiming he has already ate, then the next day he still refuses to eat before leaving for another 6 months - I mean, you'll be right to feel slighted She didn't commit a crime, she just showed she might lack the etiquette to be a good wife for her son. And if she probably suspects the MIL of am ulterior motive, why then does she want to marry her son? |
Re: Judge This Case by smajatt(m): 10:21pm On May 06, 2015 |
all these our girls this days sef... you go your mother in law house,she offer you food and you com talk say you no eat cos say your belle full SMH... As a confirm yoruba guy oo and i value my culture to the letter, thats an insult and a slap to my face if my wife to be does that like an adage in yoruba says 'OMO YEN O MO JU' she no sabi read situation... Wonder why our great great grand fathers have very peaceful homes and why they don't have so many divorce marriages and broken homes like this present generation, its simple, it all boils down to culture... Sorry op that your babe is not Cultured... Truth is bitter but it has to be said. We want to adopt the lifestyle of the western world, no wonder we are so backward in this part of the world 3 in every 5 American marriages breakup within 3 months... I will always respect China.... They value their culture alot... 1 Like |
Re: Judge This Case by AZeD1(m): 10:25pm On May 06, 2015 |
EricRichie:Dude stop saying rubbish. Anyone who thinks it's disrespectful to reject food should have his examined. Oh by the way I know a lady who from the first day she met her mother in law ate the food, and even washed the plate but I was there when she called the mother in an idiot after marriage. Is the lady respectful? |
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