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Re: Judge This Case by freecocoa(f): 10:27pm On May 06, 2015 |
pak:Lack etiquette to be a good wife because she didn't eat? I didn't read the part that said she was served something else the next day and she still refused to eat, help me point that part out please. If my husband ate out before coming home, believe me it will not be a big deal,(he should just make sweet love to me) so long as he didn't request I prepare something and then eat out, I don't see any problems here. |
Re: Judge This Case by pak: 10:42pm On May 06, 2015 |
freecocoa: Lack of etiquette because she didn't know what should be simple courtesy. A sign that she was probably not well raised. Simple things do matter. Ask any successful person. Their secret always lies in what everybody takes for granted. He didn't say she was offered but based on the storyline, she apparently didn't eat the next day. Considering, the kind of girls (and men) we have these days. Every woman is always apprehensive anout the kind of girl she hands over her son to (which is what it marriage sort of is). A lady that does not appreciate the importance of a first meeting with MIL (not just boyfriend's mum) and it's sensitivity in my own estimation is simply not good enough. Take it or leave it - it's some sort of tacit job interview, it's not just a meeting, it's an assessment. It's not about being pretentious, it's just being sensible As I said, we don't reason in a vaacum, everything is contextual. Go ask any woman with a son of marriageable age and throw the scenario to them and get their response |
Re: Judge This Case by pak: 10:44pm On May 06, 2015 |
freecocoa: Sweet love? How possible when him never chop ![]() |
Re: Judge This Case by Nobody: 10:45pm On May 06, 2015 |
I weep for this uncultured generation. One even said his mother should take a seat, smh. Too many things taken for granted and with levity. Fiancee should have offered to help her boyfriend's mum in the kitchen, she didn't. When the food was ready and was offered some, she turned it down. We know their type, me-and-my-husband-alone women. She has failed to give a good account of herself and the mama has rejected her. I hope her son is wise enough to heed her advice. What a damn shame. 1 Like |
Re: Judge This Case by maxisfield(f): 10:53pm On May 06, 2015 |
Ds kinda mother inlaw wil b trouble..trust me! 1 Like |
Re: Judge This Case by Nobody: 10:54pm On May 06, 2015 |
AZeD1: Okay thanks. . Take your stupidity elsewhere. .. You're talking as if you don't know how cultured we Nigerians are... Am tired of explaining this issue to id.iots like you... Be realistic for once in your life.... Marriage is not only between the man and woman alone.. . The family is also involved. . *yawns* EricRichie 1 Like |
Re: Judge This Case by freecocoa(f): 11:00pm On May 06, 2015 |
pak:Really? Courtesy? Courtesy will be declining the offer, which is what she did, so what were you saying about courtesy again? Abeg leave matter, only in Africa will such a simple issue become a big problem. 1 Like |
Re: Judge This Case by Nobody: 11:00pm On May 06, 2015 |
fairygeh: Lol.. Am a gentleman.. Picking up an e-fight with a lass is... Well, I would never do such... Goodnight ma'am.. . EricRichie |
Re: Judge This Case by Exjoker(m): 11:00pm On May 06, 2015 |
please what is the title of movie ![]() |
Re: Judge This Case by freecocoa(f): 11:02pm On May 06, 2015 |
pak:I thought were were still talking in the context of this thread, well then, if he hadn't eaten and still won't eat at home, he should atleast have a reason for that, his reason will determine what happens next. |
Re: Judge This Case by Johnterryfama(m): 11:03pm On May 06, 2015 |
very simple ,u nd d girl shld enter d same car ,go back to d villiage and eat another dish cooked by ur mom , ask for forgiveness and explain d misunderstanding. exept ur mom hav plan B , she will forgive and bless d 2 of una. |
Re: Judge This Case by Nobody: 11:05pm On May 06, 2015 |
freecocoa: Hahaha freecocoa, don't worry.. I won't show you the "peril". .. You're a lady and am a gentleman... .. . Btw I want to some free cocoa... Would you mind? |
Re: Judge This Case by freecocoa(f): 11:06pm On May 06, 2015 |
EricRichie:Feck off biko. |
Re: Judge This Case by Nobody: 11:13pm On May 06, 2015 |
Re: Judge This Case by lionphil(m): 11:14pm On May 06, 2015 |
osile2012: I go with mama on this one...after 3 hours journey, mama went to the kitchen suffered to cook for two young people without assistance and the mumu city girl couldn't eat out of her inlaw's food ![]() |
Re: Judge This Case by osile2012: 11:21pm On May 06, 2015 |
There are some important factors that must be considered, these also make me put more of the blame on the lady. For those asking where, traveling 3 hrs does not necessary mean its to the village, in this case it was not a village but a state in the East. 3hrs could be from ph to Enugu or Owerri. Thats by the way. They got in around 3, after eating(he) and chat, they went in to rest a while. Later went out around 6 pm to hangout in the city he grew up. Had drinks, fish etc and went shopping in the mall to get things for his mum. Got back late around 10. Slept and by morning ate bread and some tea, chatted with the mom and left. Now, where i feel the girl goofed seriously is the rejection of the food. The question was not "will you it"? The question is where will you be served. This should have told the girl that the woman has already made her mind up that she will eat, and saying no at this point is unacceptable. Lets assume she was sitting close to the guy holding his hand or something, i would expect that even if she was confused or shy, she could pinch the guy or touch him when she asked the question. This would let the guy know she is shy and he will take over from there and answer on her behalf. He could say mummy she will eat with me dont worry. Assuming she was not sitting close to him, she should have used eye contact to ask the guy whether or not to eat, since he knows his mother better. In this case, she did not consult the man or consider his feeling before rejecting the food. It paints a picture of a bossy lady who will find it difficult to submit to the man. But for a man who wants to marry, all this while they might have been relating sexually and mostly about work etc. This is time to test her in an environment she is not use to. This is where you get to know what she is really made of. I guess this is why the guy did not bother to give a hint and just observe to know how she will react. You dont set exam and give answers, otherwise what is the use? So its not only a test by the mother, but the son as well. I dont know the extent the mother would take it because i believe as Africans, there are stuff our parents expect from a lady. . |
Re: Judge This Case by Ngokafor(f): 11:26pm On May 06, 2015 |
...@op your girl is better of without you and your mother..period! ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Judge This Case by mekaboy(m): 11:34pm On May 06, 2015 |
Ngokafor: Yes goodluck to her in finding another african man that does not care about culture and core values. |
Re: Judge This Case by kenoz(m): 11:39pm On May 06, 2015 |
Wait lemme consult IFA.... |
Re: Judge This Case by AZeD1(m): 11:41pm On May 06, 2015 |
EricRichie:Culture can be changed. Problem is idiots like you just take crap because it's culture. |
Re: Judge This Case by Bowaley17(m): 11:41pm On May 06, 2015 |
True she might not be hungry. But she's supposed to go help her MIL in the kitchen. |
Re: Judge This Case by sammy455(m): 11:44pm On May 06, 2015 |
Temmytea70:order d mother ![]() |
Re: Judge This Case by Nobody: 11:47pm On May 06, 2015 |
AZeD1: Do you know what culture really is at all? Culture of a particular people can never be changed... Am sure if you were from the east you wouldn't talk like this... Please don't quote me again. ... Seeing baboons like you on my mentions is really irritating. . Yuck! EricRichie...... |
Re: Judge This Case by Nobody: 12:13am On May 07, 2015 |
No wonder a lot of men like these ones end up marrying jezebels and come to lament for us as to how their wives suddenly changed after marriage. They svck their mothers' b.reasts and allow them decide who to marry. Nigerians too like eyeservce and self deceit. Even the God forsaken culture promotes it. Shame. So a wife material can be sized up by mere food? A woman is using pettiness to decide for her son on whether his lady is right for him and it is suddenly o.k by the so called 'Logical creatures' here. Wow!! No wonder a lot of nigerians have horrible marriages. Why couldnt his mother insist on her taking a drink instead at least to calm her down after a 3 hour journey?. Where is it written that a visitor must enter a kitchen to cook? Nigerians and their love for unwritten laws. You create laws and becme slaves to them. A jezebel or a witch can pass that this woman's test. I pity all these little boys ranting. You all clearly are gullible and easily deceived. No wonder. That woman is clearly an overbearing woman and would be a difficult mother in law. |
Re: Judge This Case by Everydaeguy(m): 12:14am On May 07, 2015 |
Blackett:can someone please lend this dude some senses. |
Re: Judge This Case by Everydaeguy(m): 12:19am On May 07, 2015 |
AZeD1:how cud u say dat.do u rili knw d meanin of culture..can u change ur identity..#culture is wot defines a particular entity,hw they live n all dat.it cnt b changed.can u change ur origin? |
Re: Judge This Case by Everydaeguy(m): 12:21am On May 07, 2015 |
Ngokafor:congratulations...z dat all ur brains cud give you? |
Re: Judge This Case by suwepin(m): 12:23am On May 07, 2015 |
The lady should hv just used her common sense to tell her fiancee's mum to dish her food together with her husbands own.even if she won't eat, she wuld have used that as a cover up.mhen ! My mothers decision would be greatly considered.what an elderly person would see while sitting down,even if you climb the highiest mouuntain,u won't see them. |
Re: Judge This Case by Everydaeguy(m): 12:28am On May 07, 2015 |
Timbuktou: |
Re: Judge This Case by Everydaeguy(m): 12:28am On May 07, 2015 |
Timbuktou:we Africans ve traded our culture with a stick of cigar. |
Re: Judge This Case by Everydaeguy(m): 12:29am On May 07, 2015 |
Timbuktou:we Africans ve traded our culture for a stick of cigar. |
Re: Judge This Case by AZeD1(m): 1:12am On May 07, 2015 |
Everydaeguy:You and EricRichie need to buy a dictionary or better still get an education. Once upon a time it was the "culture" in places like calabar to kill twins, does that happen today? Once upon a time, it was the "culture" in some places to bury the king with his servants, can you tell me if that is rampant today? Once upon a time, the "culture" in some places dictate that if a man died, one of his brothers married the woman. You tell me how that's going today. Culture is dynamic, it changes over time. |
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