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Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by bammy777(m): 8:42am On May 08, 2015
After smoking pot , u decided to give us this thread.
Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by REMMEI(m): 8:49am On May 08, 2015
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Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by WackyJ1(m): 8:49am On May 08, 2015
Teflonbuzz you're getting insider information from Korema, try it and see what happens.

You never know.
Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by 49cents(m): 8:55am On May 08, 2015
happyjuliet:
Eya Bro. Take heart, shit do happen most times. Try and take 2 her and iron tins out, it will not be easy knowing she cheated on U and d love u have 4 her will reduce. Frm ur write up she is worth fighting 4...So if u till really have a little feelings 4 her fight 4 it.

why are you girls just supporting your own? is like u girls do the same kind of things to your guys

OP you sef must be an introvert and overtly sensitive person.wake up and smell the coffee.....

the girl n;oves you the way my uncle in the village loves his goats.....evry two days he goes to the
bush to cut fresh palm fronds for his goats for them to eat, he built shelter for them to sleep i but when its Christmas time he slits their throat for delicious peppersoup......


love is different from self interest

if you too sensitive you would find it hard to spot the differences?

that she sacrificed for him at some point doesn't mean she is still in love with him now

she is a player who wants the best of both worlds

OP is her purchased husband

dont be her fool

confront her and move on, that girl wont change even if she cries a lagoon for you

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Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by adanduka: 9:40am On May 08, 2015
You are not married, right?
You guys were fornicating before she moved on to someone else.
If a girl sleeps with you before marriage, there is a high possibility she does it with someone else.
That's why God is against these things

Sorry for your pain.

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Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by ronald4lif(m): 10:23am On May 08, 2015
Tallesty1:
If good is a person, it would sue you for abuse and misuse.

There is no good girl on earth.



@OP, Confront her, not because you still want the relationship but because you want her to know why you are leaving.

Then pick the biggest piece of your broken heart and move on.

I don't know if I should weep or laugh at the emboldened. cry grin
Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by yuzedo: 12:24pm On May 08, 2015
[size=3pt]Sir,

Making excuses for a cheating woman is dangerous. You don't want to be with someone who can pass off bàstards as yours. Nothing good about a cheating woman because she is automatically a liar, thief, and a potential killer.

Be strong and do the painful (but right) thing. You deserve better and I promise you if you go out there knowing you can, you WILL get better. Don't dwell on her and how nobody out there can match her love or beat the connection/chemistry you both had. Speaking on the authority of experience... Cut that bìtch off for your futures sake. Your kids deserve better than a heaux mama.

Salute.
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Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by yuzedo: 12:27pm On May 08, 2015
adanduka:
You are not married, right?
You guys were fornicating before she moved on to someone else.
If a girl sleeps with you before marriage, there is a high possibility she does it with someone else.
That's why God is against these things

Sorry for your pain.
Hmmm.....
Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by aribs(m): 2:13pm On May 08, 2015
Hey man, Hardly come here to read stuff but for some reason I read your story today and it resonated with me so I decided to share this with you. I was once in this same situation a few years back. I moved to the US and started this relationship with a girl in Nigeria. she was as caring and loving as your girl. very understanding girl at the time or so I thought. Because of the difficulties of life here in the US as a student then, I did not have enough resources to spend on calls and she did not like that. Seeing she was a bright girl, I encouraged her to come over to do her Masters too to add value to her and also that we could start something more concrete here. I spent my time and effort advising on choice of schools etc. and eventually she made it here. At the time she came, I was about to graduate and the uncertainties of life as an international student in terms of job prospects were dawning on me. resources were tight but she encouraged me through it though I noticed she was adventurous and liked the fine things of life. Just like u, I found out my babe was cheating on me while in Nigeria with a married man who she told me was only a client. Coupled with all the pressure of job search and this disappointment, I was upset and went to see her and basically made her know I knew. She cried and all but guess what? like Kowema said, she broke up with me not long after that and even blamed me. I heard a string of reasons bordering on lack of calls, not showing enough care bla bla. I was stunned and I event went apologizing even though I was the one cheated on. I even spoke to her mum in Nigeria. I felt very much like you feel now. I was so depressed I gained a lot of weight. I kept asking why as it did not make sense to me to break up after just one major issue. Relationships have ups and downs right? I would have been willing to take her back then.
THE MORAL OF MY STORY: My Oga, relationships are meant to be fought for by both parties. It is a commitment that has to be shared by both. Like one of the guys pointed out, you do not want to spend the rest of your life wondering what's going on behind you when you are not there. I would suggest you let her know you know. If she wants it too, she would fight for it. Its not just about you fighting. If she does not fight for it, I take God beg you let her go. Oga someone more worthy of your love will show up. In my own case, it was as if God wanted her out of my life before blessing me tremendously. It will be tough but you will be FINE. I apologize for the length of the post

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Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by simplex2: 2:59pm On May 08, 2015
teflonbuzz:
, pictures of their private parts which they exchanged, hotel receipts, plane tickets to vacations, convos of how they are having a good time etc.

All these in her mail box?

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Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by teflonbuzz: 3:13pm On May 08, 2015
simplex2:


All these in her mail box?
Yes I saw her flight itinerary and hotel bookings sent to her by Expedia which she forwarded to the guy, I saw pictures she sent to herself(I guess she was trying to save them), I saw her Whatsapp chat history with the guy (she sent it to her email from her phone and yes you can transfer all your chats to email if you wanna save them). The WhatsApp chat is what showed me all they have been talking about.
Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by simplex2: 3:42pm On May 08, 2015
teflonbuzz:

Yes I saw her flight itinerary and hotel bookings sent to her by Expedia which she forwarded to the guy, I saw pictures she sent to herself(I guess she was trying to save them), I saw her Whatsapp chat history with the guy (she sent it to herself from her phone). The WhatsApp chat is what showed me all they have been talking about. I KNOW WHAT I'M SAYING!

More like she was setting herself up for you to findout; can't find any other reason why she will be documenting evidences to be used against her; that's why I find it hard to swallow.

And when people shout with all CAPS that they know what they are saying, it leaves a lot to be desired
Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by teflonbuzz: 4:35pm On May 08, 2015
simplex2:


More like she was setting herself up for you to findout; can't find any other reason why she will be documenting evidences to be used against her; that's why I find it hard to swallow.

And when people shout with all CAPS that they know what they are saying, it leaves a lot to be desired
Don't know if to say I'm lucky that she left those evidence. I save personal stuff on my mailbox too. You know when you send stuff you wanna save to tour mailbox so you don't loose it or so you don't have to have it on your phone. Heck! she might have even learnt it from me. The thing is that I have her email password but she doesn't know it. You may ask how I got her password or if she just gave it to me and yes I got it from her laptop chrome browser.
I know there are a lot of phony people on the internet but I would not just come here to give b.s stories. This is nothing to be proud about.
Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by micktoxin(m): 4:54pm On May 08, 2015
teflonbuzz:
I have 100 percent proof my gf is cheating on me. We were living together for over a year in Dallas before we moved to different cities in the U.S. I found out about her sexcapades from her email which I happen to know the password without her knowing. I am still contemplating how to handle it because what she has done is horrible but she has been too good to me before now. I really love this girl and I know she loves me because she has made sacrifices that no other gf has ever made for me and cried a lot when we moved to separate cities. When we were in college in Texas, this girl used to support me morally, financially, spiritually and sexually. She sold her car at some point to help me pay off my tuition debts. Yes! she is that good. We were making plans for the future before this long distance thing happened out of necessity. She started sounding somehow lately and I decided to dig and found that she has been having an affair with another guy in Illinois where she is currently. I saw their erotic convos about their bleeping, her messages asking him to bleep her and vice versa, pictures of their private parts which they exchanged, hotel receipts, plane tickets to vacations, convos of how they are having a good time etc. I am so depressed and have had to see a psychologist because of this. I don't know how to handle this because of the way I found out and because I don't wanna loose her forever; besides this the girl is really any man's dreams cos she is very pretty, kind and intelligent even though she has a bad temper sometimes. It is partly my fault because for sometime I was not calling her as much but it was cos the things I was busy with not cos I was cheating or anything like that. I JUST HATE THIS SITUATION. I don't know how I can move on from here. I had thought I found the one for real but now this! She was all I wanted. Is it love carrying me through or am I being stupid? It's okay to be sincere and tell me I am stupid now cos I just feel all kinds of way. Love is really a damn tragedy! I need opinions...it may help before I board a plane to Illinois and do something really really stupid.
Regardless of how nice she was to you, she has crossed the boundary. You just have to move on bruh.
You have disproportionate amount of hot single girls in USA and you are scared to lose her . Leaving her should be instinctive, as she had no respect for you. I do come to USA every three weeks, at worst I can link you with hotter girls... and whatnot.
Peace.

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Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by micktoxin(m): 5:22pm On May 08, 2015
teflonbuzz:
Knowing her, if I confront her she likely won't deny but will get defensive and it may get really ugly.
Anyways, break up with her. She will most likely regret leaving you. I can bet you the other guy will leave her as soon as he is done with her.
Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by teflonbuzz: 5:43pm On May 08, 2015
micktoxin:

Anyways, break up with her. She will most likely regret leaving you. I can't bet you the other guy will leave her as soon as he is done with her.
She damn sure will regret. It's sad man! Yeah there are many girls out here but very few sane ones. I'm not really attracted to other races, akata girls no get head and Naija girls here get their own wahala.
Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by quenzi(m): 5:55pm On May 08, 2015
If you asked me, I'd say you shouldn't hv gone digging just to confirm your suspicion. Don't get me wrong, a cheating gf is d worst thing that can ever happen to a guy and its really demoralising however what you don't know won't kill u. As it is right now, I believe it's your time to step up to the plate and make a sacrifice, forgive n forget and also try to live wit the trauma. Remember, she ain't perfect and like you mentioned, she's done a great deal of good in d past.
Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by ishaq062(m): 6:25pm On May 08, 2015
am short of words ,i just hope she comes around and I pray if she didn't God Almighty will bringbur soul mate.believ and pray to God He will surely guide u



I was once hit

big one but I thank God
Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by teflonbuzz: 6:42pm On May 08, 2015
yuzedo:

Hmmm.....
It's a small world man. Is this the Yuzedo I know? Did you serve in Lagos and play a lot of soccer?
Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by teflonbuzz: 6:47pm On May 08, 2015
quenzi:
If you asked me, I'd say you shouldn't hv gone digging just to confirm your suspicion. Don't get me wrong, a cheating gf is d worst thing that can ever happen to a guy and its really demoralising however what you don't know won't kill u. As it is right now, I believe it's your time to step up to the plate and make a sacrifice, forgive n forget and also try to live wit the trauma. Remember, she ain't perfect and like you mentioned, she's done a great deal of good in d past.
If you love someone truly, you can't stay out of their business. I already forgave her without even asking...it's just what comes after.
Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by oppinionated(f): 7:15pm On May 08, 2015
yuzedo:
[size=3pt]Sir,

Making excuses for a cheating woman is dangerous. You don't want to be with someone who can pass off bàstards as yours. Nothing good about a cheating woman because she is automatically a liar, thief, and a potential killer.

Be strong and do the painful (but right) thing. You deserve better and I promise you if you go out there knowing you can, you WILL get better. Don't dwell on her and how nobody out there can match her love or beat the connection/chemistry you both had. Speaking on the authority of experience... Cut that bìtch off for your futures sake. Your kids deserve better than a heaux mama.

Salute.
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she hurt you this bad? I can make everything okay you know?
Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by Nobody: 7:16pm On May 08, 2015
teflonbuzz:

There is really nothing to disprove it because pictures and receipts don't lie. I just did not see this happening to me. You can imagine how I felt when I saw those pics. There is no disproving. You think I can live with knowing the things she's done? You think my love for her will let me look beyond this?


Awwwwww








U need to tell her that u know she's cheating. That might be a wake up call for her. I'm sure she'll apologise and u two will be good together again. Happens.


Everyone cheats
Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by teflonbuzz: 7:26pm On May 08, 2015
ahsekeena:



Awwwwww








U need to tell her that u know she's cheating. That might be a wake up call for her. I'm sure she'll apologise and u two will be good together again. Happens.


Everyone cheats
Most people not everyone.
Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by teflonbuzz: 7:26pm On May 08, 2015
adanduka:
You are not married, right?
You guys were fornicating before she moved on to someone else.
If a girl sleeps with you before marriage, there is a high possibility she does it with someone else.
That's why God is against these things

Sorry for your pain.
I'm no angel
Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by teflonbuzz: 7:27pm On May 08, 2015
oppinionated:
she hurt you this bad? I can make everything okay you know?
It's not that easy, you know.
Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by quenzi(m): 7:31pm On May 08, 2015
teflonbuzz:

If you love someone truly, you can't stay out of their business. I already forgave her without even asking...it's just what comes after.


Yea I understand. Just keep an open mind and weather the storm. Trust me, there are no guarantees in life and if u leave her you don't know who's gonna come in after..cheers
Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by Nobody: 7:33pm On May 08, 2015
teflonbuzz:
Most people not everyone.





Lol...u never know brother smiley
Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by oppinionated(f): 8:50pm On May 08, 2015
teflonbuzz:

It's not that easy, you know.

On the contrary, it's pretty easy
Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by happyjuliet(f): 10:44pm On May 08, 2015
why are you girls just supporting your own? is like u girls do the same kind of things to your guys

OP you sef must be an introvert and overtly sensitive person.wake up and smell the coffee.....

the girl n;oves you the way my uncle in the village loves his goats.....evry two days he goes to the
bush to cut fresh palm fronds for his goats for them to eat, he built shelter for them to sleep i but when its Christmas time he slits their throat for delicious peppersoup......


love is different from self interest

if you too sensitive you would find it hard to spot the differences?

that she sacrificed for him at some point doesn't mean she is still in love with him now

she is a player who wants the best of both worlds

OP is her purchased husband

dont be her fool

confront her and move on, that girl wont change even if she cries a lagoon for you

Wat is ur problem huh! I just made my own point of view....watch ur words bro.

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Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by teflonbuzz: 11:26pm On May 08, 2015
I see your point.
Re: My Gf Is Cheating On Me But I Just Can't Explode by kpolli(m): 12:22am On May 09, 2015
teflonbuzz:
I have 100 percent proof my gf is cheating on me. We were living together for over a year in Dallas before we moved to different cities in the U.S. I found out about her sexcapades from her email which I happen to know the password without her knowing. I am still contemplating how to handle it because what she has done is horrible but she has been too good to me before now. I really love this girl and I know she loves me because she has made sacrifices that no other gf has ever made for me and cried a lot when we moved to separate cities. When we were in college in Texas, this girl used to support me morally, financially, spiritually and sexually. She sold her car at some point to help me pay off my tuition debts. Yes! she is that good. We were making plans for the future before this long distance thing happened out of necessity. She started sounding somehow lately and I decided to dig and found that she has been having an affair with another guy in Illinois where she is currently. I saw their erotic convos about their bleeping, her messages asking him to bleep her and vice versa, pictures of their private parts which they exchanged, hotel receipts, plane tickets to vacations, convos of how they are having a good time etc. I am so depressed and have had to see a psychologist because of this. I don't know how to handle this because of the way I found out and because I don't wanna loose her forever; besides this the girl is really any man's dreams cos she is very pretty, kind and intelligent even though she has a bad temper sometimes. It is partly my fault because for sometime I was not calling her as much but it was cos the things I was busy with not cos I was cheating or anything like that. I JUST HATE THIS SITUATION. I don't know how I can move on from here. I had thought I found the one for real but now this! She was all I wanted. Is it love carrying me through or am I being stupid? It's okay to be sincere and tell me I am stupid now cos I just feel all kinds of way. Love is really a damn tragedy! I need opinions...it may help before I board a plane to Illinois and do something really really stupid.

I know what you're going through.... Confront her, ask her what she wants.... If she wants to end it, then end it... If she is remorseful, then she breaks off communication with the other guy and you guys create a way of moving forward..... But I have heard bad things about Chicago babes, be careful

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