smokescreen4:
@kaboninc I don't know if you're a Christian but know onething when we leave here we Will be judged according to our deeds, I don't think men will be pardoned or excused cause you guys have joysticks, so when you decide to act like gods in this YOUR WORLD remember we will all give account of our deeds oneday.

Kimoni:


Olu, can I ask you 2 simple questions.

Are you married?

If your wife whom you love and trust so much cheated on you severally with your own blood brother, what will you do? Fight for her love all over again?

Sincerely, answer these questions.


There is a thread that got to FP yesterday where the guy said he forgave his wife for cheating on him for 5 years with a younger person and I did not find one guy that supported this act, instead, they were all insulting him for daring to forgive a cheating wife. And a lady that "mistakenly" asked if he truly saw the chats proving the infidelity got dragged all over the thread.

Now, back to the question, why should forgiveness only lie with the woman and never with the man? Because women don't get hurt or they probably don't have blood flowing in their veins

Only a man is allowed to start divorce proceedings? But with a woman, it's a taboo??

And any woman advising it must be a hypocrite?? But when men advise divorce to a cheating partner, it's okay?

Please show me exactly where the hypocrisy is coming from.

kaboninc:


Speaking about Christianity, maybe you should consult the bible on the curse placed on the women folks by that same God who will judge us.

In as much as I say the world is a men's world, haven't you seen me saying that it is the source of our (men's) undoing and nemesis? Why do you choose to settle on the 'it is a men's world' part? Does it tickle you that much?

After all, most wars and conflicts and crimes ever occurred usually have a woman at the center.

Please be holistic when making reference to my comments so you don't portray me as being one-sided as someone has just caught the bug.

Thanks.

kaboninc:


Speaking about Christianity, maybe you should consult the bible on the curse placed on the women folks by that same God who will judge us.

In as much as I say the world is a men's world, haven't you seen me saying that it is the source of our (men's) undoing and nemesis? Why do you choose to settle on the 'it is a men's world' part? Does it tickle you that much?

After all, most wars and conflicts and crimes ever occurred usually have a woman at the center.

Please be holistic when making reference to my comments so you don't portray me as being one-sided as someone has just caught the bug.

Thanks.

cococandy:
The bible cursed women to suffer wandering p5nis from their husbands?

olu4life:

I totally get the drift. Yes, we know our society give men more room to cheat and be forgiven than the other way round.

About that particular thread, felt like responding but didnt. And I stated earlier, our level of forgiving differs, wwhat A accepts, B might condemn if in the same shoe.
I also advised the OP to move on if the husband is yet to apologise and be remorseful. NOTHING CAN BE DONE IF THE HUSBAND REFUSES TO ADMIT HIS FAULT. Thats why I assked some questions earlier to the OP.

Hope its now clear on where I stand on this issue?

Lastly, speaking from the man's angle, dont forget the pressure he might be getting about child ish. BUT DOESNT MEAN HE SHOULD GIVE IN TO THE PRESSURE.
Note my words in capital letter.

smokescreen4:
LOL, It is a man's world God loves them more.

cococandy:
The bible cursed women to suffer wandering p5nis from their husbands?

Optimall:


Abeg help tell me this course.

cococandy:
lmao. They don't sin. Even the adultery commandment in the bible is not meant for them.
God (the way they want us to believe) must really hate women.

kaboninc:


The woman is not under much more pressure as you mentioned.

In actual sense, the man is.

A woman is married off to another man who uses her to sustain his lineage.

A man sustains his lineage. Thus he is scared of extinction.

Kimoni:



Shoroniyen

kaboninc:


Part of the consequences is that the man is placed above the woman!

I do not want to argue on this issue. Like smokscreen4 and others, you just decided to pick one side of my view.

If you can't see the other side, just ignore.

Thanks.

cococandy:
by above you mean he can sin and God won't punish him? Or somethings are not a sin when he does it?

Nice interpretation you have for the bible prophet kaboinc.

cococandy:
@kimoni, I don't know why nairalanders are disgustingly hypocritical.
You read some posts and want to puke.
Tufiakwa.

kaboninc:


It hurts?

OmoAlata1:
Kaboninc, you are making this thread irritating. I bet if OP is a man stating his wife was sleeping with his younger brother cos she wanted to see if she could get pregnant. You will be telling the husband to run as far from that devilish woman ASAP. but when it is a wife dealing with cheating husband and you are saying "it is man's world" "men are above women" etc

She should not divorce if her husband is truly remorseful. Would you tell a fellow man to stay with a woman, who has had several sexual encounter with his younger brother that he is raising, if she is very remorseful of her behavior because she was looking for pregnancy?? I hate hypocrite with passion. The hypocrisy is this thread is killing me softly. Just like one idiiot was telling me "the success of a marriage falls on the woman ONLY and if it fails, it is all her fault"

Abeg I need panadol

Kimoni:


You are trying to make this thread about you, pls give way for the OP. She needs all the counsel and support she can get.

Westendel:


I would have uploaded their watsapp chats here but because I don't want expose his identity, I would rather tell us the content here.

my sister: why don't you wanna send me the 10,000naira?

my husband: I asked you to come over u refused

my sister: I want us to stop this sex of a thing. I feel bad doing dis with you,knowing well that you are my brother in law

my husband: is better I do it with you,than doing it with an asider.what's wrong if you have a child for your sister?


let me stop here don't want to any further. people, what do you make of this conversation?

kaboninc:


You have issues with comprehension I must say. It is obvious you are a woman and certainly, you should think like a woman! (No apologies!) So bring in your emotional laden voice. It is allowed, only to an extent when by then the scales in your eyes would be off.

If the woman should sleep with her husband's brother, she better be wise. 'Good' if the brother can guaranty her security and financial satisfaction. Else, she is on a long thin. And if the man leaves her, I tell you, he has options because potential/possible and prospective ladies are just too many. Forgive me for bringing this...Oshiomole just got wedded to a young beautiful lady who is younger than most of his kids! How certain can you say about the opposite?

You make or seem to claim that there are men who would not stay with a lady who is having sex with the younger brother. Well, your claim is limited to what you know.

In all, our society brought in 'morals' to act as checks and balances and also guide us in our affairs. That why you say it is 'not good' for such things to happen. Also, it also depends on what we want in life. If the lady who opened this thread feels she can find happiness in divorce, so good for her. If she can also live with the husband and acknowledge her sister, good for her. Like someone rightly said, someone who is good today can be so terrible tomorrow and vice versa.

I am not a hypocrite. I tell you how it is because, it is just simply the truth.

VintageCocktail:
For referring to my mother like that!!!!
You swine. You vulgar little maggot. You worthless bag of filth. You are a canker, a sore that won't go away. I would rather kiss a lawyer than be seen conferring with you.
You are putrescent mass, a walking vomit. You are a spineless little worm deserving nothing but the profoundest contempt. Your life is a monumental to stupidity. You are a jerk, a cad, a weasel. You are a stench, a revulsion., a big suck on a sour lemon. You are a bleating foal, a curdled staggering mutant dwarf smeared richly with the effluvia and offal accompanying your alleged birth into the world. An insensible blinking calf, meaningful to nobody, abandoned by the beasts who sired you and then killed themselves in recognition of what they have done.
I will never get over the embarrassment of belonging to the same species as you.



I am just warming up.....don't mess with joblessness.

kaboninc:


Lol!

You ladies marvel me most times I must admit. Always have one kine of interpretation for everything.

No wonder you guys keep having emotional heartbreaks every time.

By above it means he should lord over her. Kings and Lords make huge mistakes and they pay dearly for it; with their lives and even with the lives of their generations to come! Sometimes, this mistakes can be avoided only if ego and pride can be kept aside. But you and others have chosen to dwell on the 'it's a man's world'!

Too bad it hurts. But it is the damn truth!

kaboninc:


Part of the consequences is that the man is placed above the woman!

I do not want to argue on this issue. Like smokscreen4 and others, you just decided to pick one side of my view.

If you can't see the other side, just ignore.

Thanks.

OmoAlata1:


Thanks for novel. I feel honored, but you still did not answer my question

kaboninc:


It appears you don't even know what your question is. It is a pity indeed.