coogar:


on the contrary.....it was your baby sister that schemed her way into your hubby's boxers. according to you, she has always been promiscuous - it was you that technically brought a blood-related sexmaniac into your household to devour your own hubby.

there's no cut & dried solution to this.....
it depends on how you want it to play out. you have 2 obvious choices......you can either turn the other cheek & prevent your sister from coming to your house again or go nuclear & kick the 2 shameless weasels out of your life for good.

good luck!

Emaprince:
coogar, how far na? All these days, wetin happen?

Hope everything is aright sha?

coogar:


nothing serious, bro!
my dog passed away. the mutt got killed by a speeding car. her death got me shook & i'm still recovering from the shock.

freecocoa:
My dear, I advise you review that his virgin story o and like you've already been told, it's paramount you find out when they started sleeping together.

chibic:

You are the man's first love and babyosisi is already claiming he must be sleeping with other small girls. So much for an advice.

Westendel:


Jane ,
you are not in my shoe,if I tell you how painful it is ,after making the discovery you will pity me.if the
I have not been able to eat since morning, I can't concentrate,so painful that am leaving this marriage empty with no children as a consolation. Its times like this I begin to question my faith.

moca:


Gangan

When I saw "we ve been ttcing for 5yrs" I got weak.
What happened to u is not new to a ttc wifey or one looking for male child especially in igboland.
I guess u r igbo from ur moniker.
Now the problem is that he is using ur sis as one of the test samples.

Madam,i will ask u, r u the one receiving treatment?
Him?
U both?
If it's u,is he supportive?
How has the journey been so far?

Most ttc men do what ur hubby did.
Some ladies do that too. This is the naked truth. That's why I so much feel for those looking for the fruit of the womb cos it can turn a good person to bad overnight.

Now coming to ur sis. Ask her one very important question. Has she aborted before.
Infact, u will take her to hospital to check.
Why I said this maybe, she may have taken in b4 and ur hubby is aware. So he is trying his luck too,coupled with d fact that she is very young(added advantage)

Now, I strongly blame ur sis 19yrs can live over sea along schooling so I don't belive it's naivity. She knows exactly what she is doing.
She can decline and keep quiet or tell her elder sis.

Now coming to ur hubby,how has it been all those five yrs for u two?

If good,then I suggest u don't divorce him.
Yes divorce sound good but believe u me the first thing that always come to our mind in a case like this isn't always the best solution.
I don't suggest u stay with him either for now cos honestly,anything cann happen. U can separate and cool ur head for the meantime, then think of the best possible solution to the problem.
If after a while u still can't forgive or see urself having anything in common with d man,u can then file for divorce.


Meanwhile,let ur family members know.
Withdraw any help u r rendering that ungrateful child.

Don't take ur case to church.

I think I will stop here.
All the best.

babyosisi:


Forgive my ignorance,please what is ttc and ttcing

Kimoni:


trying to conceive

SAMBARRY:
This one pass me o.na only for nollywood I dey see am o.





op tell me it's a lie


O
KanwuliaJara your attention is needed here because I have ran out of what to say

Westendel:
@ Moca, I will definitely not take this issue to Church.

@all thanks for your contributions. will definitely update the result of the family meeting tommorow.

surprisingly I happened to be this man first love,he was still a virgin at 31 when we got married.Never knew he will turn to a beast after years of marriage.

The last time we visited a Doctor, he said there is no medical problem stopping us frm conceiving. medically we are OK.but don't know what is hindering us.

God will help me,that I surely know!

coogar:


nothing serious, bro!
my dog passed away. the mutt got killed by a speeding car. her death got me shook & i'm still recovering from the shock.

coogar:


on the contrary.....it was your baby sister that schemed her way into your hubby's boxers. according to you, she has always been promiscuous - it was you that technically brought a blood-related sexmaniac into your household to devour your own hubby.

there's no cut & dried solution to this.....
it depends on how you want it to play out. you have 2 obvious choices......you can either turn the other cheek & prevent your sister from coming to your house again or go nuclear & kick the 2 shameless weasels out of your life for good.


good luck!

KanwuliaJara:


I nor be fan of desperado fruit of womb and blokos matters o!
Instead of some women to be jumping up and down like they have won the lottery of "barrenness" in the hands of one SWINE of a husband, this wan is lamenting that she has been SAVED BY HIS DISGRACE!!!!
Which kain yeye atteshun?
Barrenness or incccest still dey in vogue for 2015?
Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeew!!!!!!

Please, if she ever manages to conceive and finally born, make she come meet me make I show am a very SEXXXXXXY ABORTION DOCTOR, before or AFTER the birth!

Nansenze!!!!!!

olu4life:
Just went thru all d posts. Most gave good advices but we shouldn't be sentimental. Fine, d sister is promiscious. What IF it was d sister that seduced d man Lets not conclude that d man had sex with her at age 14. OP said something about been the first love of the husband. Trying to view it the other way round.

Sincerely, divorce isnt yet an option till both parties reveal what went down. OP take heart. Its very ok to be angry at this moment and feel like getting a divorce but it isnt easy as u see it. Calmness is even far from u rite now, that I know but try to be patient and like sis babyosisi said, u have to sit ur sister down to hear her first before the family meeting. It is very very crucial. Also ensure u ae calm when talking to her. Be approchable during the talk and have listening ear.

#My2Kobo

cococandy:
@westendel, sorry I responded late to your mention.
Just pull yourself together.

Don't let anyone guilt you into taking back a guy who betrayed you like that. If you want to, you want to. If you don't, then fine. it is not your responsibility to make work a marriage that your partner has no regards for.
In the end, make the decision that gives you peace and not the decision that leaves you with questions and bottled up resentment.

Your sister is 19 even though pretty young, she should know better.
I don't even have words for your husband.
If it was anyone else but your kid sister, it would be so much more different.
This is one of those situations where you wish he did it with someone else and you'd readily forgive.

All the best.

cococandy:
@westendel, sorry I responded late to your mention.
Just pull yourself together.

Don't let anyone guilt you into taking back a guy who betrayed you like that. If you want to, you want to. If you don't, then fine. it is not your responsibility to make work a marriage that your partner has no regards for.
In the end, make the decision that gives you peace and not the decision that leaves you with questions and bottled up resentment.

Your sister is 19 even though pretty young, she should know better.
I don't even have words for your husband.
If it was anyone else but your kid sister, it would be so much more different.
This is one of those situations where you wish he did it with someone else and you'd readily forgive.

All the best.

Westendel:



Even if I forgive, how do I get to like him again? I can't possibly look at him without the thought of his abominable act playing in my mind

KanwuliaJara:
See yeye advice for me "frontage" o!
Abeg, make I go wash my nyansh first!
I dey smell sointin "meaty"!

babyosisi:


She obviously should regard anything out of his mouth so far as a big fat lie until proven

SAMBARRY:
KanwuliaJara seriously is this necessary. Must everyone know what you do or about doing in your closet

coogar:


nothing serious, bro!
my dog passed away. the mutt got killed by a speeding car. her death got me shook & i'm still recovering from the shock.

freecocoa:
Yet you won't let her be, no be you dey always call her come every thread? You are very much interested in what she has to say na, so take whatever she says and don't complain.

BTW, the humour in that post was lost on you, maybe it's me having a weird sense of humour or something.

SAMBARRY:
I called her for her post on the matter. I'm not interested in whatever she does in her closet or with her yash

freecocoa:
You probably should ignore whatever you are not interested in then.