koyyes:

It's not about civilization, westernization or feminism. Its about treating people with respect regardless of their gender and teaching people how to be humble by displaying it yourself. If you are able to do that, you will earn it. You keep talking about values. Is it up to females alone to uphold such values or the whole society? Look around you,does the society itself care about values?

TheSonOfMark:

Relax while I take the hallucinating homo sapiens to the cleaners like I always do. I particularly like to take on the ultras and expose their ingrained foolhardiness.

RedBenson:


Education and exposure should strictly be meant for men folks. Women should get all their lives spent in the kitchen and keep the home while birthing children.

RedBenson:


When does a woman stop being a visitor in her man's house? Probably till after marriage? The same house she had been visiting and getting fuccked day in day out?

oloyede252:


why did I quote you in the first place? it is because the devil is using you

freecocoa:
Yes I am proud to be an outcast if it means having common sense and using it, which entails realizing that human beings, deserve to be treated with same level of respect, regardless of gender.

Your supposed education is useless, you should sue your teachers.

GbengaJimoh:

They're trying hard to be like those white bitches who preach gender equality and independence, but they forget that this is Africa, and in Africa, men don't worship women.

freecocoa:
See who I was wasting my mb on. You should get a refund from your teachers.

cdamsel:
Even you are contradicting your own story.
The story said she visited obviously she left that's why the brothers had the time to argue about the dishes.

I'm beginning to think you are that younger brother cos you sound really pained & stating your grievances like it's personal.
Might be wrong though #

RedBenson:


Lol. Dont get it wrong. I'm right now very far from Nigeria and the story happened right in naija few days ago and got across to where i am. May be my choice of word "visited" misconceived the story (i should've used a more appropriate word), but let me believe someone who has been regularly visiting a place and up to the extent of being called "fiancee" as used in the write up is no longer regarded a visitor. Look at it and reason logically.

freecocoa:
Then you must be from the caves as originally guessed, if you think people shouldn't have an opinion because it hurts your over bloated ego, read your post again, it is beyond 'shitty'

What are the others going to learn? How to live their lives based on other people's idea of how life should be led? The difference between you and I is, I actually know what I want for myself but you live your life seeking validation from people. I bet you think it's proper to walk into people's house, doing as you please because they opened their doors to you "visitor or not" indeed, you better go read up on etiquette.

Conversing with your likes can cause a migraine,I don't understand how anyone can be so shallow.

cdamsel:
Like I said any grown as.s man or woman should do his / her dish.
My point is don't make it a man /woman thing. What is wrong is wrong #PERIOD

freecocoa:
Then you must be from the caves as originally guessed, if you think people shouldn't have an opinion because it hurts your over bloated ego, read your post again, it is beyond 'shitty'

What are the others going to learn? How to live their lives based on other people's idea of how life should be led? The difference between you and I is, I actually know what I want for myself but you live your life seeking validation from people. I bet you think it's proper to walk into people's house, doing as you please because they opened their doors to you "visitor or not" indeed, you better go read up on etiquette.

Conversing with your likes can cause a migraine,I don't understand how anyone can be so shallow.

RedBenson:


Then she was the cause of the war in the house. If she had reasonably done what a respectful women, a fiancee should do by washing the dishes, then this topic would've come up in the first place. But she failed and tried to turn the guy to her boi boi.

castro316:


Say what u like. The thing is you will never change the truth and reality. That's why I don't pity women. Some of them like u are the architects of ur own catastrophe. Mtcheew! Ppl that dance naked in the market place and think it sane. No wahala. Anyway this is nairaland and everybody can say what they like here.

Krystalxxx:
Some studies point to the fact that the black woman is regarded as the most undesirable race of women in the world. But some suggest that this is because no other race degrades or openly disgraces their women more than the black race. I think this is true, judging by the posts on nairaland. It is a pity that we do not realize, especially the men, that at the end of the day we are stuck together. No other race would make us one of theirs. The insults heaped on the African woman by African men themselves have given us the title of the least respected women in the world, and what better excuse for other races to disrespect us.

When our men treat our women like rags, outsiders will come to laugh at us as a whole, that's men included. While other countries move to dishwashers and other amenities which enable them to do more useful things in their lives while still taking care of the chores, African men prefer that our women spend the lion's share of their time proving their worth scratching and scrubbing, when we could have a more powerful force of both men and women, powered up educationally and moving the world with their intelligence.

Too bad. Other countries be discussing their next powerful moves and celebrating gargantuan victories.......but Nigerian men and women are still huddled up in their little huts arguing about who will wash the plates

freecocoa:
If I were to be that lady, I'd seriously reconsider being married into such a family, good thing her hubby to be is sensible sha.

What's the big deal in doing a dish? Why does it have to come down to who ate with the plate? the said fiancee is a guest if I'm correct, so why should she being doing dishes in a house she's visiting for starters?(not that it's bad anyways), just that, it's not proper etiquette to demand your guests do chores(well except there are rules, which you must let them know about) then again, it just isn't normal.

RedBenson:


[s]Dude, you're not a man judging by the trash you just put up there. Forget the fact that a pipe is dangling inbtwn your legs. That alone doesnt make you a man, a true African man i meant.[/s]

cdamsel:
Again with the woman thing
Obviously she doesn't know she stared up war.
What exactly is your point? She should have done the dishes or her dish? Which one?

If the younger brother can't talk to the elder brother explaining to him like a reasonable man should there wouldn't have been war in the 1st place.
His brothers house,his brothers rules,he either suck it up to move to his father's house where he won't be treated like a boy boy

ireneony:
i so much love the comments on this thread.
thank God women are standing up for what is right and i discovered that some nigerian men are standing up for their women.

@redbenson nawa for u o "mere women"

FrancisTony:

Trash!

Who's claiming to be a man or woman on this thread?

I asked a simple question and you typed rubbish as a reply.

Btw, if i'm not a man, that doesn't make a woman either.
So, tell me a new gender you invented?.
A true African man to you, has to be a misogynist.

Nansense!

mencade5:
bro dont mind these nairaland biiitches.

They are still biiitches, being fvcked by men daily. They can feign knowledge clamoring for fake feminism that doesnt exist. Yet their place must remain in the kitchen.


The lady that didnt wash the dishes is very stuu.piid. I always blamed the pusssy fvcker of a brother for siding his biiiitch instead of his brother.

Later them go dey complain say my wife doesnt respect me after giving her too much liberty.

amokeme:
I don't like doing dishes .. She might be like me

A1official:
As you don't like doing dishes. you should also dislike eating. Daiz simple

RedBenson:


Francis, i said before and i'm repeating myself. I judge you by what you put up there. You are not a man, a real African man. Quote me anywhere. Forget the fact that a pipe is oscillating inbtween your legs. That doesnt make you a man.

RedBenson:

If the society is careless abt values, it doesnt equate we shld throw it into bin at home. A home is different from society.

RedBenson:


Thank you my dear. Let me believe we still have good ones out there with right characters. To me, if my girl tries such, i would rather see her as an "unwify" material instead of getting angry with my bro cos he didnt wash her plates. Some girls lack womanly manners seriously.

RedBenson:


Education and exposure should strictly be meant for men folks. Women should get all their lives spent in the kitchen and keep the home while birthing children.