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Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by fanex: 12:28pm On May 28, 2015 |
how did this junk make front page? must we berate you here for being a fish brain? |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Nobody: 12:30pm On May 28, 2015 |
OP. This ur problem is common in most homes in Nigeria. You are not alone. 80percent of Nigeria Mothers are like ur mum. 70percent of children actually fall for thier manupulations. That is why to many people: Mothers are always angels while fathers are always beast. Women are always d victim. that is how many mothers make thier children to think. Those saying is because she might not love ur dad are likely to be wrong. Even when mothers love thier husband, they still want to have most of d love and attention of d children over thier husband. they still manipulate their children even if they love thier husband. Most fathers are usually aware of d manipulations. they just choose to ignore. Note: Some fathers are like women or even worse. In my own case, my father was d one trying to make me hate my mum by all means. My mum didnt even care. When i was younger i was falling for his manipulations. As i grow older (early twenties) his manipulation was no longer working on me because Fathers are not so good in manipulation because they try to do it rationally. so it doesnt work well. because as i grow in rational, d more his manipulation seems to fail. only about 20percent of children will fall for thier fathers manipulation. But mothers use emotion to manipulate thier children and it work on atleast 70percent of the children OP, my advice for u is that, whenever ur mum come to you to complain, just listen even though u know it is manipulation. dont make any contribution. dont approve or disaprove. all u should give is listening ear. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Fourwinds: 12:30pm On May 28, 2015 |
Jman06:OP dis is my advice too. u are wise. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by tunechi28(m): 12:34pm On May 28, 2015 |
funny was in d same situation my mom ended up in turning everyone against ha instead of the oda way round |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by GoodFaith: 12:35pm On May 28, 2015 |
jayne8585yahoo:You represent evil How can you say that the dad mistreated her in the past? You are full of shit and you are going to be a bad wife 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by noblegrex: 12:36pm On May 28, 2015 |
marque:very simple. U don't need to interfere in their affairs.they're husband and wife they've come a long way B4 having u,n such, must have been happening.they'll sort it out btw themsefs.all u just need to do is mummy pls take it easy daddy pls take it easy don't go furhter than that,bt deep inside u, u knw who's at fault.cos any attempt To say or do anything will mean u r in support of 1 party. |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Eseries(m): 12:37pm On May 28, 2015 |
bro women.......sisters/mothers/girl friends/ mothers in-law/neighbor try as much as they can to manipulate men emotionally. instead of logic they stair up emotions. they remind u how they suffered during the pregnancy that begat u they tell u how u were sick every day as a kid that she had 2 sleep in the hospital everyday they remind u they breast fed u you are a man always think with ur head and not heart. make it clear to her you are a man that makes his decisions independently and standby it. show her love a son get for her mom but don't hesitate to let her know u r a man of your own and you will stand for what is just. support her fully when she is right but when she is wrong be bold enough to tell her you are not on her side and why.... make her see the logic....... love my mom to the core but she knows she cant remote control me......no one can, she can only suggest stay close to dad too......you will learn a lot as a man 6 Likes |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by obinto: 12:38pm On May 28, 2015 |
My boy, u think like a man already. Its not about taking sides but about seeing things from a very neutral position. When u do ,stand firm in your opinion regardless of who likes or dislikes it. Dont go about pushing your point of view vigorously as your parents especially your mum might find it offensive or disrespectful. Make your opinion known and try carefully to explain them. However do not ever allow yourself to be incited against your Dad. NEVER. Love your mum and dad and show respect at all times 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by noblegrex: 12:38pm On May 28, 2015 |
marque:very simple. U don't need to interfere in their affairs.they're husband and wife they've come a long way B4 having u,n such, must have been happening.they'll sort it out btw themsefs.all u just need to do is mummy pls take it easy daddy pls take it easy don't go furhter than that,bt deep inside u, u knw who's at fault.cos any attempt To say or do anything will mean u r in support of 1 party.it has worked out like that.just pretend as if nting is hppening 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Nobody: 12:50pm On May 28, 2015 |
@Op. Manipulated man, the predatory female. You can read the following books for better understanding. |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Nobody: 12:53pm On May 28, 2015 |
atbu1983: You didn't have to try so hard. |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Nobody: 12:56pm On May 28, 2015 |
Justfollowit: was just saying it plainly d way i experienced it and sees it. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Nobody: 12:58pm On May 28, 2015 |
atbu1983: Well sorry to dissapoint you. Some mothers are very good at it and some fathers are the best at it. Stop trying too hard to make fathers blameless. |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by DrGroove(f): 12:59pm On May 28, 2015 |
Whatever the case.. good or bad.. nothing will make me take sides with my father against my mother. No matter the situation, no matter the condition, I don't want to know who was right or wrong All I know is only my mother is important to me. I will always support her in totality, irrespective of anything.. I could talk calmly in private n try correcting her if she was at fault but never in this world, not in the next world will I take sides with my father.. Anyway,op is a guy.Am glad his sister is in mother's favour.... 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by amacastel: 1:00pm On May 28, 2015 |
Am sorry to tell u dis is either ur father cheated on ur mum in the past or he is still cheating and ur mum knw abt it that's why she is not been considerate on the amt of money ur dad has spent so far and she is not submissive to him again cos if she is she will not even tlk abt embarking on the visit wen ur dad is against her traveling the Love in that marraiage has gone sour ur mum is stil in that marraige for 3reasons 1) age is not on her side again. (2) for her children that's why she is trying all she could to turn u and ur siblings against ur dad (3) ur dad is financially buoyant women generally all over the world, by nature love comfort and money from men My advise to u call ur paddy among ur siblings win her over to be neutral next time ur mum call u and ur sibling for any case aganist ur dad pls tell her WHAT GOD HAS JOiN TOGETHER LET NO MAN PUT ASUNDER and simply walk away trust me she will never call u again to turn u against ur DAD and ignore her like ur dad pls get closer to ur dad u r his only son. At list for now u knw . |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by DrGroove(f): 1:04pm On May 28, 2015 |
marque:Guy,you better stop embarrassing your mother (even if we don't know her )...You should be thinking of how to be settled,make money n spoil ur mother with goodies.. Imagine ur mum is begging ur dad for money but he is forming he doesn't have cos he got other stuff to do.. stuff like what? it won't pass beers n girlfriends..... Use ur head.. Mother is all..Good or bad,right or wrong. ur father can never be like ur mother to u.always support ur mother! 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by GentleToks(m): 1:10pm On May 28, 2015 |
marque: Hmmmmm mm!!!!!!!! God bless you brother and you are blessed. The atrocities of women against men is usually overlooked in today's world. It's quite sad seeing fathers being neglected by their children. There are million of fathers out there struggling day in, day out, to put food on the table, clothes, hospital bills and pay their children school fees but only for their mothers to turn these children against their fathers. It's pretty easy for mothers to do this cos women are naturally blessed with emotional manipulation which they usually employed in ensuring that their children are completely manipulated against their own fathers. It's pretty heart wrecking. I have met load of girlfriends who hate their fathers base on what their mothers told them. I have begged most of them to go and do their own personal investigation. Interestingly, they always find out the atrocities of their mothers was what led to the break down of the marriage in the first place. The first time my mum tried it with me, d moment I hear my dad name and about to start talking........ my head started spinning and hot. It's painful and heart-trending to see women 6 Likes |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by xtervaganza(m): 1:12pm On May 28, 2015 |
marque:i feel sorry for your dad.....your mom might poison him any moment. I kniw a family like yours and the woman killed her hubby in the end |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Ariyke: 1:14pm On May 28, 2015 |
Whenever my mum reports my dad to me I simply tell her respectfully that she loved him enough to marry him for so long even before we the children came along so they can overcome their differences 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Crieff(m): 1:31pm On May 28, 2015 |
pickabeau1: Marque, I endorse this, totally. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Crieff(m): 1:34pm On May 28, 2015 |
DrGroove: Edited DrGroove, you frighten me. 4 Likes |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Nobody: 1:35pm On May 28, 2015 |
Arsenate:I've always known that one tey tey.. Infact my dad's 'heroism' is not even 'unsung'. While my mum ehn...hmm...lemme just reserve my comment. Even my mum knows I love my dad more than i do to her...she has quit instigating me against my dad a long time ago..ee no fit work.. 3 Likes |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by stonecoldcafe: 1:35pm On May 28, 2015 |
marque: I know its hard but try to mind your business. From your description, I take it that your parents are not kids in marriage (well over 15 years I imagine) They know how they have managed themselves all this while and they have survived. Don't be tempted to put mouth inside married people matter even your parents. Don't take sides with any of them. Just pray for them and keep mum. Next time your mum carry matter for you to judge, just say 'hmn, it is well. It is okay' That way you are not taking sides and you don't have to apologise ontop their matter. Don't worry they will make up as they have always done. The relationship between husband and wife is sooooo complicated. Even this one when you dey ginger for your papa, do you know if they know something you don't know! NB: it has worked for me now mumsie nor dey even judge for me again. |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by dozymars(m): 1:38pm On May 28, 2015 |
The best thing for you is to ignore her comments about your Dad, i can see she is not the type to correct or challenge. If you keep correcting her, she might hate you for that. Keep been the wise man that you are and talk to your sister so she does not act same way in her own marriage. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by stonecoldcafe: 1:46pm On May 28, 2015 |
pickabeau1: God bless you. That's my take on it as well 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by masciv: 1:46pm On May 28, 2015 |
You shouldn't intervene in any issues regarding your parents. They were there before you and the made a decision to be with each other. The union is between them and them alone. I'm not saying you can't try to feel something but in the process of feeling something for one party, you begin to take sides and by the looks of things you're already supporting a party. What I'd advice you to do is to tell your mum point blank to settle whatever the issue is with your dad. You should never intervene cos you would most likely only cause more problems while trying to rectify it. Leave your parents to do what is expected of them, besides it would be an intrusion into their personal lives and I hope you know that despite having children, parents still have their own personal lives. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Nobody: 1:46pm On May 28, 2015 |
DrGroove: I pity the man that will marry you if you are lucky at all. End time children 6 Likes |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Nobody: 1:50pm On May 28, 2015 |
Jayne8585yahoo[/quote]. women are resilience in nature, may be for her to stay married she was taking your fathers flaws then, now she thinks that it's her own time to shine. [/quote] Hmmm....guess the mother never had flaws? Meet a person(judge) with this mindset in a family court! You'll get your arse rap.ed. |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Nobody: 1:51pm On May 28, 2015 |
DrGroove: Who da Bleep are you sef? The OP is nt the cause of ur fustrated lyf..i know your problem is menopause 5 Likes |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Nobody: 1:54pm On May 28, 2015 |
Op, am worried about your sisters. Especially your elder sister. Sad. Just sad. 3 Likes |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Nobody: 2:08pm On May 28, 2015 |
Eseries:A round of applause for this man! 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by ybalogs(m): 2:18pm On May 28, 2015 |
Mother's are the same all over the world. Painting fathers blue, black, green no be today but of course we as children will always see the truth except we're pretending not to. You really don't have to blame your sisters cos in the end you'd be the only one to remain with your parents. Anyways, I wouldn't want to blame our mothers,I just hope the ladies of our generation will learn and desist accordingly. And please, never openly criticise your mum since you know she wouldn't budge. Cheers bro. 2 Likes |
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