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Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by grandstar(m): 2:23pm On May 28, 2015 |
marque: Your mom is just being petty and silly. That is why your dad is ignoring her. I am sure he is aware of her divide and rule tactics. Your dad is handling it maturely by ignoring her. He sees her behavior as childish and puerile. Unfortunately, your mum's behavior is rubbing off on your sister. I am she does not take it into her husbands home. Perhaps she may be fortunate to have a husband like your dad. Your mom enjoys a sulk. |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by babygirlfl: 2:27pm On May 28, 2015 |
Some people have said most Nigerian mums are like that with one saying up to 80% of mums are like that. Whether or not that is true is topic for another day. However for those that believe it to be true, is that not worrying? Does is not show that these mums are unhappy in their marriage? Does this not show that there is something fundamentally wrong with our marriage system? @ op There are some underlying problems that only your mum and Dad can solve. Your mum is talking to you as you are part of the family. Most people like to keep things within the family while showing the world that they are happy. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Qmab: 2:27pm On May 28, 2015 |
Op do what you think is right. Tell your parents what you feel about their actions and let them sort the rest out themselves. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by SpencerLewis(m): 2:58pm On May 28, 2015 |
ahnie:Then ur mum is a bad woman. Why shd a sensible woman do that? To achieve what? to make the children hate their father or what. Any child that falls for that is as stupid as the mother. If i'm a man i'll send her back to her parents and marry another wife, MAKA CHUKWU. HERE IN PLANET Venus WHERE I LUCIFER SON OF THE MORNING RESIDES, such nonsense cannot happen. Gbam! |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by SpencerLewis(m): 3:00pm On May 28, 2015 |
classicB:He shd tell his father to marry another wife. The 2nd wife will keep his mother busy and she will be do everything nice to seek the man's attention. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by efepro(m): 3:06pm On May 28, 2015 |
The worst form of child abuse is to teach a child how to hate. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by saasala(m): 3:11pm On May 28, 2015 |
raumdeuter: Most women 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Nobody: 3:16pm On May 28, 2015 |
There is no 1 way of solving this kind of issue, i think u should 1. Pray 2. Call ur dad and ask him what went wrong between both of them. 3. Talk to ur mom as in REAL TALK, try to get what her issue really is....try to dig the truth out of her...cuz u neva can tell ur dad might have skeletons in his shelf. 4. If something FOUL actually happened try to talk her into forgiveness (if she is a Christian or a Muslim use d Bible or Quran to get to her....if u can). 5. Also, tell, beg or advice ur dad to make peace with her. Lastly, whenever she's in a happy mood, always paint her a picture of what u'd like ur family to look like in the future |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Excellentmind: 3:19pm On May 28, 2015 |
My dear, don't let the issue bother you any longer. To be sincere with you, the attitude runs in the vein of almost every women. There is hardly a grown up that has not witnessed it in one way or the other. Now you can separate good from bad, that is why it has become an issue of concern to you. Advice: do not let in because it's the right way to go; weet must be separated from chaff. Listen to her as she talks to you, but don't act upon it. It's well. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Godmann(m): 3:36pm On May 28, 2015 |
jayne8585yahoo: I completely disagree with you. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by 14DUI(m): 4:23pm On May 28, 2015 |
DrGroove: All i see is a girl from a polygamous family, otherwise i guess your so called father might not be your real father, no pun intended. 5 Likes |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by FluffySucre(f): 4:24pm On May 28, 2015 |
ahnie: My mum does the same too, at least OP u got to know on time, me, i didn't. I only got to know my daddy was the good Guy shortly before he died. And all those excuses of why most mum's do this is jus so flimsy. Mums are always playing the victims, use emotional deceit a lot, even if they are the wolves in the home. OP Pls don't allow her turn u against ur dad. 5 Likes |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by 14DUI(m): 4:38pm On May 28, 2015 |
marque: @OP, i thank God for your life and i pray for his wisdom in all your doing. Remember this as you continue to grow, women only seek for 2 things, Money and Power, if she can't earn it, she grab it. it's a commomn thing and always happen in all homes, OUR MOTHERS have always turn us against our fathers, they seek power to control the home, if the man is tough, she turn the children against thier father. You're a man and remain so, that is why you think with your brain, no sentiment. Disagrement between your parent is non of your concern neither of your sibling, let her solve her marital issues with the man she decide to marry. You wonder why the issues have to do with money?? and am sure she might be controlling too. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by 14DUI(m): 4:41pm On May 28, 2015 |
FluffySucre: God bless you, imagine how far you would have know your dad before he died, the father daughter relationship, i don't know why our mothers does this sinful act of turning the chhildren against their father. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Nobody: 4:42pm On May 28, 2015 |
babygirlfl: it is not Nigeria marriage that is d problem. All married people all over d world have issues in thier marriage. issue free marriage does not exist anywhere in d whole world. it is d natural self centred nature of women. Generally women want everything to be about them. they want all d attention. Even if d husband is an angel, d same problem will still arise. sometimes women cant control this part of them. it is in thier nature. women feels that they have done more than thier husband for d child well being. No matter how good and angelic d husband is, she still feel she owns d child more. So she feels she deserve more love from d children by default. it is dis innate feeling and jelousy that drive them to manipulate thier children to achieve it. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by ugoezeik(m): 4:44pm On May 28, 2015 |
sunnydayasaba:guy since wey I don dey for nl na only u b d beta head wey I don c. u said it all bro 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by 14DUI(m): 4:47pm On May 28, 2015 |
atbu1983: Gbam!! All they want is Money and Power, if they can't get, they turn everything against the man, the children are easy tools you know. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by FluffySucre(f): 5:51pm On May 28, 2015 |
14DUI: whenever I think abt him, I cry. he was a very good man. For the record, being a daddy's boi or gurl is sweet bt Mummy's boi or gurl is a disaster! cos daddy won't dictate ur lives still u get married but mummy will dictate all your life, she will tell u who to marry whether it benefits u or not, she will even come live with u, cos more problems. 4 Likes |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by GoodFaith: 6:45pm On May 28, 2015 |
DrGroove:U are a really a b ![]() One way street dumb ass 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by Neplusultra(f): 8:14pm On May 28, 2015 |
Your Mom is still a child at heart ![]() |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by marque: 5:00pm On May 29, 2015 |
DrGroove:I'm sorry to disappoint you but I have equal love for both my mum and dad. I can't take your advice. Thanks. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by marque: 5:06pm On May 29, 2015 |
Thank you all for your concern and heartfelt advice. I've tried to apply some of the suggestions and things are gradually taken a good turn. For those who felt it wise to insult me,thank you also. |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by ahnie: 8:30pm On May 29, 2015 |
My father z a good man.he was there for me during my formative years,he practically played the role of my mother.he bot me my first sanitary pad and taught me how to use it.and risked his life for us the kids.i can nva TURNED against my Dad. |
Re: My Mother Is Trying To Turn Me Against My Father. by SAMBARRY: 9:04am On Jun 01, 2015 |
dinachi:When you and your 22animals are released from yaba left then you can be given attention to like a normal human being |
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