Me and my ex broke up a month ago over a stupid petty argument. We have been together on and off for 5 years and I was in love with him no matter what he has done. A couple of weeks ago he was acting strange to me I was always last on his list when it came to my needs I'm now 8 months pregnant by him and he refuses to talk to him he ignores me as if i don't exist.

I feel like I'm the one to blame because I'm calling texting and emailing him like crazy saying I'm sorry. Our argument was over because he felt like I had to know my place at the time I had just lost my job after I got a new place for me and my daughter that I have now and I didn't know how I was going to pay bills. So, I couldn't turn to family because I basically disowned them for him and the only person I had was him.

So this huge argument was I was enabling him and depending on him too much and he was tire of my mouth. I'm not the type of person that let's anyone talks to me any kind of way I speak my mind a lot and he didn't like that.

He was treating me like a child so for once I stood up for myself and I told him about himself and he didn't like it and that's when he said don't ever contact him anymore because he feel I wasn't on his side anymore and before we hung up I said our unborn child wasn't his because I wanted him to hurt like he hurt me . I know it wasn't the right thing to say but to me it felt right to say it just to hurt his feelings.

I apologize numerous of times but I don't think he care . So it's been a month and he hasn't called or text and I try to reconcile with him being we have a child coming in this world but he won't budge for nothing so at this point I'm very depressed I have depression anyway and it makes it even harder because now all I want him to do is be there for me and our unborn child and stop ignoring me like a childish little boy. Any advice on how to handle a situation like mine.

Firstly....i wish you a safe & hitch free delivery. Has the knot being tied legally? Maybe that's why he's behaving like that. Though your man's behaviour is somehow, you shouldn't have said the baby wasn't his...a lot must have been going through his mind & for a man like him, it's like you've given him a reason to be totally useless & irresponsible after all.
You've to employ some people to talk to him for you. I suppose you know his friends & parents, they can be of great help.
You also have to seek your parents' forgiveness especially your mother, she will be of great help in situations like this.

Complicated!

Have you met his parents?
Between how old are you? You sound like a child about to birth a child.....

Self/Mouth control are great qualities to have especially as a woman ,cos like the yoruba's say( Eyin lohun to ba jabo ko shey ko mo)
Words are like eggs when spoken they can't be taken back

How old are you?

U r d one dats a childish little girl.. U even deserve more...

Mtcheww

That mouth that put you in this mess must be used to get you out of this situation.

Go and visit him. Apologise and tell him the truth that he is the father of the baby. He would doubt you as expected.

Saying that he is not the father makes you look like a cheating hoe. How can he ever trust you again?

From now on, fight the urge to reply people when you are angry. Tame your tongue. Best of luck.

indiraserv:
Complicated!
Have you met his parents?

which kyn parents, if na me, if I eva see her foot in my parents house, I wil cut her legs

"Like a childish little boy"!

This shows you still don't feel any regret about what you did. You still dey use that your wowo hand dey abuse the guy for here. Go and meet the "real father” of the baby na.. Mtcheew

I can also see that most of the threads you ve opened are about "fixing unhealthy relationships"..I seriously wonder why u don't work with them

Hmmm
Cutehector,babe is practically alone, depressed and pregnant terrible combination, we can't say because a child is bad we should offer her to the lion as prey
But if the guy really wants nothing to do with her and the parents won't come to her aid ?
She may as well give the child up for adoption

Cutehector:
which kyn parents, if na me, if I eva see her foot in my parents house, I wil cut her legs

space booked

ireneony:
space booked

My best advice for u is go back and mend your relationship wit ur family. Family is forever and it is only dem dat can hlp u in dis present tym dat ur baby's daddy ain't stepping up. My blunt truth for u is forget ur baby's daddy and build a new start for urslf and child wit d help of ur family. It is not evry man dat get we women pregnant dat shld marry us..... 99% of such marriages don't last.

ur case is strong.






safe delivery in advance is my wish for you.









but why u gotta be such a bítch to ze guy eh?

u disowned your family for a man who has not yet marry u



i pity u


e don red for u

sorry to say this but you're one stupidd ignorant bitcch my dear, very very very very stupidd. After reading this it just infuriated me, how the hell could you "disown " your family just for someone and how the fk could you open that your uncontrollable mouth to tell a guy that your pregnancy isn't his?! if it's me you are done for till I have a DNA test and the love I have for you will diminish like a mofo. Fk you for saying that to a guy, fk you again I wish he serves you right for the action you displayed. there's always a reaction to an action and I wish he gives you more than the reaction.

Never say things that can hurt/kill someone emotionally especially your loved ones but that's what this bitcch just did and I bet the guy didn't do a thing that deserves such callousness.

the dumb thing is that you clearly don't know the level of the offense you committed, the funniest thing is that the guy is not yet married to you and you are doing this kind of thing = tip of the iceberg. Wish he will do a reality check and rethink his priorities and decisions about you. You make the good ladies seem like bitcches. Just fk you one more time, Mofoka.
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having a mouth doesn't mean you have to use anytime the opportunity comes especially in saying negative things, one should know when to open their mouths and when to shut it and that's one of the features of maturity which you are not yet. you don make me carry your matter like gala for head now mtcheeeeeew.

U said it all, what ever wrong that happened in that relationship, u caused it all,

*what impression were u giving when u disowned ur family as u said?

*u caused that guy soo much pain with ur mouth, u admitted it, who knows other things u might have said to him because u think u ve mouth and u ve the right to use it any how u like without checking the consequencies.

*for a woman to be in a problem with an already estranged boyfriend in an about to collapse relationship to open her mouth to tell the same guy that he is not the father of ur unborn baby, a relationship of 5yrs. Only God knows what other things u might have said with that ur mouth that u didn't tell us.

*that pregnany should have been the only and the last thing that might or should ve made the guy still be there for u and the baby, if not for anything, @least for the sake of the baby. But just see how u ruined it all,no matter how hard u try to convince him that he is d real father, he will never believe u.


*yes, he treats u like u are a child, what wrong did he do? After all u a child. Because we all knew that a mature lady knows when and when not to open her mouth to spill anyhow.

*my dear,go back to ur parents and ask for forgiveness.no matter what, they will forgive u,just swallow d pride and face the shame. Kpatakpata 6months no body go talk about am again.

*if u go back to ur parents and have the child, make sure u still get ur bf to believe that he is truly the father of the baby, it will be worst for u if the child grows up and den u couldn't point who the real and the true father is.

* best of luck on ur soujorn to good life, I wish u safe delivery.

*one love.

uniquenkem:
My best advice for u is go back and mend your relationship wit ur family. Family is forever and it is only dem dat can hlp u in dis present tym dat ur baby's daddy ain't stepping up. My blunt truth for u is forget ur baby's daddy and build a new start for urslf and child wit d help of ur family. It is not evry man dat get we women pregnant dat shld marry us..... 99% of such marriages don't last.

good you adviced her to mend relationship with her family but how could you advise her to forget about her baby daddy?!?! and how do you know that the guy wasn't stepping up?! you haven't heard the guy's part and here you are painting him irresponsible (not stepping up)?! huh? and you saw nothing wrong in all the trash she spilled on the guy right? can you please stop thinking like a random bitcch and kick more reasonable advice OK.

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easier said than done, do you know how hard to raise a child let alone doing it single handed?!? well your post speaks volumes on your reasoning ability.

icedbeatz:


good you adviced her to mend relationship with her family but how could you advise her to forget about her baby daddy?!?! and how do you know that the guy wasn't stepping up?! you haven't heard the guy's part and here you are painting him irresponsible (not stepping up)?! huh? and you saw nothing wrong in all the trash she spilled on the guy right? can you please stop thinking like a random bitcch and kick more reasonable advice OK.

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easier said than done, do you know how hard to raise a child let alone doing it single handed?!? well your post speaks volumes on your reasoning ability.

Mr icebeatz.... it is ur own gf dat is d random bitch. U don't just call pple bitch for deir comment. Datz very offensive. It just shows how moral decay u are. Wondering how retarded u can to call someone u don't know a bitch. Mayb it is a new word u just heard. U nid to read her msg well b4 u judge my comment

Mr icebeatz.... it is ur own gf dat is d random bitch. U don't just call pple bitch for deir comment. Datz very offensive. It just shows how moral decay u are. Wondering how slow u can to call someone u don't know a bitch. Mayb it is a new word u just heard. U nid to read her msg well b4 u judge my comment

uniquenkem:




Mr icebeatz.... it is ur own gf dat is d random bitch. U don't just call pple bitch for deir comment. Datz very offensive. It just shows how moral decay u are. Wondering how retarded u can to call someone u don't know a bitch. Mayb it is a new word u just heard. U nid to read her msg well b4 u judge my comment

You tagged the wrong person. Compare the his username and mine... and apologize.

OP move the fúck on. You were dating a silly man-child with extreme self-esteem issues. There's no other sign for you to move than this. Move on, time heals all wounds. If you end up with that silly kid you call your guy, you'll leave in misery for the rest of your duration with him.