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Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by chokolee12(f): 5:22pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
Back to sender chigo93: |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by sitos(m): 5:23pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
As far as he till shows u love nd care, the rest na story |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Nobody: 5:23pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
jaybee3: I guess it's a lose lose situation for her. 1 Like |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by SAMBARRY: 5:23pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
DeeMain:you too check yourself alagbere! Let me even ask why is it so hard to keep it inside your pants. Is that tail so difficult to be controlled? God gave us a brain for a reason. If she can't use it to bad. Is it news that if you live an opportunity you'll be taken advantage of especially when he don see say you meek |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Nobody: 5:24pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
chowlade:You are immature and shameless,I pity your husband. |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Nobody: 5:24pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
bestestgirl: Best advice jare *thumbs up* |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Nobody: 5:24pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
chowlade:You are immature and shameless,I pity your husband. Its obvious you a runz girl,ho. Its women like you her husband is frolicking with. |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by savodway(m): 5:24pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
The story too long I can't read it finish : |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by smsdigito: 5:25pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
nickibarb: While reading your story, tears almost wet my eyes, but hey, it is not an issue of committing suicide dearie, bad things happen to good people too. The reason is that nobody is perfect, we have all sinned at one point or the other. Be strong for your lovely kids atleast. I have seen what other women do to kids in such a situation mehnnnnn i will never ever think of suicide no matter what because of my kids. Now there is always a solution to every problem under the sun. There is no peace in this world aside Jesus Christ. I bet you, if you are a christian then draw closer to Jesus the ultimate comforter, He who gives the peace that the world can never give. But if you are not a christian, then think about trying the God of Christianity. If you want to see and feel happiness again, then turn to Christ, pick up a copy of the Holy bible and read. Revelation 21:4 (He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.”) Mathew 11:28, psalm 34:18 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 Psalm 147:3 1 Peter 5:7 Study and meditate on these scriptures, draw closer to God and resume serious service to God and dont forget to pray for your husband for repentance. The devil wants you dead because of those prostitutes, its a lie the Lord God that gave you that life has led you to Nairaland to meet some information that will lead you to the right way to follow. Just try God with your decision to give your life to him and come back here celebrating, because not only will you find peace, the chain the devil has used to tie your husband under that bondage of immorality shall be broken, he shall be release and your marriage restored. But dont forget to testify when it finally happens. Wipe your tears , and put a smile on your face, because Jesus loves you. God bless you my sister. It is well with you. 4 Likes |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by SAMBARRY: 5:25pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
ichidodo:of? |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Nobody: 5:28pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
There are 5 stages you go through when such happens. Unfortunately you seem to be in the 4th stage. Denial(He cannot do such a thing) Anger (I hate myself) Bargaining ("Maybe if I behaved differently, he would not have done it.) Depression ("I need to escape from the pain and kill myself.) Acceptance ("It was. And now, it is over.) Please don't isolate yourself or your depression will take a strong and even deeper hold on you and you may resort to self harm like you did. This is what you will do. 1)Be wary of unpalatable comments here-Careful about the comments you will get here, some people live sad lives and will make yours worse by silly comments. 2)Stay in the present-Imagine breathing in what you need (strength, hope, energy) and out what you don't (pain, aches, sadness). 3) Practice self-love.-Recognize self-harm behaviours (not eating, substance abuse, risky behaviors, etc.) and nip them in the bud. "You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." -Buddha Stick to structure and routine and get proper rest,nutrition and exercise. 4) Get support- from family and friends 5)Love thyself-"Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option." Care enough about yourself to conserve your energy for those who deserve it, starting with yourself! 6) Stay in the present.- Don't ruminate about the past or second guess your actions. Don't worry about the future. ("Will he do it again?) Stay out of your head, for that is a dangerous place to go. Practice mindfulness techniques like deep breathing and meditation. What has happened has happened and how we deal with them is what matters. Try to find out why he did it or chose that way of life. That might help you to take a decision on whether to stay in the marriage or opt out.(Forget those people who tell you divorce is a taboo...Your well being should be paramount) Remember that you are in Nigeria where such irresponsible behaviour by men is treated with kids gloves, as the society is more morally decadent than you think and most young girls do not care if the man is married or not. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Nobody: 5:28pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
linnyx: When people say "stay for your children", I'm always like It might be better if you left for their sake sef. Don't let your sons grow up thinking it is normal for husbands to cheat, wife would forgive anyway. Mummy forgave daddy. Daughters too will also grow up with low self esteem thinking it's normal for hubby too cheat Like you said sha, she should live for her kids. |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by kay29000(m): 5:28pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
MaziOmenuko: Is there anywhere in my comment I said I sell Viagra? You were the one that concluded I sell Viagra. I sell a solution to a problem that doesn't have to do with any drugs. Have a nice life. Don't bother quoting me again. Thank you. |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by lungtruth(m): 5:28pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
[quote author=SexyCeline post=34385868]May God deliver us from irresponsible men. Amen[/quote] hmmm.@ sexyceline, take a look at what you wear before calling men irresponsible. you are the disease the op is referring to. |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Nobody: 5:28pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
chokolee12: Ahn ahn, stop throwing curses nau!! |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by sukkot: 5:30pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
make una marry poor men una no gree. na polithiefcian and ogapatapata at the top una all wan marry. well, what can i say ? kpele oooo 1 Like |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by chokolee12(f): 5:31pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
Wer u not d one who started oseod: |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by arcdone(m): 5:32pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
hmmmmm....touching story.am sori for yhu bout d situation.some men were heartless..alot of good advice as be given.nd yhubave also concluded that what draws yhu back were ur children. ..they are ur future.nd aw yhu knw they will b treated wen yhu abandon...juz let it go off ur mind nd move on. jux bcause of ur children |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Dlionsheart: 5:33pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
@op, you got what you truly deserve, what you were looking for in his phone is what you got. Next time you'll learn how to mind your business. |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Tgirl4real(f): 5:33pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
jaybee3: Hmm... Whichever way, one can ONLY find true peace in Christ Jesus |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by plaetton: 5:34pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
My dear op, I sympathise with you. We can only imagine the shock you are going through. However, in the broader context, I want to say a few things, a few bitter truths to the general readers of this op, especially the women folk. Before I go further though, let first say that I am neither a male chauvinist, player, insensitive nor immoral person. I am just one who studies and often come to terms with human nature, biological and social evolution. I am always quite surprised when I see women shocked by cheating boyfriends or husbands. The bitter truth, which I tell all my female friends, is that all men are predisposed to be non-monogamous. Culture, social landscape and economics can either mitigate or exacerbate this predisposition. Yes, a man can do his best at self control for as long as is possible, but the force of nature is hardly contained for a long period of time. Speaking from a man's point of view, there are two types of infidelity. Infidelity of the heart, and infidelity of the body. Now, in op's case and in majority of the cases, the man loves and adores his spouse, but his body is still unfaithful, bodily nourished by mercenary flesh vendors. This is an act of nature for which there is no cure, no mitigation whatsoever. I am sorry to be the bearer of bad news. A man, at one any point in time, with the right opportunity, will grab something on the side, irrespective of how much he loves, adores or is in harmony with his partner. This is a very hard pill to swallow. I don't know how to repeat this without sounding sexist, chauvinistic, selfish and cruel (things that I am definitely not), but it is unrealistic to REALLY expect a man not to play away match for the entire length of " till death do us part ". My point is that it is nature, not a moral question for males. No woman should kill herself over this. What should the op do right now? I am not competent to advise. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Zellie: 5:34pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
Please don't commit suicide Stories about marriage issues like this scare me |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by kelvinjezel: 5:34pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
It is touching, but don't commit suicide becos it will not solve the problem. my advice to you is go to God who instituted marriage for help, so that He can restructure and reform your home. This you can do by having and maintaining a personal relationship with God through repentance and accepting JESUS CHRIST into your life as your personal Lord and saviour. now you can call upon God He will ans you,(JERE. 33:3). God has the ability to reform and transform husband or marriage/home. |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by honourhim: 5:34pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
Women! Always dreaming without wanting to wake up to reality until they are forced to do so. |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Nobody: 5:35pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
chokolee12: Emi ke!!!, abeg ooo!!.....this his not a jolkin stuvs!!! Besides I don't exchange words with beautiful women |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Polithiefcian(m): 5:35pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
sukkot: Av goT ma eyes on u |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by sukkot: 5:35pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
Polithiefcian: |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Ifyjuli25(f): 5:37pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
Some men... Nawaa oo... Pls OP don't do anything stupid for the sake of ur kids.. Just get busy.. Hang out with ur friends... U ll soon forget d incident.. I JUST HATE CHEATS. 1 Like |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by DeeMain(m): 5:37pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
SAMBARRY: Guess you are too brain smart and logical to know when to think with your heart. Everything is not logic baby. One day you will get this. Bye. |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Beync(f): 5:38pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
Such is life my dear. Its feels so bad when betrayal is coming from someone u so much trust, but never give Up. Take ur time and see how you forgive him if he shows genuin repentant, but the truth remains that even thou u forgive, u can never forget nor trust him again |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by chokolee12(f): 5:38pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
Lol. Sorry not u oseod: |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Nobody: 5:38pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
kay29000: Don't mind him joor... U make p*nises erect for a living..gbam!!!!!! Shikena...end of story! Anybody that doesn't like it should hug transformer |
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