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Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Ibsgal(f): 5:39pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
You said that you do not want to tell your family, but it might be good to tell at least one person. Tell a true friend or family member, someone who can call you and check up on you from time to time. Might be better not to tell too many people yet, as they may take sides and make things more difficult. Don't make too many decisions about your marriage now, we sometimes make irrational decisions when our minds are clouded with emotions. Please stop thinking about suicide. I know this is a lot to deal with, and you mind is probably in overdrive, but your children need you. You said you wouldn't want another woman to come into their lives and maltreat them, so suicide is not the answer. Focus your energy on the kids, they are unselfishly yours. They may not be able to offer you words of comfort, but their presence alone will bring you some comfort. If you are a christian or muslim then you know what must be done - be merciful, be forgiving, and be prayerful. Pray for serenity and strength. Once again, I know this seems like a lot to deal with, but there is a way out, and you are going to find it and be happy again. Don't forget to tell at least a friend, someone you know will be very understanding, will not judge you, and will be there to talk to and check up on you very often. Once you are out of this rut, you can then decide if the marriage is worth saving. You have my most sincere condolences, and I wish strength during this difficult time. 3 Likes |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by SAMBARRY: 5:40pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
DeeMain:you too bye. And remember to think with your brain and not your tail |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Prettydiamond(f): 5:40pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
oseod:I dunno ooo |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Patented: 5:43pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
My dear suicide is not the way to go, Its painful as hell I Know. But consider your kids and the fact that @ 27 the bulk and better part of ur life is ahead of u. If you wanna heal of the wounds u have to realise that it will take time. There is no silver bullet for the pain. It will fade with time. Whether u stay or leave d marriage is up to u, just remember that the easier path is nt necessarily the best. Its hard to say this but "u know what the nible says about divorce". Nigerian courts will recognise your marriage so long as it is valid in the eyes of the law where the marriage was conductedm Go for therapy it may help. Careful who u listen to also, not everyone means well. Time is the only thing that can heal ur wounds, nothing else can 2 Likes |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by shurlermoz(m): 5:44pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
First off, don't ever think of committing suicide let alone going thru with it. Now, I need not yell you marriage is not a bed of roses, there will always be challenges and trials it's all part of marriage. You either choose to stay or go, but go at what cost?! Think about your children, we are not in the West where you can easily get custody on the basis of his unfaithfulness, you most likely wouldn't get custody here(Fact), so are you ready to leave your kids?! Men are serial cheats, I am a man so I know what I'm saying. It doesn't matter if you are cooking your own flesh for him to eat just to satisfy him, cheating is second nature to us(truth) but if he really loves you then you can change him. Show him as much as possible how much hurt he caused you with his acts, and I bet you if he really loves you he will change(Confirm). Lastly, please don't kill yourself and please don't leave him, because that will only give him the freedom to do whatever. Bill Clinton cheated with Ms Lewinsky but his wife stayed, David Beckham cheated but Victoria stayed, Giroud cheated bit his wife stayed, the list go on.......Divorce is not a solution, if you have headache you wouldn't cut your head off instead you take a pill. 1 Like |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by zubby29(m): 5:46pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
most times its not d wifes fault.somtimes u can have a perfect wife.i mean 90% nd yet d husband will cheat.i am talking from a personal experience freecocoa: |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by CMGO(f): 5:48pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
You should pray for him, monitor him and advice him to stop such act. Committing suicide is never an option. Most importantly be close to God almighty cos he alone has the lasting solution to what is happening in ur home. |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Mourin(f): 5:49pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
bestestgirl:Best advice so far. 1 Like |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Prettydiamond(f): 5:50pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
SIRTee15:diamond is not a title or somefn, diamond is my name! |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Nobody: 5:53pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
Prettydiamond: It is fate that brought us together on this thread..... Don't worry very soon we'll be telling our story to other Nlanders |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by jaybee3(m): 5:55pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
Tgirl4real:What would Jesus do in this scenario? I guess he would forgive and forget! |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Prettydiamond(f): 5:56pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
oseod:rotf...durrrh |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by joek(m): 5:56pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
How do I explain my own predicament? My wife denies me sex each tyme we quarrel. We have two kids. I am trying so hard not to start cheating. 1 Like |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by kay29000(m): 5:57pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
oseod: Thank you jare. lol! |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by mohisi: 5:58pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
nickibarb:if u die 2day I promise 2morrow he will bring in another woman u should just pray n move bt if u think that man stuff is 4 u alone u should ve a second thoug just live 4 d sake of ur kids |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by queebeediva(f): 5:59pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
It is well dear may the good Lord give you the strenght to overcome the challenges . That's why I will keep on saying men are polygamous by nature but never theless trust in God to fix your home for you and never consider dealth as an excape rout in all be paitent , tollorance and peaceful the fate of those little kids is very important .pls forgive him if he beg and still hope in God for changes in his life. It is well! |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Deehvahrzz(f): 5:59pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
Everybody saying you should pray have a point. But you also need to protect yourself. Make sure you guys get tested and retest after 3 months. Use condoms for that time. You need a break from your marriage. Take a week vacation alone. Put your kids with someone you trust them with. It's hard to forgive when you get betrayed by d one person you can vouch for. Think about everything and try to make up your mind. Whether you want to weather it or not. It's not advisable to bury the hurt without thinking it through. It could have some devastating outcome. Get a job. This cannot be emphasized enough. And pls, get a life too. It's very important. Get out there and stop trying so hard. Make friends, get closer to your family, talk to your parents about this. They will help you pull through. P:S.... Be careful with him when it comes to sex. A neighbor died of Aids that she contacted from her husband some 3 years ago. He knew he was Hiv positive and didn't tell her. He's still very much alive. Your kids need you so much. I hope you can get past this and be stronger. 3 Likes |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by geemeshin(m): 6:01pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
I could not help the film of tears that clouded my vision as I read your story...then I checked your profile and realized I also read your other post sometime in the past; obviously you're in pains and I feel for you. I'm not given to constant comments here on NL; I prefer to remain in the shadows as I peruse others' comments...but this I cannot treat as others. I'll want you to understand that you're accountable to God for your life thus suicide is not a viable option here. You can't change what has happened but you can control what happens next. Undergo medical examinations for a start and possibly get your husband to do same. Discuss the way forward with him and try the best you can to pardon him. If this doesn't work, involve his family. Life must continue, I must say; don't let anyone rob you of your peace of mind....I wish I know a better way you can handle this aside forgiveness. Look on the brighter side of life! 1 Like |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Nobody: 6:01pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
begwong: my dear i wish it was superstory. The second c/s was due to the short interval of pregnancies. my obgyn didnt think it will be safe to attempt vag delivery so soon after the first c/s. Second preg was kind of unplanned. hubby seemed to be in a hurry to get me preg cos he didn't get married early. when it happened, he was so overjoyed, me i kind of grew into the idea cause of cos, children are blessing of the lord. but no more babies for me though. I am too unhappy |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Nobody: 6:01pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
victorazy: Men's world? K. |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by dvee2: 6:02pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
plaetton: You beat me to it. Its difficult to accept but that's just the plain truth. you either accept this fact or pretend your man is not cheating as many fain to do. move on to 100 other men and you would be more disappointed. so the question is, does your man still loves you? if yes, remain and open a conversation with him. The key question here is this: Is it infidelity of the body? if yes there is hope. Is it infidelity of the hearth? if yes, there is a big problem. 3 Likes |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Mexyz(m): 6:02pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
SexyCeline:Amen, may God deliver us from irresponsible women too. Amen SexyCeline:Amen, may God deliver us from irresponsible women too. Amen |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by MrBasketball: 6:04pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
chokolee12: You must be a runs girl. 1 Like |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by C4Ltd: 6:04pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
Quite unfortunate. Sucide not an option tho |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Nobody: 6:04pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
nickibarb: You have the right to feel worthless,but it is a no brainier to expect others to be the source of your happiness. Perhaps you are too blame for praying too much and not bossing your man in bed. |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Nobody: 6:05pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
Prettydiamond: Ah!!!! Babe its like u don't know how sexy this bobo is oo!!! Hmmm, by the time u see my 10 packs, u'll be the one chasing me |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by ohzee(f): 6:06pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
OP life is such a precious gift not to be taken lightly. Don't live for your husband or your children. Live for YOURSELF. In life you will have disappointments and blessings. Take them and move on. Time heals all wounnds but there will always be a scar. Please please a cheating husband is not the end of the world. You are still very young and there is so much joy in your future. It may be without your present husband. It may also be with him. It all depends on you. For now, take one day at a time. Fill your days with things you love to do. Pray more and learn to depend more on yourself. Treat him like an acquaintance and don't expect too much from him. Let time decide what you will do next. Don't RUSH into any decision and be careful whom you confide in. God bless you. 1 Like |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Nicepoker(m): 6:06pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
chowlade:u are extremely wicked. |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by uwa1(m): 6:08pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
chowlade: Where are you from. Re you married. How old are u. Sumtyms its beta to kip quiet dan to show pple ur deficiency. Plz go bck home and get proper training. |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Nobody: 6:08pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
luchy34: he wasn't a politician when I married him. he was just a regular Joe with a regular job. He occasionally says I did not support him when he ventured into politics and that is not far from the truth (you can see why). All I wanted was for us to go back abroad and continue to be regular people. Actually if I go abroad and get a job, i'll make a whole lot of money because my field is a hot cake and i'm qualified to work there. |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Nobody: 6:08pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
Op; i'm very sorry about ur story; I had to read tru, but it's very touching and disheartening!!! I really think, there are somethings u have to know about marriage; Most men will cheat; now they don't do it because there wife is doing something wrong or they don't love their wives; they just do it cus they want to, it's just puerile lust; Every man cheats; as a woman, what should matter is if he has respect for you. When the respect is their, he will do everything at every cost, to mek his wife not to know. So just guard ur loins with that, and gear up u'll find bliss in ur home.. |
Re: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by Nobody: 6:08pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
You killing urself wldnt stop him frm cheating, so dont pls! |
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