I'm an ardent reader and i will like to share my story with you since a problem shared is a problem half solved.

I'm a 30 years old man, i started dating a girl in August 2008 (she's igbo and i'm yoruba) we live in the same estate and the relationship was the best time of my life until one day, not long into the relationship i was planning to move to my own apartment since i was staying with parents as i walking her home she told me we should call the relationship quit after about 1 year, i asked her why and she said because i was moving, i explained to her that we would always visit each other but she said No, so i left her and went home feeling bad, i didn't even sleep that night.


To cut the long story short she apologized and we were back together, not long after she moved to Enugu from Lagos to stay with her sister and we only talked on phone, all of a sudden she broke up with me again for no reason, in fact she broke up with me 3 times without stating any reason and came back begging me by herself (thought she was still a virgin), when she did it the 4th time, i had fallen out of Love with her, the passion was gone.

I had wasted over 3 years with this girl and i felt used so one night i came back from work and went to a bar alone to get drunk, i met a girl through a lady friend and we had s*x that night, my x called me after then and started begging me again but i said this time it’s over for good but unknown to me the girl i had s*x with was pregnant but didn't tell me, when she was 7 months pregnant her mother called me to break the news to me, i was sad because she didn't tell me for 7 months that she has been pregnant and secondly she was a rebound girl i never Loved her.

She gave birth to twins(2 boys) though i have a good job but it would have been better to have the kids with the one i Loved, i later found out that she was a promiscuous girl that sleeps around and to my greatest surprise she is also a clepto whom i have bailed out of different situations which made me to take my kids away from her to my parents whom have been taking better care of them though i pay all their bills conveniently (in fact i'm happy i had those kids, they are amazing and people always commend me when they see me with them especially in their school)

Now i find it hard to forgive the mother of my kids for not telling me initially and also my girlfriend for all she did to me (though she said it was due to tribal difference) but i find it hard to meet nice girls plus i don't know if i can Love again, i need help.

Dis is too serious
*walks out of thread*

U would my friend .... Not to worry the patient dog get the fattest Bone

Ofcos u can love again. Channel d little iota of love to ur kids. They are something to love

So you re blaming others for your indiscretion?? The deed has been done. Just continue raising your kids. Regrets will come. But that's to teach us to always be responsible for our action.

And about the mother of your kids, that she bore your kids doesn't mean you must marry her or be in a relationship with her.

you need to forget the past & plan for the future. shun alcohol. never let ur past mistake repeat itself in the future & dnt be in a hurry to LOVE

You can still find true love

Talking about love, i never heard of one meeting his/her partner on Nairaland...............................But i have this strong feeling i will meet mine someday...somewhere.....somehow

Yes you can.


When you stop start learning that the fact that you have met a few bad eggs among the women folk doesn't mean all women are bad.

Women are not stereotype. There are bad ones among good ones.

And the fact that you have met two bad ones doesn't mean the whole lot are the same

What do you need help for?

1. To help you bring your. Ex back?

2. To scold your baby mama for not telling you on time she was preggy?

3. Help you Train your twins?

4. To cast out the kleptomaniac spirit from your baby mama?

I don't get it?

In OBJ's voice= ogbeni, this is not my business.

this mata serious o

Yes, you can

Ask ur heart if u can still find love

No love found no love lost.

The twins, are they identical?

You can definitely find love again.

QED.

no o. good thing is that its time for you to go kill yourself.

folajoseph:
I'm an ardent reader and i will like to share my story with you since a problem shared is a problem half solved.

I'm a 30 years old man, i started dating a girl in August 2008 (she's igbo and i'm yoruba) we live in the same estate and the relationship was the best time of my life until one day, not long into the relationship i was planning to move to my own apartment since i was staying with parents as i walking her home she told me we should call the relationship quit after about 1 year, i asked her why and she said because i was moving, i explained to her that we would always visit each other but she said No, so i left her and went home feeling bad, i didn't even sleep that night.


To cut the long story short she apologized and we were back together, not long after she moved to Enugu from Lagos to stay with her sister and we only talked on phone, all of a sudden she broke up with me again for no reason, in fact she broke up with me 3 times without stating any reason and came back begging me by herself (thought she was still a virgin), when she did it the 4th time, i had fallen out of Love with her, the passion was gone.

I had wasted over 3 years with this girl and i felt used so one night i came back from work and went to a bar alone to get drunk, i met a girl through a lady friend and we had s*x that night, my x called me after then and started begging me again but i said this time it’s over for good but unknown to me the girl i had s*x with was pregnant but didn't tell me, when she was 7 months pregnant her mother called me to break the news to me, i was sad because she didn't tell me for 7 months that she has been pregnant and secondly she was a rebound girl i never Loved her.

She gave birth to twins(2 boys) though i have a good job but it would have been better to have the kids with the one i Loved, i later found out that she was a promiscuous girl that sleeps around and to my greatest surprise she is also a clepto whom i have bailed out of different situations which made me to take my kids away from her to my parents whom have been taking better care of them though i pay all their bills conveniently (in fact i'm happy i had those kids, they are amazing and people always commend me when they see me with them especially in their school)

Now i find it hard to forgive the mother of my kids for not telling me initially and also my girlfriend for all she did to me (though she said it was due to tribal difference) but i find it hard to meet nice girls plus i don't know if i can Love again, i need help.

TheSonOfMark:

Relationships are crazy. Completely avoid them and you are crazy.

Being celibate and avoiding the opposite sex isn't an option. They are a necessary evil and a painful good.

Could this be general Sam.

guy, from experience, pls go and do DNA test on those kids... probably, probably I say, they may not be yours...


from experience!

Go and do a parternity test on those kids fast.

That should be where you will start from

Hmmm!!

How sure are you those kids are yours??

You can still find love if you set your heart to it. Though it might be difficult to get past the ugly incident but you just have to.

For now, I'll advise you to concentrate on getting yourself back to your default settings and try to put everything behind you.
True love will locate you

Bro go and do a DNA on your kids to be 100% sure and to avoid hart break again

Bro.. see with your kids be happy and let others have said..time will come for you to be happy and love again.. The mother will get back to her senses and sure you can forgive her...since you r sure the boiz are yours...