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Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by Nobody: 5:06pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
MarvellousGod: She said he offerrs. Stoo being judgemental. When I give guys money nobody says shit, I don't even tell anyone but if it is the other way round, we won't hear word. Mtchew! How you know a good person is how they are ready to share the little they have with the person they claim to love. 1 Like |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by UjSizzle(f): 5:07pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
jaybee3:You should borrow them sense |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by proxillin(m): 5:07pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
netizenbuzz: I guess why she doesnt like him is because of his 50k job per month. If the guy is loaded, she wont even think he is ugly. |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by morehennypatna(f): 5:08pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
irishCream:Pls don't go into a relationship without knowing the bases... dnt marry out of pity. |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by BMM0727(f): 5:08pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
Freemanan:. You made me laff tire |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by kingssmith(m): 5:09pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
my current relationship is a similar version of your, i have being on my fiancee for about 4 years now but she only just said yes few weeks ago,am not ugly or poor though. my advice is get to knowing him better first, i guess that is what my sweetheart did too, because she was seeing me a play boy then according to her, but all tanks to my job that exposes me to crazy and beautiful she couldn't stand such atmosphere. also can help him correct his current financial status by advising to invest or set his hands on other business. my two cent |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by tito71: 5:09pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
Toks2008: 100% correct! this is just one truth every single lady must know. Marry the man who loves u deeply and is crazy about u and not vice versa. Of course not without God's guidance cos human love fades. |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by jaybee3(m): 5:10pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
UjSizzle:I can relate to your belief from the stand point of faith but it doesn't explain the fact that even pastors or the best prayer warriors get it wrong. You can't make plans along the line of faith if you have to compromise on wants from the onset. No guarantees in life hence the reason for mitigating against risks Anyhoo... i'm hungry...come and feed me jor |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by Nobody: 5:10pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
BMM0727:I confuse Reading the story alone... No idea at all |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by Mznaett: 5:10pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
Hmmm,,take life easy nd choose wisely my dear |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by Nobody: 5:10pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
Vyolet: YOUR FIRST PARAGRAPH, HAVE SOME MATURITY CONTENT AND GOOD ADVICE BUT YOUR LAST PARAGRAPH.......... I JUST HAVE TO FORGIVE YOU COS YOU KNOWETH NOT WHAT YOU ARE SAYING |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by thisisjonny(m): 5:21pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
I have painstakingly read through the comments in response to your article and I am inclined to recommend the advice @bellong. He summed up everything. Since you have decided not to love this man, please let him go. You can continue to search or wait for the tall, handsome and rich man to come. But remember it is often said that behind any successful man is a woman" so where did you get this idea of looking for an already accomplished man to marry? such man, will definitely treat you as a gold digger. Goodluck. |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by mekstaniac(m): 5:21pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
just bang him 2 or 3 tyms and see how it goes 1 Like |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by Leyqute(m): 5:21pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
irishCream: Ah. You never know Jaybee niyen o |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by abbeycial: 5:23pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
call me |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by zicca(f): 5:24pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
My dear,marriage is a tough deal even with d one u love,cos with time,love alone might not be enough to carry d weight dat comes later in d institution,is better to remain single than to b miserable in marriage,is like a moving train,people in d train can't wait to get down while others can't wait to get in. 1 Like |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by jaybee3(m): 5:24pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
Leyqute: Who Jaybee be oooo |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by keyhole2015(m): 5:26pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
At age 29, the earlier the better to settle down! focus on other qualities outside money there is nothing like "ugly" in men. you are the one to make him look handsome "to you" firstly, make sure you can you cook - for a man 2nd - you are a mother-to-be be open to friendship and watchout for the following have the fear of God and pray -how well do you know him? family, friends, -does he listen to you? -both of you enterprising -family and types of friends, habits Advice:give your life to christ, be born again. And all these He will help solve for you... 2 Likes |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by IBBG(m): 5:28pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
2sex:Meaning? |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by amiskurie(m): 5:38pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
irishCream:wait on your Lord Jesus Christ |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by Nobody: 5:40pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
you are better off without him... he should move also and look for another girl that loves him... he had NO options that is why he is on your tail, that is NOT love, it is just SCARCITY. |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by stan241(m): 5:40pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
I think the problem with our younger ladies these days is that they really don't know the power they posses in making a guy who truly loves the "right" guy for them, there is this mentality that the guy must be "well off" before i say yes to him because they "don't want to suffer". My ex back in school took a summer job for me just cus i mentioned about having difficulties with my rent, she also linked me with something doing back then to help me with my problem and despite what happened btw us i always tell her some very lucky man will marry her someday, hardly asks for anything, very hard-working and self sufficient oh i digress. Young lady you need to get something to add to your resume, something apart from your "sexy body" that would make some of the more "successful" guys want to keep you forever, some ladies just naturally pass off this negative vibe when you with them, its all so formal and straightforward, nothing intriguing about them in fact the only place they actually surprise you is in bed with their multiple skills and then that's it. I'd advise you let the young man be and work on yourself more, surely there has to be a reason the rich and cute guys don't stay with you 1 Like |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by Calbarian(m): 5:41pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
irishCream: You're 29 yrs old (or not) abi? An adage says "he who lets go of the tail of an animal he has caught in order to catch the head ends up with nothing". Advise yasef |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by Nobody: 5:43pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
Tallesty1: Op abeg no mind these broke ass niggas trying to rub off their insecurity on you. You'll end up living a very miserable life. We all know hustling does not always bring good results. You can hustle from now till eternity and still not make it. A poor man does not always equate to a good man. Not everyone who treats you right is the right husband for you. Don't be deceived. I have a close relative who was in the same situation and I'm sure she's regretting the decision she made till today. She married a poor man, God-fearing. He was persistent and even manipulated her with the scriptures. She married him only to realise he had an ego the size od mount everest. There's nothing more annoying and irritating than a poor man with a huge ego. Yes, he loves her I can attest to that. However, I can't say the same for her even after 25 years of marriage. She knows he loves her in his own way but I've never heard her say the same about him. She is enduring a marriage she's supposed to enjoy. She is still the main bread winner till today. Any investment she makes she puts in his name yet he still throws a trantum if he feels she's not doing enough. Even the children are programmed to request anything they want from their mum. Family and friends still tell her that she's the only one that could have married him because he is such a hard man to please. I'm not asking you to be a gold digger, as you can see from my story this my relative can hold herself and her kids on her own. However, please marry a man that can atleast take care of your children properly even if not you. You can not carry child for 9months and still be the one running around to make sure they eat. An income of less than 50k is too small to run a family in naija comfortably. Emergencies nko? I still lost a cousin some years ago because she was in labour for hours and her hubby could not afford to transfer her to a better hospital. He was to egoistic to even call the family for help. She died just like that. If you want to marry a poor, be ready for all the disadvantages that come with it which is more than all these advicers on NL are letting on. More importantly is the need for you to build yourself and your career. You should be focusing on that now and not on a man. Just my two cents. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by kittykat1(f): 5:45pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
The guys will always advise you to marry an ugly person or a broke guy. These same guys will never marry an ugly babe or one that's desperately in love with them but doesn't have what they seek physically. Have standard and stick to it. U will find someone that loves you within your standard. Never settle for less. Else u will cheat on that ugly and broke man one day 2 Likes |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by Teespice(f): 5:48pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
I decided to go through the thread and I am not surprised by most of the comments I see. anyway, op your mind is all made up. If you don't have feelings for him, then reiterate that fact to him again when you both meet. we all have standards when it comes to who we want to settle down with. what one person wants is different from others. don't settle for him out of pity or with the mindset of letting love grow because more often than not, it backfires. the same guys abusing you are the ones that will still have requirements for a girl they intend to marry in future. smh take all the advice you feel is useful and discard the rest. above all, wisdom is profitable to direct. cheers. |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by harkintem(m): 5:49pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
Since u said he s not presentable n dats not ur choice of man den u hv to let d friend things continue. Don't pity anyone cos no one ll pity u wen d marriage turns d other way 1 Like |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by georgeonaya(m): 5:50pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
I did like 2 chip in on this, alot of us tend 2 believe abt d norm surrounding love hoping 2 find a guy or gal that matches our fantasies but d truth is not everyone experience dat in d real world hence gal if think d guy is nt up 2 ur class of man n also feel 4 him d fact dat he is always by ur side then I did advice u, First of all nobody has a Gun 2 ur head asking u 2 marry him right away n secondly u nt in any relationship at present so even if it is hard 4 u I did advise u 2 try n date him for a while u ve nothing 2 lose cos friend zone is not d same as a relationship n if u think he is not touche enuf trying showing him d things he is missing u might be surprised Wat people can do for love n d heart can be a myth sometimes u might think it's pity u feel 4 him but actually grow in loving him..cos alot of relationship happens like dat not everyone gets dat instant spark of love. But u can still tell him 2 f**k off n wait 4 prince charming coming with his white Horse n shining blade 2 come an rescue u.. No condition is permanent. Enuf said |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by Calbarian(m): 5:52pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
netizenbuzz: The Op mentioned physical attributes and current financial standing as her primary reasons why she's kept the dude at bay all this time. Your sister's reservations concerning her husband (according to you) centers around his ego. Regardless of his financial standing, this said ego will persist. I think you should have just made your point without the analogy. I'm probably wrong but it's rather confusing to the unenlightened mind as mine. 1 Like |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by divinelove(m): 5:52pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
irishCream: Finance is important in a rship, if u r working and comfortable y nt date n consider this Bros he may jst b d one. At 29 u r closing in on thirties n u ve to b very careful. |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by Sugardiva(f): 5:54pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
jaybee3: I don't think that this is what the OP meant. I think she means should she agree to date a guy she has known for more than 2 years who is caring and shows her love but she doesn't feel anything for? I understand her because sometimes i wonder the same thing. I have a number of 'suitors' who check all the right boxes according to ur list. Have potential, aligned faith, same values etc but no matter how much time I try to spend with them I don't get any feeling. No emotions at all beyond maybe friendship. And I'm not in a serious relationship. The question is do u go ahead and date someone u have absolutely no feelings for just because he checks all the right boxes and treats u right? Will it work out? 1 Like |
Re: When The Wrong One Loves You Right!!! by Teespice(f): 5:54pm On Jun 29, 2015 |
netizenbuzz: gbam. you couldn't have said it any better. |
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