misssclassy:
There have been numerous cases where a lady will be in a relationship with a guy and all off a sudden, she will just dump the guy and hook up with another guy, without any cogent explanation as to why she did it.
This normally leaves most guys wondering what really happened or where they went wrong.
Well, these are some of the reasons why ladies dump a lot of you guys.

*She Doesn't Genuinely Love You
This is a primary reason why most ladies dump or break up with a lot of guys.
The truth is this; If a lady doesn't truly love you, she will never commit herself to a long term relationship with you.

At times, ladies tend to enter into relationships with ulterior motives and hidden agendas, and once this motives are fulfilled or accomplished, they would have no need to remain in such relationships.
If a woman doesn't love you, it will always be easy for her to dump you if she finds a better partner.

*You Are Not Man Enough
One thing a lot of guys fail to understand is that a lady can never respect a man that they can control.
Ladies are generally attracted to guys that are confident. Guys that are able to take the driving seat in a relationship.
A woman always needs a man that will take charge. Someone capable of calling the shots. Someone that is protective and that she can count on to stand up for her and defend her no matter the situation.

*You Are Not Good In Bed
Let's face it. This is one of the most common reasons why women cheat on and dump most of their boyfriends.
Most ladies have sexual needs that need to be constantly met, and if their man is under performing, they tend to look for a more sexually active and more sexually satisfying partner.

*You Are Just Too Boring
Every relationship needs adventure. It's an essential catalyst for the relationship growth and sustenance.
Some guys tend to be too conservative and self reserved, and most ladies hate it.

Ladies like guys that are creative and inventive. Someone who they can joke with. Someone who they can talk to, about anything.
Someone who can take her out to new interesting places, have fun and try out new things together.
Someone who can invent new ways to spice up every area of their relationship.

If a guy doesn't meet this criteria, most girls tend to find him boring and not much of fun to be around , and they would gradually begin to lose interest in the relationship.

*You Don't know How To Take Care Of Her
Every girl needs a guy that can cater for her needs. Someone that can provide some of the basic things she needs as a woman.
If a girl finds you to be someone who is unable to take care of her, she will seek for someone better.
Especially in this day and age where the needs of humans are increasing at a high rate, notably among the female gender
These days, whether you like it or not, every lady wants to look good. They want to dress beautifully and look attractive and presentable.
If a lady is dating a guy that slacks in this department, she will look for someone else.

Asides monetary needs, most guys also fail to understand the other needs of their girlfriends and these needs are diverse.
And if those needs are ignored, most ladies tend to feel abandoned.

*You Lack Well Defined Goals
If a girl wants to commit to a life long relationship with you, she would have to be sure you have a bright future ahead. This includes you having a blue print and well defined goal for your life and the one both of you are going to share.
No girl wants to stay in a relationship with someone who doesn't know what he wants. Someone who lacks the ability to plan ahead. Someone who isn't focused, hard working and who doesn't know what he wants in life.

*You Don't Spend Quality Time With Her
Girls are created in such a way that they always crave attention, and when they don't get it, it becomes a thing of pain.
Most guys don't spend enough time with girlfriends. They find it hard to visit, call, or even text.
Of course, a lot of this can be blamed on work load, school and all that, but girls really need to be shown that they are important and that their partners care about them , and when this doesn't happen, they look for someone else.

*You Don't Listen
In most relationships, most guys tend to always want to be the ones with the final say. They always want to make their opinions known without caring about what their partner has to say, and this can be agonizing for most ladies.
Girls like guys who would always listen to them and try to understand things from their own perspective.
Guys who would value their opinions and respect their thoughts on issues, whether they agree with it or not.

*You Are Too Secretive
Girls don't like guys who are too secretive. This always makes them paranoid and they always suspect that something else is going on in the relationship that they are not aware of.
Ladies prefer guys that are free and open.

*Your Are Too Over-Possessive
Although ladies like guys that are capable of taking the driving seat in a relationship, they also tend not to like guys that are too controlling, over powering, and over possessive of them.
This includes guys that always question their actions, guys that are always too jealous whenever they see them with other guys, and guys that are too conscious of their movements.
Ladies see this character as repulsive and it gives them a signal that they are not trusted and they lose interest in the relationship..

You are free to add yours if you want to.

Written by Misssclassy

carzola:
Reasons why a girl with creyFISH brain would dump you.
1. she has a fish brain
2. she has a fish brain
3. she has a fish brain
4. she has a fish brain.
point is that all ladies have a fish brain there dont know what there want...

ovanny15:
Not keeping PROMISES
And being TRICKISH

prettythicksme:
yea!!well written op btw some guys are just too broke and lazy.At least being broke today doesnt means u will b broke forever,all dey need to do is to work hard and say no to brokeness no sane lady will wnt to spend d rest of her life with a brokeasslazy nigga.

Did you know it was me that created the thread before you wrote this?

naijaboiy:

Bia missclassy!

Does this not go against your feminism standard?

abbey621:
Funny how each reason starts with you or your Ladies would never admit that they are at fault or that they are just simply insatiable. This is why I encourage guys to focus more on the things we can control and not on the uncontrollable things such as a female's mind. For example when a guy focuses on being the best form of himself, he acquires wealth, he is sound physically and mentally, he becomes focused and more desirable automatically attracting more females than he could have ever imagined. When a man is the best form of himself, not only would females be swarming over him but the one he gives his heart to would make it her priority not to lose him, true life story!

Jetjacky:
informative!

misssclassy:


Did you know it was me that created the thread before you wrote this?

natas22:
Nice one gal my nairaland crush. www.

prettythicksme:
yes i knw!!any p with what i wrote?

No, just surprised.

Thanks.

misssclassy:


No, just surprised.

Thanks.

sandrannna:
Is it nt dat lady dat doesn't av a b.f dat is advicing guys on d reason why ladies move to other guys?

In case u dn't know.
1. she is the most violent lady on nairaland.
2.. She will nvr upload her picture. Do u know why? Kindly ask her if u dn't.
3. She is frustrated.
4. She doesn't smile talkless of laugh
5. She likes long epistles jez like d crap she wrote up dere.
6. She is always here 24/7, yeah, she is dat jobless.

epelumi42:


Just what I was thinking. But Its for front page, so she had to generalize. Im still comin to bash that dear lady tho. Her points are a bit off.

Lemme do it here.

What kinda guy goes into a relationship without first knowing the kinda girl he's dealing with. Once a relationship starts on the wrong foot, it is headed for the rocks. Now, for what she's preached and stood for, I ll expect her to give suggestions to guys on solving the case of rejection. What's the point of giving problems?

We expected something more than this from a feminist and a lady of understanding but she wrote it like just another lady.

All the points mentioned can be frustrating, but in the world of love, what does it matter? Make him change and understand. Love him the right way and help him get over his low self esteem. Or dont you think those points are degrading for a guy who wants to feel confident. Let him be himself. Such points only work for the common laymen relationships out there.

Now, misssclassy, was one of the reasons above the reason you dumped your last relationship?