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Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by ndidibabe(f): 3:01pm On Jul 10, 2015
bushdoc9919:
Get a good creche. Possibly at place of work.

Re Creche.....that is something the Nigerian Government should invest in. Funding for creches in government offices, as well as generous maternity leave plus maternity leave for dads, and reduced working hours for working mums with babies under 12 months.....could help this young family.

A happy Nigerian Family makes Nigeria a Happy Nation!
Well said, Dear.
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Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by olawoyintolani: 3:02pm On Jul 10, 2015
A 4 month old child needs the mother's love, care and attention. If she refuses to take care of the child properly then she wants her child to grow up and be something bad. Her primary assignment is her child. God has been providing for your needs since when you got married,till she was pregnant, so God won't forsake you...To hell with the job if it will deprive her child of her attention....
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leggo:
should you allow?? are you some sort of dictator?
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by Itulah(m): 3:02pm On Jul 10, 2015
mcocolok:
after all my suffer, i no still reach ftc.. God please help your boy

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Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by Bonapart(m): 3:03pm On Jul 10, 2015
Burger01:

So, you haven't seen a two month old bay in the care of nanny while madam goes off to work? Siddown there. No be money dem go take cater for the baby? smiley
my guy, my believe be say money must surely come so we shouldn't take drastic moves to get money

"Labour not to be rich, cease from thy own wisdom" book of proverb
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by Smartlady24(f): 3:03pm On Jul 10, 2015
Yes she should work not just for your present state but also for posterity sake,if you want to bring up your child well.Depending on your location..there are many good creches around,get one u can conveniently afford. I dont advise you to get a nanny or a relative, we hardly trust people this days
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by ndidibabe(f): 3:03pm On Jul 10, 2015
jaybee3:
How about asking for resource support from your parents?
You can look at getting a creche for your baby
If her salary is way more than yours then simply resign

Above all, make sure you do family planning as a matter of urgency
He should resign?
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by Burger01(m): 3:04pm On Jul 10, 2015
Bonapart:
my guy, my believe be say money must surely come so we shouldn't take drastic moves to get money

"Labour not to be rich, cease from thy own wisdom" book of proverb
Bruhs, bone that proverb abeg. He who wears the shoes knows where it pinches the most. Money matter for family matter smiley
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by Bonapart(m): 3:06pm On Jul 10, 2015
lurlah2014:
this is not about money its about survival
survival is sure....
But as for me i would risk such....
Till he's at least 1
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by jaybee3(m): 3:07pm On Jul 10, 2015
ndidibabe:
He should resign?
YES

What's wrong with that?

He is already struggling with the finances that will most certainly grow in line with the baby's growth

What if he was on a 50K per month job and the wife received a 500K per month job offer, should he still allow the wife lose out just because he simply wants to be the man?

Makes no economic sense

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Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by Bonapart(m): 3:07pm On Jul 10, 2015
Burger01:

Bruhs, bone that proverb abeg. He who wears the shoes knows where it pinches the most. Money matter for family matter smiley
i dey feel you
But money is sure to come
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by qtx(m): 3:07pm On Jul 10, 2015
Tho working by a mother to support husband is understand able, however, 4 months is still quite tender, raise her 10k to start keeping articles in front of your house selling, with that she can start doing something with determination and ur support, give her 6 months it will turn to a big shop and a year later it may become a super market all things being equal. I have seen some children's futures being wasted by peanuts earned careers embarked upon by most parents



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Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by ndidibabe(f): 3:09pm On Jul 10, 2015
jaybee3:

YES

What's wrong with that?

He is already struggling with the finances that will most certainly grow in line with the baby's growth

What if he was on a 50K per month job and the wife received a 500K per month job offer, should he still allow the wife lose out just because he simply wants to be the man?

Makes no economic sense
Hmm..
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by ylaa(f): 3:10pm On Jul 10, 2015
daz your biz. depends on your pocket if you can take care of your family.
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by lurlah2014(f): 3:10pm On Jul 10, 2015
Bonapart:
survival is sure....
But as for me i would risk such....
Till he's at least 1
am sure you cant watch you baby starve if you are a woman with an husband that earns low income

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Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by jaybee3(m): 3:10pm On Jul 10, 2015
ndidibabe:
Hmm..
hmm
No let cat bite your tongue so talk wetin dey ya mind

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Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by Correctman0606: 3:12pm On Jul 10, 2015
Midehi:
yea! that is a really tough one, my own advice is to allow her mum or yours; someone very close to you to stay and help with the baby till hes of age for daycare.

goodluck!
Jonathan
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by ndidibabe(f): 3:15pm On Jul 10, 2015
jaybee3:

hmm
No let cat bite your tongue so talk wetin dey ya mind
Nothing really. Just strange..
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by Emmahunk(m): 3:15pm On Jul 10, 2015
I think you have more than the problem of the child's welfare in your hands.
For starters, you have no firm grip of your family.
Hear yourself, 'my wife suddenly came back day before yesterday and said she wentffor a job interview'. For crying out loud, what right does she have to go job hunting without you two first discussing it as a family?
Poverty does not mean inability to run your home. It's amazing that in this age of 'baby friendly', a woman with honest intentions will be comfortable abandoning a four months old baby for a job you were not aware of. Obviously, she couldn't wait to put to birth.
Call your wife to order first and other things can follow

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Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by ACHIEVERBA: 3:16pm On Jul 10, 2015
why you dey ask? aren't you a man you should be able to make your own decisions!
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by horeejah(f): 3:17pm On Jul 10, 2015
I resumed back to work when my baby was just 3 months, just get a good person(nanny) to be carrying the baby within the working hours, your wife can express breast milk inside feedingbottles,that will be given to the baby & once she is free or a less busy @work, she will go & see d baby, just relax, there is nothing to worry about, nw my child is 2years by God's grace & doing greatly fine

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Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by kilode100(f): 3:17pm On Jul 10, 2015
Resign and look after your baby abi no be you fvck your wife before she born am?

This man is not ambitious jare..
Allow your wife work since you are being paid peanuts.

I know you will still leave housework for her to do when she comes back and these househusbands can so disturb their wives for xes.

Chai.... My fellow woman don enter one chance.!!


Minus zero men everywhere.

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Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by joanana(f): 3:18pm On Jul 10, 2015
MOORCHMOORE:
I am a low income earner, with a wife, son (3 months +), nephew then 1 inlaw today another tomorrow.
My wife suddenly came home day before yesterday with the news she went Job interview.
The next day, she was ask to start work on next Monday.

Dilemma!
With what am passing through, I desire my wife to work so that we can meetup with some bills.

Our problem is we have a Son that is heading 4th month, her employers can't accept her with our baby.
She went to day cares around and was told they only admit a year plus. I tried to discourage her, knowing what our son is going to pass through. But she accused me of not being supportive.

Please I need professionals here.
This is one place I always get answers and support


Its not an easy task. If you want to help emloy a nanny that will take of the baby and do a thorough investigation on the nanny before she resumes the job. My sis has a nanny and leave when she gets back from work.
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by draypyper(m): 3:18pm On Jul 10, 2015
get a nanny or a close family member to help out....it is not easy to get a job these days
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by MKO4ever(m): 3:20pm On Jul 10, 2015
Depending on the kind of job...
Generally, it will not be fair on her, her employer and the baby to start a new job at that stage (Just 3+ months after delivery)
Because at that moment, she cannot work at her full potential, then she gets bad appraisal from her employer, the baby also suffers and at end of the day, they will sack her for low productivity.
However, she can go to work if:
---It is Government related work
---she is an existing employee of the company

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Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by femi4: 3:21pm On Jul 10, 2015
steppin:
Op, you should get a maid from OLX nigeria.
I'm sure you'll find a lady perfect for the job.
Aaah
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by jaybee3(m): 3:21pm On Jul 10, 2015
ndidibabe:
Nothing really. Just strange..

Couples that want to succeed have to embrace flexibility alongside practicality if they want to survive the tough world of starting a family

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Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by sinbadooo: 3:22pm On Jul 10, 2015
Bonapart:
Money isn't worth the time we spent with our love ones
In this case it's a lil innocent child who needs her mom around him at all time
If it was me, even if am jobless and also dem broke, i no fit let my wife try such
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by Nobody: 3:22pm On Jul 10, 2015
Cutehector:
wat if they livn in one bedroom apartment?
it does'nt matter, its just for a period of time

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Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by femi4: 3:24pm On Jul 10, 2015
Bonapart:
4 months baby? Money has indeed destroy the world
Think again
Its not about money. In some org, its even 3months and you are expected back at work

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Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by Neplusultra(f): 3:24pm On Jul 10, 2015
Oh noo! He's too tender to be left for someone.. poor boy cry cry pls she shud reconsider, everything is not about money embarassed

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