freecocoa:
Why does Prince not want a court wedding? He's up to something, if I were Amaka, I'll stick to my guns.

efemenaslectura:
her fear is not to become a victim of stories that touch the soul when they start brining out their colour

Richman15:
And if I were Prince, I'll show U the exit Door. I can't marry a materially concious and unsubmissive woman.

angelz:
court wedding is important. Amaka should not settle for less. It has nothing to do with money but a lot to do with polygamy. if there's no court wedding, prince can marry another wife since the marriage is not legal. except they sign the marriage certificate in the church.

Cutehector:
well, whr u come from, is very important, so ur native home, I.e ur kinsmen, gotta be very aware dat thr daughter is getn married... And must gv their blessings... Its been d oldest form of marriage eva... Even befor d advent of christain mariage...

angelz:
court wedding is important. Amaka should not settle for less. It has nothing to do with money but a lot to do with polygamy. if there's no court wedding, prince can marry another wife since the marriage is not legal. except they sign the marriage certificate in the church.

freecocoa:
How much do you think it costs to get wedded in a court? Do you even know the importance of court wedding?

She doesn't have to be afraid of anything, she's just taking the right step, what is the man afraid of by refusing?

It's really saddening to read a woman calling another woman with an opinion manipulative and overbearing, so she's supposed to just go with whatever the fiance wants? It's not even like the court wedding will be in her favour alone.

suggyspic:
She wants court marriage while he wants traditional marriage. This resulted to argument between Prince and Amaka who have been dating for 5yrs. Prince have propose to Amaka and the traditional knocking of door have been done. In the process of planning for the marriage, prince have insisted that he would only do the traditional marriage and later the church marriage, but Amaka insisted that she prefers a court marriage and later the traditional marriage. Amaka went further by telling prince its either the court marriage or no marriage at all, stating that court marriage would proof to her that Prince truely loves her and wants to protect her further with him. Prince on the other hand insisted that he would do the court marriage when he deems it fit. Amaka have threaten to break up the relationship. Prince is the only son in a family of four and is doing very well. Marriage preparation is 80% ready.

Should Prince concede to her or maintain his stand?
Is Amaka's stance right (using love as a yardstick to buttress her point)
do you smell any hidden agenda on the part of prince or Amaka.
In your candid opinion, do you think this marriage would work.

Neplusultra:
Haba! If am right, dey dated for 4years na unless she doesnt trust him or his family dat much, tho anytin can still happen but dat shudnt stop dem!

Richman15:
And if I were Prince, I'll show U the exit Door. I can't marry a materially concious and unsubmissive woman.

freecocoa:
I could never date a man like you to start with, let alone marriage.

Richman15:
And if I were Prince, I'll show U the exit Door. I can't marry a materially concious and unsubmissive woman.

suggyspic:
She wants court marriage while he wants traditional marriage. This resulted to argument between Prince and Amaka who have been dating for 5yrs. Prince have propose to Amaka and the traditional knocking of door have been done. In the process of planning for the marriage, prince have insisted that he would only do the traditional marriage and later the church marriage, but Amaka insisted that she prefers a court marriage and later the traditional marriage. Amaka went further by telling prince its either the court marriage or no marriage at all, stating that court marriage would proof to her that Prince truely loves her and wants to protect her further with him. Prince on the other hand insisted that he would do the court marriage when he deems it fit. Amaka have threaten to break up the relationship. Prince is the only son in a family of four and is doing very well. Marriage preparation is 80% ready.

Should Prince concede to her or maintain his stand?
Is Amaka's stance right (using love as a yardstick to buttress her point)
do you smell any hidden agenda on the part of prince or Amaka.
In your candid opinion, do you think this marriage would work.

SpeedyConnect:


See this girl o. Are you a law student?
But you only succeeded in stating only the formal requirements -- which cannot invalidate the marriage if one of them claims not to be aware of them-- and left the essential requirements such as age, prohibited degree of consanguinity, single status etc.

It's should be noted that there is no differrence between church marriage and court marriage, that's strictly speaking. What we have are just two forms of marriage. Customary and statutory( which encompasses court, church etc, remember court or church is just like the venue and different rules apply depending on the 'venue' chosen.).

Regarding church, the most important thing is that the marriage at chuch should comply with legal provisions lest it become a mere church blessing and of no legal effect.

point of note i am not a girl! i am a matured woman so do not address me as a girl
i am no a student .i graduated long ago.i wrote what i could remember without consulting any reference.we are here to profer solutions to domeone's problem.
if i missed out vital issues you could have easily added yours with or without mentioning me.
so back to topic you mentioned important issues like age.yes amaka age matters to .minimum age to contract a valid marriage should 18 .the thing is seek proper consel and you will definately get it right.whatever you do make sure your marriage is registered legally.

Dont have time now, would have written at length about this.

efemenaslectura:
you can't trust some men this days. They always bring out rude surprises besides if the guy gan doesn't have any skeleton in his cupboard why is he afraid of doing court marriage. I have a feeling he has hidden motives. It's just like someone threatening to call the cops to search my house. If I don't have anything illegal in my house why should I be scared of her threats. Something smells fishy with the guy


moreover this days a wise girl sees danger ahead and protects herself

CSTR2:
What will the man gain in a court wedding?

ferdimako:

I was at d ikoyi registry today...see pple. oyibo women with their Nigerian husbands. Courts don't even do much for marriages in case of divorce and churches don't either. Pple are just ignorant... if I'm prince I will use speed to do the registry and u can ask for express. Within a week! Bam...off u go!

Sticking to ur guns means what on a guy with a pool?

Kai rain didn't allow us take much photographs outside.

freecocoa:
He's legally married under the law, just like the woman.

suggyspic:
She wants court marriage while he wants traditional marriage. This resulted to argument between Prince and Amaka who have been dating for 5yrs. Prince have propose to Amaka and the traditional knocking of door have been done. In the process of planning for the marriage, prince have insisted that he would only do the traditional marriage and later the church marriage, but Amaka insisted that she prefers a court marriage and later the traditional marriage. Amaka went further by telling prince its either the court marriage or no marriage at all, stating that court marriage would proof to her that Prince truely loves her and wants to protect her further with him. Prince on the other hand insisted that he would do the court marriage when he deems it fit. Amaka have threaten to break up the relationship. Prince is the only son in a family of four and is doing very well. Marriage preparation is 80% ready.

Should Prince concede to her or maintain his stand?
Is Amaka's stance right (using love as a yardstick to buttress her point)
do you smell any hidden agenda on the part of prince or Amaka.
In your candid opinion, do you think this marriage would work.

Neplusultra:
I read dat he's an only son and doing well too, culd dat be the reason why? Maybe she's scared she might not have a male child and the family will proffer polygamy,whicheva one it is sha its not a good sign dat they are already having disagreements when they've not yet started, if dat guy were my brother i wuldnt advice him to subscribe to dat! By the way, what were they doing for 4yrs? Culdnt they have sort dat out since?

mercylicious:

This made me smile. It is only a woman that can decide when she wants to get pregnant or not.

It reminds me of mixing contraceptive pills in centrum or vitamins c/supplement pack.
If she is smart, she won't be caught.

suggyspic:


I think they both have ulterior motive for their decision.

CSTR2:
There is no gain in that for the man.
The law recognize traditional marriage also.

freecocoa:

efemenaslectura:
I presume they ve been having sex and now reality has given them a little shocker.moreover its not only a man and his family that knows how to protect himself. A woman too knows how to. Who wants to enter another home unprotected against the wiles anyone wants to throw

Neplusultra:
She's sending a negative vibe by insisting on a court wedding, they are ways to go about it, am sure the guy wuld understand.

ferdimako:

Prince should follow her preference as she doesn't gain anything out of it. She doesn't even know...Nigerian system isn't meant to will everything to wives...ask Gbenga Obasanjo wife.

Men can still go into polygamy... not legal as d oath giver said but men still default.

Oyibo ladies are siphoning off the guys you are ditching.

SpeedyConnect:


See this girl o. Are you a law student?
But you only succeeded in stating only the formal requirements -- which cannot invalidate the marriage if one of them claims not to be aware of them-- and left the essential requirements such as age, prohibited degree of consanguinity, single status etc.

It's should be noted that there is no differrence between church marriage and court marriage, that's strictly speaking. What we have are just two forms of marriage. Customary and statutory( which encompasses court, church etc, remember court or church is just like the venue and different rules apply depending on the 'venue' chosen.).

Regarding church, the most important thing is that the marriage at chuch should comply with legal provisions lest it become a mere church blessing and of no legal effect.

Dont have time now, would have written at length about this.

zeb04:
court marriage is necessary especially in the eyes of the law.

traditionally marriage is also necessary especially in the eyes of the land and the hungry chief's with pot bellies. so both should never be compromised.

the only one that doesn't make sense to me is white wedding even some churches will not wed you till they see the court certificates.