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Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by zeezeegal(m): 5:14pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
takin d child to daycare is nt a good idea. If she must work, let her bring in her younger sis to care 4 d child while she go to wrk or beta still let her go for a teaching job. Dats d best job for a nursing moda dou d pay might nt b dat ok but she will have tym for d child nd earn sumtym at d end of d month. she will b allow to go wit d child. |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by gbengus26(m): 5:15pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
I have the same problem too some years back,my wife was working somewhere at ikeja and we stay at somewhere close to sango ota, there is nothing we can do than for her to resign and look for teaching job of which we find one close to our house, in the morning two of them go together in the morning and come back together. If your wife is an educated person I will suggest you try something like that for too because living a four month old baby under the care of Nanny is not too good. Best of luck. |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by bettercreature(m): 5:18pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
Burger01:A very wise advice,to me 4 months old baby is not too young,please allow her go to work 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by omonnakoda: 5:18pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
gbengus26:What if the wife is a doctor? 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by luvprince4real(m): 5:27pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
Burger01:The Orekoyas Incident and OXL saga comes to mind.. @op wtch dis guy well. |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by Adaeze003(f): 5:31pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
yongnoble: Only one year? How about she nurses him till he's 10 before starting the job search? ![]() I'm pretty sure you're not married... we should learn to be realistic in our expectations. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by cococandy(f): 5:45pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
Your mom or her mom should help with the child while she works. If she loes this job now, will you get her another one? And how about when the family needs keeps increasing and the money you make keeps decreasing in value because of inflation, won't you start grumbling and snapping at her for wanting to buy this or that when she doesn't make any money? 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by Joy1706(f): 5:46pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
olawoyintolani:That's rubbish abeg. My mum was a working mother too, so naturally she had a nanny look after us when working. I have 3 siblings and all 4 of us couldn't have turned out any better. Is she abandoning the baby? 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by cococandy(f): 5:54pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
Mtchew Emmahunk: 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by luluosas(m): 5:54pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
MOORCHMOORE:She should reject the job if her would-be employers are not ready to accept her and her baby. I thought you were not being serious as the headline suggests and I wanted to blast you up that maternity leave is 3 months for a working woman, until I read your story. Money is not everything abeg. |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by Nobody: 5:56pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
Our society is destroyed because our family lives and values are destroyed. Our family lives and values are destroyed because parents no longer train their children. Parents no longer train their children because both parents are busy. In my world, for all the monies in this world, four years old kid need to rest its head on her mother's breast. May be I am old school any way. Cheers to all. |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by Nobody: 5:57pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
What happens to exclusive breastfeeding. Mothers of this days can't even breastfeed for 6 months exclusively. Depriving their kids their rights. Women sacrificing exclusive breastfeeding and maternal & child bonding for job?. Discuss. |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by Joy1706(f): 6:03pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
Emmahunk:What is this one saying? Mr 'I must comment'. Mstchewww 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by 9jatatafo(m): 6:03pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
4 months old is too young. It is a no for me. |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by sweatlana: 6:04pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
Children are expensive! Get your mum or her mum or sister to take care of the baby. Your wife needs an income or else she will turn your life I to a living hell! It's tough but it has to be done. Unless you can foot the bills 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by samonom(m): 6:07pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
My dear, pls allow your wife to start the job immediately if the salary is good cos u are not financially okay. Moreover d son is 3 or 4. old . we have many working class lady's. If my office we have them, during their pregnancy period they are working . they go for their maternity leave 3 to 4 , after that they resumed their duty back. Look for ur younger family person to assist or a good house girl. Working class people will understand better, Pls if u can set up a business for her fine. If not pls pls allow her to start the job if the salary is good. But not because of peanut salary. If after one year she got a job & pregnant again will u ask her to stop d job to look after d baby. If financial rich better but it is d opposite wit responsibity 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by omonnakoda: 6:09pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
noblezone: That is all very good in theory but the so called values you talk about date back to a time when all people aspired to was a full stomach. There are over 100 million people in Nigeria. How does one feed a family these days with one man's income. Even in the so called "values" period a woman did not stop going to the farm because she was a nursing mother indefinitely they still had communal support of family. These days we live in towns and families spend a lot of money educating male and female children. The idea that a woman should stop working and stay at home to breast feed is funny. Even 40 years ago this was not the case. We had teachers who got pregnant had babies ,took maternity leave and returned to work Most of my teachers were female and many had babies. Let us examine a typical Nigerian family ; Husband rides okada and wife is cleaner,Husband is a teacher wife is a teacher,Husband is Civil servant and wife is same . In most cases they need the income of both. Those Nigerians who can survive on just the husband's income are rare. This is 2015 and the reality of urban life is women work.When people are getting married they need to PLAN ahead for babies and how they will get support 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by samonom(m): 6:12pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
Joy1706:people pick d phone and post things that has no meaningful impact be guided |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by kayla12(f): 6:21pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
Let her get a trustworthy person that can resume before she leaves in morning and close when she's back, before you know the baby has grow. Talking from experience with my 2 kids. If she was working before now the company would have given her just 3 or four months to nurse her baby. Or would she have stayed home one 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by Burger01(m): 6:25pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
luvprince4real:Ode!The Orekoyas was a case of negligence in proper background checks. ![]() Better still, the Op can get his mum or mother-in-law to help a while. Not every nanny you come across be like that of the Orekoyas' ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by Keyana(f): 6:38pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
FannySwindler:Did he say the wife was abandoning the baby? 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by Nobody: 6:48pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
Keyana. Did you read anything abandoning or did you site any word abandon from my post. Or you just don't understand maternal bonding and exclusive breast feeding. Can you go to work and practice exclusive breast feeding as it is meant to be done? How much milk can be expressed in feeding bottle and stored properly in that country with no stable power supply. Are you an experienced mother or a nursing mother? Have you raised any kid of your own? Kindly enlighten me may be I could understand you better. Am willing to learn....am that humble. |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by 6fit(f): 7:11pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
MOORCHMOORE: more income thru yur wife at d detriment of yur growing baby. Bro, with d kind of exploitatation employer xpose employee too, am sure yur wife can not cope with work and baby care. One will definely suffer. Evrything in life is planning...u already know yur baby is still tender for yur wife to work, why allow her search for job in d first place......my advise is dat u can giv her a chance to try to work and care for d baby. If she can cope fine if she cant, then she shuld drop d job. She can always get another job. As for u, obviously, a man income determine how many mouth he can feed.....if yur income can feed yur wife and kid only, why invit external family member u can not care for? 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by Nobody: 7:26pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
4months is not too young. Maternity leave is 3months. For me, it depends on the kind of job she got. If its a good job , then she is good to go. Register ur child with day care. But if it is a small/management job, let her keep waiting for a better job while still nursing the baby. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by geeudy(f): 7:27pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
MOORCHMOORE:there is absolutely nothing to worry yourself about, come to think of it, had it been she was on maternity leave, she would have resumed work at this same stage of the baby's life. So what I will advise you to do is to call ur blood relation to come over to the house and take good care of the baby, while she on the other hand will express breast milk for the baby b4 going to work in the morning. Nothing will happen to your baby, provided he's in good hands. Also introduce your baby to food suppliment like Apidec syrup. All the best. God will take good care of the little one. Shalom! |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by armyofone(m): 7:49pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
If the money is good, i mean cool pay etc go ahead. If the money is Some Nothing To Write About, forget it. |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by luvprince4real(m): 9:04pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
Burger01:ur head dey shake. |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by Nobody: 9:19pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
omonnakoda: In my world, it is the responsibility of the man to provide for his family. I agree with Paul of Tarsus: "Whosoever does not provide for his family is worse than an infidel". Four months kid needs the mother. i wont trade that for the whole money on this earth. This is my personal conviction anyway. |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by Nobody: 9:21pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
Yes she can start work if the employee will allow her to close early, from morning till afternoon like 8am to 2pm or 3pm |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by omonnakoda: 9:25pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
noblezone: The person who started this thread does not live in your world or the world of Paul of Tarsus of Paul of Ogbo Hill . He lives in a world which he has described vividly. That is the real world as far as this thread is concerned. If men were providing for their families across Nigeria women and children would not be hawking and doing the 101 things women and children do in Nigeria just to eat including prostituting themselves. That is the real Nigeria let us deal with it as it really is and not live in a fantasy world. Hundreds of women hold serious jobs in industry banking civil service ,police etc . How many employers give 4 months maternity leave. Children need their mothers they also need their fathers too and they need food and clothes and medicines and shelter etc. The real world for Nigeria and real Nigerianss is that scenario you describe is NOT REALISTIC in the urban areas for most Nigerians People who are young and have no life experience find it easy to talk. Do you know how many Nigerians lose their limbs DAILY riding okada trying to provide for their families. Every single day just from okada yet thereafter the families must still be provided for. Men who have never seen war are always "brave". We all know the kind of life we would like no one wants to suffer .Reality is different for the most of us. I make bold to say WOMEN CARRY up to half if not more of Nigerian families financially both in towns and rural areas 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Wife To Leave Our 4 Month-Old-Baby And Start Work? by helistysworld: 10:15pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
Some nairalanders sha with their dreamworld mentality. @Moorchmoore,bros,u wear the shoe and knows well where its pinching you.And 4month old is not too young .Think deeply and analyse your options. Presence of money in the pocket of the husband is a defence and lack of it is an offence. These days you need a lot to train a child or else you want them to struggle unnecessarily. 1 Like |
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