Disagreements are bound to ensue among couples, because naturally, people are expected to react to issues differently. Marriage counsellors say the response and manner in which couples react to matters are determinants of the survival of their marriages. If their spouses slapped them in the public for whatever reason, SATURDAY PUNCH asked some Nigerians what their reactions would be.
I’ll feel bad - Rejoice Ada
Why would he slap me in the public? That’s just too mean. I will feel bad, but I will expect that he apologises promptly. If he does that, I’ll forgive him, though I may not really forget about the incident. All the same, I will still love him like I used to, if he repents. It’s only when he wants to take my kindness for granted that I will show him my other side.

She must give me a million reasons she did so -Charles Adebowale
Which kind of wife slaps her husband in the public? Even if she did so in the closet, does it make it normal? No! No matter what I could have done or said that angered her, I could never have deserved such treatment. That’s way too far. The best thing she has to do for her own sake is to promptly apologise publicly so that I would not be angry at her madly. If she can’t apologise, then she must be ready to give me a million reasons why she slapped me. It is an embarrassing act.

He has to tell me why and apologise- Fatimo Babalola
That kind of man is a beast. No matter what I could have said to him that made him to be angry, he didn’t have any right to slap me. If he wants peace in the home thereafter, he should tell me at once why he slapped me, then he must apologise and compensate me for not returning that slap. Truth is, returning the slap would only be a show of shame in the public and it will be an embarrassment to friends and family members that learn about it later. I’ll choose the path of honour by asking for reasons and letting him beg for my forgiveness.

I’ll stop eating her food - Joe Oladokun
I’ll clean my cheeks up, though naturally I would be angry. That’s expected of me. But being a gentleman comes with so many sacrifices. For instance, it’s not possible for me to pay her back by landing my own slaps on her cheeks. I’ll get over it, at least while we were still in the public.
It’s when we get home that I may then bother to ask her what went wrong. Failure to produce an answer and apologise will be too mean of her and that, I will not take lightly. There are ways to deal with her, but I won’t disclose much. One of them is to refuse to eat her food and communicate with her. It’s a painful experience, but I can’t retaliate – as a gentleman.



NOW OVER TO YOU GUYS!!

What's your take on these responses and what will be your own response

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I will do nothing.

I will feel bad and walk away.

Feel bad and walk away. I must ensure I don't have an aggressive spouse.

Some things are better imagined than experiencing them. It's one of the most obvious indicators of rascality and irresponsibility for a presumed sane person to slap his/her partner in public. The truth is my first suspicion will be spontaneous insanity as I will be shocked and speechless then I will retreat from that spot with a view to identifying if he is still sane. And yes! madness can start that way. Generally, It requires serious resilience to manage this kind of situation but knowing that he hasn't become mad is a consolation. Thereafter, the best you can do is to prevent the already regrettable situation from becoming worse and that is by protecting both his image and that of my family in the public with all the courage and pretense I can command. The way you handle him will either endear you more to him and make him genuinely remorseful or make him recalcitrant and hate you more.
My advice is for ladies to carry out deliberate stress level test and consider the ability of their fiance to manage conflict before saying "I do"

I'll feel so bad

I’ll warn him never to try it again - Gloria Gwen
Seriously, that is a rude action. No matter what a woman does or says against a man, he doesn’t need to respond in such manner. Even some illiterates don’t do that. You have to respect your wife and she will respect you too. As for me, I will warn him never to try it again, because that’s a form of physical abuse and infringement on my rights. If he is remorseful, I will find a place in my heart to forgive him and let the matter go.



I’ll leave the scene at once- Taofeek Otufowora
It can only happen when someone is too crude, because I don’t think any civilised woman will resort to slapping her husband – even privately – for any reason. It is surely a sign of crudeness. Meanwhile, I could never have opened my eyes wide to marry such a woman. Assuming it happens, I’ll leave the scene immediately, without her. But if it’s an event or programme that I needed to be around throughout, I would manage to stay without talking to her. she should be made to realise her cruelty and apologise.



I’ll just walk away- Mary Okegbile
There is no need to also display madness. If he chooses to descend so low like that, I don’t have to follow suit. Not returning the slap would pass a stronger message to him – if he is a mature person. In that kind of scenario, I just need to walk away from the scene and go and sit down quietly somewhere. But if I have the means, I can just go home and relax, while awaiting his return. If he knows what is good and he’s mature, he will come home remorseful and on his knees begging me.




She’ll pay for it - Bebe James
She has to pay for that, right there or when we return home. I don’t think you have to simply rub your cheeks and let it go. That’s simply an aggressive manner. It is not a good thing. It makes one look like an animal. It shows total disrespect. I will try not to return my own slap, but she has to beg me in the presence of the same people she had slapped me. If she fails to do that, she might be calling for separation. Next time, she will learn that you don’t slap your ‘head’ for any reason.




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HungerBAD:
I will do nothing.

If you have stayed with me for just 2 weeks, then you'll know that i'm a kind of man that you don't dare try such thing with

i'll turn my other cheek for her to slap too, then when she is done and we get home,, we'll discuss how she wants her funeral...

One needs to treat him like a monster too - Ebere Favour


I don’t tolerate nonsense. Men should not be made
to think they have any special rights over women.
They are to take care of their wives, protect them,
provide for them and even shield them away from
monsters. But when a man becomes a monster,
one needs to treat him like one. I would also give
him a dirty slap if that happens. I guess he will
learn a lesson from there that he didn’t marry a
fool. It’s not easy, though, but he shouldn’t have
slapped me.





That can only happen if she’s the breadwinner-Uzor Isaac

I guess the only factor that could give a woman the
gut to slap her husband is if she is the
breadwinner of the family, which doesn’t make it
right by the way. However, whether she is or not, I
will respond appropriately – not necessarily by
slapping her back, because I’m not a monster, but
I could refuse her so many things, as a man. For
instance, I could punish her by not sleeping with
her again. When she comes back to her senses
and does the needful, I will resume again. But
really, it’s painful.




http://www.punchng.com/feature/adam-eve/what-will-you-do-if-your-spouse-slaps-you-in-public/

zinachidi:
i'll turn my other cheek for her to slap too, then when she is done and we get home,, we'll discuss how she wants her funeral...

ROTFL

In dis situation may God help us,when you pple r courting u ought 2 knw her/his behaviour but all d same just walk out silently dat d best nd u will c hw he/she will be remorse

histemple:
It requires serious resilience to manage this kind of situation. The best you can do is to prevent the already regrettable situation from becoming worse.

Buh talk true, the guy go suffer abi

report him to my brothers to teach him a lesson

Nwulia:
I will feel bad and walk away.

will you marry me? i promise to never slap you! ever!

I will walk away then get to a secluded place..

Make a call to my sister or doublewisdom
They will say something humorous to make it seem less serious than it really is...
Like.... "Abi make we kill am now?"...
"You sure say e no dey dodge smoke Igbo"
"You want native doctor number"
Before they seriously address the issue on ground

BTW I don't see the possibility of being slapped

Walk away,

chocosilver:
Walk away,

Walk away like Craig David ?

If we are not yet married but just dating/courting, I'll beat the hell out of her and dump her forthwith.. But if already married, I'll leave quietly and go and wait for her at home.. Her punishment will come in the night on our bed.. I'll fvck life out of her!

favoured234:
I will walk away then get to a secluded place..

Make a call to my sister or doublewisdom
They will say something humorous to make it seem less serious than it really is...
Like.... "Abi make we kill am now?"...
"You sure say e no dey dodge smoke Igbo"
"You want native doctor number"
Before they seriously address the issue on ground

BTW I don't see the possibility of being slapped

Are you sure you no go jump reply am with two hands

**he dey mad? will return with a very hot good slap i swear cos to slap me in public is a very shameful act.*he dare not slap in private talkess of public,he will rather b silent for me when i don start

I won't slap her oo but for she'll endure emotional torture for a while.
No eating her food,no talking to her, no going anywhere with her. In short, let me stop assuming nonsense, my wife can never slap me.

I will slap the hell out of my spouse later on in private!

Godskidmidas:
I won't slap her oo but for she'll endure emotional torture for a while.
No eating her food,no talking to her, no going anywhere with her. In short, let me stop assuming nonsense, my wife can never slap me.

ur comment got me cracking.. well bera start assuming d nonsense o cos any thing can happen in d future u know

Truth234:


Are you sure you no go jump reply am with two hands

Ignored

jennyswt:


ur comment got me cracking.. well bera start assuming d nonsense o cos any thing can happen in d future u know

You know say e get as you go take think something wey even the thought go start to dey provoke you

Anyways,let's assume a woman does this, *In AY's Voice* I go use the woman take exchange for recharge card