TooNoisy:
This is the fakest story in the world. You are trying very hard to start a controversial thread but you are such a poor writer and an unintelligent one too. If this is the best fictional tale you can come up with then your IQ must be very low.

And then you make your whole rubbish thread about one tribe? You can't even marry a nanny in real life cos your IQ is too low. Too many obvious lies in your story!

GHoJes:
First of all, that your one conclusion you arrived at is wrong because it does not hold true for all cheating "yoruba" men. I even think its not true in your case as you'v have decided to cheat if you see calabar girl (na so you like food), then blame it on your wife or feminism.

What do you even want? Is it for your wife to stop working or always fix your meal?
Your wife adds no value at all? try the maid or calabar woman whether they have all the values you want or if you will not remember why you married your wife?
I think the maid is not a better cook else you would have compromise. You think you wife dont meet guys in her work place that can "add value" you may not be adding or you think only you want all value addition?

Man, you deal with your problem and not run to a safer ground instead or you will also run from calabar woman when she lacks in an area.

It seems your love language is act of service, if true, your wife is doing one by loving your daughter the way no maid, calabar girl or woman may do. She only need to step up, sometimes all you need do is hold her hand to step up.

You married her a career woman, i also doubt your perfectionist type would have been attracted to the uneducated housewife you described. Her job is tiring as she said and she got a maid because she needed one. Its not like she is making no effort to cook at all, abi you have other problems with her. Cut her some slacks, encourage and appreciate her. Routine is not easy to break, she is used to the maid helping out when you are not around.
I doubt if you've told her these the way you told us, you've not make her see your pain in it. You told her about the maid cooking again but you left out the seduction part that would have made her chase the maid and help her to be careful.

If you really fear God and love daughter, do all to send that maid away. Communicate where it hurts to your wife so that she may ease things, you may too may find you are hurting her somewhere.

cococandy:
You're the problem.

Difficult and hard to please.

that look the nanny is giving you, is all in your head.

And your generalization is just funny. You think me an Igbo woman won't hire a cook and out my feet up if I could afford it?

This one Na excuse to pursue women from other areas as you're obviously 'belleful' of the ones around you.

Stillfire:
Look at how a grown ass man is crying for food on the internet. Na man be this?

SAMBARRY:
you can imagine
Just rice abi na indomie. If nanny is boiling indomie while she's baffing shebi na to eat. Why then should whoever that cooked the food matter
Op Abeg grow up

Stillfire:


I can just imagine myself as grown as I am crying for food.
Our parents really spoiled these men, unleashed overgrown babies for women to marry.

Stillfire:
Look at how a grown ass man is crying for food on the internet. Na man be this?

Stillfire:


I can just imagine myself as grown as I am crying for food.
Our parents really spoiled these men, unleashed overgrown babies for women to marry.

iykedare:
Aside the woman's laziness and nonchalant attitude towards certain things in her marriage, op isn't happy that she isn't spending her own money on anything in the house.

Op allowed her keep all her money,she was OK with it.
Now she is okay with not cooking for him.He caused everything. You are too soft.

iykedare:


But you haven't been able to marry a grown man. Your mates are getting married to these supposedly "overgrown babies".

Keep consoling yourself

Stillfire:

In your mind now, you have insulted me... rotflmao.

iykedare:


Haba,I didn't insult you. Though if I want to,I can.

Now, you wrote that men of nowadays are overgrown babies then I pointed out to you that other women are getting married to these "overgrown babies" .

At least,you not been able to hook a grown man,have you?

tonychristopher:


now I know why Yoruba men detest marrying their women .. never knew this was the reason reason but

its the Igbo women that are career suc

Ewuro4:
A woman should see cooking for her husband as a pride and not slavery

Odidire:
Since the discussion is gradually moving towards tribal rivalry, I ve edited the story.
The story is 100% true. No a single fact has been altered. I have recounted it as narrated to me.
Thanks for your contributions

tonychristopher:


now I know why Yoruba men detest marrying their women .. never knew this was the reason reason but

its the Igbo women that are career suc

Mynd44:
Shoro niyen?

Neplusultra:
Lol! Tony ibiakwa ozo! On a serious note, it's sheer wickedness on her part not to prepare his meal at least!!! Haba!! Marriage is about compromises and sacrifices!! She doesn't contribute to the upkeep, not even to but her daughter's stuff!! If I may ask, wots her own sacrifice in the marriage Even had the gut to ell the guy to arrange the house after toiling offshore to cater for his family and just came home to rest, despite the fact that relatives are staying with them!!! this is wickedness in its purest form! She's a jezebel!!

ChristyG:
i can say the same for eboe women and why they marry more outsiders than their akpu smelling brothers.proud,ugly,controlling and very unreasonable.and even with all their false claims if knowning how to care of women,nobody wants their ugly asses.so they go and rant on twitter about yoruba men dumping their asses for yoruba women.ibo career women that marry in their 40s and 50s