Desperate for a husband


For many years i never knew how ladies in their very late 20s,early 30s and late 30s feel when it comes to the issue of settling down with a man until recently when i had the cause to really get close to many of them.

Yes many of them will always insist that marriage is the least of their worries but deep inside,most of them are hoping desperately to have a man to settle down with and my acquaintanceship with some of them made me decide to write this short piece hoping that when they see and read it,they will come to understand that their desperation is self inflicted and until they learn to put themselves at a vantage point,they will only hope and wish for a long time that a man comes their way.

I have witnessed many deliverance session for ladies all in the name of looking for a husband but after a close look i come to realize that they are their own problems and this is as a result of the society that have brainwashed them and rather than dealing with the problems,they end up running from from one prophet to another and from one deliverance service to another and some have become a shadow of themselves as they turn to emergency sister dressing like masquerades,going without earrings,make up and even on low cut all in the name of looking for a man.

Please when next you see such ladies,help me inform them that deliverance won't solve their problems and even when we know that there are spiritual hindrance to getting a spouse,most times what we need is a re orientation of our minds,ways of life and culture.

1.Many ladies will not say yes to a man if you are not ready to do traditional wedding,legal wedding,white wedding,blue wedding... Please tell me how easy you expect to find a man in this harsh economy.

2.As an Igbo lady,you are naturally at risk unless you drive it into your man's ear that in your own family they don't ask a man for crazy bride price otherwise you will only see men come into your life without discussing marriage and you will think its a curse from the village but its only as a result of the funny belief that Igbo ladies are expensive to marry.

3.How many ladies can start a life with a struggling man? I guess part of the prayer point during deliverance is that GOD should bring a ready made man to propose to you.Mumu

4.Funny doctrinal belief is another hindrance and many ladies who run to conservative churches in the bid to have a man end up in more bondage.I had a lady friend in her 30s who i admire so much but she goes to one of this conservative churches and there was a time i was so sick and i was expecting her to visit but she never did and when i told her i was angry,she was so quick to say she can not visit me at home and i was like FOR REAL? Even a sick guy? i even told her that she would have at least come in company of a friend and i lost interest in the friendship instantly and i wonder how she will get a good man with that mindset.

5.Rough past is another hindrance and many ladies just believe that if a man loves them the past does not matter.

6.Lack of wife qualities is another issue and i wonder how a lady who does not have the required quality to be a mrs to a man will be desperate fore a man because even if any man comes,he will eventually leave you until you work on yourself.

The bottom line is that many ladies we see in churches today who tend to be looking for a husband are their own problems. So stop been desperate and work on your mindset and you will be surprised that in no time,a good man will walk into your life and marry you.

Hmm.. My main man

So on point.. You talk wisdom.

Wow... FTC on FP.. All thanks to Toks.


Make I dedicate this victory to Introvert my padi

Omotayor123:
Hmm.. My main man

So on point..

Tayo abeg no comment for my thread again. You are anti social.

You want me to beg you before you communicate abi. You know i won't.

thread not for me


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sinaj:
thread not for me



treks to Phone forum

Corrected* You look beautiful in your profile picture

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Toks2008:


Tayo abeg no comment for my thread again. You are anti social.

You want me to beg you before you communicate abi. You know i won't.

Chai... Wetin I do you na No vex for me Biko...

There are potential husbands everywhere and when they're ready to get married they will. They keep waiting for ready-made guys whose heart belong somewhere else, prolly to a loyal lady who stood by them through thick and thin.

Except if they want to tell us those bus drivers, conductors, unemployed graduates and those earning less than 50K a month aren't good enough. Then they can as well mould a Dangote and Tony Elumelu replica for themselves.

kai


God bless this ryter


to crown it all old single ladies r the source of their own problems.

Gurgle:

Your picture is beautiful

thak you

naijaboiy:
Well sometimes you can't blame the ladies.

There are some factors which you listed above that they have little or no control over.

Like the issue of bride price in the east.

I'm not from the east but what I could gather is that this bride price is more like a tradition to them and they can't start changing it. Most of the time the women are not allowed to have a say in the matter and that is how they lose prospective husbands.

The family members don't care about the effect this bride price issue of a thing is affecting their girls.

You see a very beautiful woman who is still single simply because her family has put a very high price on her head and no man is ready to come and pay such an amount to get married to her.

As for some of the other points,,the women who are guilty of it should better change.

I was watching a talk show on tvc this morning and a marriage councilor talked about an igbo lady that cried to him saying her dad wants a millon naira for her bride price.

She further said her dad should even give her free to the guy because she has aborted 3 times gor the guy and she will be the one to lose should the guy leaves.

I pity igbo ladies.I honestly do.

naijaboiy:
Well sometimes you can't blame the ladies.

There are some factors which you listed above that they have little or no control over.

Like the issue of bride price in the east.

I'm not from the east but what I could gather is that this bride price is more like a tradition to them and they can't start changing it. Most of the time the women are not allowed to have a say in the matter and that is how they lose prospective husbands.

The family members don't care about the effect this bride price issue of a thing is affecting their girls.

You see a very beautiful woman who is still single simply because her family has put a very high price on her head and no man is ready to come and pay such an amount to get married to her.

As for some of the other points,,the women who are guilty of it should better change.

*farts silently*

Gurgle:

Your picture is beautiful

I smell a rat. Woman admiring woman.

ronald4lif:
There are potential husbands everywhere and when they're ready to get married they will. They keep waiting for ready-made guys whose heart belong somewhere else, prolly to a loyal lady who stood by them through thick and thin.

Except if they want to tell us those bus drivers, conductors, unemployed graduates and those earning less than 50K a month aren't good enough. Then they can as well mould a Dangote and Tony Elumelu replica for themselves.

You deserve a cookie. So on poinr.

Many of them will not take a second look at a conductor yet they will be fasting and praying for husband.

Don jazzy was once a buns fryer

Hmmm

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2.As an Igbo lady,you are naturally at risk unless you drive it into your man's ear that in your own family they don't ask a man for crazy bride price otherwise you will only see men come into your life without discussing marriage and you will think its a curse from the village



This part really got me cracked up....

3.How many ladies can start a life with a struggling man? I guess part of the prayer point during deliverance is that GOD should bring a ready made man to propose to you.Mumu

This is what most of them want. They are all waiting for a super rich guy that will spend heavily to satisfy that ever money hungry needs. Naija women, change ur ways!!!!

You were making sense until no 2.

"Igbos" are not expensive. The bride price paid to the bride's family is returned to the man in a 9 out of 10 situation (the bride price paid in the head of each of my 3 sisters were all returned)

Omotayor123:

Chai... Wetin I do you na No vex for me Biko...

You dey ask abi.continue asking.

Just thank God that you are intellectually sound else i for write you something but honestlyyou are acting in an anti social manner and i expect something better from you.

Which mod bring this thing come fp? We don tire for this kind story abeg

JUST PASSING BY

ok

Simple

MARRIED MEN ARE MANY
BUT HUSBANDS ARE FEW

Gurgle:


Your picture is beautiful

done !

hmmmm.....am short of wOrds

i dey come