….Culled from my autobiography

I remember vividly, two years ago as I arrogantly slapped and got physical with my girl. Earlier that day, I had left an autonomous instruction that she shouldn’t step out of the house when she said she’d be visiting her best friend. I got back from work and she wasn’t home. She had disobeyed me. I wailed inside fiercely. Marked by extreme intensity of anger, I started remembering all the disrespects I got from her. Her stubbornness and disregard was becoming conspicuous. With willful lack of care and attention she defiles my constituted orders at will and never prone to penitence.

I paced and wandered listlessly about the room, resentful of being neglected. I was rehearsing on what to do to her to aggrandize my reputation. She got back home that evening and like a ferocious fauna I started boiling as though the only panacea to cool my tempo was martensitic. That evening I got physical with my girl. She was my first and only true love. My heart, my soul and everything. Sometimes I’d smugly say to myself “I have found a Soulmate”. A damsel that I may not be able to kick the bucket for, but I could kill the bucket for. Hitherto, I am still lost trying to figure out why I loved her to that extent.

After a few minutes display of my insensitivity, I knelt down and started begging for forgiveness. I was so irrational. I felt bad beholding my love in such a lachrymose and lugubrious state. Her front hairs were ploughed and marks on her pretty face. The question is, will “I’m sorry” ‘unslap’, ‘unhit’, and ‘unbeat’ her the way I did minutes back? Capital NO. That day marked a negative critical turning point in our relationship.

There was this feeling of “He’s not yet married to me and he’s hitting me already. After marriage, he’d probably kill me”
There was the feeling of “How can a man hit me and I’ll still be with him. God forbid”
There was this melancholic feeling of experiencing the bitter taste of a masculine slap. So blunt on the tongue and bitter like herbs from a narrow gorge.
There was a nostalgic feeling of equilibrating the pros and cons of our seemingly monotonous relationship. Then on balance, a good relationship turned sour and was already in the shambles.

After festering for months and struggling to make things work out, that incidence was always fresh to her and was a bottleneck that seriously restricted happiness from flowing through. The relationship became humdrum. She’d niggle about certain insignificant issues. She stopped seeing all the qualities that made her fall in love with me – my fierce, my intelligence, our shared sense of humour, my determination not to follow the crowd. Instead she saw a young brute of a lad, a control freak who was holding her back from her dreams. At that point, there was nothing I could do to redeem my dented image so the best was to watch her take a decision. Then she took her decision and moved on, maybe.

Reminiscing on what happened two years ago leaves snippet of indelible questions. Why was I even arrogant? Did I lose my dignity because I recently moved from a blue-collar to a white-collar job? What formed blinkers over my eyes that rescinded my sense of reasoning? Why should a man denigrate himself to such a numb and lumpish reduced state? The answers are still vague.

So my resolution is this, to those out there who physically abuses, or has the intention to abuse their partners, I would say – No matter the level of provocation, just be calm and DON’T ever try it. I have come to the realization that tolerance, humility and respect are the oil that smoothens the frictional surfaces between partners. Hitting a woman is not a function of your ability to fight but a derivative of Cowardice and weakness. Rather do things that should flourish your relationship.

@All Nairalanders, Good Day and have a blessed week ahead

Before nko. I have never beaten a woman and will never do. It takes more for me to flip.

Rather than going physical in a quarell with a woman, I had rather go physical in bed.

Got too many things to do to her in bed, rather use my nuts to deal with her. Sweet pains better than physical pain, emotional pains.

Say No To Domestic Abuse. Physical or Verbal.

Tell dem !

I believe in miracles.

Guys una hear?

Dnt beat ur woman... If u want to beat her, beat her in d bed fiftyshadesofgrey

Guys hope sey una dey hear this one ...
Lol any guy wey beat woman will loose 5inches of his .. Some1 say Amen plssss.

Cutehector:
Dnt beat ur woman... If u want to beat her, beat her in d bed fiftyshadesofgrey

wts d meaning of dat ^^^^ u wey no wetin 50shades mean

Daslim180,come and see..

All women beaters end badly

LadyBoss1:

wts d meaning of dat ^^^^ u wey no wetin 50shades mean

beat her in bed... Is it so hard for u to comprehend?

Message passed!
Lesson learnt!

True talk my man, talking from experience, ever since I broke up with that bae of mine, I learnt patience, forgiveness and humility, although I did that at her expense:but am a better man now to my ladies....

Fvck wid me.
I kick ur ass.
Gat no tym 4 shit.

All these stories of not beating a woman and all what not na thrash, and the day an ex slapped me over an argument, I her black and blue, and broke the murrafucking up with her. No time for nonsense,and every Bleep up must be treated.
what the f is beating her on d bed? If u are so good in beating her on the bed, no disrespect will even arise. . .

nyc thred

misspicy:
Daslim180,come and see..
All women beaters end badly

wat about all men beaters?

misspicy:
Daslim180,come and see..
All women beaters end badly

Wat about all men beaters?

Daslim180:





Wat about all men beaters?

Is d man an handicap
Nver heard of dah one o
cutehector af u heard of it?

misspicy:

Is d man an handicap
Nver heard of dah one o
cutehector af u heard of it?

What is good for the goose is certainly good for the gander......

When yu slap ur guy and he wanted to walk away so dat there won't be any problem and u as a lady choked him up his throat, what do u expect?

Daslim180:






What is good for the goose is certainly good for the gander......

When yu slap ur guy and he wanted to walk away so dat there won't be any problem and u as a lady choked him up his throat, what do u expect?

A hug and a kiss

From your narrative, you are a hot tempered man... Why would you give a grown up girl that you aren't married to an order not to go out?. Na wa o... No be every guys get anger issues like you.

misspicy:
A hug and a kiss

In yo dreamz!!!!

Yeah, don't beat a women Just spank her on the asss with your bare hands

What about women wey dey like make man beat dem? As in the beating dey sweet dem. There are women like dat.

NO MAN SHOULD BEAT UP A WOMAN, BE IT HIS SISTER, WIFE,GF..........and please women, don't provoke ur man to the point of him wanting to raise his hands on u

Wareeeva.....I'll beat her anyhow....kick her...slap her....flog her....press her neck


Maybe OP would cum nd rescue her from ma beatin


Moreover....WOMEN are so STUBBORN



Wareva


#sips weed

ibe9ja:
What about women wey dey like make man beat dem? As in the beating dey sweet dem. There are women like dat.

Those ones dey lyk rascalistic S3x






Only if you knw wat I mean

Well,my submission is simple and it goes like this :Any woman that would drive you that insane and bring out the worst in you shouldn't be around you for more than one night.

As a little kid that fought and beat up his elder sister for intimidating him, my dad never beat me back but he told me one thing that has never departed from my ears since then.

A MAN THAT BEATS UP A WOMAN IS A COWARD and I'm sure ¤my name¤ my good son don't wanna be a coward or do you?...to which said no until this day.

Ok

misspicy:

Is d man an handicap
Nver heard of dah one o
cutehector af u heard of it?

say woman beat man?