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ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by Judith1000: 2:41am On Aug 14, 2015 |
My boyfriend is just too fat and it is so embarrassing. He just came back from the US for his masters and he looks as fat as ever. Before I use to pose to my friends that I have a BF in the US who use to send me money because he always sent good amount of money to me. I was ready to even marry him if he proposes. But now, shame dey catch me. He’s always been chubby but while in the US I realized he’s got really fat. He is so fat that people stare at him and start laughing and passing comments. Sometimes I have to pretend we are not together. I felt so embarrassed to be with him and wished he didn’t look so bad. It’s a turn off for me to see him naked. Even in clothes it’s not attractive. I have spoken to him many times about his size, healthy eating and exercise. I tried to get him to join a gym with me. He laughs it off and says he is fine. The guys has been nice to me and even promised to buy me a car. Do I just get the car and leave? What do I do? Expert advice from Petra; Dear friend, I don’t think you can ‘make’ him change. Giving you instructions on how to force him to diet or exercise doesn’t help him, or you, look at any underlying reasons (assuming they exist) around overeating, or his feelings about food, exercise or his body. I have no context about his lifestyle, your income, what your food budget is, how food and exercise fit with his work patterns, or if alcohol plays a role. I don’t know if his weight is affected by disability, pre-existing physical or mental health conditions, or the side-effects of medication. You may get further by thinking about these factors yourself, or talking to him about those, rather than your previous instructions about his diet and fitness (more on this shortly). None of that will help you, though. And there isn’t any point in having advice columns if people don’t feel free to confide about how they truly feel - and know that someone isn’t going to shut you down for saying things your friends or family members might frown on. You are entitled to feel upset about this. But if we go back and look at how you have described him, there is no getting away from the words you’ve used. These include ‘chubby’, ‘really fat’, ‘embarrassed to be with him’, ‘wished he didn’t look so bad’. You say ‘It’s a turn off…to see him naked’ and ‘not attractive’. As you read these statements, can you identify if this is you feeling worried about him, frustrated over how he is acting, or a sign you simply don’t fancy him anymore? Continue at http://judithfrank..com/2015/08/advice-my-boyfriend-is-too-fat-it.html 1 Like |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by Nobody: 2:49am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Sell him ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by Bishop4bella(m): 3:02am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Let's see his photo before he travelled and after he came back to know if he's really fat. |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by tpiah2: 4:05am On Aug 14, 2015 |
you just had to add America to your post. . . . 1 Like |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by Nobody: 4:07am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Judith1000: Wow. What a trash gold digger .spits 2 Likes |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by maverickdude(m): 4:22am On Aug 14, 2015 |
U ar in dt relationship for d material gain 2 Likes |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by whobdisguy: 4:30am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Bleep the shite outta his a-ss till he's as thin as a matchstick. Recommended dose - 20000 times a day 1 Like |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by Nobody: 4:30am On Aug 14, 2015 |
You are talking about Jideofor abi? Though he might be using a more "Behind" name as per magic but God don catch you today. I have just copied this post and will soon paste it as SMS to him. Just like alcohol among men, gold digging can't be seperated from women. Spits. NB: if you think I don't know him, I will go ahead and paste atleast half of his phone number here. ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by aktem(m): 4:43am On Aug 14, 2015 |
make him drink otapiapia,or put some in his food........10k me later. |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by rawpadgin(m): 5:04am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by Nobody: 5:09am On Aug 14, 2015 |
What if u had married him bfr he became that fat?? U go leave am abi?? Me too is as confused as u are ![]() |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by Richy4(m): 5:37am On Aug 14, 2015 |
A very good example of a superficial person. You just wanna take his car and leave. ..... Anyways since you wrote this kind of thing without remorse,without considering that he has been nice to you all this while, and asked for advice, I will give it to you For him to be skinny for you to love him more , I recommend you inject 20 doses of nagging into his life. Everyday 8 in the morning, 6 in the afternoon and another 6 in the evening. Do not give more than the prescription in a day. 25 doses will be an over dose. For this exercise to be effective, it must include fighting, struggling etc. Since he is very heavy and well built, I guess you will be the winner. Expecially the fighting aspect. ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by SweetTee(f): 5:40am On Aug 14, 2015 |
It depends how much you love him. I really hope you're not in it for the money, b/c the way you worded your paragraph....... Anyways, if you truly love him, and need him to stay in your life tell him about it. If he likes you that much, he'll lose some weight. I think it's rather superficial to leave someone because of weight though. But that's just me. |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by popweezy(m): 5:44am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Arisha:PRETENDER |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by boboLIL(m): 5:56am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Break up wid him na...buh u can't cos he is sending u money.....after all dah description and u still stick around? U be gold digger.... Na moni u want 2 Likes |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by ednut1(m): 7:07am On Aug 14, 2015 |
another lie from a desperate blogger |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by IamLEGEND1: 7:08am On Aug 14, 2015 |
take the car and dump the fat ìdiot, PRONTO. 1 Like |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by Nobody: 9:05am On Aug 14, 2015 |
popweezy: Um excuze me? Maay i heylpp you !? |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by SporaD8: 11:22am On Aug 14, 2015 |
Just give him the bottle treatment - broken bottles I mean. puncture him and watch as he deflates. when he reached your approved size, screw him up. 1 Like |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by Tolzeal(m): 11:58am On Aug 14, 2015 |
If He's FAT and the MONEY is FAT also, You've got no problem . 1 Like |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by Nobody: 12:00pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
Judith1000: Please kindly leave the guy, the woman who truly loves and appreciates him for who he is will show up once you stop blocking road. And NO! don't take the car, brokeass gold digger ![]() ![]() Some silly twats just be giving girls bad name since 18AD 2 Likes |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by popweezy(m): 12:56pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
Arisha:Sure definitely |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by popweezy(m): 12:56pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
Arisha: |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by Nobody: 1:01pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
popweezy : First tell me Why would u call me pretender ! ![]() tell me! do u know me? ![]() ![]() |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by popweezy(m): 1:28pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
Arisha:obviously,from your post, I know you are a pretender and to ur other questions,you dont know me but Yea, I Know you...very well |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by Nobody: 1:30pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
popweezy: Yea? From where ![]() |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by Nobody: 1:43pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by Nobody: 1:43pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
Omo Ale, that lady is a gold digger. it's obvious she loved the guy just for his money 1 Like |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by Enockia(m): 2:13pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
Bishop4bella: abi |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by Fernandowski(m): 3:37pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
Judith1000:quit your relationship with him and come for me....mhen,I swear,am as slim as wiz khalifa |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by Sparkles003(f): 4:13pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
I HOPE THE GUY IS NOT DUBEME. COS HE ALSO JUST GOT BACK FROM JAND FATTER THAN HE LEFT BUT LADY IF HE IS THE ONE YOU GREEDY SMALL SHA BECAUSE HE HAS A HEART OF GOLD THAT IS REAR TO FIND THIS DAYS..IF YOU DON'T LIKE HIS FATTINESS CLEAR ROAD MAKE BETTER GIRLS WEY LIKE FAT GUYS SEE AM |
Re: ADVICE; My Boyfriend Is Too Fat; It Embarrasses Me, What Do I Do? by Bimbomartins(m): 4:21pm On Aug 14, 2015 |
Arisha:That's wat u get these days. No loyalty to d real tins of value. Atleast she admitted to being a gold digger HW about those who stay under pretense?? |
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